Hello r/Seduction, I have been a long time reader and today I realized something pretty sad but big, I have never asked a girl out for a date in person. It just has never happened. I've had sex with a handful of girls and have no problem having a great conversation with anybody. But I have just never asked a girl out in person.

I even asked my friends if they had and shockingly none of them have ever asked a girl out for a date in person. Of course this is a sign of an underlying problem and I want to be able to break this inability to talk to a girl first. I've noticed I have a hard time just going up to someone and talking to them, guys and girls I just feel like there isnt a common ground I know of when it comes to trying to talk to a complete stranger at a bar.

Although that is a problem I would like to work out, this leads to the main question. Everytime I go into this supermarket I used to work for (although I rarely go there), my friend tells me my old coworker is checking me out. I mostly just make jokes around her but never have had the courage to ask her out in person. I am fairly sure I can get a date out of this but I have been refraining myself from adding her on facebook and doing it. I want this to be in person. Heres the main question, Can someone just force themselves to do go up to someone and just ask them out or would it be more successful to just let nature take its course and the next time I find myself there and see her, to just do it?

I hope I painted the picture well enough.