Can't connect with girls

narwaffles · 2018-10-28T20:49:10+00:00

I don't have any advice for you, since I'm the same way. I just wanted to let you know that I am the same way and you're not alone in that, since seeing your post made me feel a little better about the loneliness myself. I wish you the best of luck!

tekneqz · 2018-10-28T20:43:00+00:00

Try getting in martial arts, it’s helped me a lot. I still struggle a ton with social anxiety but without martial arts I’d be way worse. It gives you a skill you can be proud of, you’re forced to interact with people, and if you decide to compete a ton of confidence. If you decide to do this don’t feel like the first gym you sign up with is the one you have to stay with. It took me awhile to find a gym I was comfortable at and for the first time in years I’ve made a decent group of friends.

thegreatzack · 2018-10-29T03:45:55+00:00

I don't have much advice on this topic as I also deal with the same sort of issue. In my mind I just think I/they don't care enough or maybe my life just doesn't give off enough value to another person. I could be sitting, chatting, and having a great ol' time but nothing of substance ever really comes. I could get along great with a girl at a party share some laughs, but never really get anywhere. Nobody ever ask's me what I'm doing or invites me to parties either. To a certain extent my introverted self doesn't mind it. Having friends/girlfriend is a lot of work, especially for an introvert. Some times I want to take drastic actions like pour my heart into some text to a girl just asking "Why can't we do anything together? What do I need to do to make this happen?" Something always stops me, maybe it's a fear of rejection.

What I've been doing is just becoming disconnected to thinking about forming relationships. Fuck what other think about you. If I can't accept who I am, what fucking girl is going to? They say don't try to hard to form a relationship with a person, because if it's gonna work it's gonna work. At this point though it seem's real foolish to just wait for the universe to drop a girl/best friend in my lap.

Crixusgannicus · 2018-10-30T12:51:55+00:00

Before we get back to your answer to the question about the scale, stop and start thinking about this because most people never stop and consider the following. First before you do that though, if I understand you correctly, you see other people experiencing connections while you aren't and it feels terrible and you want to feel better, is that right?

hedgefoxus · 2018-10-28T22:08:26+00:00

I feel you man. If you are still a student try to find a local association for students, I’ve just joined one and it seems to be promising. And if it helps you somehow remember, you are not alone in this.

Cosmosus_ · 2018-10-29T07:13:12+00:00

Watch Tony Solo on youtube.

edkd · 2018-10-29T08:29:37+00:00

u/recyclablebanthas

Hey man, I would love some constructive criticism and on how to get closer to people

dailymanup · 2018-10-30T04:40:16+00:00

I agree with the others that you should try to get into some kind of club or class (like sports or martial arts). These are great things to meet people. When it comes to women, I'll tell you a secret. I know a lot of guys who aren't that "social." Yeah, they can do it, but they don't necessarily like it. However, that doesn't stop them from picking up girls. Because attracting women and talking to women and hanging out with women is different than just being generally social. Sure there's some overlap in some cases, but most guys think they are one in the same. Complete nonsense.

In fact, I know dudes with hot girls friends and you know what they do? They let their girlfriends arrange any kind of social activities and they just go along for the ride. So if you're looking to be social, just for the sake of being social, that's a great thing to do, and it will involve getting involved in some kind of activities where other people are. However, if you're thinking that you must be a social butterfly to meet women, that's completely false. I have a book out on how to become a superstar with women. This course baby steps it from beginning to end and walks you through 25 approaches, along with tons of conversation techniques, kino and everything else you need. I suggest you read it. Believe me that having a hot girl to chat with will aleviate much of your concern about being generally social.

The book is called Make Women Chase You and you can check it out here.

edkd · 2018-10-28T19:57:20+00:00

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Crixusgannicus · 2018-10-28T20:54:26+00:00

First, let me ask you a question, if that's ok. Have you ever just naturally and intuitively

felt a connection with anyone, male or female, regardless of when or why,instinctively?

Title	Can't connect with girls
Author	edkd
Upvotes	14
Comments	17
Date	October 28, 2018 7:14 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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