How do I stop wasting my opportunities and get over my fear of rejection?

pilipinonguci11 · 2018-12-10T19:11:47+00:00

If a girl goes from hugging you, smiling, etc. to blocking you on social media, and multiple women are blocking you on social media, it's time that you do some self reflection on how exactly it is that you're approaching asking these girls out as well as the self-image that you give out to other people in general. I can almost guarantee you that when you're asking these girls out, you're coming across as super needy, cringy, and a "chode" (as much as I hate that word), and (even if might not like to not admit it) there are some aspects about you that you know that you can improve (whether it's physical health, mental health, fashion sense, not having interesting hobbies, whatever).

poopfeast180 · 2018-12-11T00:23:24+00:00

If they are single, I tend to waste months before asking them out (and finding out that they start dating someone else).

what are you doing exactly that you know someone for months before asking them out?

almost all these relationships are doomed into "friend" category. you wanna establish interest sexually early on.

Ninx27 · 2018-12-11T02:42:21+00:00

There is a reason she stopped hugging you, it's because she doesn't want to send mixed messages. If you genuinely want to stay her friend then the awkwardness will eventually go away if you stay in that zone. I think you should just speak up at first that you are interested and work more on yourself if you get rejected, it sucks but that's life

omglaurent · 2018-12-11T06:48:45+00:00

Maybe you can change the way you ask her out? You just need to ask her to hang out with you, if they refuse and you tell her its fine and dont act differently I think the girl should not become cold to you unless you really insisted or looked very sad when she said no for example.

That's also my answer for you waiting to ask girls out, if you like her, youre having fun with her and you can make her laugh a little, just simply tell her you would like to hangout and have a beer or coffee with her, if you're confident and she is into you she's going to say yes and otherwise it shouldnt be a big deal. Thats my opinion

Title	How do I stop wasting my opportunities and get over my fear of rejection?
Author	edkd
Upvotes	7
Comments	4
Date	December 10, 2018 6:41 PM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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