Although I know I shouldn't spend too much time on it and move on, I'm only doing this as a feedback mechanism. I want to improve my game. If it's a rejection; then I want to know where I went wrong (take into consideration that i met this person one month ago, and one month ago me is nothing like me now). If it's a flake, then I have nothing to worry about, it was never in my control anyways.

All of this was over text, I've deleted them now (as means to not over-analyze them), so it's not word for word, but will have a general jist of it!

After I get her number in a casual group lunch outing

About a month ago Me: Hey, so I completely forgot to give you my number. The whole concept of reciprocity confuses me. So here it is!

Friday June 24, 2011 Me: Heyo, so a bunch of us are going to ribfest, you guys wanna come? (Sent this to both her and her best friend) Her: Me and bestfriend went yesterday, but we're planning a repeat performance. Me: Cool we're planning on going around 11:30, so we should meet up! And we did meet up!

Between 4-7 July, 2011 Me: Hey, so mutualfriend told me that you picked up a guitar for $100, anyways, I was thinking about getting a bass guitar do you know anywhere I could get one? Her: not sure about basses, but I got mine at location Me: Cool, so how are your learning the guitar? Her: I'm using youtube videos to teach me! Me: Oh cool, so what songs have you taught yourself?

Sunday July 10, 2011 and over the course of the week Me: Hey, we should do a lunch sometime this week. Her: Me and Bestfriend were thinking of doing Japanese this week. We should do it with the whole gang! Me: Sure, do you know any good Japanese restaurants? (Not sure if I sent one on Monday or if the text above was sent then...) (Wednesday July 13, 2011) Me: I was thinking Friday would be nice! Do you know any good Japanese restaurants?

Now, I drank a bit on Saturday (yesterday) not enough to get drunk, but enough to be buzzed. Told my friends about my lack of progress with this girl who flaked, and how I renamed her contact info to Flakely McFlakerson (a sedditor gets credit, not sure who). I said I'm gonna give up on her and move on, no point in dealing with flakes. They didn't agree, said one more shot, then they suggest that I make up an excuse for not following up on Friday and text her for lunch this week.

Saturday, July 16, 2011 Me: Hey something came up on Friday, anyways want to lunch this week?

The last text was such beta and needy behavior, but I was partly buzzed and peer pressured into it. I would not have done it if I was sober. But I can't decide what this is? Is it a flake? Is it a rejection?

If it helps, I used to see her on a weekly basis prior to the texts. But then she suddenly disappeared from the social group. So texts became the only option to communicate with her (thankfully I #-closed)