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Cellphone/text/chat game pointers?

[deleted] · 2011-04-15T16:53:12+00:00

Any pointers or tips? As far as a gap of time between the "first date/lunch" and the next time you hit her up again?...

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April 15, 2011

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Title	Cellphone/text/chat game pointers?
Author	[deleted]
Upvotes	4
Comments	7
Date	April 15, 2011 4:53 PM UTC (15 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
Original Link	https://old.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/gquzl/cellphonetextchat_game_pointers/
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[–]acartoontiger 5 points6 points7 points 15 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link

Hi! I pride myself on my text game and I have been doing it well for years with positive feedback from the girls. You want to know how to ask her to lunch after a first date? Or are you just looking for general text rules? Whatever I can do both.

Lunch

"Hey HB, lunch the other day was fun and I want to take you out tonight/[some night] and have an adventure, I'v got this cool place to show you." (That's the direct and simple approach)
"I had this great date the other night with a [HBs name] and I want to take her out again but mislabeled her number. I hope you are her, I would feel so foolish If I let that awesome girl go." (The cheesy/oblivious approach)
"Hey HB, tell me something. Is whatever you were planning on doing tonight better than a fun night out and some passionate sex?" (The super direct/kinda funny approach, totally depends on how you two already interact."

IDK if any of those would work for you since you didn't give much info about how you two interact. But I have used similar lines before and they worked.

General Pointers

Don't text her in the same way you would text a guy friend
Send complex messages, they should never be less than 5 words unless you have a really good reason (you want her reading carefully and thinking about you)
If you can be funny while getting your message across then do it
Don't be afraid to tell her that you had fun with her and are sexually interested (subtlety)
Don't ever send a message that says something like "hey do you want to come to dinner?"
Instead, be assertive
"Hey I am making dinner and having drinks with you tonight, come over at 8 and lets see if we have as much fun as I think we will."
I know this sounds obvious, but propose an activity she doesn't normally do (ex. I NEVER propose dinner dates at a restaurant)

Anyway maybe some of those things will help, I am happy to more specific if you want to message me a few details about your typical situations. Cool

[–]intjpua 2 points3 points4 points 15 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link

I'm feeling about 50/50 on this advice. Overall, it's mostly reasonable, but I think you're also too wordy. The advice of "should never be less than 5 words" feels wrong to me. Talking too much seems to be the biggest source of failure for most guys who post their text/IM fail reports.

Your theory that "you want her reading carefully and thinking about you" seems like a hard-to-prove hypothesis, and I suspect it's wrong. When you type too much, it can appear as though you're way too into her, way too early in the process. This is especially true, if she's giving one or two word poorly spelled replies, and you're sending her novel-length prose. Because text is time-consuming, you're probably exhibiting a lot of negative traits by sending wordy and carefully constructed messages.

I'm of the opinion that mystery is more important than verbosity. Leaving her wondering what you meant is probably better than being too transparent or too fancy.

But, based on your examples, what I think we can all agree on is that text is for setting up dates, and very little else. Maybe a funny comment or something now and then to keep her thinking about you, but no long conversations via text, and never send her more texts than she's sending you.

Oh, and I would never do this:

"I had this great date the other night with a [HBs name] and I want to take her out again but mislabeled her number. I hope you are her, I would feel so foolish If I let that awesome girl go." (The cheesy/oblivious approach)

Unless I'd already slept with her. That's putting a lot of cards on the table after one date.

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