Cold Approach Pickup - How To Eliminate Frustration

abbehardy · 2020-02-19T21:38:12+00:00

Video Summary:

Focusing on your ‘’batting average’’ will drastically reduce your results and also cause an immense amount of frustration. It also seriously impairs your ability to have fun and enjoy yourself with women.

This is why I’m introducing character based goals instead of result based goals. You set different goals based on the qualities you would like to acquire:
Confidence, persistence, charm, humor, fearlessness, adventurousness, determination, calm, integrity and so on...

You set different character traits as goals and then you start working on one at a time through women. And so if you’re someone who’s afraid for example then you take the next 30 days to work on the opposite of fear which is courage. This means jumping into conversations / approaching different women. With every interaction your goal is not to get the girl but to become fearless. You start ticking of situations that make you afraid one by one and which each situation conquered you’re one step closer to ultimate courage.

Same if you want to build humor. Let’s say you are a courageous man who can jump into conversations with women but you’re not funny. Now you start watching stand up comedy to get a general idea about humor then you throw yourself into situations with girls and you start to experiment to find your own humor.

Obviously you’re going to make mistakes with women, but again the point is not to ‘get’ them but rather to build the skill of humor.

The truth is once you’re a well rounded guy who’s charming, confident, persistent and so on you’ll have an easier time getting women.

So it’s much better to “use” (for a lack of better word) women as the medium where you acquire these skills because women give you direct feedback.

If you’re funny they’ll laugh and so you know where you stand.

If you’re confident they’ll light up and enjoy your company more.

They’ll start to treat you differently once you acquire the different character traits.

This for me was the most interesting part of meeting women for years.

Much later I started making women the goal. Amount of women slept with and so on, but this was once I had a good base.

The good news is that while acquiring the character I ended up being with many women, but again they were NOT the main focus.

I just didn’t want to be a scared unconfident/clueless man anymore. For me that was the biggest achievement.

Mr_Mcknight · 2020-02-20T02:33:27+00:00

Good stuff!

Title	Cold Approach Pickup - How To Eliminate Frustration
Author	abbehardy
Upvotes	10
Comments	2
Date	February 19, 2020 9:37 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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