Confidence help for a hefty guy?

2013-03-28T02:31:26+00:00

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Superwaffle0616 · 2013-03-27T23:07:23+00:00

best advice i can give is work out. I,used to be 240 and alot of fat( although i wasnt short 6 foot) but then I lost like 20 pounds and started to get tuns of female attention trust me it works

LaxBrother · 2013-03-28T01:35:40+00:00

Usually hefty guys make up for their natural attraction by being extra humorous, having good game, and believing in themselves. While working out may be a good solution to your problem, it is not the only answer. If you believe that women think that your gross because of your weight, then they will read that and believe the same. You have to believe what you want the women to believe. Make them believe that your having a great time by laughing, dancing, etc. then they will want to be with you to feel the same way. So TL;DR either workout, work on game, self amusement, be really funny, or all of the above.

ServingSize · 2013-03-27T23:42:46+00:00

two things. either accept yourself for who you are or work out and become what everyone thinks you should look like.

Either one works, but honestly the easier one for bigger people would probably be cut some weight and try to gain some muscle.

Siddly · 2013-03-28T02:32:56+00:00

This is coming from a guy in a very similar situation. Just be yourself, if you try too hard women will know. You're a big guy but how many big guys have you seen with girlfriends? If girls didn't like big dudes at all then the world would just be full of skinny guys. I figured out that the reason I was overweight wasn't because I was eating bad or not exercising, you use you're weight as a put down for yourself. You think women won't like you because you're a big guy so you shy away from it and then blame it on the weight. I used to be the same, then one day I just stopped caring. If girls don't like you for you then screw them, they're not the ones you should be going for. Yeah you could lose some weight, it might help with your confidence with women. But most of all you just need to stop caring what other people think. The Numa Numa guy is a pretty big dude and I bet he's a hit with the ladies. Hope it helps you in some way bro.

july25 · 2013-03-28T02:35:54+00:00

Lose weight while doing pickup. Becoming more attractive while simultaneously improving your pickup skills will put you in a positive spiral of motivation.

2013-03-28T02:47:18+00:00

There is no point in learning game if you are working with a fixable disadvantage.

Lose weight. Be attractive. Don't be unattractive.

Radskee · 2013-03-28T02:49:43+00:00

Lift. Lift. Lift. Cardio. Cardio. Cardio. Helped my game IMMENSELY because chicks dig it and I'm now more confidant.

2013-03-28T05:20:08+00:00

One thing you have to do is put yourself in a mindset where you don't give a shit about what she thinks about your weight. If you can make her feel amazing and feel attraction with your personality, she'll be hooked on to you. Stop being afraid about what she might think of you, because none of that fucking matters. Be confident, lead her, and don't put her on a pedestal.

As for telling whether she's attracted, look for indicators of interest. They can include her touching you alot, her playing with her hair around you, her making sexual remarks or jokes around you, you catching her looking at you a lot, and so on.

However, you should work out and lose weight anyway because it's good to live a healthy lifestyle. Plus you feel a hell of a lot better.

Title	Confidence help for a hefty guy?
Author	D3ni5
Upvotes	3
Comments	25
Date	March 27, 2013 10:55 PM UTC (13 years ago)
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