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[–]OUTLANDAH 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
That they have taken on the archetype of the quite, mysterious person. You they are quite and shy, but when they speak you are often intrigued and know they posses a certain confidence in what they talk about, but they are an extreme introvert.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Is this attractive to women? Don't most women want the outward confidence that seduction tends to espouse?
[–]OUTLANDAH 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, that statement depends. Are you just trying to get laid or are you trying to find someone you identify with? I made that post as someone who identifies with the statement you made.
Being introverted isn't a bad thing. I put soberly don't express myself I. Social settings amongst strangers the least bit. Yet, I have picked up girls with this type of "game" in the past, I don't much care to be introverted anymore.
Usually, with this kind of deduction and I use that terminology In a non-traditional way, you usually hit it off with more like minded women than you'd think.
Women just as much as men have this same social condition and it's usually recognized.
I met the woman of my dreams by at first being quite and quaint.
Yet, this is all perspective from my own experience and actions. If you're just trying to pick up women and you have a inner confidence, then not much will happen unless you are more verbal and confident in social settings.
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Is there a universal code of seduction that encourages soft spoken inner confidence and how are the rules of seduction different for the inwardly confident male?
[–]OUTLANDAH 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
Seduction is a very broad term. Most people associate it with romantic-seduction, but seduction can be anything to public relation to political strategy.
In the case if women: most women want stability, to get a good laugh and to relate to someone else. Sure, you'll hear they just want to be happy, but women are a more so, unrealistic emotional creature in terms of the western world.
If you're just thing to play a game and get a girl, talk about what you know with confidence, be funny , flirtatious and flaunt the hell out of it. The most they want is mutuality and just to be talked to and that's when the game they call dating starts.
But you have to speak up. Being quite isn't going to get you anywhere, most people confuse shyness and being quite as one thing, but in all reality they are two different things. I'm in general a quite person, I'm not shy although in quite in a lot of social settings. I have my own reason which I won't bother getting into, but when dealing with women communication is the number 1 key. If you hear something that intrigues you to speak out then do so, if you don't, then all In all you aren't that attracted to her.
That's why you've always hear when you find the one you know or similar cliches. You can't force something to happen when there isn't much chemistry to begin with. If you do, it only ends with bad heartache. If you have someone in particular your after you need to evaluate if you just like her for her looks and friendliness or you think you could be a good match.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
and flaunt the hell out of it
That's the opposite of inner confidence, no?
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[–]coughcoughpow 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Well...in my opinion you can't do this in a vacuum. Guys with deep inner confidence usually have something going for them. When problems happen, they're not a big deal because they have something that they fall back on.
It's not like you can just display inner confidence - I could be wrong - but usually it's like...
As far as physical attributes go, it's still like this:
There are all sorts of "alpha" types, I believe. But, at their core, it's the guy who will won't crack under pressure. Like...examine all the alphas, they're all still going to have the inner mental statement of "I'M THE FUCKIN' KING OF THE WORLD"
I know an artist who makes random egg-carton sculptures, doesn't bathe or shave. He's immensely quiet but he always has girlfriends. He's really sort of mumbles. Put him on the spot and he won't get rattled. Not my style but it works for him.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Is it possible to have massive confidence in everything except women?
What is confidence good for if it can't be translated into success with women?
[–]Big_Apple3AM 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Um... everything? Confidence has a correlation with success with women, but it is not the cause for success with women.
I'm struggling to find the way to word this answer, because defining confidence is sort of difficult. Personally, I'm much more of the quiet confident type. I don't really cold approach girls, not so much out of fear of rejection, it's just not how I like to operate. But when I'm put in a social encounter with a girl I'm attracted with, I'm confident I can do what it takes to attract her.
However, I'm getting further away from directly answering your question. I think you just need to channel that confidence you have elsewhere into confidence with women. Take this example.. perhaps you're really good at Call of Duty, or whatever it is you are good at; use the feeling you have when doing this, the confidence you have when playing, and apply that to how you should be talking to women. You usually play pretty well, 28 kills 10 deaths and a couple bomb defuses. But what happens when one round you go 4 and 13. Is your confidence shot? Are you gonna set down your controller and turn off your XBOX? No, you're gonna start the next round guns blazin' and ready to show what you got. Except confidence with women isn't measured by how many times you've prestiged, it's measured in your overall success with them. You gotta kill a couple noobs before you can become a CoD master though.
Edit: This post is a bit long and doesn't really have a conclusion. I hope you manage to take something from it though.
[–]hamhamt 1 point2 points3 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I DONT HAVE AN XBOX
[–]OUTLANDAH 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yes it is. But, like I said it depends on what you are going after. At this point I've said more to you than you have me. I myself am introvert, like said, but I'm able to play a game if I want to. And when I do I go straight for the jugular per-say. If you're just looking to pick up women than be fake about it: women want sex as much as men, if you're looking to impress a girl that you genuinely like then be yourself and try and just relay/talk to her, if it doesn't work out then that's the end.
May I ask how old your are?
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[–]coughcoughpow 2 points3 points4 points 12 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Hmm. Maybe tell them you're shy, right off the bat. Like "I'm shy this is who I am, if you don't like it, fuck off, but don't doubt me for one second."
Also, (my dumb opinion) some of those really hot girls won't crack without social proof. Especially female social proof. Social proof thru da roof!
[–]OUTLANDAH 0 points1 point2 points 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Your later statement is true. I'm also, 27. The thing is the opposite sex always wants what they can't get. In my case I don't want them, usually it's looks which is not being shallow. I want someone whose pretty, intellectual and stable which is common.
If the person you want KNOWS you want them than they can either accept if, you go I. A few dates or they don't. If they don't even give you the time or day their is something superficial going on, looks comes to mind. And truly, if that's the case that you should immediately end your endeavors. It sucks yea, but it a suckers world.
[–]OUTLANDAH -1 points0 points1 point 12 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
You need to also get your prioritize straight. You say there are women that want you, but you scraps though you lack confidence, to me this sounds like the classical case of unrequited love. If you like someone and they do Rilke you, the. You either at least let them know your feelings and they accept it or you let it go. Letting it go can sometimes work In your favor since women are fickle and they honestly don't know what they really want. And this don't a chauvinistic comment, that is the way of women. They want providers and they want what they can't get. They are a paradox species.
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