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Ha, I won't deny the cheese. Actually you bring up a really deep point, I'm gonna write something about that. Pick-up is one of the cheesiest things in the world. Women love to watch shows that men think are cheesy...and yet Grey's Anatomy/Vampire Diaries/Twilight/50 Shades of Gray are billion-dollar enterprises. So, in a way, seducing them, we're providing them with real-life romance and drama. Dissected: are you one of "those" girls = girls want to be special, you're testing her specialness. T…
/r/seduction04/12/14 10:38 AM
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There's two in-betweens, don't forget: HJ's and BJ's. I dunno, I'm trying to read the subtext in your interaction...there's always that thing about being too hungry for IOI's. Like if she puts her hand in your back pocket and she sees you react. If you're the one putting on the brakes, it makes her the aggressor. If you're the one on the gas pedal, it makes it seem like you're chasing her. If you're chasing, you're in the dating/boyfriend frame (if you want to date her) If she's chasing you, the…
/r/seduction04/12/14 09:58 AM
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Bemused/curious
/r/seduction04/12/14 09:32 AM
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Dónde están las sucias?
/r/seduction04/12/14 09:00 AM
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Cmon now, you're awesome for even trying pick-up, most guys don't even do that! How are you opening these women and what goes wrong? Body Language? Voice? Context? I saw this dude this summer who took off his shirt and was pretending like it was a lasso and he was lasso-ing girls into his arms. 2015, the year of Lasso Game.
/r/seduction04/12/14 08:57 AM
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Well, it's not always about being the funniest/smartest/boldest. People tend to be either long-lasting or trendy fuckers. Being comfortable in front of crowds is a life-long skill. There's Toastmasters (http://www.toastmasters.org/), which is an international public-speaking club. One main thing I would say is start being comfortable with recording yourself speaking, and give yourself honest criticism. If you have a camcorder, try filming yourself reading or singing a song or poem over and over …
/r/seduction04/12/14 08:39 AM
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I'll weigh in on this. Believe me or not! I ALWAYS - at least - friendzone girls, it depends on the interaction. Because, eh, who wants to have enemies. Female psychopaths are probably only about 1% of the population, and you're probably not going to be able to detect one anyway. Like, I DON'T go around thinking "Man - I'm not gonna friendzone this girl, I better put the moves on!" I DO go around thinking "Well, this girl has some good qualities, let's give her a chance." So: a female-friendly m…
/r/seduction04/12/14 08:20 AM
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Too many factual questions all in a row. Not enough emotion to carry the charge. Like think of her emotional state... How about: ME: Are you one of those girls who texts in bed at night under her blanket with frog socks? Me too! (emoji or smiley) HER:LOL, No I have dog socks (or whatever) ME: You're the cute. I'm gonna call you and you can tell me nice things before I go to sleep so I can dream about - (leave this hanging,call her in a few minutes)
/r/seduction04/12/14 07:46 AM
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Yeah, maybe start planning events and goals for yourself. Like: This summer = vacations, etc. This Month = what events are you going to/what parties are you throwing? This weekend = How are you getting people involved? What new places have you checked out? Today = How many people did you make smile? How many people were glad you were there? Once you have these things, it's a lot easier to invite women and friends out. BTW, AOC is on Itunes also. I think most of the old podcasts are still there. …
/r/seduction26/11/14 11:02 AM
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Give it a try, maybe it will work for you. Personally, I would think that would be really grating for women, especially if they're in the bar getting hollared at by random dudes all the time. It's also asking for something immediately. Direct game is its own beast, tho. How about "Hi, I'm so and so. What's your name? Really! Who are you named after?" There's a lot you can go off of that. -Named after grandma/aunt/etc - So you think you took on her personality? -parents were crazy hippies, name d…
/r/seduction26/11/14 10:52 AM
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Yes. If there's any unresolved sexual attraction between you and the wingwoman, she might unintentionally wreck your sets.
/r/seduction26/11/14 10:04 AM
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I think this is like a weird female fantasy. It makes them feel powerful. Same thing with women who go and try to do matchmaking with their friends. It's definitely a skill, tho. Not everyone can do it. I think it's best with: Extrovert/Introvert Wildman/Down-to-earth Also, you're gonna get the "Is she your girlfriend?" that you have to explain away.
/r/seduction26/11/14 10:02 AM
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This girl sounds freaky hot. The sex would have been amazing, but sadly, no, not a keeper. C'mon, what's sushi without wasabi?
/r/seduction26/11/14 09:57 AM
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Yeah, nice! The thing is...women have an ability to really go like...despite your flaws, or whatever flaws you think you have, they'll start thinking its special - as long as you can do other things awesome. So flaws can turn into benefits. Like, a girl who dates a jobless musician.
/r/seduction26/11/14 09:53 AM
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This happens to everyone, even girls.
/r/seduction26/11/14 09:51 AM
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Exactly!
/r/seduction26/11/14 09:50 AM
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Like, take a 3rd-person view point of the situation. If this wasn't you and her, and just some couple, what advice would you give to the guy? Is the guy acting in an appropriate way, given the circumstance? In the heat of the moment, emotions get in the way, so judgment can be impaired. I meant a tool-tip like "What would Jesus do?" as some people are fond of saying.
/r/seduction26/11/14 09:49 AM
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Ovulation happens every four weeks :D The answer is you don't use the same criteria of judgement for every situation. Women don't think the same way men do. Women forgive and show compassion. Their concept of honor and loyalty has its own set of rules; they look for justifications rather than linear logic. So, you're asking "Am I living within my set of rules?" She's asking "Are my actions justified?"
/r/seduction22/11/14 12:12 PM
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Yeah, disinterest doesn't matter. There's that thing about pinging IOI's back and forth....IOI's are good, right? As far as the league comment, I'll disagree. There is NO league, there is only attractive and not-attractive, and value-giving vs. value-taking. I say this because girls don't see themselves like that. Girls who are "below your league" are NOT always DTF. It's difficult for any woman to be DTF - the ASD is like serious anxiety for a lot of women. Their attractiveness doesn't negate t…
/r/seduction22/11/14 11:53 AM
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Make outs, very common. Not solid game, tho.....like YAY make-out bandit! Go for dancefloor HJ's, they're the best!
/r/seduction22/11/14 11:27 AM
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Here's an old-school pick-up exercise as a baby-step. Go to a mall with a bunch of stores. (don't bring money so you're not tempted to shop). Go into every store and talk to each store clerk. Ask "Got anything that would make a good gift for a stocking stuffer?" They'll point something out, then you can smile and say, to exit, just say "OK, thanks! I'm just looking around." -After about 3 or 4 stores, it's a tiny bit of social momentum. The variations: "I'm looking for a gift for my grandma/uncl…
/r/seduction22/11/14 11:21 AM
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Wellll...nah, it's pretty normal to date girls so, no. No extra value from saying that you date girls. Also, the girl may give a literal interpretation, which would be "It depends on the guy's face, totally!" If you're like "I went to this party and this girl gave me this bracelet!" Then, there's some context behind it...why would she give you a bracelet? If you're like "I went to this party and this girl gave me a hickey!" Then, obviously, a girl liked you... So, SHOW, don't tell. Also, the ide…
/r/seduction22/11/14 11:07 AM
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I'll agree with the general advice, generally. Mistakes are good for you! You can do it! You're already seeing the matrix. My advice: once you're in the friendzone, you're going to stay in the friendzone. Done. Game over. Friendzone is AWESOME in later stages of the game, but not for you right now. You might benefit from telling her flat out "You're hot but if you don't want to date me, man to woman, don't waste my time. Thanks for the fun night, peace." A few things, take 'em or leave 'em: Gett…
/r/seduction22/11/14 10:43 AM
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I can't imagine what that's like. But, human interaction has a large non-verbal component, so if you can focus on that aspect, it's a huge advantage that other people might not have. Don't give up on yourself, you can do it! It's difficult but not impossible.
/r/seduction22/11/14 09:51 AM
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You said it yourself: don't over think it. Maybe, if you find yourself really stressing, take a metric of the emotion and go "Is this an appropriate emotional state, or am I being biased"?
/r/seduction22/11/14 09:46 AM
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I figured it out after a few days. It took a while to piece the evidence together, but I think I have a strong forensic case. What I didn't notice at first was, she kept asking me if I was gay. "You're gay, right?" I just kept dancing with her and being idiotic. My friend talked to her and she told me that the girl had a boyfriend. Here's the connection: She says she's a Lesbian because she wants to flirt but she doesn't want to cheat on her boyfriend. Got that? In the context of her being a "Le…
/r/seduction22/11/14 09:36 AM
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Yeah it IS uncomfortable but it's always going to be uncomfortable. There's always a risk of being shot down. But if you GIVE people good vibes, they'll always be happy to meet you. Find some good people who aren't hung-up on all that. I kind of hate game too - I go out and see such awful pick-up. Or, like robotic mating patterns. Or white-knight behavior. But then again, I know that if I go out, there's a good chance that I'll meet a girl who is like PORNOGRAPHICALLY HOT. And she'll want to go …
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:48 AM
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Oh man, sometimes I image my dad picking up chicks. He would drive around in a ridiculous mustang convertible with a perm. It like like Randy from Southpark. DADGAME, y'all!
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:34 AM
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Yep. Like "OBJECTION OVERRULED!" She has to feel like you're fighting for her a little bit. Because she's special.
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:31 AM
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Just look her in the eyes and say "You're going to be my girlfriend." By all means she might disagree, but lay it down like you don't give a fuck. Say it like it's a matter of fact - like speed limits or road signs. Like, you're a policeman giving out a ticket. Like, it's fuckin' law. Ma'am, do you know how fast you were going and that you're my girlfriend now? Or a similar forceful statement. Followed by ridiculous sex. Be prepared because once you bust it, you're diving in and the girl might w…
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:27 AM
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It's not just game tho, I think. I've known guys who were short and dated taller girls and had no game. I've also known short guys with all sorts of game who dated all sorts of girls. I think it's more like finding YOUR type of girl and not caring if she's tall or what. Do you like blondes, brunettes, librarians? Like: GIRL, GOD MADE ME JUST 4 YOU LET'S DO THIS.
/r/seduction26/10/14 10:04 AM
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That sounds really horrid. I'd prefer to go out with my non-Game friends and just sort of goof off. They think it's crazy when I meet some girl and get a hand-job in the back of the club. Plus, they might pick up the scraps (e.g. girls with the girl). There are creepy weirdos everywhere tho, what can you do?
/r/seduction26/10/14 09:59 AM
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Yup - none of that "Are you on the basketball team?"
/r/seduction26/10/14 09:53 AM
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Yep. I think it's best just to not really care. If they shit test you on it, just try to climb them like a tree. Piggy-back rides, y'all! I love me a valkyrie take me to Valhalla!
/r/seduction26/10/14 09:52 AM
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Train station if you have one. Or mall. If you go into a clothing store you can do some crazy shit, like having girls try on clothes for you and getting fashion advice. Like, not picking up the workers but the women who come in shopping.
/r/seduction26/10/14 09:50 AM
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This!
/r/seduction26/10/14 09:48 AM
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Yes. And I also dance on the dance floor. But, in my opinion it's a bad idea to go and grind girls like a dancefloor creeper. It's a good idea to have the girls grind on you. Also, daggering.
/r/seduction28/06/14 10:32 AM
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Agreed, 97 percent of the time, don't say date. That might slip you into the dating frame, which can lead to the gnaw-your-own-leg-off frame. Then 3rd "date" it's "Are we boyfriend and girlfriend?!" Rarely some girls will still say "date" without any other implications.
/r/seduction28/06/14 10:28 AM
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Do you think that you would prefer to hook up with Engineering girls? Those are hard to come by these days, they have to be twice as good as the guys. Narrow it down by attractiveness and it's slim pickings. I dated one once and she's better at science than I'll ever be. She really liked science rants, that was our sex thing. Like, tracing every point in a dendritic polymer reaction got her really turned on. Sexy engineering talk? I think she got a spaghetti monster tattoo at one point. I guess …
/r/seduction28/06/14 10:21 AM
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I work at Taco Bell, I'm a manager. For real, I work with documents and signatures and science. You should post about your next big party and see if you can see any deeper nuance, this is a good thread.
/r/seduction28/06/14 10:09 AM
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Thanks for the feedback, I'll clarify a little bit. I could be completely wrong, and maybe stylistically different, but give it a try. Like, honestly look at whatever part of your body makes you uncomfortable and laugh at it. The idea behind it is this: If you make fun of yourself and it doesn't bother you, it's attractive because you are comfortable enough with yourself that it doesn't matter. If you can't make fun of yourself, what happens when someone else does?
/r/seduction28/06/14 08:31 AM
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I'll opine, and maybe bring some insight. Maybe I'm oversimplifying, but I think two diverging strategies exist: Power players are infinitely ready to polarize people, like Jobs, or Nixon. Simultaneously, schmoozers befriend everyone, like Clinton or Jamie Dimon. I think that with specifically cold-approach pick-up, you have to be ready to polarize women. If you don't polarize (hard IOI, sweep-her-off-her-feet) then some women will not become attracted. Even at sophisticated parties, you may hav…
/r/seduction25/06/14 06:56 AM
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Some ideas, I could be wrong on any of them. I know this feeling, too. Maybe you're an engineer or science type of person? I guess what I would do is to look for women with commonalities and try to find what exactly turned me on about those women, and contextualize it into an experience: surface qualities, demeanor, interests, and situation. Then it's a matter of searching for women who fit those qualities. I personally like brunettes (like Betty Paige) and blondes. Brown hair bores me. Curly ha…
/r/seduction25/06/14 05:08 AM
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My opinion, take it or leave it. Tinder can be really harsh, maybe quit it because it seems like it's messing with you. Or show your profile photos to a girl and ask her if she thinks its attractive. The other thing I'd suggest is to start making fun of yourself and genuinely make yourself laugh, when you're feeling self-conscious. Like...take a feature (lets say arm-hair) and say "Look at this stupid arm hair! I'm like a woolly mammoth! Roo! (whatever noise you want)" "Look how skinny I am, I c…
/r/seduction25/06/14 04:51 AM
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My opinion, take it or leave it. Yes. I think she just used you for sex and the more you contact her, the weirder it gets. Personally, I'd tell her "Hey, I understand what it's like to be in a weird situation but I do want to see you again. Don't be embarassed, send me a text some time." Then, dive into the sea of cock-starved women.
/r/seduction25/06/14 04:34 AM
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My cadre of suggestions, take it or leave it. When people say they have to go, it's contextual. The conversation has run its course. Once you feel it drying out, you have to get people involved somehow. 1.Lead the people back to their friends before they make the suggestion: "Are your friends cool? Let's go meet your friends! Single and ready to mingle!" Cold-read other people in the bar. "Oh that woman looks fierce! I think she's trying to dump her boyfriend." Get people to talk about themselve…
/r/seduction25/06/14 04:25 AM
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My opinion: tell a girl immediately. Also, what do you want to do now with your dating life? If you don't want a new LTR, tell her that you're kind of shaken from your previous LTR. The point is to define the relationship ASAP so the girl doesn't have to analyze it. James Marshall has a really good speech for this around 25:50 on this video. The entire video is pretty good, too. http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V9owHXPPe_Q
/r/seduction17/05/14 09:59 AM
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Focusing on giving value to everyone around you. Thank you for posting this post and giving me the opportunity to share! :D
/r/seduction17/05/14 09:41 AM
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Here's my 2 cent. It sounds like the girl was just enjoying your company and liked feeling your presence - when you asked for a date, it broke her mood. Don't ever ask for a "date". Be specific, then elaborate, like so: "Hey, let's go to the waffle house and feed each other waffle bites. I'm going to blindfold you and drip syrup and you have to guess which flavor it is. This is derp-flavored waffle." See, it's specific. She can imagine it happening and she'll feel the emotions from the imagined …
/r/seduction17/05/14 09:37 AM
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If they give you gigantic indicators of interest, find a place immediately to get down: Cars, your apartment, hotelroom, etc. Like: immediate extraction to secluded area, ASAP. As far as attracting them, it's fairly standard: show value, be fun. Take lead. I think many times, if they've been through a rough LTR, they want spontaneity and excitement that they've been missing. Like, they want to feel like vibrant. Shit tests can be like: "You're too young"="Yes, I know", continue escalating. I thi…
/r/seduction17/05/14 08:39 AM
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I'll play devil's advocate and say this might work. Depends on how the run-up and presentation is. Are you coming across as super friendly? Or super sexy? Or sweet?
/r/seduction14/04/14 02:15 AM
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My two cents. There's a few different "I'm seeing someone", tho. She is seeing someone and the relationship is crumbling, she's looking for the straw to break the camel's back or revenge. She is seeing someone and she's not going to cheat on him. She is not attracted to you and she's saying that upfront to get rid of you. 1&3 are typically agree and amplify 2 is social proof "Well then you can help me get laid. What do you think of that girl over there?"
/r/seduction14/04/14 02:09 AM
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Eh, it happened. She seems pretty capricious anyway, don't take it personal. She took your hat. She wants to see how submissive you are. At that point, you can either say something like "Are you the hat thief?" Or tease her about being grabby hands. Or you can say "You can wear my hat but I'll have to hang on to some collateral." Or even "You can wear my hat but you'll have to give me your number." After this point it was pretty much game over.
/r/seduction14/04/14 01:11 AM
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Swagger!
/r/seduction14/04/14 12:56 AM
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Thanks man, you're probably right. Yeah, I wasn't going to date her, I wanted to add her to the "friend" rotation. Like...this "doesn't count" it just happened. Like the sexy male friend frame, you know? Like making out with two girls in a photobooth - it doesn't count it's just fun -like getting girls into bachelorette party mode. Sometimes girls will give their numbers out to random guys anyway. I'm not so worried about faithfulness - in fact, I'd prefer a girl to have options. Because that me…
/r/seduction14/04/14 12:25 AM
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DOH I'm redgreen colorblind :D
/r/seduction13/04/14 11:28 PM
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LOL thanks! I was just caught up in the fun of tilting the party.
/r/seduction13/04/14 11:27 PM
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Do you like her, sexually, tho? Do you want to ravish her body? If you don't feel attracted to her, then put her in the friendzone. Or else, say out loud "I feel frozen right now because of the universe" so it makes it less awkward.
/r/seduction13/04/14 09:41 AM
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If you're GIVING them five minutes of fun conversation, what's wrong with that?
/r/seduction13/04/14 09:32 AM
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Lol I talked to a girl who had a boyfriend tonight! OMG. Such a hot lil brunette. I should post the story.
/r/seduction13/04/14 09:26 AM
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You can do it with your gut and moobs! Just talk to people and enjoy life. If you're self-conscious, tell people that you're self-conscious. Unless you're dealing with some real jerks (in which case, you don't want to talk to them anyway), most people will be pretty understanding. I have a friend who is like 5'10" and 300 lbs. He used to play center in highschool football. He is probably way out of shape, but mannnnnnnnnnnn he got has a swagger and a bunch of girls have proposed TO him. I think …
/r/seduction13/04/14 09:04 AM
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Send this guy some condoms ASAP. And a tarp to cover his gigantic balls.
/r/seduction11/04/14 09:59 AM
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I dunno, it's like anything - you get out of it whatever effort you put into it. There's plenty of info on seddit and elsewhere. Here's my own personal list; it's apocryphal - written by who knows. Common-sense advice. What you want from dating. Long-term/Short-term? Be prepared to tell a girl what you a looking for. I personally want a bunch of long-term female friends with benefits. What kind of girl you want. Describe her in detail - tall, short, skinny. What is your type? Not just "hot chick…
/r/seduction11/04/14 09:57 AM
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So what ended up happening? Good things I hope :D
/r/seduction11/04/14 08:21 AM
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Hmm. Maybe tell them you're shy, right off the bat. Like "I'm shy this is who I am, if you don't like it, fuck off, but don't doubt me for one second." Also, (my dumb opinion) some of those really hot girls won't crack without social proof. Especially female social proof. Social proof thru da roof!
/r/seduction01/02/14 09:53 AM
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Nah, don't worry about your size when it comes to women, you have an instant "in" with all the girls who like burly men. Just think of all the women who are like "WAAH WHY IS MY BOYFRIEND SO SHRIMPY" You were made for those women and they were made for you. BIG DAWG WOOF WOOF!
/r/seduction01/02/14 09:36 AM
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I could be wrong, but don't show intentions through texting. Go up to her face, look her in the eye, smile, and tell her exactly what you want. "I'm going to be your boyfriend." "I'm going to fuck you silly" "I want to see where this goes."
/r/seduction01/02/14 09:26 AM
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Yah don't do dinner until you know the girl. She might have food issues. Ice cream, coffee. Or, make food at your house, like invite her over to make something with you. Let's make waffle burgers and watch a movie!
/r/seduction01/02/14 09:13 AM
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Well...in my opinion you can't do this in a vacuum. Guys with deep inner confidence usually have something going for them. When problems happen, they're not a big deal because they have something that they fall back on. It's not like you can just display inner confidence - I could be wrong - but usually it's like... Art/music - girls might be fun but they'll never replace the enjoyment I get out of artistic pursuits. Money/power - yes, that is a cute girl but I fuckin' move mountains with the fl…
/r/seduction01/02/14 08:51 AM
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Here's my dumb advice. Don't do the "value-scan". Don't sit there in one place, holding a drink in one hand and the other hand in your pocket. Keep it fun and light. If you have to check your phone, look at it and laugh like your best friend sent you something hilarious, like the funniest last reddit you saw. Plan logistics: clean your room, have music ready, condoms, etc. So if you wanted to bring a girl home. Plan out the night - if it's "get a number meet up days in future", be prepared for t…
/r/seduction01/02/14 08:35 AM
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Dating (quote unquote) 10's can be daunting. I dunno, they have their own unique problems. If you're nervous, that just means you haven't experienced the situation before. The next time you date a 10, you'll be much less nervous. 10's are human beings, too, they're descended from cavemen just like you or I. They're just here to continue their genetic information, they probably have a mother and a father that look similar, they probably have all sorts of problems. And when they start to age/get f…
/r/seduction01/02/14 07:51 AM
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It's difficult to tell exactly what a girl is thinking, so, as a rule, I suggest don't worry about what they're thinking. Just communicate what you want, and if they don't want the same thing, move on. Why? Because an ounce of prevention beats a pound of cure. Basically, she has a read on you immediately. She's going to play according to whatever first impression you made. She's already put you in "possible boyfriend", "hot fuck", "never date", "friend" or "dunno, see what happens" category. If …
/r/seduction01/02/14 07:41 AM
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Yes. She might not be the right one for you. Tell her exactly what you want. If possible, face to face.
/r/seduction01/02/14 07:33 AM
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I dunno, it sounds like you need to tell her exactly what you want. Do you want sex? Relationship? Friendship? If she is not attractive, friendzone her and move on. Otherwise, here's a rapport trick. It get people to open up a little bit. You can also use it if you're AMOG'd, cursed out, or if someone says something INSANE. Psychotherapists use a similar technique to get clients to start opening up. "Why do you say that?"
/r/seduction01/02/14 07:30 AM
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You can do it! I hope this helped at least a little. If you're ever in Chi-town and you want to do some game, hit me up, dawg.
/r/seduction01/02/14 07:24 AM
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Sorry if this took a while to reply, I don't have much time lately. Here's the thing about pickup...the discomfort phase is sort of a mindfuck. And by that I mean, from the intro to the outro, there can be some discomfort. You see the girl, you talk to her, she gets weirded out, etc. However, if you can power through the discomfort phase, she might end up actually respecting you. Which is why those pickup lines like "Why haven't we had sex yet?" work well. If you can't see the light at the end o…
/r/seduction01/02/14 07:22 AM
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Here's my 2 cents, I could be wrong. There's no push-pull. Her opening up with insecurities is what her girlfriends are for. It sounds like you already set off her radar but there's no sexual friction. When she says she won't hook up with you, that's a little bit of energy. Here's a riff off the top of my head. Her - "I'd never hook up with you" Me - "You're right...we shouldn't, that would be bad. I don't to let my emotions cloud my judgment" Personally, tho...she might be better to have as a f…
/r/seduction07/01/14 09:15 AM
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Yep. It's easy to get a "rep", girls gossip.
/r/seduction07/01/14 08:45 AM
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I dunno, here's my lame advice. It depends on a lot of things. I go from a bunch to one to a bunch and back and forth. I think that's a normal male thing to do. Psychologically, it was more like whittling down romantic contact (eh, I just stopped returning texts) and then building up again. Was the underlying context that you were in open relationships, or was it undeclared? Did you make any statement with the girls that would define the relationships? Personally, I think "swinger" polyamory is …
/r/seduction07/01/14 08:44 AM
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Did you at least have any fun?
/r/seduction07/01/14 08:06 AM
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I can't relate; I'm not paralyzed, and I apologize in advance if this is unhelpful and crass. But, it sounds a little like one-itis. Being emotionally needy is off-putting irrespective of physical needs. I'm sure there are plenty of girls who would gladly meet your physical needs. The thing is, despite the fact that women may seem scarce, you do have options. With ALL sorts of girls. Multiple simultaneous girlfriends out there for you if you want. Women who meet you could have a sneaking suspici…
/r/seduction07/01/14 07:50 AM
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Yes. There has to be a reason for her getting that drunk. Hundreds of sober girls that are DTF or would make great girlfriends.
/r/seduction07/01/14 06:07 AM
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Here's my humble suggestions; I could be wrong. "Depends on the context". If you're with a girl and she wants you but you're never really isolated, then sticking around until finding an isolated place for make-out is good. If the context is "friendship", then get the number and move on as soon as you can find a new group to chat - she might have single friends or invite you to a party. Eh, be nice and friendly. Cheers! How are you guys doing tonight?Talk to someone else. Don't act needy. They're…
/r/seduction07/01/14 06:01 AM
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I know an alpha male grandpa who does this - now he just does corny grandpa jokes.
/r/seduction07/01/14 05:40 AM
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Get your fedora/vest game tight, dawg! :D
/r/seduction07/01/14 05:33 AM
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How did you approach? Like, what kind of subcommunication were you throwing at them?
/r/seduction07/01/14 05:28 AM
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I apologize in advance if this isn't helpful. Some girls are just flirtatious and it doesn't mean anything. It might not matter if she likes you or not, also. Some girls will just go out with the guy who asks them out. Girls can be unpredictable and say all sort of things in their own language. Exactly what do you want from this girl? Companionship? Kisses?
/r/seduction07/01/14 05:22 AM
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I apologize for my unhelpfulness in advance. Are you familiar with "subcommunication"? That means your implied emotional communication expressed by body language, tonality, touch and nuance. It carries more weight than conversation in pick-up. Like, you don't need to talk very much if you are clearly expressing your intent: eye contact, seductive tones, smiles, etc. Putting your body into the "state" of a sexy moment. Apocryphally, as with most performance art, there's presentational ("look at t…
/r/seduction07/01/14 05:02 AM
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Instead of going on solitary dates, throw events and invite all the girls you've picked up that week. "I'm having a get together at my house this weekend with wine and cheese, please invite people." "I'm going to this great bar this weekend with a bunch of friends, there's fancy drinks, want to go? Invite your friends. My friend Stephan is single, can you bring a single lady for him?" "I'm going to a movie this weekend with a bunch of friends." So, show you're part of a social ecosystem rather t…
/r/seduction10/10/13 02:50 AM
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Volunteer at a charity.
/r/seduction10/10/13 02:40 AM
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I'll be a contrarian and suggest volunteering somewhere and being egoless. I suggest: Meals on Wheels, jeremiahprogram.org, Habitat for Humanity, your local food bank, developmental disability foundations, or any of the cancer/disease walks. I find the scene from Fight Club where the Narrator is talking to the men with testicular cancer especially inspiring. Who cares if that girl rejected you if you have something real that you care about?
/r/seduction10/10/13 02:38 AM
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Consider my suggestion, but choose your own course of action. I could be wrong. It might be ruined, who knows? No way to recover with logic. She's emoting. Use emotion back. "I just met her and hit it off and felt impulsive, you know? I don't know what I was thinking back there, I wasn't thinking with my brain." This way, she can backwards rationalize it with an explanation: you're an impulsive guy. Don't logic it. Logic = "We had an agreement" = "I didn't know she was your friend" Emotion = "I …
/r/seduction10/10/13 02:01 AM
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You could do pick-up with an eye patch and a cold sore as long as you have balls of steel. Personally, I don't peacock. My abrasive personality is my peacocking. Here's my 2 cents, take it or leave it. There's an aspect to peacocking that says "I am ok with who I am" because it can draw social pressure and attention. If you can endure social pressure, it's attractive. What kind of social pressure does a silver bracelet bring? I'm sure that the average jerk would say something like "Nice bracelet…
/r/seduction10/10/13 01:36 AM
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Your dad is probably great at pushing emotional state if he's really intense.
/r/seduction01/10/13 06:56 AM
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Nooo he was off banging. I think of it like this: I literally AM a cold approach.
/r/seduction01/10/13 06:54 AM
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He had 3 wives, 15 kids (that the family knows about). He just had a preternatural love for women, no negative emotions tho, just lovey dovey. Not good at paying child support, tho. He was completely irresponsible; he had a traveling job that paid him every once in a while. I found one of his old love letters to my mom and it read like a gigantic comfort-building routine.
/r/seduction01/10/13 03:07 AM
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Put yourself in the girl's perspective. Girls meet a bunch of guys that night. Guys that they don't really want to interact with outside the club. The guys probably appear as if all they want is to have sex. That's their only interest in females in a club. (And probably everywhere in the world 24-7) That translates to zero value because there are just too many guys doing the same thing with nothing else to offer: it's supply overload. But the club is a fantasy zone. In the club, girls can be pre…
/r/seduction29/09/13 11:11 PM
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Well, what do you feel like when you see that blonde and can't approach? Do you have a failure scenario go through your mind? Or do you freeze up? Or is it more of a nameless existential dread? Can you identify the exact emotion that happens? Once you know the exact thing that's happening, it's a lot easier to suggest a course of action.
/r/seduction29/09/13 08:45 AM
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What happened? Three hours? Who was forcing you? Ninjas?
/r/seduction29/09/13 08:27 AM
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Kind of. You'll have to see what works for you. It's not a specific time frame on when to do this. You can do it whenever the emotions go up. The point is to stop the attention at the emotional peak of the exchange to create faux drama. Like, try to read the emotional colors that are happening. Is she bored? Excited? Sad? She wants emotional stimulation, that's why it's a pump mechanism. Build excitement/takeaway/build excitement/take away. Personally, I wouldn't do the come hither finger, maybe…
/r/seduction29/09/13 08:20 AM
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How are you bitchy exactly?
/r/seduction29/09/13 02:32 AM
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A little difficult to express in writing. It's a pump mechanism. So, you're talking to her, the conversation is going well, she's laughing, (emotional peak), and then you turn away for a second flirtatiously. She'll be like "Wait! Come back!" Since you're good at dancing, hopefully this will make sense and you can execute it correctly. The kino takeaway is similar, just with kino. You're touching her, holding her (to the emotional peak) and then you GENTLY push her away on the shoulder or hip (w…
/r/seduction29/09/13 02:19 AM
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Hmm...the last time this happened to me, I was leaving a club and my girl was stopped by a guy in a suit jacket who stepped in front of me. He was like blah blah blah game game, etc. I snuck around, lifted her up and carried her out of the club. He's probably not going to tackle me while I'm carrying around a girl. I guess, don't get in the tit-for-tat revenge mindset. Don't get aggressive or angry. BAD: "I'll do this to get back at him and win." GOOD: Continue with what you're saying like nothi…
/r/seduction29/09/13 01:55 AM
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Do you ever do takeaways? Especially, kino takeaways?
/r/seduction28/09/13 11:55 PM
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What exactly does he do when AMOGing you?
/r/seduction28/09/13 11:22 PM
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Absolutely. It's like building a muscle. However, as the son of a Master Pimp, I will respectfully disagree. :D
/r/seduction28/09/13 10:26 PM
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Losing sexual interest in girls = mild nachos. Ask yourself what you really want. If you do want the spicy ones, you have to go get the spicy ones. Settle for nothing less, if that's what you want. Why are you asking for mild when you really want spicy? DEMAND SPICY! It's a crime against humanity to keep yourself from your destined role as the captain of spicy ladies. The spicy ladies will cry "Woe is us! Where's our spice-mastah? He has forsaken us for the milds!" :O You write "I have some fuck…
/r/seduction28/09/13 10:22 PM
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Say their names out loud as you meet them. Create an acronym. Admit out loud that you're not going to remember them without the acroynym. "Jessica Traci Leena Katie Allison You guys will be know as JTLKA for the night! You're like some sort of utility company or para-military group!" Then later you can reference it. "Where's the A? You're just JTLK. Your power is dimished without the A. It's like a car without the windshield."
/r/seduction28/09/13 02:44 AM
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How do you push them away? How are you needy?
/r/seduction28/09/13 02:30 AM
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I'll make a few comments, forgive me if this is bad advice. This sounds like a pretty good night! You made some ballsy approaches for sure. "deicide that'd we'd try out our luck at the club next door, but we get in and the place is dead, a couple girls but nothing that caught my attention." - This might be worth an approach, just for fun. Meet the DJ? "I look at her back and tell her I don't give out my cigs to strangers and she quickly replies with her name," - NICE. Next time, trade cigarettes…
/r/seduction26/09/13 10:30 AM
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There is no good or bad place to approach. The location itself has little influence on the pick-up itself; women will find it romantic. Even if you were on Mars, you could be the Mars' finest ladies-man. You can succeed anywhere, and if not, be proud that you gave it your best. You may also fail horribly, but failure is good as long as you can learn. OK, yes, it might be difficult to pick-up in the midst of a civil war battlefield, but a crowded train is within reason. What matters most is your …
/r/seduction26/09/13 09:36 AM
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I love girls with beards! Wait, you mean on men.
/r/seduction26/09/13 08:42 AM
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Yes! This is great.
/r/seduction26/09/13 07:07 AM
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Sounds like a fun night. A few suggestions. Here is a lot of information distilled from years of experience and apocrypha. There might be more complicated technical pick-up to discuss with this, but here's some basics that might help. Approach everyone - bartenders, baristas, street people. Say hello, ask questions, hold eye contact. Give value, compliments. Smile. By the time you get to your first real set, you'll already be in state. I think it's alot easier to bounce out of an 'everyone appro…
/r/seduction26/09/13 04:09 AM
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