Most men including guys who try to learn success with women and dating will never be able to approach women consistently. Their approach anxiety is too much to try to overcome so they will settle for whichever woman they meet through work or their social circle and will forever have a life of frustration with women.

Conquering your approach anxiety is the BIGGEST factor that will help you close the gap from where you currently are to where you want to be with women. So this is a part of your game that you should really focus on nailing down. It truly doesn’t matter how many post on seddit you read, youtube videos you watch or products you buy if you can’t approach women consistently IT DOESN’T MEAN ANYTHING. It’s all MENTAL MASTURBATION. Let’s get into a couple of facts about overcoming approach anxiety.

Number One - Your Approach Anxiety Will NEVER Go Away You will be able to manage your anxiety much better so when it comes on it doesn’t stop you from approaching. After 10 years in the game I still get nervous but the difference from when I started to now is that my anxiety doesn’t stop me. I know how to control and manage it.

Number Two - There Is No Shortcut Just like anything else in life that you want to be successful in you are going to have to put in the work. Being about to conquer your approach anxiety is going to take CONSISTENT exposure overtime. You are going to have to put in the work, plain and simple. No if, ands or buts about it.

Number Three - Your Anxiety Causes You To Project Negatively When you are afraid to approach it all comes from your insecurities, negative belief system and negative assumptions. It’s all a mind fuck and 95 percent of the time what you think is going to happen doesn’t and if it does you still live another day to speak about it.

Now let’s get into the meat and potatoes of what steps you have to take in order to conquer your approach anxiety.

Daily Momentum For the next 30 days I want you to approach 1 woman a day with a direct approach. Simply go up to her and say, “Excuse me I know this is totally random but I saw you and I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hello. I’m X(Your Name) You can say that to women you see during the day i.e. when you are on your lunch break, taking the train, walking down the street, etc. No excuses make it happen. You don’t have to go to a bar or club for the next 30 days just do this during the daytime. There is no excuse, you can approach one woman a day.

If you want to use that approach for the night time simply say, “Excuse me, I saw you and I thought you were cute and I wanted to say hello. I’m X(Your Name)”The opener works, I have been using it for 10 years and I have myself on film using that opener to women during the day and nighttime. It’s not about the opener it’s about you getting use to approaching women. After you completed this 30 day challenge then you want to step up the number of women you approach on the weekend.

Use Leverage With Your Wingman One of the things I use to do back in the day is give my wingman $100 and for every girl I approach it would be $10 until I got my $100 back. So essentially I had to approach 10 women in order to get my money back. I couldn’t afford to lost $100 so you bet I approached those 10 women. I would tell my wing no matter what not to give me my money back until I did all ten approaches. I would encourage you to do the same with your wingman. You will find that this motivates you very much. Try it out.

Write Down Your Sticking Points After each night or day session you complete go home in wrote on your phone, computer or in a journal the 3 things you did well and the 3 things you could of done better. Keep this simple. Once you start to do this you will see what you are good at and then you will see what mistakes you make over and over again and began to correct them. That is the biggest mistake I see guys make once they are finally about to approach women consistently is that they make the same mistakes over and over so they never get better despite being about to approach. Don’t be that guy, write down your sticking points so you can continue to improve and get the results you want.

Bonus - Affirmations While you are on your journey to conquering your approach anxiety affirmations are a nice icing on the cake but it isn’t the entire cake, approaching is but they are helpful. They help you develop new beliefs when added with going out and approaching. I write down whatever negative belief I have and turn it into an affirmation and record them on my phone and listen to them daily.

For example, let’s say one of your beliefs you aren’t confident enough to approach women. So you would simply reframe that belief into an affirmation by saying, “I’m in the process of having the confidence to approach women that I find attractive.”

So whatever your negative belief is, reframe it with “I’m in the process of”. REMEMBER this isn’t a magic pill that will help you start to approach women without putting in the work. You can use this as an add on while you are out approaching women but it won’t mean much if you do the affirmations but don’t go out. It will be mental masturbation and wasted time. You must go out and approach!

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Wishing you much success with women and dating.