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[–]alex0919 4 points5 points6 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Your emotional state doesn't have a very strong foundation, what I'd consider "state" is your vibe (consisting of confidence, warmness) and your ability to control your emotions.
Don't base all of your confidence on the approval of women (or people for that matter). Build it from within, improve yourself, look at everything as a lesson, not a failure you pine over and depress yourself. You must maintain your process and remain accountable, even when things get hard (and holy shit do they). So many guys' worlds crash down when things don't work out because they have no direction. As you spend more time improving yourself and your skills (e.g. getting girls) you see the frequency of girls enjoying you, and spending time with you increase. You never stop improving yourself as you become better and better, every single day be prolific.
Controlling your emotions is easy when you bypass your reptilian and mammalian brains to get to your neocortex. This is basically NLP (neuro linguistic programming) yourself. To bypass your reptilian brain, you manipulate your physiology; you smile, you give yourself great posture, you walk with confidence, you make eye contact. To bypass your mammalian brain, it's a tad harder, because it's more evolved, you imagine circumstances of the state you want to incarnate to manipulate your psychology, they can be real or fake, I usually think back on successful seductions, interactions going well with beautiful girls, to invoke confidence. For happiness, I associate that a lot with success, so I just visualize my dreams, and my state is usually pretty euphoric and dream like. I literally never exit the dream until something tragic happens.
Even when you fall into depression (I recover from little episodes from time to time, because I was on medicine and all that shit about three years ago), you need to fight it, you need to say fuck you to your brain's negative thoughts, and stay positive. Depression is just your neurons traveling a pathway of thought, digging deeper and deeper, to the point it's just the default path for them to take (e.g. a headspace of depressing thoughts "Why am I here" "What's my purpose" "The world is unfair" "I'm never going to make it"), say to yourself "Is this what I'm wasting my time on... ruminating and obsessing over negative shit?". Every single time something negative pops in my head, I yell to myself internally until the thoughts silence themselves. Then I replace them with constructive thoughts about my future (e.g. how I work out to build a beautiful physique, how I'm going to university to build a successful and high class business, how I'm mastering the art of seduction, relationships, bodybuilding, engineering, psychology, etc.) I am vigilant and keep shutting out the bad thought processes, I fill in the negative pathway I dug so deep for so long, and keep going, and grinding out my positive pathway. A problem within the mind requires a solution within the mind.
Lots of advanced shit, shit most men will probably never fully grasp, but wielded right, it's some powerful shit. Game changing, I didn't give you it all, but NLP is something the mainstream will never grasp, for example, neither is overcoming depression.
P.S. That practice makes perfect comment is so vague
[–]TheCuriousDude 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Practice makes perfect.
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