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| 3 | To all experienced PUAs: what are you realizations?Project to women what you want in return (e.g. law of attraction). Examples: If I'm manipulative, actually a mess and have shitty values, then I'm likely going to attract the same in women, and relationships will likely be codependent and/or abusive to both parties. The behavior I keep putting out as a front (e.g. acting) is a sad facade that anyone who is confident and secure in themselves can see through within a few lines of dialogue. I'm to the point where these type of people (wo/men) are a… | /r/seduction | 29/12/16 01:24 PM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesText & Dates; getting solid numbers, dealing with shit tests, dealing with radio silence, dealing with flaking, dealing with dates. Texting: the most important thing you can do if you want results - follow up with your numbers. Dates: Where the results are most of the time, rather than pulls. This is where consistent results are. Texting Texting starts off with good in-person interaction - if you did a good job in person, texting is easier. You want her to be comfortable enough with you that han… | /r/seduction | 13/09/16 11:23 AM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesIdentify the activity having the most positive impact on your goal. Identify your goal and its number one driver; prioritize accordingly. For example, getting a 4.0 this semester is most positively affected by reading the entire chapter, and repeatedly exposing yourself to said chapter through attendance, and questions. Getting better with women is most positively affected by meeting many women whom you're most compatible with of the highest quality at the highest efficiency of communication, es… | /r/seduction | 05/09/16 02:55 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/30 (1: Christy) - Spot walking out of bridge, turn around, before class, walk up next after a short bit of deliberating, say "Hi, I need to get to class, but I saw you back there and thought you were cute and wanted to meet you." Successful interaction ensues, she's fairly receptive, hooks after two lines of dialogue in, after you find out what she's up to. Continue to rapport build a bit, not much deep rapport, but it's an interaction! Mentions boyfriend casually on her trip to Arizona and yo… | /r/seduction | 01/09/16 05:56 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/28 (1: Blonde w/ gay friend) - They come up, can tell it's on with the blonde, get orders. When you talk to her she blushes a few times and can't stop looking, rapport build with the friend some. Ultimately do nothing. Feedback: You were attracted to this girl, she liked you, she blushed! It was on and you didn't ignite that interaction with her to start a wonderful experience. | /r/seduction | 29/08/16 12:36 AM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/25 (1: Blonde whom tripped) - Saw her walking ahead, had attraction for her, as you got closer she glanced back a few times, tripped. You catch up, open - "I was totally afraid I'd have to help you up" she laughs about it and being melodramatic about the trip and you banter back "Congratulations! You're still alive." lots of good receptions. Feedback: Very good opportunity to open, also very good having the courage to speak to her - familiar "whatever" feeling that comes before talking to girl… | /r/seduction | 29/08/16 12:34 AM |
| 1 | Need serious advice- My ex broke up with me about a month ago, said she used "depression" to mask that she was unhappy. How to deal with knowing she started dating someone new who looks like an "upgrade" immediately after we broke up? I feel as though I failed as a man to keep her interested?Honestly, this deserves a longer response than I gave you, but I don't have hours to spare, what I can say is I definitely resonate with what you're experiencing. The issue is you had a girlfriend who was codependent and effectively "needed" you to solve her ever-present problems. You thought you'd get the love you wanted by fixing said problems, the fact is, this feeds her neediness whereby she creates further problems for you to fix - effectively an endless cycle. The bad news? You're needy al… | /r/seduction | 29/08/16 12:02 AM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/22 (1: Red dress in grey sweater jacket) Why were you attracted to her?: she had a good sense of style and she had a shy demeanor. Saw her walking by on your break, deliberate but don't get up due to fear of rejection. Feedback: You'll never know if she likes you or not unless you say "Hi". Say so, see what she's up to, sit her down and get to know her, assume she's attracted until she says "No" to the date. 8/23 (1: Christine) - Why are you attracted to her?: She has a quirky vibe but all the… | /r/seduction | 28/08/16 01:02 AM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesOne Fundamental Truth What's game? It's a process of truth, it's a process of going out, getting experience, and using that experience to create rules and do better each subsequent time. The reason that's because game is the way it is is no matter how bad you are when you start, if you have the right process in place, if you just get feedback, learn from it, iterate, then repeat - you're gauranteed to get good at this. If you don't go through the process or start that process with bad assumption… | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 06:45 PM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesThe Five Necessities in Interactions Open - It doesn't have to be you opening her, it can be creating a social environment where she opens you, or it can be an introduction. If you're not taking the effort to make an open, or creating a situation where you get opens - you're going to get precious few opportunities to get anywhere. You need to initiate the interaction, one way or another. Escalate - Sets going really well, each person liking each other - but not one leads the interaction anywhere… | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 05:50 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/21 (1: Brunette with jean shorts and sexy legs) - On your break, see her walk in, spot her, she walks out, sits in her car for a bit, and leaves. Feedback: Primary fear here was flirting on the clock, but you've done it before and girls are usually pretty friendly about striking up a conversation at least. Anyways, best way here was to engage her before she left, "Hey" with a warm smile and motioned her over for an open "You looked interesting and I wanted to see if I was right or wrong about … | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 04:42 PM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesFear of Rejection There are people in the world that don't feel or fear rejection in the same way as you. The only difference between these people and you is the way they receive rejection in the mind (e.g. stimulus/response). Think of a time you've been rejected in the past or getting rejected in the future. Disassociate yourself from rejection. Separate yourself from the no - there is a skill set that may be missing. What's going on between you and the no? Compatibility issues? Skill set absen… | /r/seduction | 22/08/16 04:21 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/20 (1: Brunette with jean shorts and gorgeous thighs) - With her Mom, comes in, you're busy and don't acknowledge her, she looks up a few times from her phone and preens. Ultimately do nothing. Feedback: Ask with genuine interest how their day's going, what they're up to. It wouldn't have hurt at all. (2: Alex, black see through top (fuck...) with white jean shorts) - Comes in, greet her, she seems receptive after she brushes her hair with her hand and introduces herself, give her two high fiv… | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 09:03 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Bad Night I SupposeWhat do YOU want your ideal interaction to be? Well, my best interactions are when I spot a girl and we strike it up one on one during the day - God knows how many successful interactions went this way. I move her and we sit down somewhere near by, I see if she's cool and share a bit about myself so we aren't complete strangers. Here when attraction's already established once she's moved, it's more about rapport building and teasing at some sexual tension. If we have somewhere to be (which is us… | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 08:47 PM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesInternal Adjustment Coach This is adjusting as you meet people, giving you feedback - what you're doing right and wrong in a non-judgmental way. Let's say you do your first approach and the girl walks away and doesn't respond; this coach says "Oh, it's your voice, too quiet". Next, with the correction you make another failed approach; "Oh, better job with the voice, but you were too hurried, slow things down a bit. Stars in Your Eyes There's a difference between girls who're attractive and girls… | /r/seduction | 20/08/16 02:29 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/17 (1: Brunette w/ vanilla perfume) - Sitting down, alone, in front of you (AI), friend/colleague/mentor comes in, sits down with her in an impromptu fashion. Continue to study and listen, ultimately taking no action. Feedback: Prior to the other girl sitting down, that was an opportunity most definitely to meet her and find out what she was like. Does really matter in the long run if you get rejected? You find out she's not someone you'd like to keep around and you get the opportunity to find… | /r/seduction | 19/08/16 03:58 PM |
| 1 | FR: Girl At The ParkRemember how I was thinking about tips and shit earlier? I threw that out my head and focused on just having fun. I introduce myself and tell her I had to get to know her because she looked amazing. Made me smile to see you say that, good job being natural and not acting out a persona. Girls feel that authenticity. I can tell you didn't consciously "game" her by the writing in the report, barely any technical writing, just illustrating a great interaction like you're telling a story. This remind… | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 04:56 PM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesHappiness Happiness isn't the big event, it's the everyday in-between Engaged and happy while talking to the woman, but you slink back down into sadness. 95% of your life is walking around without the girl, 5% is with the girl there. Stop and smell the roses, literally - absorb things that exist but aren't usually noticed. All the little moments add up and improve the the 95% of your life. Enjoy the memory - sometimes the memory is better than the actual moment. The idea of the thing is never as… | /r/seduction | 17/08/16 04:39 PM |
| 3 | How Do I Get Her Back To My PlaceI'm going to say you missed your opportunity. The very fact you relied on drugs to "get in the zone" must mean you have a lot of inhibitions about sex. Why? Look into that and learn that if a girl comes over to "watch a movie" she wants more, physically escalate like it's your job. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 12:17 PM |
| 1 | Introverts NotesThis is for me, take what you want from it - just getting some takeaways from a video from someone I respect and model some of my style after. You're right, I didn't expect this thread to get so much attention, this was like me sitting through a lecture and taking notes, is all. | /r/seduction | 16/08/16 12:08 PM |
| 6 | Introverts NotesYou get girls of a certain caliber, but when you go to higher caliber girls, they seem to take you platonically and it loses the spark. If that's happening routinely you're leveling. In your interactions, you do pretty well, but you have this one specific sticking point you can't get past. Maybe the problem isn't where the sticking point is and it's just a symptom of the real problem from earlier. Five categories of leveling: Adopting bad frames or lacking frame control: you're not controlling t… | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Need help with my exWhat did you do wrong? Why did you agree to be friends with someone you love? how should I go about it? It's relationship or bust, I've tried friends and let me tell you, spending all these emotions and all this time on a girl who isn't yours anymore takes away those same resources from meeting new women. Truth is, that girl is dead to you, she's gone, she's not coming back, accept it. Reflect on what you did wrong, learn from that, and start meeting other girls. Communicate to this ex ASAP that… | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 01:34 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Timing, Escalation, and ClosingThe fact you reflected on this experience and synthesized some feedback means you want to improve. Just get in the habit of getting results, I can talk to pretty girls and get good reactions forever, but I'm not going to get any results unless I go in with the goal to close - I need to be bold and escalate the interaction, girls will do this 1/500 times if you're lucky. I am too focused on developing that attraction and I forget or I wait for the 'perfect' moment to close to come up and that jus… | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 12:57 PM |
| 1 | [FR] A+ approach opportunity, poor closeThis experience should teach you to get numbers and plan dates with women in person if you two are getting along well. This feeling you have will simply repeat itself until you do so. | /r/seduction | 15/08/16 12:41 PM |
| 3 | [FR] A not-so-average Saturday.1) When girls are pretty short and/or cold when you open, most of the time there wasn't enough attraction for her to hook or she's unavailable, it happens, some girls just aren't interested - may be she was unreceptive or she was unavailable. You'll kill yourself obsessing over why this one didn't like you, just don't worry about that and worry about finding the ones who do like you. I had a girl like this the other day, she was just unavailable as it turns out, 2-3 word answers, kind of cautiou… | /r/seduction | 14/08/16 05:36 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/11 (1: Black hair grey sweater jacket) Comes up, eyes lit up while talking, longer eye contact than normal, it was on, lots of subcommunications, and warm goodbyes. Feedback: Opportunity to compliment her on the sparkle in her eye and get her name real quick because she was intriguing. Hard to escalate from there considering it was peak in DT, maybe receipt and "I'm really busy right now, but I'd like to get to know you better, "sign" here?" (2: Brunette studying on patio with lacy white top o… | /r/seduction | 13/08/16 11:36 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/31(1: brunette walking out of Knight building) Walks out as you walk by, on the phone, apathetically excuse her. She's on the phone, pass her up. Feedback: Say "Hi", you were attractED to her, say so and see what she's like. If she's unreceptive now your question is answered, you wouldn't be happy with her. (2: Grey yoga pants) See walking on your way out of class, deliberate shortly, but go over to say "Hi" anyways, nothing comes out of it except a fake smile. Likely either didn't hear you or it … | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 08:22 PM |
| 1 | asking girls on a date right away?Listen to this guy. I'd like to give you a justification for doing this as opposed to asking straight away (which does work if she was interested in you before you even said "Hi", which is unfortunately rarer than not). Anyways, the reason you want to do all this mumbo-jumbo is so you two know if you get along well, why would you waste your time with someone who you don't click with? Girls think the same thing, and consequently will be rather cold if you get their numbers and they aren't sure yo… | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 02:27 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Chatting up girls whilst going about my day.Thanks for posting a field report and your analysis on each set, this is sadly rarer than it used to be but underutilized for its effectiveness, oh well, more for us. 1) Not much to say, she was married, good job approaching a girl, though 2) I referred to myself as "that awkward guy" Good catch, don't ever be self deprecating where you are actually that thing you're putting yourself down for. Eventually, the friend casually asked the girl if she wanted to go check out the art exhibition down th… | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 02:20 PM |
| 4 | If There Was a Key This Would Be ItCaveat: When you do fail, even 10 times in a row, don't ever give up, you're either learning or finding out with girls don't like you when you fail. | /r/seduction | 11/08/16 01:57 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/318/9 (1: Taylor) - Studying, walk past to exam, feeling good, defeat excuses and turn around to meet her. Go in genuinely with "Hey, I was on my way to an exam but I saw you and turned around to meet you, I figured what'd I have to lose?" neutral to lukewarm open, you have some nerves that are probably being subcommunicated and you sort of choke up and stay present. She excuses herself when you don't really move the interaction forward to go to class. Feedback: Well done standing up to the excuse… | /r/seduction | 09/08/16 11:50 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Lots of Action Taking, Feedback AppreciatedFirst of all, thanks for the feedback! I also wanted to start off with saying I did leave out a lot of the details, I'm very results oriented and business minded so I tried to make this a very succinct post (like an executive summary) that could've been well over 5000 words if I included everything so you (the reader) weren't inundated with details. Most of these approaches lasted 5-10m/ea and the date lasted 5 hours, and giving you all of those details would make each of us sick reading. Let me… | /r/seduction | 08/08/16 02:10 AM |
| 6 | Girls sleep with me all the time but never call me back... what am I doing wrong?This is an intermediate level problem, you can get the closes but you want to keep the women around and whether you directly communicate this or not, women can sense it. A diagnosis of the cause of this problem for you would require a lot more information. It's safe to say there are two categories for your problem with the vague information you've provided: The seduction's quality and your dominance on the way to sex Your treatment of her after sex Within these categories lie problems like givin… | /r/seduction | 07/08/16 04:03 PM |
| 6 | Girls sleep with me all the time but never call me back... what am I doing wrong?Problems are only problems based on the individual's perception, for someone who's not experienced with women, this seems like a blessing, but to this guy, it likely is a sticking point. | /r/seduction | 07/08/16 03:44 PM |
| 2 | Possible to recover after coming off as needy?In most cases it's not even worth the trouble because unless she's a very high quality girl it's highly likely it's easier to just find another, better girl. You've effectively set a needy precedent with a girl though, neediness in a guy is like a girl who's overweight. To reverse the precedent, the only real answer is to cut contact with her and do a few things: Meet other women, probably better than this girl Tell her prior to cutting contact she's not who you thought she was (e.g. boundaries,… | /r/seduction | 07/08/16 03:41 PM |
| 27 | Don't read too much into theory. Seriously.Quality post not about theory directly, I like this. Couldn't agree more. | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 09:05 PM |
| 2 | Being seduced and getting obvious clues, how to move from here?Fundamentally, to answer your question, you do so by practicing and getting massive exposure to social situations, reflecting, and honing your social skills. A prerequisite of said answer would be ensuring your mental health is good (e.g. not depressed, anxious, etc.) and you're regularly proud of the life you live. Then, you can be naturally congruent and secure/confident about yourself. Analyzing your situations: This colleague was natural uninhibited and is also attracted to you, therefore sh… | /r/seduction | 04/08/16 09:01 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Gaming in a packed train, need advice.It was your first approach, cut yourself some slack, there's always room for improvement, though. Something these guys missed, she was receptive already because she asked you something seemingly innocuous. I've had girls ask me to take their picture, they aren't giggling and staring at me and giggling when they walk away for no reason... Something interesting that happened was she was receptive, but maybe she felt embarrassed about liking you in front of the train full of people. My advice for n… | /r/seduction | 01/08/16 02:42 PM |
| 4 | Explain what pick-up isI think Mark Manson describes it well (whether you agree with his style or not): Matching a woman's investment in you with yours in her. | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 05:14 PM |
| 2 | A woman told me I "give off gay vibes sometimes". What to do?Shouldn't be a blow if you don't think you're gay. It's a single perception of some random woman who was clearly not receptive, move on. When I was newer, I remember a girl told me this, I eventually found out that she wanted me to make a move that polarized the interaction (touching, flirting, innuendo, tension building, etc.) but never did. | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 05:10 PM |
| 1 | Picking up girls on Instagram? Is that a thing?Waste of time to meeting women in real life. I imagine it's like Tinder, follow myriad of okay-looking girls, DM them with a genuine interest statement with your own IG full of good pictures representing you and your life, get a response here and there, and go on dates to then close. | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 05:07 PM |
| 1 | 4 years, 0 dates, 2 time stood up. online datingYou're missing something. Stop playing the online dating game. Play the meet women in real life game. | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 05:05 PM |
| 1 | I feel like height does matter despite people saying it doesn't.Height in a man signals good, strong genes just like big muscles, it's biological attraction. You're right, height gives an advantage, anyone who says it doesn't is in denial. But you can't let your genes stop you from meeting women, you need to be confident about who you are rather than who you want to be. | /r/seduction | 31/07/16 05:00 PM |
| 1 | How common is it to find a woman who is genuinely incredible in bed?Here, I'll shoot down your scarcity. Besides the sex, does she meet all your standards for an incredible woman? (Hint: probably not) If she doesn't, there are women who are probably closer to said standards, and there are also plenty of other women who are incredible in bed, you just must find them. | /r/seduction | 30/07/16 06:53 PM |
| 1 | gaining confidence again: taking it one step at a timeYou dropped someone who didn't want you, don't be sad, let the time pass, and get the ball rolling meeting new women when you feel ready. You're hurt, quit being in denial. Things will get better, though - if you focus on climbing out of the hole. Here's a personal anecdote that you might be able to relate to. My ex broke up with me a few months ago, May (2 year relationship, we talked a lot about marriage/future). After the initial emotional turbulence, day by day I started investing more and m… | /r/seduction | 30/07/16 06:47 PM |
| 4 | I feel like I have more negatives than positives in terms of valueDon't worry about women, yet. Sort your shit out, get a job, apply for college (if that's what you want), start exercising, start dressing better, doing the personal hygiene thing. Come back once you've done that. P.S. Don't do this for women's validation, do it because you respect yourself and want to give yourself a better life. | /r/seduction | 30/07/16 06:34 PM |
| 2 | How to get a girl to your bed when watching a movieDidn't set up everything correctly: Clean your room Tell her to take a seat on the bed first Sit down next to her Escalate from there | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 05:55 PM |
| 1 | What is the most important thing you've learned about game?There's no viable shortcut that will get you long term results for being a genuine, attractive guy who has a lot going on. | /r/seduction | 29/07/16 05:48 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/317/18 (1: Blonde near A&S) - Walking, you spot her prior to parking, get out of car, some anxiety, let it get to you and do nothing. Feedback: Remember, it's better to find out if you two could have made a difference for the better in each other's lives than sulk away and keep over-complicating things. You're attracted to her, therefore, you approach - you're enough, man, say "Hi" and tell you wanted to meet her, maybe compliment her. 7/19 Feedback: Good on you for taking action, seriously, it's … | /r/seduction | 21/07/16 07:53 PM |
| 3 | Building rapport with girls?A guy recently put up a decent post on conversation, pretty useful for guys not that experienced in conversation. https://redd.it/4seyc9 | /r/seduction | 20/07/16 07:21 PM |
| 1 | [FR] College Girls, Feedback WelcomeI actually followed that girl for about 5 minutes before talking to her, so I did stalk her in a way. I'll also remember to be friends with girls before I say anything too "risky" because I don't think I'm worth enough for a girl to be attracted to me - Sounds like a plan. Thanks for the feedback! | /r/seduction | 20/07/16 07:17 PM |
| 1 | [FR] College Girls, Feedback WelcomeThe thought that she rejected me was an after thought, I was enjoying the interaction and saw it as a natural way to end it - "Hey you seem cool, let's talk more - free later this week?" > "Excuses, blah blah blah" > "Oh well we'll figure it out, the number is?" -gives her phone- . I'm not going to text that number because I know it's worthless, though. Thanks for the feedback! | /r/seduction | 20/07/16 06:49 PM |
| 1 | What are your interests and hobbies? Looking for inspiration.Reading, studying, business (management/finance - no I don't want to be a banker/accountant, yuck), fitness, fashion, cold approach, meditation. I love learning, I love improvement of any entity - whether it be self or external, meditation helps my mind in too many ways to count, and I love the excitement, risks, and potential of meeting new women. I wouldn't say they're mutually exclusive, rather interdependent upon each other. | /r/seduction | 16/07/16 06:18 PM |
| 1 | Fastest way to get a girls number and have her like you?Beautiful women's text messages are like Twitter feeds of primarily horny, needy guys. Honestly state your intentions in a non-needy way from an abundant life that you're proud of and after getting a quick read of her where she does seem like someone you want to get to know better and who'd make a decent addition to your life, you ask her what her schedule's like for a coffee so you two can spend more time together/talk more and use that intention to naturally get her number, sometimes even talk… | /r/seduction | 16/07/16 06:07 PM |
| 1 | How do you remember your night out better?Be more present and conscious of what's happening, and practice being more detailed when you recall interactions. It's like a muscle, it'll grow with repeated use. | /r/seduction | 16/07/16 06:02 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/317/15 (1: Christine) - Comes up, warm greeting, rapport build about reading, relate, she hooks quickly, good reactions, ultimately no results. Feedback: Do you want results, man? CLOSE. "Hey, I got out of a relationship a month ago and haven't been up to it, but now I think I'm ready to say you seem like a cool girl who's worth getting to know who happens to look pretty cute, what's your schedule like?" Be congruent with what you're feeling and state your intentions, remember the curtain is openi… | /r/seduction | 16/07/16 01:23 AM |
| 1 | FIRST COLD APPROACH!!Not even about the rejection, man, you finally didn't reject yourself and gave yourself the opportunity to express your intentions. Good job! Your next challenge is to tell a girl she's cute/adorable/etc. and get to know her a little bit. P.S. Women will say they "have a boyfriend" to politely let you down, when there's a big value indifference mainly. That's besides the point - she wasn't receptive for saying that. | /r/seduction | 16/07/16 12:46 AM |
| 3 | Need some encouragementYou're depressed and in scarcity, you need to start cultivating a more abundant life whose backbone isn't based on validation by women. Why do you want someone who doesn't want you? That seems so illogical, doesn't it? Find someone you want and find interesting that feels the same way, while simultaneously investing in yourself and building boundaries. Stop thinking you'll get another chance, paradoxically she might come around again if you just believe GRANDMA'S DEAD she's not coming back, so s… | /r/seduction | 16/07/16 12:41 AM |
| 5 | Never done daygame before, Want to jump straight into it....Tips?Day time venues: Grocery store Mall & Marketplaces Book store Streets Outdoor malls CTA/NY Transit, etc. Day game is about conveying your personality and building connections with slight undertones of sexual attraction. Being extremely sexual in the day time is hard because most of the time it's totally out of context of the social landscape. Two things that have always helped me are being great with conversation and building said connects and being direct about what you think about girls as qui… | /r/seduction | 15/07/16 02:53 PM |
| 4 | Do shy/geeky/awkward girls like to hook-up?One of my friends awhile back who's near 100 girls said something when I was a beginner that changed me. "They're all freaks." | /r/seduction | 15/07/16 02:47 PM |
| 2 | Opening? check. Conversations? Check. Everything else? Wtf is wrong with meYou have fear and anxieties surrounding getting intimate with women and expressing your sexuality. You're clearly attracted to these women if you want to ask them on dates, you just need to keep introducing sexual dynamics into your interactions with women until you're comfortable. Flirt with them, touch them, tease them - women love sex, if you meet one who says otherwise, she's clearly never had good sex or she's afraid of expressing her sexuality with you, which will be cured by expressing yo… | /r/seduction | 15/07/16 02:47 PM |
| 1 | What about introverted, shy, anxious girls?My ex had terrible anxiety, before the first date she was freaking out on her phone to her friend about me, but... she still came. Point being if she's interested she'll meet you... | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Handling "you look old"If you're confident in your looks don't be mad girls thinking you're older, something natural from me to say back would be. "Oh, thanks..." then turn the conversation back to her. | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 03:48 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/317/11 7/12 7/13 (1: Girl in red dress, brunette) - See her walking, she's on her way to a building, ultimately do nothing. Feedback: Need to drop the self consciousness and anxiety and just walk to her anyway, you're going to have nerves. Just say "Hi" and tell her how she's pretty and you wanted to meet her, then get to know her and see how things play out afterwards. (2: Girl in polka dot dress, brunette) - She walks past, and she's looking down (AI), ultimately do nothing. Feedback: Again, say… | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 03:45 PM |
| 1 | The toughest break, how do I lower my standards now.Give it some time, seriously, I was the same way, you just need to let time pass, and process these really tough emotions, I understand how you feel. Take it from us, you have most of us telling you she's on a pedestal, it's probably the truth, you even mentioned one thing wrong with her already! Find 10 or 15 things you won't miss about her. Believe me when I say, please, go to the gym, focus on work, spend time with friends, don't contact her, focus on yourself - not women, at least temporaril… | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 01:20 AM |
| 2 | PUA who specialize in the mysterious type.Imagine an approach that feels natural to you during the day time, what would that look like? For me, I find most natural walking up besides a girl, saying "Psst!" or "Hey" and giving her a genuine compliment works best. Some natural banter that's not forced, then I get to rapport building very quickly, after I know a few things about her and she doesn't seem terrible I ask her to move somewhere and sit with me, this is literally like a date to me, and it just flows, after 10 minutes or so we se… | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 01:09 AM |
| 3 | [FR] Tuesday EveningAccountability, it gets me to go out rather than back out of it. Action is better than inaction, no matter the quality. | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 01:04 AM |
| 8 | Would you date a giant femaleI've met some women who are 6' 5", and Jesus Christ I can't imagine their legs in bed. I'm 6'3" and I feel so weird being shorter than a girl. Honestly, I'd have to see if we're compatible, if she was beautiful, emotionally healthy and confident (not codependent/manipulative/narcissistic, etc.), intelligent, driven, and had a good sense of humor along with a zest for life that's hard to find anymore, then, probably, yeah. | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 01:02 AM |
| 2 | How many dates does it take you to get a lay?If you're asking me how many dates I go on before I go for sex, my answer is the first date, every, single, time. Do I always have sex on the first date? No. Have I more than I have had sex on the second or third? YES. | /r/seduction | 13/07/16 01:00 AM |
| 2 | Polarization & RejectionThanks again! I see receptive in two categories, they're either initiating, or they're reciprocating your investment. The former being comparably rarer than the latter, I don't really rely on that. As for the interaction, that's just my style, it works for me and it's natural for me. Do what works for you. :) Sample: See a cute girl in the grocery store, long, natural blonde hair, skinny, count to ten, I bitch out, see her again, I bitch out. I set a time limit of 20 minutes to talk to someone w… | /r/seduction | 12/07/16 01:19 AM |
| 1 | Polarization & RejectionThanks for the feedback! Care to explain the point on categories/interactions being "kind of right"? | /r/seduction | 11/07/16 04:50 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Brilliance! I just saw an amazing pick up move/set upAll this really was was a guy who wasn't afraid to lose a girl because he knew he had what it takes to find another one. Logically easy to understand, but to emotionally internalize that is another story. Experience is the best way to internalize it. | /r/seduction | 11/07/16 03:23 PM |
| 2 | Guys, what can I do better? I'll tell you what I learned from going out there, but pro advice would help me out a ton.First off, good on you for taking action, believe it or not, most guys on this board don't. Second, polarize the interaction as soon as possible and communicate your intent with honesty. Tell her you think she's attractive in some way that makes her feel special/desired and ask her out in so many words. Some examples since you might not have the mindset covered: "Hey, so I'm just kidding, I just wanted to talk to you because you caught my with your stunning look, I'm Alex." "Hey, so I saw you wa… | /r/seduction | 11/07/16 03:17 PM |
| 4 | Let's get a reading list goingTwo things matter in seduction: Having a strategy authentic to who you are for dating women TAKING FUCKING ACTION Lots of guys will theorize over the former but not execute it with the latter. Easy question to gauge this is: How many girls have you met within the last two weeks? If you like reading and you read for yourself and it's a hobby of yours, that you do alongside actually taking action, rather than reading all day and not going outside, I think indispensable books are: 48 Laws of Power … | /r/seduction | 11/07/16 03:08 PM |
| 1 | A girl not only took my number but she rang it to make sure it was correct.She's receptive, something similar is when I give a girl my phone and she puts in her last name (they want to be noticed), if you haven't set logistics up prior to the number, use the number to do so, and meet her as soon as possible. Get her out on the date, and as you help her connect with you and let her hair down, escalate to intimacy. | /r/seduction | 11/07/16 03:01 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Falling out of stateWhat happened in your direct approach where things wiped out, think about what you did and didn't do. | /r/seduction | 10/07/16 06:22 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Learning how to turn bad to worse - or - bad to betterFriend rejected her. Seemingly out of nowhere she aggressively started making moves on me. rebound I respond by saying "It's not going to hurt - I just don't have any interest in becoming friends with someone who uses others for their own emotional solace." Good acknowledgment of your mistake, that was frankly bitter/extremely unattractive. Keep things with women light and airy, let them connecting with you and letting their hair down around you - fights happen in serious relationships, not wort… | /r/seduction | 10/07/16 06:20 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First weekend out after reading this, some things I tried!2) we were talking for a good bit she seemed really into it Need to escalate the interaction, can't talk forever, during the night you need to move the girl, get to know her, and bounce her the first chance you see. Good job testing the buying temp. at her table before giving up, though, could've resulted in her coming back and you having another chance to get her out. 3) Decent way to loosen up but shaking someone's hand when meeting isn't make it or break it. Something I need to start using ar… | /r/seduction | 10/07/16 06:07 PM |
| 3 | How To Text A Girl The Right Way + Examples - Text Game LessonYou get the girl's number to see her again, no other reason - it's the vehicle to move the relationship on to another face to face interaction where logistics are better. Get a good idea of her schedule in person and maybe even set a time where you two can see each other again, so texting is warm rather than cold. Best time to meet someone is around 6-7P, usually because if people agree to these plans they're free the rest of the night. When you're texting don't expect a certain reply, once girl… | /r/seduction | 10/07/16 05:49 PM |
| 1 | Asked out a 10"Go for the 10, it's better for the soul." -Todd Valentine If I had feedback I would've asked her out faster and been more polarizing/man to woman, good job nonetheless, welcome to the 5% of guys who actually state their intentions with drop dead gorgeous and amazing women. | /r/seduction | 10/07/16 05:11 PM |
| 2 | Getting the interest of women who are stand offish/non-receptiveSince you seem decently experienced I'll assume you understand what I'm saying when you need to stop looking at women's reactions and just move them through your process and go for results. If she's non-receptive she will reject you somehow in that process, where which you drop her and move on to another one... | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 07:22 PM |
| 4 | How to deal with being Self-conscious?Instead of being conscious of self, be conscious of the present moment. Most thoughts are just arbitrary, abstract perceptions of reality that aren't often correct, only taking action and watching reality react to your action can you be sure about these things. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 07:18 PM |
| 3 | Approaching girls in public?Everyone is invisible to everyone, until you make yourself visible to someone. Well said. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 07:17 PM |
| 2 | Approaching girls in public?I struggle with this, what helps me is remembering whatever happens, I'll be okay in the end. I'll probably never see those people again, and I'm inconveniencing girls who could like me while trying to please others who honestly don't really care about what I'm doing. Just realize not everyone likes you and be at peace with that, it's exhausting worrying about how other people perceive you, if you like someone who's a pretty stranger, see if she likes you back by escalating the interaction, if n… | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 07:11 PM |
| 2 | Should I ask my close friend if he'd be ok with me dating his ex?Fully concur, this woman isn't worth your friendship, there are plenty of other girls with a lot better long term potential, even if you only want a fling. I believe you'll find another girl, probably better than her, just keep meeting women and improving yourself! | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 07:02 PM |
| 1 | All the numbers and names I have gotten are flakey how do you prevent flakes?Detail some of the interactions where the girl was flaky, find trends for what you're doing wrong. Post the field report here and some more experienced guys will give you feedback. Flakes never go away, they just get less frustrating as you have more... distractions. | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 01:29 AM |
| 2 | [FR] Found a Random FR of mine from Halloween Last year when I first started. Nothing eventful happened but it seems like a good template for future FR's what do you guys think.I like the layout, best/worst then general feedback and things to work on. I like to list out the interaction in more detail and give feedback for each interaction. I also think it's helpful to have short term goals each time you go out so you have a focus in order to keep improving. More guys need to do this, not enough do it anymore - I keep one on this board but no one looks at it (which I'm fine with because it's for my learning process) but it'd be nice to give some feedback on guy's outing… | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 01:27 AM |
| 1 | Improving gameDepends where you live, how old you are, what kind of women you prefer, etc. If you want an example, here's my niche. I like intelligent, vivacious, fun-loving and independent women who happen to be beautiful all at the same time, and I go to college, so I hit up my college campus, a few coffee shops where girls study, sometimes the grocery store, and the book store. For night game (which I personally dislike) lounges and main streets/down town are what I'll go for, I never liked bars/clubs. And… | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 01:13 AM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/317/8 (1: Brunette in workout clothes, slight butter face?) - Saw her and you thought about approaching her, and were about to get up, but... you didn't. Feedback: Don't let the nerves stop you man, you've done this before and it usually doesn't go badly, trust that you'll be okay with whatever. (2: Brunette studying in shoes) - Came in, you thought about approaching again, but apparently she went to study. Evidently she moved her things to where you were and you continued to study, she might've b… | /r/seduction | 09/07/16 01:05 AM |
| 1 | Guys of seddit warning...Considerate, but you're preaching to the choir, needed nonetheless because some guys here are desperate/needy and want to fuck anything that moves - "anything" typically includes crazy/manipulative women, which aren't the norm thankfully. This guy probably needed this lesson, crazy girls are crazy and you need to learn how to have boundaries with women and people in general. | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 05:11 PM |
| 2 | To those who day game, what are your thoughts on women that look dead ahead.She's in a hurry or something is on her mind besides meeting people. I assume she gets hit on a lot You'd think so, problem is, guys often don't have the courage to approach the extremely attractive girls. Most of the time it's the "cute" ones that get approached more. I've seen women flying around, but in my experience if you go up to them and they like you, it doesn't make a difference. Sometimes women don't have all day to wander around the grocery store or mall and need to be somewhere. And … | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 04:57 PM |
| 1 | I have been approaching a lot but not much is happening...yet. You're learning if you're analyzing your interactions and finding ways to tweak things and make improvements next time. You're honing a skill barely any men possess that can give you access to the most beautiful women if you stick with it long enough. Problem is most guys can't take the social rejection and ego abuse to get to those levels, this can and probably will at times emotionally tear you apart. If you give up now you'll become rusty and have to start over, if you settle for aver… | /r/seduction | 08/07/16 12:22 AM |
| 1 | What is the best way to open up and not overthink?Generally if you're vulnerable and act natural in interactions, girls will find that much more captivating than constantly trying to contrive a version of yourself that isn't who you really are. I wrote this awhile ago regarding if "who you are" isn't necessarily attractive (bad fundamentals, creepy, bad social skills, etc.). https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3fwa1c/allow_yourself_to_act_natural_the_new_be_yourself/ These days this quote resonates with me, yes - all the technicalities … | /r/seduction | 07/07/16 11:16 PM |
| 1 | What is the best way to open up and not overthink?Like that last bit! :) | /r/seduction | 07/07/16 11:12 PM |
| 4 | I've been rejected around 25 - 30 times without any success did any of you go through this when starting out how did you keep motivated?I hate to say it, but when you're a beginner the hardest part is to keep going despite all the rejection, you need those reference experiences so you can develop the skill and finesse you need to consistently get results or get results at all for that matter. Every rejection is a lesson, just reflect and try to see trends for what works and what doesn't. Post field reports, guys barely do that anymore, it's kind of bittersweet, they help you analyze the social interactions and give you an opport… | /r/seduction | 07/07/16 08:48 PM |
| 1 | Missed approach opportunities and regretI understand approaching while studying (esp. a masters) and not wanting to get shitty marks is hard, but for me what helps is just scheduling it in just like studying, better yet, study in coffee shops, more cute girls than you'd know study in those (most often single). Also, internalize that the feeling of rejection is a lot less painful than this regret. People on their death beds talk about the things they regret not doing, not the things they regret doing. | /r/seduction | 06/07/16 05:20 PM |
| 3 | Looking for a new cologne.I own: Jean Paul Gaultier Le Male (vanilla, mint, lavendar) Acqua di Parma Mandorlo di Sicilia (almonds, vanilla) Hugo Boss HUGO (green apple, mint, lavendar - ex loved this) Tom Ford Oud Wood (more mature and classy, imagine a guy in a blazer going out, very sexy though) Most of those are brighter, summer scents, Acqua di Parma is sweeter, all the rest but Oud Wood are fresher, Oud Wood is warm, spicy, and great for the night. Best place to buy them is sadly Saks Fifth, sometimes Amazon is good… | /r/seduction | 06/07/16 01:46 AM |
| 2 | Topics for text chat with a girl?Logistics for the meet that should be conducive to sex. Ideally kept minimal, some rapport building is needed, sometimes, esp. when you're newer, but your eye should be on the ball, not "getting to know her". A question that might help is - Why are you getting her number to talk to her rather than just confirming a date you already set up in person? If a girl likes you she will be glad to meet and won't dodge more than once, or twice (if she's really busy). Just be understanding, text her consid… | /r/seduction | 05/07/16 07:52 PM |
| 1 | I've officially hit the lowest point in my life. I'm depressed, lost, and have no idea what to doI broke up with my ex also, and she's seeing someone new. I've accepted that it was some of my fault, but it wasn't a relationship I was happy to be in, and I just miss the security she gave me, not her or her issues. Don't feel pressured to approach if you're an emotional wreck, you'll just be off. If you do approach, expect to be off, accept that. Approaching will boost your confidence and self-respect, and it will distract you, but if you're already a mess, it'll be hard to get results - thin… | /r/seduction | 03/07/16 02:35 PM |
| 1 | Necessary duration of a girl's eye contact to signal flirting behavior?Biggest indicator of attraction with eye contact is if she either smiles or looks down, or a combination of both. It's easier just to assume she's attracted though if you like her and say "Hi". | /r/seduction | 03/07/16 02:26 PM |
| 1 | [FR] My first 10 days of the Day Game Super Challenge!Your current challenge might just be your fear of vulnerability, just be genuine with the people. I promise you nearly no one does this shit and people have many more problems, you aren't the only one. If it helps I'd ask them what they're up to in their day after telling them they look friendly, then tell them about your little challenge and be genuine about it. You're always going to have people that are just miserable/shy and don't want to talk to you, but you'll get the receptive ones, also. | /r/seduction | 01/07/16 05:41 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/28 (1: Blonde w/ dog) - See the girl driving home, stop, catch up, direct "Hey, I know this is really impromptu - but I was driving home and saw your hair and it caught my eye, I'm Alex." Melts, boyfriend, impressed with you immensely, "A real gentleman... etc." Move on after she said she had a boyfriend. Feedback: Was really forward, didn't help you followed her for a block, but to look at it another way you were feeling like absolute shit and did it anyway. Rejection didn't hurt at all, you … | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 06:59 PM |
| 1 | How to be more than 'that friendly guy?'One thing to be genuine with people, but you need to be a man if you see a girl you like - tell her you think she's pretty in some way and make it a romantic interaction by asking her out, quickly. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 06:07 PM |
| 2 | A QUESTION FOR TALL GUYS!I'm here to tell you (humbly) that I'm a very attractive looking guy, 6'3", blonde/blue eyes, lean/muscular but I'm going to say this again - if I don't approach women they will rarely do anything first, I've had three girls actually ask me out on their own and it was never cold approach and it was all very coy, the most forward was still extremely shy, story time: "Hey, you probably get this a lot, but do you remember talking to me?"; Me: Honestly not but I try to be polite; H: "Well, would you… | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Im am reading a lot about game and improving myself but I don't have time to practice. Any tips?Schedule it in ahead of time and make a commitment when you're off base to actually practice. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 05:51 PM |
| 8 | I talked to my first 10 today @ age 26Congratulations, you're still alive. :) How'd the interaction go? | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 04:21 PM |
| 1 | WHERE? Where do I pickup if I'm looking for a LTR?Hallelujah. Your want is expressing your very lack of what you desire, exist as though you don't need it and it will find you. Continue talking to women, screening them with your standards, and when you find one where things seem "on" and you two have clicked, then continue to see her. Let her chase for the relationship, she will if you let her, have things going on other than women, for the hundredth time. Some safe advice: women during the day tend to be better relationship material than the n… | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 04:19 PM |
| 2 | How does everyone feel about the website "girlschase.com"If Chase wasn't so damn obscure, I feel like I could trust him more, but he seems very genuine and a really cool guy that's had a lot of experience with women and life. He's definitely one of my (virtual) mentors for most of life, especially women. He has a very crisp world view that's not cynical or naive, he says it as it is and gives you the ways to work within the way the world works. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 04:15 PM |
| 5 | My AA is extremely severe. Violently racing heartbeat, profound difficulty breathing, and gross-motor tics. Exposure doesn't seem to be helping.Start out small, don't even say "Hi" to pretty girls, ask older women the time or store associates where certain things are in the store. When you feel like you can ask easily, try to smile and make eye contact with them. And up from there, start a conversation with the barista where you get your coffee, "How's your day going?", try that a few times. No pretty girls, you need to get used to talking to people you don't know the names of, first. | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 04:13 PM |
| 1 | Im gunna try at trying today.Good luck man, nothing to lose! | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 04:10 PM |
| 1 | Once I officially decide I like a girl I kind of self destruct. Not sure how I do this.Stems from scarcity, you don't have many options/much going on. High caliber girls will do this more frequently when you're newer and you're not used to them being a frequent commodity. I'd catch feelings too quickly for girls that were stupid high quality just because I barely ever met them when I was new. Bring girls into your world that's exciting and captivating already, women shouldn't need to that for you. Have a purpose, have things going for you, show the world you can be superstar. That… | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 01:24 PM |
| 3 | I can approach and build what seems like decent attraction with girls I meet, but when I contact them later I usually get ignored. Why?You're never going to completely get rid of this, flaky numbers are a thorn in literally everyone's side. It's just going to take you hammering out a lot of interactions and working on making the girl comfortable and connected with you. One thing I learned the hard way was if a girl likes you she'll respond to your messages (esp. ones to meet up), trust me. There is no more to this other than she's not excited enough to meet up with you based on the experience you gave her. No, she's not busy, n… | /r/seduction | 30/06/16 01:10 PM |
| 1 | Need an advice how to get my seduction skills back?Tips?Well, my advice to you is after a longer relationship, you should only date around if you actually feel excited doing it. You need time to process those difficult emotions after, they won't go away if you distract yourself, trust me. Say "Hi", compliment her and banter, move on to building comfort and getting to know her (I'll usually move her somewhere, bench, table, etc.), build a nice dynamic between you two that's a wonderful experience. Set up a date or continue the experience and connect w… | /r/seduction | 29/06/16 06:07 PM |
| 40 | For those who have been in long term relationships: How did it feel at first and what does it become?You'll find this, it's called up/down, passion trap, whatever. In relationships, someone will always be the one "down" - investing more, being needier, etc. And yes, that's natural, infatuation is a physiological function to get us to procreate, nothing more - naturally you're supposed to leave after that. But most don't... you love someone so they add to your life in some way and you two make each other's lives better. After awhile, love dissipates and you honestly have to just decide to stay w… | /r/seduction | 29/06/16 06:03 PM |
| 8 | How to forget a girl? No motivation for anything...I feel the exact same way man - She definitely wasn't the mother of my child, but she thought I was "the one" she was going to marry (e.g. future fantasizing, kids, wedding, looking at houses, etc.) and began to convince me of that fairy tale, not sure if I was ever fully convinced, though. Broke up when there was a lot of external pressure and we were both going through adversity and we couldn't support each other when we each needed it, was more cordial. I talked to her yesterday after a month… | /r/seduction | 28/06/16 01:30 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/25 (1: Blonde in polo cap) - Reading a book, she's on the phone near you, after she goes she inches closer to you (AI) and hovers for a short bit. When you leave she follows you out... practically begging to talk to you man... Feedback: Just turn around, quit thinking, and say "Hi", trust that you have the game plan intuitively figured out, just roll with the punches. (2: Glasses with turquoise top, skinnier) - Walked into the middle of the aisle, she is there also, you pause as she does. Ulti… | /r/seduction | 27/06/16 12:13 AM |
| 1 | Theory is okay but there aren't any results. Need help (/ motivation / a plan to follow)!When you're a beginner the biggest challenge is having the grit to keep going... Most often, it'll take you 200-300 approaches to be fairly confident in your abilities to generate results. I used to go months at a time without dates... Just take the empirical feedback you're getting from approaches and see what works and what doesn't - most importantly learning - definitely form yourself into a unique force instead of copying someone (esp. as dated as Mystery). | /r/seduction | 26/06/16 11:57 PM |
| 1 | Just a Friendly ReminderHaven't responded to any comments, if you had a genuine comment/concern just PM me. | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 04:50 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many women like to say that women don't like being approached?Right - they're probably coming from a less needy, value giving frame. Would you consider getting to know those guys or letting them getting to know you? | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 04:49 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/31The problem I see with not getting dates set before the number is the girls are usually skeptical about why you want it. With those expectations she knows why she's giving you her number - not to "get to know you", but to communicate about the logistics for the date you two planned while you two were having a good time. I definitely think there's something to be said about the "pushy" part, with the frame, "We probably can't set up a date unless we do it now, I'm really interested and don't want… | /r/seduction | 22/06/16 04:41 PM |
| 1 | Why do so many women like to say that women don't like being approached?Grade A creep-o... Any positive stories from the 5%? | /r/seduction | 21/06/16 02:38 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/20 (1: Christine) - Normal pleasantries, then small talk about weekend, banter about bar tending in Mexico, good reactions. Feedback: Need to get to rapport building fast and state intentions in a smooth way before she totally loses interest like Alyssa girl from last summer. (2: Brunette, petite, dance clothes) - Spot her, get off, then go out the door, walk past... Go back but, poof! Feedback: You don't have anything to lose by telling her you like her look and introducing yourself: "Hey, I'… | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 08:14 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/19 (1: Red head, med. school) - Small talk with adventures, no she was working; tease her a bit and qualifies with going to Columbus, starts telling you about herself, why she's going to med. school etc. You listen, but don't particularly relate, escalate, or sexualize. Feedback: Need to introduce yourself before rapport building, builds more comfort - practice digging deeper into vignette of who she is and weave a more vibrant picture. (2: Pink steering wheel, dirty blonde) - Open with playfu… | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 08:10 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/8 (1: Platinum blonde w/ sunglasses) - Comes up, warmer open, see her card, tease about how old it is, then banter more about if it's her favorite animal. Genuine compliment - "You have a good sense of humor" but end the interaction then and there. Feedback: Perfect opportunity to introduce yourself and rapport build, she's a person, not a mannequin. She probably liked that you complimented something other than her looks. | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 07:04 PM |
| 1 | She said noYou're not dead, are you? You walked up to a pretty, strange girl and said "Hi". Go do it a few more times and hone the skill, then you'll find one that likes you and she'll be happy to go on a date with you. | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 07:01 PM |
| 1 | What to do if she is always surrounded and actively talking with friends?I'm going to link you to this comment: https://redd.it/4lexxd | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 06:59 PM |
| 7 | Why do so many women like to say that women don't like being approached?The problem is they don't think of a really attractive, suave, charming man walking up to them and smoothly carrying the interaction out - most women would love that. I'm sure you can get as many guys saying how smooth some of their approaches were with women who were really perceived creepy as all hell. Most women are approached by extremely creepy guys who're socially retarded. I've heard stories from women about the terrible approaches and seen terrible approaches that were needy and incongru… | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 06:41 PM |
| 3 | How to approach strong character(ed) and attractive woman?Confident women aren't going to fawn over a man who's less confident than them - I swear if you over think or don't lead effectively she senses it. Weak behavior from you is the biggest turn off for those dime pieces that've been confident their entire lives. You'll get a lot of challenges, but if you're a guy who knows what's going for him and has a lot going on, you can almost fly by her little tests. If I approached a girl (cold approach) who I quickly found was very confident, I'd likely tea… | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 05:54 PM |
| 1 | Stop looking away from hot girlsTruth is, girls are more shy about getting "caught" than guys are - they'd rather check you out without you looking. I've seen dozens of girls in busy cities (e.g. Chicago, Columbus) looking at me on the street, but when I move my eyes to her, she'll usually look down (sometimes aside). These days I never make eye contact unless I intend on talking to a girl, when I was a bigger novice I'd always "steal" glances at girls, but I'll let my peripherals do the "glancing" and when I want to talk to a… | /r/seduction | 20/06/16 05:36 PM |
| 3 | So you are on one of your first dates and a douche is tryin to steal your companion, what is correcr response?If she's on a date with you, chances are she's flirting with the idea of sleeping with you. She's already came out and given you the opportunity, with that in mind, I could care less and have had guys not necessarily "steal" her but tried to talk to her on dates with day twos, girlfriends, etc. and they usually go back to talking with me. Funny story about one of my girlfriends - guy she was FWB with for like one or two weeks was sitting near us (same guy would try to booty call/message her half… | /r/seduction | 19/06/16 04:20 PM |
| 2 | Anyway to calm my nervousness when I'm around women I would like to attract?Progressively desensitize yourself - I remember a time where I'd tense up and shake around attractive women. After working somewhere part time where pretty women very regularly talk to me and going to college for almost 4 years, I'll get nerves when I'm approaching pretty women, but that's expected. Otherwise, I'm completely normal and go about what I'm doing or talking to them. I'd say if you work in a metal factory, don't go to school, and see one or two pretty women every week, start out smal… | /r/seduction | 11/06/16 07:03 PM |
| 1 | I'm worried to start a new relationship after being cheated on.Definitely understand how traumatizing it is to be cheated on, you question a lot of things about yourself and lose a lot of confidence. It's hard to rebound and get up, but as long as you want to get up, you can. Just know you did the right thing and cut things off with her - you won't regret that 10 years from now. I've learned women cheat for two or three collectively exhaustive reasons: She's bored - you are/have grown weak, she's looking for a stronger man She's insecure - you aren't giving… | /r/seduction | 11/06/16 05:08 PM |
| 16 | How to tell if a woman is not interested early into a date, and do you bail quickly if so?I could tell she wasn't that physically attracted to me You need to realize women's weight of looks when factoring that into how "attractive" you are to them is comparably less than guys. Women want attractive qualities more than looks. A good way to convey these a bit more naturally is assuming attraction - really believe it's on. I hate online dating primarily because of the way dates are set up. You can't "test drive" a girl in an interaction to see if you two would click, and women probably … | /r/seduction | 07/06/16 02:29 AM |
| 8 | Any tips for a hiking first date?This is just my opinion, so if you get consistent results from these kind of dates (sex), definitely discount me, I have something to learn. But in general, something inconvenient and harder to control like this isn't extremely conducive to the two of you getting together as lovers if things go well. Plus girls will be self conscious if they're sweaty and smelly and your intentions are to have sex so that just means even more resistance. My tips to salvage this would be: Try to end the hike befo… | /r/seduction | 07/06/16 02:21 AM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/6 (1: Caitlyn) - Comes up, genuine warmth, she gets sassy and I disqualify the interaction and she laughs, no more. Feedback: Why not starting to rapport build when you were on the front helping her, couldn't hurt, and you might move the interaction forward. (2: Brenna) - Looked familiar, didn't articulate it, she seemed to laugh when she was talking, and I was playful the entire time. Randomly ask her if she's ever been to where you used to work, and she says yes, and you two start to see fam… | /r/seduction | 07/06/16 02:09 AM |
| 1 | i feel so weird when i go out to daygameWhat do you think girls will think when you let them know you like the way they dress or how their hair looks? Be honest. | /r/seduction | 07/06/16 12:04 AM |
| 1 | How Being 'Direct' Is Usually Coming From DesperatenessI think you need to take this advice seriously, only if you look at "game" as just having sex with pretty girls. I also don't think this discussion is trying to demonize being direct with women, it's just a reminder that your interactions shouldn't have a robotic approach; e.g. Tell girl she's cute "Get to know" girl with shallow questions Ask for meet, sometime she gives you her number because she feels pressured, other times she's being nice, sometimes she just thinks you're good looking Girl … | /r/seduction | 06/06/16 11:54 PM |
| 1 | [FR] While doing a freeze-out, a friend of her comes and give her the attention she so badly neededThis interaction has a lot of "game" - technical things that attract women - but there's really no connection built. You had the girl attracted enough to approach you at the outset of your outing, and the girl attracted enough to isolate you two from the bar, but the lack of comfort/attention left her wanting and she just gave up and auto rejected to the other "friend". Anyways, you can clearly see she wanted some push from you (e.g. interest) and she wasn't getting it. I'd recommend preventing … | /r/seduction | 06/06/16 03:49 PM |
| 2 | First Day Game [FR] Need adviceI also want to say congratulations on taking action - lately [FR]'s here have been few and far between. Basically I am like everyone on the subreddit and find it near impossible to talk to girls like that and you know what. It was fine, I feel so much better and feel I can do that again and again. Next month I will up to once a fortnight and go from there. I'm really glad you're thinking like that, let the momentum build :) /u/thrway178920 articulated a lot of tenets well, but I just want to say… | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 07:26 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/5 (1: Bartender with interesting eyes) - Comes up, reacts well to normal interaction, you ask with curiosity with a slight tinge of neediness if she was the girl the other night, she says "No..." and it gets awkward, after she might have mentioned "boyfriend", no rapport and slightly wanting in results. Feedback: Bad improvisation of your action's ineffectiveness, needed to just communicate "Ehh... whatever, so what's your name anyway? You seem interesting and I like your eyes, I'm Alex." She … | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 06:09 PM |
| 2 | How to convince a guy who is not into relationships because of past experience to come into a relationship?That's true, but you can only have sex with one girl - and for some guys they don't want that at the present moment, they want guys chase for [casual] sex. My only advice with your extremely vague situation is to communicate with each other and see what each of your goals is - if he likes you a lot too, what's wrong with dating a bit and seeing where things lead? A good litmus test is like I said in my previous comment, if he still wants to see you after he knows you'd like a relationship - he j… | /r/seduction | 05/06/16 05:39 PM |
| 2 | Is running after a girl, say hi and ask for her number awkward?To answer your question - yes. Why? Well, running after a girl is fine, as long as you keep it natural and open her from the side after you've caught up. But asking for the number right after saying "Hi" will usually always be a bad number even if she gives it to you. Not because you aren't attractive to women or anything, just because she's not exactly comfortable with you, yet. I've done this before, but the girl was actually married (off limits, I don't want to get involved with that shit). W… | /r/seduction | 04/06/16 10:06 PM |
| 5 | How to convince a guy who is not into relationships because of past experience to come into a relationship?From my perspective - I have specific things I look for in a girlfriend, and if a girl doesn't have those things I will probably keep looking - especially if I wasn't really looking, per se, for a relationship. If you already had sex with him and he still wants to see you, but without the relationship - he probably wants just that, sex. If he isn't meeting your goals, cut him off and meet other men who will - it just works better when both people are interested in the same goals. P.S. /u/cherryo… | /r/seduction | 04/06/16 09:59 PM |
| 5 | How to convince a guy who is not into relationships because of past experience to come into a relationship?Because - generally - girls chase for relationships, guys chase for sex. | /r/seduction | 04/06/16 09:47 PM |
| 1 | Anybody else feel overwhelmed by the amount of things you're supposed to change or start working on?Really you need to have goals set each week to work on something and make it automatic. Much of this is gained over years of practice, not in a month. Here's a plan for fundamentals to work on: Eye contact and smile Posture and walk Movement and body language etc. | /r/seduction | 03/06/16 10:09 PM |
| 2 | Rejections causing me to sabotage future opportunities..You're honestly just drawing out your value of life from the women you sleep with. Become a more three dimensional person - have a fulfilling career where you work hard and are happy, find a hobby or two that let you relax and connect with. I was told I had bad centrism a year ago - I approached lots of women and dated them, but when I wasn't getting dates or sex I felt like shit and was losing my mind. So I focused on a career, I had hobbies before, but I just had a part time job before, nothin… | /r/seduction | 03/06/16 09:59 PM |
| 1 | I don't like the girls I hook up with, and I don't know what to do.To me it sounds like you know how to sleep with women, but you're at a point where you want to find a girlfriend that's worth falling in love with - you aren't very fulfilled in what you're doing. First, you need to come up with what you want out of women, and once you have some standards thought out, for instance, mine are: Beauty, this is a prerequisite of the rest Intelligent/Savvy (e.g. she needs to have a career in mind or one she's already in, bachelor's or master's degrees are nice, she n… | /r/seduction | 03/06/16 09:50 PM |
| 1 | TERRIBLE STRING OF GIRLS: Need some Seddit AdviceIs it smart to just act like you don't really care and are just looking for the fun hookup? In some cases, it just depends on what type of girl it is - you can very simply screen for girls who want something casually by testing with a question or two or getting reads from talking to her. Is she dead set on finding a boyfriend or husband? If she isn't, in most cases if you know how to position yourself you can provide exclusively lover value. Do what you think will communicate your intentions gen… | /r/seduction | 03/06/16 01:15 AM |
| 2 | Most important and most neglaected part of a hookupBuild comfort with an emotional connection, if you like your cousin's friend, just set a meet up with her - okay, your cousin thinks it's weird, oh well, you two like each other. Given I don't have an idea what your social skills are (probably not stellar if you're asking this question) if you're alone for awhile, here's what I'd do: Build a quick connection, find some commonalities and make her comfortable with you as a person Incorporate touch with her, hint at sex, tease her about things to g… | /r/seduction | 02/06/16 06:11 PM |
| 2 | TERRIBLE STRING OF GIRLS: Need some Seddit AdviceI'd need a lot more details than just three girls backing off after the first or second date, but what I mainly see is your "let's be an adult" mindset. The thing is, the most effective way to start dating a girl is not to front load the relationship with lavish dinner or movie dates - it really is just simple coffee dates and her coming over to chill out and have sex at first - esp. if you only want casual relationships. For friends with benefits, you need to find the right girl, set the right … | /r/seduction | 02/06/16 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Interaction Journal 5/316/1 (1: Girl in striped shirt, shorter) - Studying, you sit at table working and eating, then go back, she leaves, ultimately do nothing. Feedback: Perfect opportunity before you started working to direct open: "Psst! That shirt on you looks great on your figure, the stripes do a nice job - I'm Alex." Rapport build, what're you studying, occupation escalate to meet set. (2: Chinese woman in grey dress, model body) - Comes in, attempts to look at you when you're socializing - walks around while s… | /r/seduction | 02/06/16 05:07 PM |
| 2 | How to Just Not Care?What I've found the most effective is definitely having a purpose or mission in life that you can swear is more important than women. These days I rarely think about women as much as I do my mission, it tends to comparably eliminate neediness or anxiety and allow me to just act naturally - but if you're not too advanced yet, still focus on your skill set before you just wing interactions all the time. It's healthy to deliberately practice more so than it is to just wing it all the time, don't be… | /r/seduction | 31/05/16 04:10 PM |
| 8 | How do you approach a girl or a girl within a group of friends that you see you're interested in the public? Let it be walking past you on the street or in a park etc. How can you do it in a way that it is not creepy and smooth?What you're mainly concerned about here is the girl not being ashamed to be flirting with some guy giving out her number, in front of her friends. What I've done that worked to some success (I didn't get a number), was this: I saw a girl and two friends walk by me in a food market, giggling because they're being silly. They move somewhere else, and what I do is do the approach there, motion the two friends over that aren't my target; e.g. Pssst! You two, two seconds over here? Pointing with both… | /r/seduction | 28/05/16 12:14 PM |
| 2 | I just want to thank you guys!Great job! Have any dates set up? | /r/seduction | 28/08/15 11:25 AM |
| 1 | Is seduction toxic?Being melodramatic? | /r/seduction | 28/08/15 02:23 AM |
| 1 | Tips on Inviting Women HomeYeah, definitely - you cement in her subconscious your room and get her comfortable with the idea of going back to "your room", later. Another idea I like is if logistics are right, you can tell her you need to run to the grocery store and grab some perishables that you need to put away if the date's going well. Gets her moving with you and experiencing more with you and plausible deniability. | /r/seduction | 28/08/15 01:28 AM |
| 1 | Tips on Inviting Women HomeThat's basically what I did, but I mentioned something earlier in the conversation before I felt she was emotionally/physically ready to give her plausible deniability. Maybe it's OCD, but I hate asking women if they want to do things, I'd rather lead - esp. at first when you need to come across insanely dominant and attractive to them; e.g. "How about..." "Why don't we..." instead of "Do you want to...". | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 11:04 PM |
| 5 | [FR] College campuses are daygame heaven + tipsUh oh. The guys who aren't in college found us and they're hitting our stash of beautiful 18-25y/o women! Go. Away! Capitalize on the vast population of beautiful women if you're in college. You will regret it. It's a lot easier if you go to the same school as them, you'll have more social proof and she'll be more comfortable. | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 02:28 PM |
| 2 | "I can't handle you"Couldn't have said it better. The red glasses are very insidious - and until you look away from the person who you wear them for - you'll continue to over-invest in a situation that doesn't objectively look good. Trust people outside of your situation, who aren't emotionally invested. I learned that the hard way - save yourself, not her. | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 02:10 PM |
| 2 | How I get over feeling judgedHere's a tip that seems to have been forgotten by lots of guys here. Imagine the woman you're talking with and you are in a bubble. The better you are at seduction, the smaller and tighter that bubble is - and eventually you get to the point of not realizing how busy a room is because you have such focus while talking to her. This could be a self limiting belief you have, psychological - say, you have such low self worth you judge your own self worth based on others' opinions of your self worth.… | /r/seduction | 27/08/15 02:07 PM |
| 2 | As a girl who's been on countless dates - great things guys have done to pick me up, and a few notes on when I've picked up girls.I tend to disregard girls' advice because the nature of it is based on emotions they're feeling at that moment. You, a sexually experienced girl - who I'd be relieved to meet - laid the process out very concisely and conceptually. I appreciate your honesty, all of this resonates with my beliefs. Good set of notes. | /r/seduction | 20/08/15 11:26 PM |
| 5 | What is the best way to learn conversation with girls?If I could summarize building an emotional connection, I'd tell you this sentence. Every girl wears a mask, she has lots of secrets; be the man she lets her hair down and takes off her mask for. Be non-judgmental, learn about her dreams, passions, and childhood - share secrets - I've had girls tell me things no one knows besides very good friends and family on the first date. Inspire her to love life, give her amazing emotions; find out who she really is. Use active listening and manage the flow… | /r/seduction | 08/08/15 03:29 AM |
| 2 | What is the best way to learn conversation with girls?If you think your conversations are "good" tell me three threads of conversation that're all emotionally charged and necessary to build a beautiful connection, and give me examples of past conversations. If you can't do that for me, then your conversation skills aren't good as you think, having a conversation isn't necessarily just talking to/at people and treading water on the surface. | /r/seduction | 08/08/15 02:01 AM |
| 1 | How to get the kiss on a first date - A helpful philosophy(?) [FR]If a girl likes you and wants you to kiss her, when you kiss her, she will kiss back. Even though you're running your process and putting on your best self for her, some girls just aren't interested in the end. I'm more keen on finding girls who like me and giving them all the lusty romance we both want and making us each happy than being "liked" by every girl. | /r/seduction | 06/08/15 06:29 PM |
| 4 | Allow Yourself to Act Natural - The New 'Be Yourself'/u/Morokweng This is about learning technique and process, a branch of this skill set. Another branch of this skill set is fixing your emotional bullshit; e.g. victimized/fatalistic thought patterns bitter/cynical views towards life/women anxiety, negative confirmation bias, etc. Of course if you have any of those and you aren't working on any of those, you can know all the game in the fucking world, but ultimately you won't be congruent with who you really are (e.g. being natural). And you prob… | /r/seduction | 05/08/15 07:34 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]There's a trend I've noticed with people who're losers, they want to bring you down so you can't progress with them. They hope by attacking you or others trying to succeed bitterly or spitefully enough, they'll drive you or others into defeat and hold them back. Fact is, if you need to lie to get something or hold other people back with you, you're the weak one, not them. I choose to be a winner, I don't care if you try to win with me, in fact if you remind me of myself I'll try to build you up,… | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 10:53 PM |
| 1 | Nobody is WatchingThen keep on watching... I'll keep on doing. ;) | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 10:45 PM |
| 1 | How can one tell if a woman is actually interested or just being nice in a public setting?The best way in this situation would be to make it discreet, by going in during a quieter time, go direct with her and give her a genuine compliment, then follow up with "Are you single?" if she says "no", you just got your answer in a very timely fashion that's not socially risky for her - because believe it or not she faces more risk than you by hitting on a customer. Anyways, if she says "yes" ask her when she gets off, maybe banter some, and ask her if she's available, then. If she is, great… | /r/seduction | 02/08/15 01:50 AM |
| 1 | When does a sedditor stop becoming a sedditor? When do you stop caring about seduction and be happy with what you have? If you are monogamous, how do you know when you have found "the one?" When does seduction not matter anymore?Basically, yes. You're delusional if you ever think it's over and you can "let go" after you're in a serious relationship with the woman of your dreams. Machiavelli says: http://i.gyazo.com/5dd3b3ac6073b9f6099b26917df65d9e.png There is no stasis, and I had to learn that the hard way. | /r/seduction | 31/07/15 07:07 PM |
| 5 | Got asked if my date is my girlfriend, how to respond?My wit came up with "Nah, married 10 years, three kids..." and then look at her and smile playfully. But I like the chase frames you guys did, funny. | /r/seduction | 29/07/15 10:43 PM |
| 3 | Places to find 18+ chicks?Yeah, I dated a 17y/o when I was 19, you're fine... It's when you start to turn 21 and up that you want to steer clear of HS girls - at least in my personal experience. The best place to find girls I feel like I can vibe with 18-24, during the day, is most likely the mall in the early afternoon before 6PM, and you'd be surprised how many cute girls are at those Whole Foods/Trader Joe's after 530PM on weekdays. Sundays are the best days for girls out and about it seems. | /r/seduction | 28/07/15 03:50 PM |
| 3 | Master Notes (5 Years of information Unedited)!!!I took some of the first points in this giant wall of text and tried to make them readable, elaborated on some of the points to make them easier to intellectualize what the hell is being said. You words are impeccable, don't be stifled - be yourself in every way. Don't take anything personal, when someone is rude or dismissive it's because of their own negative, bitter worldview - why would you want someone like that in your life? Don't make assumptions or judgments of anyone - everyone's human … | /r/seduction | 21/07/15 05:38 PM |
| 2 | How did Pick Up/ Self improvement enrich your life?It's usually subconscious reading of things like body language, tonality, eye contact and having seen the social situation in some way personally or having read about it a million times over. I don't want to tell you to study reactions, because it makes you very sensitive to rejection, and you waste too much mental energy on details rather than the long run with people. Meet tons of people, put yourself in tons of social situations, reflect on those situations every so often. And always, push fo… | /r/seduction | 20/07/15 07:11 PM |
| 2 | there was a golden post a couple days ago that had 700 upvotes but has been deleted does anyone have an archive of it?https://www.reddit.com/r/seduction/comments/3dll7s/my_10_fundamentals_of_becoming_a_better_self_as/ | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 11:36 PM |
| 1 | How did Pick Up/ Self improvement enrich your life?Desensitized to beautiful women and all the fun that comes with them, getting dates or girlfriends isn't hard if I put the work in. When I break up with a girlfriend, the emotional pain is intense, but not nearly as if I knew jack about women (I know because I've felt both, comparably). Phenomenal at reading people, most of the time when I intuit what a person's frame or vibe is, I'm right. Girlfriends get annoyed because when they're distant/thinking about something, I'll bring it up and they a… | /r/seduction | 19/07/15 11:34 PM |
| -3 | I'm pissedThere's a ton of emotional bullshit going on after a break up, it's the closest I've gotten to feeling like a pregnant woman. There's nothing but your stupid brain (I'm not calling you stupid, just your primitive instincts) stopping you from meeting women. Let your brain know there are other women, because it's locked onto her. | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 05:11 AM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]I don't know if you realize this, but that's called a "test". Both the "Oh, is this where you try to pick me up?" and "You don't want anything to do with me" were both attempts to be rude and tease you. Women "test" you to see if you're a strong man, not be manipulative or whatever. Because lots of guys are great liars, the way to get a good read is to catch them off guard with things like that. I've had these recently: Her: Is this how you pick up girls? This is awkward. Her: What do you do ins… | /r/seduction | 18/07/15 04:35 AM |
| 1 | I f-close frequently and regularly enter relationships, but it seems that once I get a girlfriend I always feel like I'm on the brink of losing her.Let's look at two things you said. I always feel like I'm on the brink of losing her. I'm never able to develop trust for anyone. Fundamentally, it's a logically sound statement to say you're rather insecure, right? At least in a relationship? in·se·cure ˌ insəˈkyo͝or/ adjective (of a person) not confident or assured; uncertain and anxious. Would you say you're uncertain of keeping her? I feel as though your response is defensive, and in a way, condescending towards me, because I'm acting like y… | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 08:59 PM |
| 2 | I f-close frequently and regularly enter relationships, but it seems that once I get a girlfriend I always feel like I'm on the brink of losing her.This is a mix of bad centrism, you've centered your personal progression on one aspect of life, and that's seduction. Cool, you can pull consistently, and get girls into relationships. What else do you have going for you? An impressive, shredded, physique? A great career? An exciting, adventurous life that you live to the fullest? And a mix of a lack of goals for the relationship, are you in a relationship just to be in one? Shitty goal. Believe it or not, girls are in a relationship with you be… | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 07:53 PM |
| 2 | 3 dates have now cancelled on me in a row. What am I supposed to say and why does this keep happening?We don't chase them, we replace them. You got it, not a lot of guys know this, let alone internalize it. | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 07:46 PM |
| 3 | I;ve gamed for 5 years with zero successCouldn't have said it better. This screams victim mentality, you're just complaining and bitching about not succeeding and throwing logic and science at everyone as to why you are. I went through your recent posts, they're all negative and low vibration, they're value taking, you give nothing, you just leech. I see NO field reports, NO discussion on sticking points, NO fixing. I don't give a flying fuck if you've tried to learn game for 40 years, if you don't have the mentality to fix what you'r… | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 07:32 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Some More Day Game After Break Up; Feedback AppreciatedThat's usually how my texts go, I schedule the date in person, and let her know I'm glad to have met her a little after, sometimes she responds, sometimes not. Then I text her on the day of the date whether we're still on or not, usually with some rapport building built in to the text. I usually try to stay under 5 texts sent for a date. | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 07:20 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Some More Day Game After Break Up; Feedback AppreciatedAppreciate the insight, while my texts aren't very flirtatious, I did recollect why I make them that way, since it's been awhile due to an exclusive relationship. What I got out of this was your ability to get a solid number is how well you can build a good enough connection with her and have her excited to interact more with you. Maybe that's the answer to my sticking point, I'll definitely hone in on comfort building. I think I've got a couple of approaches I'll try tonight: Spend at least 10-… | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 07:04 PM |
| 1 | Newsflash: Girls Don't Want To Be Picked Up!Emotionality is implied in feminine energy, the indecisiveness, the inconstant/mixed feelings, etc. It's not necessary to "discern and reciprocate" as you put it, rather "inspiring and peaking" emotions is more efficient. Seduction is just emotional transference, more than technicalities. The latter helps in analysis, and enables you to improve, but the former is the key. | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 06:55 PM |
| 1 | Quick anecdote my very hot female friend told me about guys approaching her. We live in a major city. I don't know what to do with this info. Maybe one of you can help me find the takeaway.The problem is barely any guys have enough social awareness to build some sort of foundation before they say "Hi". Like drawing her over with glances and smiles, positioning themselves so she can see him, etc. so they'd rather just "sarge" in. I don't think you could personally have much success asking for a girl's number within the first minute of an interaction. There's such a huge need of building a foundation to the interaction, the skill of building a quick and taught connection is invaluab… | /r/seduction | 16/07/15 06:38 PM |
| 17 | This is the most important advice you'll ever read. I call it "The Trick."Any romantic interaction involves tension, if you can't handle tension, then deal with being friends. If you think for one second girls go on dates not being nervous, you're wrong, if you don't think they're nervous when they come home with you, you're wrong; if you don't think they're nervous when they're talking to you and realize they like you, you're wrong. A funny anecdote, my ex was walking around her house for about an hour dressed up, nervous as hell, for the date. She got there, phoned … | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 08:03 PM |
| 2 | Quick anecdote my very hot female friend told me about guys approaching her. We live in a major city. I don't know what to do with this info. Maybe one of you can help me find the takeaway.Last approach on a college campus was around the end of spring semester. I'll tell you how it went: Walking up to the computer lab to take a test for a lab, catch a girl with a great outfit and a sexy shirt on eyeing me and brushing her hair walking down towards the parking garage. I wait a few, so it's not obvious, and turn around and get to her, she's in her car by the time I catch up, I motion her to pull down her window. "Hey, if you're going to look at me like that, at least say Hi..." I sa… | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 07:43 PM |
| 5 | Newsflash: Girls Don't Want To Be Picked Up!I think this is pretty groundbreaking and can set a lot of guys off who're used to conventional wisdom, esp. during night game (what's implied in the post, I want to know where 5 guys are all trying to hit on the same girl at once). I definitely think your ideology is right, the most successful interactions that've turned into relationships for me are where I'm not objectifying the woman and genuinely interested in getting to know her and seeing if she's cool. A frame I try to use as underpinnin… | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 05:27 PM |
| 1 | Quick anecdote my very hot female friend told me about guys approaching her. We live in a major city. I don't know what to do with this info. Maybe one of you can help me find the takeaway.I disagree. My last girlfriend was very pretty and got, on a consistent basis as you said: Cat calls Generic compliments Weird, indirect questions What most guys don't understand on an approach, if you make your compliment so that the girl feels special it's much more effective. Compliment her hair, shoes, outfit, walk, style, demeanor, necklace, not "AYO YOU CUTE!" or "Hey, whatcha doin' there? Studying? For what? Oh that's cool, nice meeting you - oh yeah, what's your name?" | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 05:12 PM |
| 0 | Quick anecdote my very hot female friend told me about guys approaching her. We live in a major city. I don't know what to do with this info. Maybe one of you can help me find the takeaway.If you have this belief, good luck on a college campus, most of the approaches I do on campus are girls running to class. If you don't believe you're attractive enough to warrant her being a minute or two to class to build a quick connection and set a meet for later since each of you are busy, it's not even worth going. | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 05:09 PM |
| 1 | Quick anecdote my very hot female friend told me about guys approaching her. We live in a major city. I don't know what to do with this info. Maybe one of you can help me find the takeaway.I feel like this "friend" of his threw out a knee jerk reaction to being hit on, so the guys didn't have a 'chance' to escalate the interaction further. Usually, with very hot girls, they will have some walls up on the approach, but if you know what you want, and keep getting to know them and building a solid foundation through emotional connection, giving off a charming, carefree vibe, they start to hook and start investing, and're open to meeting. You are correct in that most guys don't know h… | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 05:07 PM |
| 2 | Is the "boyfriend drop" ever positive?You're just over analyzing, most of the time when she says she has a boyfriend to me, I'm escalating the interaction in some way - be it physical, qualifying, setting a meet/grabbing her number - then I just gracefully eject. Some girls may not be happy with their boyfriends and will be easier to seduce, but I prefer to not get involved because a.) I've been in relationships and I couldn't imagine being someone to ruin them, I respect them b.) Boyfriends can be some insane, jealous, motherfucker… | /r/seduction | 15/07/15 04:55 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/8/15Hit the nail on the head, same for relationships. If you're not living in abundance it'll show eventually. | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 01:08 AM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/8/15Send her a playful text, "Hey Sasha! I heard that song that you mentioned was your favorite today and it reminded me of you. Then I realized that I hadn't talked to you in awhile. How's life?" If she's up for expressing her mutual desires, all you have to do is set of logistics to close the deal. F'real f'real, /u/puaCurveBall said it right, don't pedestalize this interaction, she's just a girl out of millions. | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 01:05 AM |
| 3 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/8/15Word to the wise, only use texting for logistics. Relationships are built and maintained in person, not over a stupid phone. Keep phone calls short, I know your emotions are screaming at you to go the other way, but it sets the wrong expectations for the relationship. You probably won't listen to the advice totally, but at least lean more towards one on one time than phone time. | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 01:00 AM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 7/8/15The fact you connect showing intent with being creepy is a self limiting belief. Believe that you're an attractive man, proceed into the interaction on the assumption that a woman will respond well to you, stop "feeling her out". If she doesn't respond well, who cares? You'll meet another one soon enough. | /r/seduction | 13/07/15 12:52 AM |
| 4 | [deleted by user]Really appreciate the advice, had the same experience, wouldn't call her 10/10, but I pulled an intelligent, gorgeous girl, a little too low self esteem, but no one's perfect and had her asking for a relationship after about a week, ended about two weeks ago, because of the social pressure from her Mom not liking me and her having a full plate/too stressed for a serious relationship that's already stressful because of said social pressure. Feel a lot better than I did now, looking back, it made … | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 10:52 PM |
| 2 | Does everyone has to struggle this much to get women ?They had the confidence to approach her, build a connection, whether it be on a date or not, physically and sexually escalate the interaction, and sleep with them. The girl happened to be attracted to him and went on the date, and let him lead her to intimacy. Most guys in all honesty meet girls through social circle or work, or parties. They settle on the first girl who's interested enough to sleep with him. But again, most guys are ordinary, boring, providers - and they chase for relationships… | /r/seduction | 08/07/15 03:52 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Some Day Game After a Break Up; Feedback WelcomeNot sure if I mentioned, but I'm 21. 24 was cool, but 28 seems too big an age gap, I'll roll with it next time if she's pretty. | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 09:50 PM |
| 1 | Being too pushy? is my game lacking?Way too much fluff, way too much investment. Scrutinizing the dialogue isn't much help because what's said can't be taken back. But it was a mistake to assume she was free that night, because that's when you started to chase. 'When're you free?' is all you needed to ask, if she was genuinely interested in catching up, she'd respond with a day she has time, if not, it's a lost cause, quit trying to "get her back", if you've had "moderate success" with girls, go meet other girls. At this point it'… | /r/seduction | 07/07/15 03:14 PM |
| 2 | What is happening to meYeah, my personal advice with girls, the first one to say "I love you" should be the girl, and the last time I heard it, it was a complete surprise. That way you clearly polarize the relationship with masculinity, girls will say a lot of shit like, "It's so sweet when a guy confesses his love... It's romantic... It's brave..." but what matters is what they show. Women want men, men are self reliant, full of conviction, and aren't there to please everyone. But anyone out there who's had a girl co… | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 06:56 PM |
| 1 | What is happening to meDamn... that's deep. Straight wisdom, thanks. | /r/seduction | 05/07/15 06:45 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15I feel for you, same. We let our game atrophy and all we can really do is start approaching again, and if the game's in your subconscious, it'll reveal a little more of itself everyday if you're consistent with interacting with new girls. | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:56 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15I agree, I'm not going to malicious towards you man, but if you're attracted enough to this woman to ask about her showing interest, and she's came over after midnight twice, you've passed up two opportunities to physically escalate. You don't even have to pull her home, my advice next time she comes over, incidentally touch her on the shoulder, use a lingering touch on her hand, hold her hand, get close to her. Slow down the talking, move your lips towards hers, and lift her chin up, boom. If s… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:55 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15To give you some perspective on my outings (for reference, I have 2y experience): I like to go out with a slightly unattainable, but doable goal every time I go out. Right now my flake rates are pretty high, so I'm experimenting with extending the interaction more than I used to. Used to talk for one or two minutes, grabbed the number and left, been trying five or six, might see results, might not. I might have to run a sexier vibe with her, or reveal some more about myself, and become a little … | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:48 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15Let me put into perspective how little this detail matters. If you were listening to some music, and a hot girl walked up to you, would you shoo her away and keep listening to the music you've probably heard before? Number one, that's rude; number two, I'd probably question your sexuality. And to really drive it home, I've gotten DATES from walking up to girls in their cars, and motioning them to pull down their windows. It really doesn't matter if you're confident enough. | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:37 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15You're basically conveying that you're embarrassed to walk around a mall for multiple hours? Honestly, unless girls are shutting you out like you're a sexual predator, guards won't notice you hitting on a girl who likes you back, it looks like a regular interaction. Personally, I don't like to go out for more than 3 or 4 hours, but you do you, maybe 3h at each mall, back to back? | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:35 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15There are three separate reasons I find for most break ups, given you break down the situation enough: You couldn't give her what she wanted (e.g. commitment, approval from family) You came out less of a man than you used to be when she agreed to get into the relationship with you (e.g. I need space, I need a break, you're pushy, etc.) Life intervened (moving, family illness, busy schedules, etc.) Her emotions for the former two are on opposite ends of the spectrum, to visualize: You want this t… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:30 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15So your question is the same, just you've internalized our advice and you're going with it? Keep your options open, and until she confesses her love to you, you don't have to stop having options. Some concise advice that directly hits upon your question: Stick with what your intuition is telling you, the phone goes both ways, if she wanted to see you sooner she can contact you. Otherwise, "go with your gut" and contact her like I mentioned near the end of July - if she ultimately isn't intereste… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:16 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15Calibrate to the social situation or with your intentions? There's never a bad time to be sexual with women you find sexually attractive, you're a man, and she's a woman, polarize the interaction with her. My only advice is no work colleagues or legal workers, I'm not generalizing - maybe one is reading this comment and you're a freak (in the good way) - but they play sexual harassment like a sport. | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 08:05 PM |
| 2 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15This might sound counter intuitive to your question, but be honest with me here: Do you have sufficient reference points on interacting with women to which you can reflect on through reading books? Chances are if you've "been reading this sub for years" you probably have enough information. You need to take all that you have and go start using it. I don't care if you say "Hi" to a girl and run away, be self aware of yourself during the outing, and come back and reflect later once you've accompli… | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 07:59 PM |
| 1 | [xMODx] Seddit Simple Questions Thread 6/24/15Never put your life on hold for one girl, emotions are a very strong force, but I'm sure if you wait that long and finally do ask her out, you'll be in such scarcity that it'll ruin your chances. Short answer: Keep meeting women, I don't care if it's 1/week. My ex wanted me to "wait until she figured something out", believing it was BS, I started going out, found a few girls, hopefully have a date next week, but I'm still building up my options again. I call and wish her happy "theoretical half … | /r/seduction | 02/07/15 05:23 PM |
| 4 | Catch 22 of Pickup???I think those schools of thought are two different extremes, and both can be potentially dangerous. I've followed the first more closely, and have had better success personally. What works best personally, like I said, is something closer to the former. I'd rather just walk up to a girl I find cute and tell her that she is rather than agonize over it, see what she's doing, move forward, and if she's busy get a date and potential close/girl friend. But during the process, even while in the relati… | /r/seduction | 18/06/15 07:22 PM |
| 7 | [deleted by user]Classic invitation to approach when they position themselves near you, just remind yourself they want to talk to you when you do that. But you need to be the man and initiate the dance, if you're attracted than just say "Hi" and let her know that you like how she looks and start getting to know her, push for the close, whatever that may be on a high point ("Hey, what're you doing after the gym? Let's go grab a drink." or "Hey, I need to finish up my work out because I have a meeting/a friend tha… | /r/seduction | 18/06/15 06:56 PM |
| 1 | Girls are like cats, too much attention and they'll run away but control yourself and they'll chase after you.I had this insight awhile ago, just thought nothing of it. Very interesting metaphor, very accurate. :) | /r/seduction | 18/06/15 12:50 AM |
| 2 | Need some advice on a girl/r/askseddit Short answer: Don't settle. | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 04:09 PM |
| 2 | Advice to ignore a girl's beautyYeah, there's no secret besides abundance in beautiful women, beautiful girlfriends, etc. At this point beauty doesn't intimidate me much, maybe some model types, but that's vastly due to being around beautiful women almost every day of my life for the past two years. No quick fix! | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 04:06 PM |
| 2 | Things to keep in mind, do you do this? Also add anything you've found to be helpful!Make a rule to talk to X amount of girls a day, do it, and don't ever alter how you act in order to get closer to a girl. Great insight! Goals are an essential part in progress, or you don't know what you want and don't come off too confident. count to five and force yourself to do it. Yes, lots of the time if you wait longer you can psyche yourself out and come off too needy if you aren't experienced. And applying it in general is good too, it's parallel to the maxim "Quit thinking about it, ju… | /r/seduction | 19/04/15 04:03 PM |
| 2 | What happens when you have a girlfriend? How do you not SETTLE and not COMPROMISE.Relationships are lots of work, and yeah, they bring you down, that's why most high status men don't have exclusive girlfriends, and just hook up or keep things open. They are time/emotional vampires, but if you get one you're excited to be with, and she's cool enough you want to fall in love with her and have a fulfilling relationship where both of you help each other improve, and keep your own lives, then that's great. Anyways, just don't let up on flirting with other girls, even if she bitche… | /r/seduction | 24/01/15 05:51 PM |
| 3 | How do you approach a girl from your social circle?Come from a frame of discretion, and manage her emotions well after the hook up. Just pull a secret move, like grab her hand, or rub her leg secretly; if she responds positively, which she should given your situation, it's time to frame the interaction is discreet. Don't come off as a guy who "kisses & tells", you can frame yourself as someone discreet explicitly also, by telling her "This has to be a secret" after she's agreed through nonverbals or verbally that she's receptive. If she asks, ex… | /r/seduction | 24/01/15 05:32 PM |
| 2 | Sometimes girls find me intimidating, what should I do?What helped me a lot was just being warm with girls, a few tips: Wear a relaxed facial expression with a hint of a smile, have relaxed body language; have it open, never tensed up Be nonjudgmental, keep the focus on the other person, and always have an inviting voice, rather than one that sounds cocky or intimidating. Think of an old doctor whose patients all love him and find opening up to him a breeze. | /r/seduction | 12/01/15 01:37 AM |
| 10 | The answer to shit tests is to agree and amplify. Have you ever found you aren't amplifying enough?I don't know why you think "What do you do?" is a shit test, it's just her hooking (e.g. the point where she starts investing in the interaction [e.g. putting effort into conversing with this new man she met]). You're being way too game-y with girls who're genuinely interested in you. Shit tests are something where she's trying to test how dominant of a man you are. Some examples: Go get me a drink, I'm thirsty. (while we're sitting next to each other) Can you not touch me like that? I hate bein… | /r/seduction | 10/01/15 03:20 PM |
| 2 | This sub isn't what it used to beWhile I agree with lots of this, you need to accept the regular nice guys are finding out about this, and believe it or not, 99% of Reddit is that demographic. I had a similar reaction when I showed men who they dress can definitely effect how they come across with a woman, I got lots of bitter fatalistic people who tried to bring me down, because they were afraid to improve. All you need to do is ignore them, they aren't helping you improve, misery loves company, do you want to give them that c… | /r/seduction | 09/01/15 12:05 AM |
| 6 | [R] First date conversation topics.Just elicit the things that matter to her (e.g. her passions, dreams, goals, career, childhood, secrets), connect/relate to them, and she'll feel like she's found the best guy ever. Took a girl for a drink, had a conversation like that for two hours, literally didn't say anything about myself besides experiences that connected with hers, or about people I've met and dealt with who had her problems, found things out only her family and closest friend knew, and was told "I don't want this to end" … | /r/seduction | 08/01/15 08:45 PM |
| 8 | [R] First date conversation topics.Probably the worst advice in this thread, even though it's the top comment. One of the biggest misconceptions in dating advice, be witty, interesting and funny and she will obviously be attracted! Answer me this: Can she relate to your trip to the Andes where you saw three mountain lions and escaped death? Hell no. Oh, how about the time you went to Vegas and got shift faced, found three hookers, and lost your whole bank account in a matter of hours, and had one of the best sexual experiences in… | /r/seduction | 08/01/15 08:37 PM |
| 2 | Im troubled, I have a question I cant ask anywhere else really...I can empathize, and I'm sure nearly everyone wants to expose weaknesses and have others nurture them. But you need to realize, that's not how biology works, you need to look at the cold hard facts, because yes, it's science. If you don't love yourself, who will, really? No one is going to be in your fucking coffin with you (realistically). This whole wall of text is emotional, not very logical, and you aren't looking at anything from an objective stand point, you're just trying to justify being… | /r/seduction | 24/12/14 04:15 AM |
| 1 | I can take it to the goal line, but that's where the play ends. 4th and inches, what is my play?You essentially have an anxious mindset when it comes to moving things forward, it's common, I even fall into it sometimes. But what you must do, is see the opportunity in things, instead of the danger in things; e.g. A girl rejecting you in the street v. you and a girl in the street vibing with each other and electricity is dancing around you two. A girl rejecting your meet ask v. her emphatically saying yes and promptly writing her number down (this is usually how I get numbers, because chasin… | /r/seduction | 06/12/14 12:21 AM |
| 5 | Is being direct always a good thing?Being direct is one of the best things you can do, it lets her know you're a man who knows what he wants, and it's very high status. You aren't a low status individual who tends to beat around the bush, and stall, are you? Most people, when being direct is done adroitly, tend to appreciate it and respond to it very well. Go get the next one, I promise it won't be that long before you see a cute girl. | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 07:14 PM |
| 1 | Holy Shit... Scared of Women. Never Again [FR]I start thinking This is where you went wrong, your brain started coming up with a bunch of excuses. It's only natural. Now contradict every one of those thoughts you had that stopped you, and keep doing so until you finally say "Hi". Quit thinking anything before you approach, just say "Hi". For you: You realize you have no where to park, and you must put the bags down. Yeah you do, go park near the entrance, and act like you're walking in the library, carry your bags, who cares? You don't want… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 07:01 PM |
| 6 | What to do when we get no answer to messages?/r/askseddit | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 06:54 PM |
| 3 | Seddit, is there anything wrong with girls that say they only have guy friends because girls cause too much drama?Met a girl like this, every guy that was her "friend" was generally just an orbiter trying to get with her. She always told me they had "something more", "he's like a brother", etc. She'd show me excess of messages of all of these "friends" professing their love. By now, if you're in this sub (not a beginner/AFC), you should know no guys are really friends with girls, they just get stuck there because they come across as too nice, and she doesn't respect them as a powerful man, but as a white kn… | /r/seduction | 03/12/14 06:52 PM |
| 1 | Recorded everything. Thoughts?Really great FR, love recordings! Some tips. Nice direct open, nice introduction, she hooked fairly quickly, maybe two questions in, but you keep relating to her by telling her "That's cool!", relate better. You don't come off extremely confident asking her if she's in a rush, just assume she isn't in a rush and push the interaction, she might even write off plans she had because she wants to spend time with you. Even "I was just wondering if I could ask for your number", that's bad. Set the mee… | /r/seduction | 01/12/14 03:34 PM |
| 4 | Don't see a phone number as the end goal. A number is worthless if you have't made her interested in hanging out with you again.This is huge, and one of the steps you must take to advance to a more intermediate frame of mind. You must get her number while she's obviously attracted (e.g. hooked, responding well to touch, sexual innuendo/flirting, etc.) and you have some good rapport build. And those emotions are then cemented, so she will want to feel them again, and the only way to do that is to meet up w/ you for a drink. It's entertaining to see those guys come up with little tricks to get girls' numbers (e.g. I lost m… | /r/seduction | 01/12/14 03:08 PM |
| 0 | Life Hack for confidence?Get a process for everything, it isn't some magical feeling, logically set up a process for girls, as there is one, you just need to find it. There's one for everything, making coffee, getting dressed, etc. | /r/seduction | 29/11/14 01:03 AM |
| 2 | Best way to respond to "you're going to have to work harder than that" when asking for a girl's number?Let's start off with what kind of context this is used in, is it after you were direct with her, and didn't come off like some guy tip toeing? Did you vibe out with her a bit, touch some, built a sexy vibe? Or did you just kinda go up to her, ask her where Starbucks is, after she told you (it was right behind you you idiot) you made some awkward small talk (e.g. What's your major? Cool!) don't relate to her at all, stand three feet away, give her a facial expression of a deer in the head lights … | /r/seduction | 29/11/14 12:11 AM |
| 3 | Very inspiring comment I read from 6 months ago by /u/okayracer. It was barely noticed.That's what self improvement is, it's self love, girls are just a skill, it's not a life goal. If your only goal in life is to be the best playboy on Earth, you'll probably get lots of pussy, but after so much, it kinda gets boring, there's more to girls than just sex. It's great, and an essential part of relationships, but there's more than just picking up girls to your relations with the opposite sex. Get some life goals, dream a little, no, dream a lot. What do you want to do with your life? … | /r/seduction | 19/11/14 05:21 PM |
| 1 | Guys let's get one thing straight. There is no such thing as Indirect and Direct Daygame. There is only In-state and Out-of-state Daygame.This is very presumptuous in the fact that the reader relies on "state" to the degree at which you describe it. I personally think, emotional state is malleable just like metal, I won't get into NLP or any of that, but long story short, just think the emotion in your head; e.g. http://puu.sh/cQtPq/cc07194110.png Now read the emotional state, then imagine "I" as "you". You probably feel very calm now, and when I employ that state and start vibing with some people, they get a really calm, mellow, … | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 04:16 PM |
| 3 | Post college life is SCARYPretty much hit the nail on the head, it's time to be a man now, build yourself up all over again. Not some little frat boy who's world is a dinky little campus with thousands of them just like it. The whole WORLD is your campus, let that sink in, you can live 10000 miles away if you wanted. Your campus might've had memories, but who says you can't make new ones? Starting from the bottom and grinding your way to the top is one of the most motivating phenomena to me, how hard can you go for how l… | /r/seduction | 14/11/14 04:00 PM |
| 2 | How To Overcome Neediness And Stop Being An Angry TrollThis'll probably be down voted because you guys are just employing more self defense to excuse yourselves, but anyways: Lots of guys on here exhibit this behavior, they constantly tell me I'm a pervert, or I'm raping girls, makes me come to terms with the situation. Reappraising the whole stigma a lot of "lady's men" get, lots of jealous guys that are needy calling them creepy, etc. Only because they see themselves doing what he does as creepy or rapist-esque, I came up with that on my own, but … | /r/seduction | 12/11/14 06:45 PM |
| 3 | FYI: Anonymous says it is going after the entire PUA industryk | /r/seduction | 12/11/14 02:44 AM |
| 1 | Anyone here who *didn't* grow up being social and mingling with girls (i.e. hard-mode seduction)?Never had a girlfriend until I graduated high school, and the girlfriends I've had are prettier than every girl except one or two in high school. I came from pedestalizing one pretty girl who was decent, still attractive, and looking back, actually really, really liked me, but I took too long and never made a move, so we kinda quit flirting. I've met her again, she obviously was very attracted, ran over to me and hugged me when I reached out for a handshake, remarked "Of course I don't have make… | /r/seduction | 11/11/14 12:29 AM |
| 1 | How do I get passed the small talk?I read you have been on multiple dates and have only been stuck at small talk? This girl must have a thing for you, it's ridiculous you haven't invited her home, yet. Just ask pointed questions and build threads off the small talk, find the why, how, when of the threads; e.g. What are you studying? How's that? What do you want to do with it? If you could do anything else and get paid the same what would it be? etc. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 02:12 PM |
| 0 | Was reading the rules when I realized this was a genuine question I didn't know how to answer.If you were checking out with her, it's honestly part of her job, if you weren't, I would have got in line, acting as if I was ordering something, said "Hey, so why were you checking me out? I should tell you my name, it's Alex" vibed a bit, set a meet and got her number if we gel'd. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 02:10 PM |
| 5 | I have a girl I spend hours texting, but she never wants to meet up. Red flag?You aren't grasping the fact the longer you know a girl you're effectively pursuing without having sex, the more attached you become, hence the more unattractive to her you become, and the less attractive you are to other girls. It's really just about efficiency, and bad experiences. If you wanted to be lovers when you met, you shouldn't change relationship expectations with her, you should just find another girl. Because the world is a lot bigger than her maybe one hot friend. If you think you … | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 02:02 PM |
| 1 | Interpreting Thingsshe tells me she is a tease Test, just ignore it and escalate the interaction to the breaking point. Honestly really stupid to eject, I'd just give her a sexy smile and ask her why she thinks so. It'd obviously turn sexual then, and you'd be on your way to her in your bed. | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 01:56 AM |
| 1 | Advice for girls who want a guy to like them:This sounds a lot like that yucky mainstream little "gems" from twitter or some shit. It's kinda your job to lead her to intimacy, not hers. ;) | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 01:53 AM |
| 1 | Changing peoples perceptions of youa lot of the girls I'm interested in will have a boyfriend Well it's kind of cuffing season, everyone's getting together with their cuffing mate for the winter. But that doesn't need to stop you. What you're referring to here for me is something I call long game, turning girls you had a bit of rapport built with whom you may or may not have been sexual with before, into casual relationships. Anyways, I'd definitely first recommend asking them on a date if they haven't known you awhile. Otherwise… | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 01:51 AM |
| 1 | I was terrified, but did 5 approaches anyway.Dat testosterone and endorphin rush. :) Good on you, just get over the anxiety and research your problems and work on them so people will receive you better. Don't give up! | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Make me a to-do/challenge list for next time I go outIf you're beginning, I wouldn't stress about talking to women so much, because you're still probably hovering around girls and getting to nervous to just say "Hi". I'll give you a goal anyway Open one girl with a high five, and vibe a little Not making you move her, build an emotional connection, or invite her home. Don't think about any of that shit, just give a cute girl a high five, compliment her, introduce yourself, and vibe a little. If things lead from one thing to another, you might end … | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 01:44 AM |
| 13 | I have a girl I spend hours texting, but she never wants to meet up. Red flag?Yep, girls want guys like that they can talk to for hours without anything the guy wants in return. Replace, onto the next one, peace. And no, you can't make a girl comfortable over text, you do that in person. forget about her | /r/seduction | 03/11/14 01:22 AM |
| 3 | Sedditor Locator 2014. Find awesome buddies for sarging!Akron | /r/seduction | 02/11/14 07:49 PM |
| 1 | Approach like you will never see them again...EVERAll this really is is being persistent, opportunity only knocks once. This applies to everything with girls, asking them on dates, inviting them home, closing things out at home, etc. Adopt that mentality that you probably won't have another chance if you let her go and believe you'll see her again "another time". All you have is now. | /r/seduction | 29/10/14 02:34 PM |
| 4 | Most unusual way or place you approached a girl?Good question, it was a mistake! | /r/seduction | 26/10/14 09:10 PM |
| 1 | How do you handle a person that doesn't reply to you texts?You most likely didn't build enough rapport in person before the meet set, and don't expect her to text... wait, I just read your post. I know her for quite some time On to the Next One - Jay Z; you need it in your life, like /u/RiderB pointed out. Either way, you're reading too much into this, just accept she isn't interested, add her to a list of unresponsive numbers, and mass text them every once in awhile to see if any are sexually available. And it's honestly your fault in the first place, … | /r/seduction | 26/10/14 04:24 PM |
| 2 | Is it bad to come on too strongly?It's bad in a way, but it's better than coming off as not aggressive enough. Basically, you'll be dating down from what you're truly capable of. You're basically investing too much into a girl without her earning that reception, yet. There's no dancing here, it's just hitting her hard and hoping she liked you enough from before you said a word to her to move forward. So like everything, find a balance in being aggressive. | /r/seduction | 26/10/14 04:18 PM |
| 9 | First # close in a while, got a "weird" reaction. Am I over thinking it?You're overthinking the living shit out of this, just ask her out on a date through texting and if she rejects you big deal, there's an infinite pool of women! | /r/seduction | 24/10/14 06:50 PM |
| 1 | Waiting for sex?https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kiWFpTtT2iE Totally agree. Never deviate from your process. Never. | /r/seduction | 23/10/14 09:02 PM |
| 1 | Waiting for sex?Maybe it's because you aren't getting to know her quickly enough, or maybe it's because that's all you've ever heard from mainstream society that you're apparently part of. But you've probably missed sex with 3/4 of the girls you've went on dates with because of that. And I know you have at least one girl you really liked and lost before the your pseudo traditional third date rule. Not hating though, just trying to open your eyes. :) | /r/seduction | 23/10/14 09:00 PM |
| 1 | Waiting for sex?I'd definitely know if he escalated to sex, the girl keeps telling me she's on a dry spell and it's been two months. He's just telling her she's "different" and he wants to wait with her. I got this from some mainstream dating advice http://i.gyazo.com/c0666aa62ab33d1fb10a193f82fc6274.png | /r/seduction | 23/10/14 06:49 PM |
| 0 | What's your method of getting over approach anxiety?It's a balance of your experience and mindsets. You'll never get over it, you'll just learn to manage it, fear can't be overcome, you can fight it by conquering it, beautiful quote I read http://i.gyazo.com/05038a721c3e857cb967234032de4545.png | /r/seduction | 16/10/14 02:56 PM |
| 1 | I think I am done with cold approachThere is something you're doing wrong. And let's be clear, it's you. Not every woman is crazy. Not every interaction you make is positive and awesome and just pickup doesn't work. I don't even use pick up (not consciously, anyway) and while there are some people who are nuts- most people are open to interactions as long as they don't feel creeped out by it, or feel negative emotions from it. Spot on /u/Sweetandhalf Humans are social beings, they love having conversations, they crave connection. … | /r/seduction | 16/10/14 02:50 PM |
| 1 | I think I am done with cold approachThe fact you think it's weird/creepy will make you come off as such when you try something similar. I do it completely nonchalantly, and don't think it's weird at all, and they don't think so either judging by the warm opens I get. /u/just_a_lerker got it right, I use those "excuses" you call them that disarms her guard to random guys walking up to her and sexually harassing her, and confuse her, and then she's laughing because she fell for it, and I show genuine interest/confidence with the dir… | /r/seduction | 16/10/14 02:40 PM |
| 1 | I think I am done with cold approachThat's a good outlook, and it's very true, read about emotional contagion, and other things. I usually relax my facial muscles, have a hint of a smile, and have my eyebrows a tad raises to seem warm when I'm approaching girls. It gives off the impression I'm warm when I approach and they're instant smiles when they talk. Anyways, it's not hard to break everything down if you are actually researching nuances of interactions, there are general terms; e.g. Hook point, touching, vibe/presence, repar… | /r/seduction | 16/10/14 02:36 PM |
| 11 | I think I am done with cold approachHonestly quantity doesn't mean shit if you haven't learned anything from all of your approaches. You viewing women in your head as crazy and nonsensical just means to me, you really have no idea how women work. Any idiot can mindlessly approach women for years and keep running the same shit. You're telling me things; e.g. The last girl I approached outside of a store gave me her number and seemed to like me but then she said I crept up on her and she was scared (I told her I don't know how she c… | /r/seduction | 15/10/14 03:06 AM |
| 1 | Tips for breaking a dry-spell?I think /u/likeaduckorsomething said it very well. I had one of these, said, look you pussy, we're going to start over. You're going to re-learn how to open a girl, go to the right venues, and re-experience all the AA, and hooking, and locking in, and repartee, and rapport, moving, inviting home, dates, process, logistics, physical escalation, touching, chase dynamics, frames, fundamentals, abundance mentality, wittiness. I'm hitting another dry spell because something came up personal, very ser… | /r/seduction | 13/10/14 02:27 AM |
| 1 | What do I do if I'm naturally not a talkative person?Learn how to have a conversation, I wasn't talkative either. Quit complaining and fix it, just keep having conversations, learn to manage the flow, and invoke the right emotions in girls. It took me about a year to transition from having one sided conversations and often avoiding them, to regularly having conversations that last hours and explore a lot of deeper topics. Even with new girls ;) | /r/seduction | 13/10/14 02:21 AM |
| 19 | Some good-looking men sometimes deter women and ways around this.Have been pondering on this a lot recently, rolling over it in my subconscious: Let me preface this first with a statement, I'm not trying to brag at all, I'm really not, it's just who I am. I'm 6'3, blonde hair, blue eyes, high cheek bones, male model body build, really only wear fashionable clothes, very charismatic if I talk to you. I still have personal insecurities, so I'm not trying to act perfect! And here's my experience: If I don't approach you, or you don't know me, I often come off as… | /r/seduction | 13/10/14 02:11 AM |
| 1 | I'm having trouble applying all this in a relationship.She cannot be your mission, you need to have another mission in life besides on girl. They hate to be put on pedestals, they are just silly little girls, out of millions, after all. :) | /r/seduction | 13/10/14 01:53 AM |
| -21 | Some girl gave me a fake number. Jokes on her, turned out to be the number of one really cool dudeNext time when you grab her number, don't run off. Keep talking and test the number, it gets mad awkward if it's fake ;) Just call it real quick, and if her phone doesn't do anything, ask her for her phone, then text your phone. If she says it's in her car or something, chances are she's not into you enough to get together, don't get attached, just find another girl more intro you. | /r/seduction | 13/10/14 01:42 AM |
| 15 | I approached and I didn't die.Your next challenge, tell 10 girls they are cute and you want to talk to them. Do you accept? | /r/seduction | 06/10/14 12:42 AM |
| 2 | Escalating kino during a movie?As you sit down lean into her, and don't pull the stupid witty jokes with the arm over her, just do it; because everyone knows about those. Something I've done successfully, given I was smooth with it and didn't act uncomfortable: Had my arm over the cup holder since I was all on her, it hurt, so I turn to her, say "My arm hurts, you can have it" she takes it, and the way she holds my arm naturally makes my hand placed on her leg... and you know where it went from there. E: Just read this was in… | /r/seduction | 06/10/14 12:01 AM |
| 4 | How do you turn on a girl while texting?You just don't. /u/nycprowl has got it right. | /r/seduction | 05/10/14 02:50 PM |
| 1 | Date brings friend along with her, has this happened to anyone else?I think you came off creepy when you asked her for a meet, and she didn't feel comfortable talking to you. She might honestly be that type of girl, I've had girls straight up tell me I'm really shy and it's hard for me to open up. This is where you need to be charming and necessarily safe to them so they put themselves out there for you. Otherwise I could see this happen. You should bring a guy, do handle her friend, just take her friend somewhere else, so you two can get to know each other. And… | /r/seduction | 04/10/14 04:23 PM |
| 1 | Introduce YourselfSomething else I noticed to add, something pretty subtle to most guys, she asks if you remember her, because you've talked to her before, or she tries to introduce herself as someone you can recognize; e.g. "I was here the other day, do you remember me?" "I actually do this, really close by, you recognized me, right?" Be genuine if you do, but don't be a yes guy, play with her a little bit. If you don't, then be honest with her, that's just incongruent. | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 03:10 PM |
| 2 | [deleted by user]Before we focus on fundamentals, let's look at your brain a little bit. You need to get that one girl out of your head, and you need to meet new girls. You also need to realize your world is what you make it, it's your fault your life is like this, and it's your job to change that. Once you take that initiative to change it, and you stop "being yourself" and "make yourself", you can start on your road to mastering seduction and girls. Before I go on, let me tell you, this will probably be the ha… | /r/seduction | 01/10/14 01:15 AM |
| 1 | A Plateau, Have You Run Into This?Tell me what happened when you got burned, I'd like another reference point to sync my process up to! :) And yeah, this was highly calibrated to the girl, she had tears in her eyes when I was asking her what was wrong and everything. So I needed to end up being warmer than I usually am to get her comfortable with me. Because I'm really never that person with any girl, most of the time I frame the interaction like she's chasing me, and don't invest too much, no matter what, that same girl called … | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 10:26 PM |
| 1 | Question about number closingSay I walked up to you in the middle of the mall, now after getting your name and meeting you, asking you where you're from - I tell you to take a seat on the bench with me to talk some more. If you don't want to do that, then I'll persist a few more times, if you aren't having it, I'll just peace out. M: Hey, let's keep talking over there, and take a seat, so we won't get stomped on! H: I'm not sure, I have somewhere to go :( M: It'll only be a few minutes, you can kick me in the shin if you're… | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 10:10 PM |
| 1 | Interesting female opinion on being approached and creepiness during daygame approach.Don't hide your intents (e.g. having sex with her). | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 09:42 PM |
| 1 | [deleted by user]I used to be a dancing monkey around everyone, shy, didn't open up, fell for a few girls here and there. Was attractive, so a few girls chased me, asked me for my number, texted me, etc. After one last, LJBF/you're too clingy, I said, OK, it's me, it's not them. I need to fucking change. So I sat down, and took notes, from all over the internet, we're talking every solitary hour of my day I wasn't working, I was taking notes. I applied this at work, noticed a few girls starting to look at me dif… | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 05:29 PM |
| 1 | I need to get out of this mindset. Can you give me some tough love?Your whole world is shaped by your thoughts, your emotions do this to you. Realize your world is only as you see it, you can see your world negatively, and complain, or you can get off your ass, stop staring at a screen, and fix it to how you want it. How do you want your world? What's your dream? Figure out the process you need to achieve that, and get to it. | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 04:53 PM |
| 3 | Question about number closingAlthough meeting girls is all about numbers, it's better to get numbers from girls for a meet, rather than just to have her number. I can ask for 30 numbers in a day and they'll give me them, because numbers honestly mean jack to most girls who are attractive. They give them out like candy, they don't have to respond to them. This is how I ask for a number, without the intention of pushing the interaction anymore that day; here's the process: Find girl I like the looks of, don't make eye contact… | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 01:02 PM |
| 1 | Pick-up is boringWhy are you calling this boring if you don't know how to have deep, emotionally charged conversations? Here's my theory, you aren't getting to the root of things she says, you just relate, and cut the thread, there's so much more possibility, in some threads like childhood or travel, you could talk all day, or a passion of theirs. | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 12:53 PM |
| 10 | How to be DominantTo simplify: Always find a way to win. Learn to control the situation, and get good results no matter the situation; find a way to finesse your way through everything, and never accept anything less than what you want. But easier, always just find a way to win. | /r/seduction | 30/09/14 12:51 PM |
| 1 | What's the theory behind the "wait 3 days" theory???Giving you her number puts her in the chase dynamic, if you wait three days to text her back, since you know, you're the only guy she's ever met, she'll want you more and will want to go on a date instantaneously when you wait exactly 72.000000 hours, not 72.00001, not 71.99999, 72. Girls tell me this, and I ignore them when they try to give me advice. Girls pull this with me, I'll just hit her up immediately and let her know it was nice meeting. Then the next day I'll get back to her on our mee… | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 02:24 PM |
| 0 | Interesting female opinion on being approached and creepiness during daygame approach.I have no idea why people thinking approaching girls if you're attractive and smooth with is creepy. The very fact people thing it's creepy makes them act creepy, such a mediocre mindset. What you have to say has value, because you are valuable. People often want to talk, they're social beings, they thrive off connection and conversation. In that guy's case, he just took the teasing way too far, but he had the experience to realize she was blowing him off. But it's his fault totally that she did… | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 02:07 PM |
| 1 | what DO you talk about?!If I knew what to talk about, it'd feel rehearsed, and awkward. Conversation's an art, it's a means to connect with people, and create amazing emotions where the girl wants to get intimate. There are some brackets of conversation I work to use: Rapport Repartee You need the rapport to help her feel like you know her very well, and to feel connected to you. You need the repartee to communicate you aren't a supplicating little bitch, and girls aren't some kind of goddess to you; e.g. Repartee (M &… | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 12:56 AM |
| 1 | What are some seduction related stereotypes of certain groups of girls?This was fucking gold to me, here's a list if you're too lazy to look up a .pdf The Reformed Rake or Siren The Disappointed Dreamer The Pampered Royal The New Prude The Crushed Star The Novice The Conqueror The Exotic Fetishist The Drama Queen The Professor (I'm this one to a degree) The Beauty The Aging Baby The Rescuer The Roue The Idol Worshipper The Sensualist (Sorta this one, too) The Lonely Leader The Floating Gender (This is mostly me) But for general stereotypes, from talking to literall… | /r/seduction | 29/09/14 12:25 AM |
| 1 | How to get her if she you have her, but she doesn't want a relationship?Your first mistake, only talking to one girl. You start to project idealized fantasies on her and value her way too highly and pedestalize her, ignoring other girls who like you. It's hard to tell you, but HS is not your life, it's like 1/20 of it. Just realize there is a whole world of people you can interact with, everyone out there wants to be your friend if you're the right person. When you look back on HS, there's really only a few girls that were worth it anyway, and that's why so many guy… | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 11:54 PM |
| 1 | Someone needs to say itIt really does, sometimes things I say here get called creepy, and I'm just laughing to myself. I check back here sometimes, but I'm un-subbed because of the paranoid teenagers with super ego protection. Look, if a girl likes you (BELIEVE IT OR NOT GIRLS LIKE YOU IF YOU'RE ATTRACTIVE TO THEM), you can get away with saying things you guys think are "creepy". Creepy is what some guys do, maybe even you guys who think my comments are creepy: Keep talking to girls, about random shit, and never ever … | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 11:35 PM |
| 1 | How to go on first date without Car (girl lives 20 min away)If she drives, she can always pick you up. Just more investment from her end, if she usually doesn't do that, she'll reason she really likes you, resulting in an easier close. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 11:31 PM |
| 1 | Where can I meet women that don't want to hookup?Let's start off with meeting them not at night. Usually lots of girls that are main chick material are out during the day, because every beautiful girl has to get food, walk to the store, or shop for clothes. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 11:30 PM |
| 2 | How to "make your interest known"?1) Insinuate things in her mind, plant little seeds that make her think you're interested, but not for sure; e.g. I told a girl I work with that's mad cute, "You're mad cool to work with", the next day she was noticeably flirting with me. When a girl mentions going somewhere with me, I'll tease her, like "Woah, now you're asking me on a date?", usually evolves into me actually proposing one in the near future. 2) Admire her beauty like a nice painting; e.g. Make calm, objective statements about … | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 11:28 PM |
| 1 | [Rant] Someone once told me that starting off F closing more unattractive women will help me gain experience. All I feel is regret after trying this.I think you misunderstood lowering your standards. It doesn't mean you stop going for pretty girls, it just means you go for pretty girls, and you go for cute girls and "just okay" girls. Because of that, you draw from a broader pool of options, and then you accumulate experience much faster. Ultimately, you end up better able to get the women you really want, because now you have the skills, confidence, and process, because you've already done it a ton. But honestly, don't go for the mountain t… | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 11:17 PM |
| 1 | Take THIS Challenge with me!Checking in 9 days later with one date, three numbers, will provide more info next week. :) P.S. I can just ask for a number/day, but I'd rather get dates than numbers, so I ask for dates then they give me their number. Stupid to ask for her number, she has no idea what you're going to do, if you're one of those guys who wants to text all day/night, or just want to meet up. | /r/seduction | 28/09/14 09:17 PM |
| 1 | What reasons do you guys use to bring a girl back to your room/house? And no, I don't play an instrument unfortunately.http://stream1.gifsoup.com/view6/2604110/omar-little-smirk-shrug-o.gif I'm actually 47, and I've had sex with this one prostitute one night on my 21st, after that, I've been stuck in the basement on Reddit. Obviously kidding, but I must have forgot to assume all of you guys are pretty socially inept teenagers, and I didn't describe all of the rapport building and attraction in the interaction prior to the invitation home, which was completely calibrated. If you think I do this with any girl, you… | /r/seduction | 27/09/14 12:19 PM |
| 2 | what college classes have the most girls?Psychology, photography, writing. Math & Science classes are horrible, I took Calculus I for my major and saw one girl that was even worth looking at. For some anecdotal evidence that those classes are horrible ;) | /r/seduction | 26/09/14 04:06 PM |
| 1 | State of Flow - a comprehensive guide on being in-stateWorked through this whole article, in a sitting, pretty intellectual with the language, lots of words that seemed kind of superfluous... Anyways, I could connect that to some of my best periods of time in the game, I went through periods of weeks in that state. Pretty much unstoppable, AA is a joke, talking to multiple girls at once, scheduling multiple dates, crazy. Compared to one I was just in, where I was kind of on maintenance, just casually hitting up girls or flirting with girls I knew. N… | /r/seduction | 26/09/14 02:09 AM |
| 1 | [FR] Handling Disruptive GuysIn my scenario I wasn't even interacting with the first girl, she just literally brought me up in a conversation with that guy, that I didn't even remember her until they told me. If the latter situation you just gave me was hypothetical, if you're more experienced than him, and your fundamentals are very tight here's what I'd do: Just sit there, with a bored look on your face, the girl will usually come back to you if she's made you part of her "group" and you've made any sort of decent connect… | /r/seduction | 20/09/14 04:44 PM |
| 2 | The more I do pickup, the more I find "there are plenty of fish in the sea" is bullshitAre you under 20, haven't traveled much in your whole life, and have been inside a single city that probably has less than 100000 people in it? Wait a little bit, you can cry to pass the time, but I can't describe to you how many beautiful women there are, you probably see 150/d in the right places. On the other hand, look at yourself, you are the fucking problem, it's all in your head, you have a brilliant seducer inside of you, but if you don't want to unlock him, don't, all the more women for… | /r/seduction | 19/09/14 12:52 AM |
| 2 | Take THIS Challenge with me!Bookmarked, you guys better not disappoint me ;) It's on with me too. But remember, don't go at her and ask for her number, set a meet and get her number to coordinate it, simplify, simplify, simplify. Don't over think your approach and just flow with her and let the electricity flow. On the other hand, I've had my fair share of fake numbers, no fun, have learned to test that bitch on location! | /r/seduction | 19/09/14 12:26 AM |
| 1 | How can I actually get myself to go talk to her?That's terrible, and will quite frankly get a "I'll let you know" Let's start from going up to her: Just pull the trigger, say Hi then give her a genuine compliment e.g. "You're kinda cute tonight, and I wanted to come talk to you, I'm Alex" if she doesn't know you, introduce yourself, act like you don't know her, ask for her name, too. Be sexy, vibe with her a little, touch, be close, just flow, tell her you want to get to know her over a coffee, and ask when she's free when she's laughing, enj… | /r/seduction | 18/09/14 10:36 PM |
| 3 | I'm sick of my Approach AnxietyYou can't let your brain focus on being nervous when you're approaching, the more you tell yourself approach her you nervous piece of shit. Your brain will just keep gaining inertia and keep finding stupid ways to get nervous, (e.g. "is my fly undone"): For that little concern, let me tell you this, my fly was undone when I approached a girl, she told me, and I give her a sexy smile and ask "Really?" then she asks me if I want her number, true shit. Anyways, your brain will not break off of nerv… | /r/seduction | 18/09/14 10:24 PM |
| 0 | Need a tad bit of advice (Or slap to get me out of this)On paying: If you split the bill or make her pay, it's higher risk but increased attraction. If you pay for her, it's lower risk and neutral attraction. Honestly, if it's just drinks, that's kind of socially unadept to split the bill, what is it... $10? | /r/seduction | 12/09/14 01:01 AM |
| 3 | Fear of being SEEN alone in social situations. How do I fix this?I used to worry about awkward silences, but they're the rhythm of a conversation, honestly. Just sit there and hold eye contact and give her a sexy smile, give her a compliment, something about her smile, her past, story, etc. I said this last night during an awkward silence: "I feel like there's more about you that you're hiding, do you think I'll judge you if you tell me?" nod "Yeah, my view of you is changing, you're starting to really get interesting..." Then she opened up to me about someth… | /r/seduction | 11/09/14 05:33 PM |
| 1 | How do you flirt and tease, and what are signs the girl is flirting and teasing as well.That mindset is sort of bad if you're looking to date her, because you know, you sort of have to have sex with her. Girls love sex, it just needs to be with the right guy and their objections have to be addressed. I get some subtle objections regarding me slut shaming girls, I just say guys who do that are just jealous and aren't good with girls or something like that. Or something for LMR like without moving this quickly we can't experience what we are right now. On the date you want to be chil… | /r/seduction | 09/09/14 04:22 PM |
| 2 | changed approach, instant positive response. blows my mind.I disagree so much with this, I'd rather take the high energy route in messages, seeing a smile triggers mirror neurons in your brain to mirror the emotion. It doesn't matter if it's digital or not. :), ;) are good. :D, :P, :S, :/ are too much; esp. :D, it looks like a 12y/o sent it. Emojii's or w/e the fuck they are called are OK if you're a teenager, once you hit 20+ it is pretty childish since you know, you're kind of a man. | /r/seduction | 09/09/14 04:11 PM |
| 1 | changed approach, instant positive response. blows my mind.Not trying to shoot your ship down, dude, but you kind of messaged her on FB at 3am, she's probably asleep. And that response back the next to day when you messaged her at a reasonable time seemed pretty flaky. I'd handle her pretty skeptically if she said that, looks like a flake. Try sending something like this: Hey Savanna! Hope [insert rapport building her, e.g. your weekend went great, you did great on your test, your week's off to a good start]! Why don't we do [location] at 7PM Friday, we… | /r/seduction | 09/09/14 03:44 PM |
| 1 | PSA: Women are complicatedNah, you only understand them as much to look at them as so. Women are a reflection of yourself, they become more beautiful as you grow. | /r/seduction | 08/09/14 04:12 PM |
| 1 | Does anyone else find themselves constantly comparing themselves to the other guys in the room? How do I stop doing this?Last part is so true, I find myself doing that all the time! Anyways yeah, just be present and value giving, genuinely want to learn about the girls and appreciate their beauty. Quit worrying about other men, I'm good looking, but it's not like I can grab any girl I want, I still get shit on by guys who just make the move and take her to bed faster. I've had this happen a few times with girls that were pretty much my main chick in the past, and I honestly just didn't move fast enough. | /r/seduction | 08/09/14 04:34 AM |
| 1 | Was anybody else completely baffled by the lack of competition when you started going to bars and clubs?You found a good venue, stick to that in your rotation every week. It's like that in day game, I've probably seen two approaches outside of mine in all the time I've done it. Anyways, it depends on a lot of things, where the bar/club was, what time it was, what day it was, etc. I know a few hot girls that I'm not that attracted to since I'm around them so much. But they've told me countless stories of 15-20 guys in a single night coming up to them in a venue. But they usually go out when most pe… | /r/seduction | 08/09/14 04:27 AM |
| 1 | How do you flirt and tease, and what are signs the girl is flirting and teasing as well.You shouldn't really depend on her reactions, flirting with girls isn't like how most guys look at it, though. Let's do this, tell her "You've gotten to be really interesting lately" in person, in a sexy way, relaxed. Then start to make sexual/chase frames out of things you say during conversation. Be physical, touch her, give her sexual compliments, (e.g. Your legs look really sexy in those shorts/jeans, The way you wore your hair today is so seductive, etc.) Do you hang out with her alone, at … | /r/seduction | 07/09/14 11:20 PM |
| 16 | PSA: I overheard a guy on his first date ask the girl "Hey, do you think my armpit hair is weird? Here, touch it. It's super soft. Weird right?!" DO NOT DO THIS.I thought that was the only way to kino escalate? Honestly, with the right frame this could be possible, but for any beginners (e.g. 75% of this Reddit or more), never do this shit. | /r/seduction | 06/08/14 04:05 AM |
| 5 | ConsistencyYour emotional state doesn't have a very strong foundation, what I'd consider "state" is your vibe (consisting of confidence, warmness) and your ability to control your emotions. Don't base all of your confidence on the approval of women (or people for that matter). Build it from within, improve yourself, look at everything as a lesson, not a failure you pine over and depress yourself. You must maintain your process and remain accountable, even when things get hard (and holy shit do they). So ma… | /r/seduction | 06/08/14 03:56 AM |
| 1 | Lets get this one sorted once and for all: When is it appropriate to greet a girl with a Hug, Kiss on the cheek, or handshake?It all comes down to social calibration, you develop enough reference points to ascertain whether any of those is "socially appropriate". There are literally millions of factors whether I would kiss, hug, or hand shake with a girl upon greeting her. For the most part I don't do any of that shit, handshakes seem platonic and business like. Kissing and hugging I wouldn't really consider something I'd use a lot in day game, which is what I usually practice, and get results with. Here's what I'd do,… | /r/seduction | 06/08/14 03:31 AM |
| 4 | Guys whats your texting game like? Because sometimes you'd rather text than talk.Why do you want to text rather than talk? Genuinely answer that question, without some bullshit about not wanting to meet a stranger. You cannot invoke emotions in a woman that prime her for intimacy when you aren't even near her for intimacy... Does that logically make sense? A man who knows how to build emotions in a woman and lead her to intimacy in person will always be more efficient (in the sense of success with women) comparably. If a man meets that woman you met online, and does what was… | /r/seduction | 06/08/14 03:19 AM |
| 2 | What does /r/seduction think of /r/nofap?If you reject sex to the point of avoiding any provocative material, how the fuck are you going to be horny enough to take a girl back home and have sex? I think it's more of a porn addiction recovery phenomena rather than a how-to-get-girls support group. | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 08:24 PM |
| 1 | Do most women just wait for a guy to show interest?You're the man, you are the leader, you move things forward. She is the follower, she is submissive. The thing equivalent of a man not reciprocating interest (e.g. asking a girl out, then escalating to the point of sex) when she is interested, is a girl flaking on you or rejecting you. | /r/seduction | 03/08/14 08:22 PM |
| 1 | What to do about your toxic relationship - When was the last time you smiled about your relationship...and not during sex? *PODCAST Link*Next! No need to contemplate such a simple solution; the fact you're doing so already demonstrates you are in scarcity. ;) | /r/seduction | 02/08/14 01:13 PM |
| 1 | My height (6'4") feels like more of a burden than a blessing.Height gives you a lot of dominance physiologically, if you think you're in the way of people, then that's a self esteem issue, or maybe a confidence issue. My first thought about these is, you shouldn't have to worry about these, you naturally gain them after you are successful with whatever you're pursuing. But maybe since you're paranoid like that you should start to study about improving them. On a side not: There are probably thousands of guys that would give anything to be over 6', I'm 6'3… | /r/seduction | 02/08/14 01:12 PM |
| 13 | How can I make my eye contact more inviting?Give an inviting smile, if you are congruent with your warmness she will likely smile back, this is where you approach. | /r/seduction | 02/08/14 01:03 PM |
| -6 | drawing the line of whose off limitsNo girl is off limits, none. If she is attractive to you, she is all yours. I'm not usually looking for a girlfriend with girls, so I couldn't care less if she has a boyfriend. I usually won't flirt with my friends' girlfriends in front of them, but if she is being receptive and wants to go on a date -- she knows what she's doing. If you value your friends more than me, because I'm not very emotionally attached to anyone in my life, you can say they're off limits, though. | /r/seduction | 25/07/14 12:20 PM |
| -2 | What to do when women walk off during dates?She's playing a crude social game with you of turning her back, just sit there and look distracted and bored, even when she comes back, she will be chasing for your attention. | /r/seduction | 25/07/14 12:17 PM |
| 2 | Great openerWhere does the interaction go, after that? You get her name, she says nice to meet you, then what? I guarantee you have girls ejecting after they tell you nice meeting you, in early banter, I will nearly never talk about me, they won't really know my name unless they ask for it, I keep all the threads about them. Girls are so much more receptive if you're natural about your openers and they are never the same, it feels more genuine to you, and not like a routine (if going up to girls, telling th… | /r/seduction | 25/07/14 12:19 AM |
| 1 | Random "hey" texts messages girls you're pursuing. What do they mean and how do you approach them?She's probably validation seeking, if she doesn't have a guy constantly texting her sense of self assurance flies out the window. If she texts me hey, I would simply respond, and ask them on a date, otherwise, I'd ignore it. This is from a girl I met awhile ago that did this (she was only 17 at the time, I was 19): her yayayay I'm off work!!! :) me that's great, hope you enjoyed talking again :), Sunday's looking good, right? her I suuureee did! And I'll let you know I'm not sure if family needs… | /r/seduction | 25/07/14 12:02 AM |
| 2 | PSA: Don't pursue your friends! (or 'The Post I Wish I Could Have Read A Week Ago')I feel like you should read this, even though I'm more into being a Casanova than an AFC who wants to get a little better to get girls in my social circle You honestly shouldn't have let her make you her friend if you thought she was sex worthy. Why did you keep getting to know her for years, and never do anything to move things forward? It is so important to do so in a timely manner, when you are slow with girls, their attraction goes away, and your interaction dies, and loses all chances of in… | /r/seduction | 24/07/14 11:46 PM |
| 2 | Mini-[FR]: Hitting on the girl that's taking my bloodwork... for an STD.It's easy to let things that seem inappropriate become an insurmountable obstacle. But more often than not when you think about the situation later, there was really nothing to be worried about. Try to refrain from letting your mind being its own roadblock. I like that, I need to work on this myself in the field, something breaks my frame and it takes a few minutes to get back in the right state and bring the right vibes again. You have it right that it's the man's responsibility to lead a woman… | /r/seduction | 24/07/14 11:18 PM |
| 1 | Except for having confidence, decent looks, being funny and not being poor, what else should a guy have/know to improve his chances with beautiful girls/women ?What do girls look for, what is attraction? Here are a few things: Socially savvy, talented at conversation; e.g. not creepy Self assurance, confidence; e.g. certainty with women Independence; e.g. you aren't living off your parents with no income Sexiness, warmth; an elegant personality that's attractive enough and mysterious enough to make you want to chase Purpose in life, you have goals, you are motivated; e.g. edginess you aren't some pothead fat fuck who lays around and does jack for life … | /r/seduction | 22/07/14 08:04 PM |
| 1 | Except for having confidence, decent looks, being funny and not being poor, what else should a guy have/know to improve his chances with beautiful girls/women ?You may think beautiful is the personality, but you're talking to a lot of guys 18-25, which have access to the prime crop of very beautiful women. Maybe we'll be the same way then, but for now, what guys look for first is always physical beauty -- if they don't screen through our other qualification with personality, we won't bring it further. Still, I talk to plenty of overweight or average girls with fantastic social intuition and are fascinating to talk to. But I'm not that sexually interest… | /r/seduction | 22/07/14 07:57 PM |
| 2 | how do you guys handle this situation?Something it took me awhile to realize, and helps me now not to be bitter: If you think you're the only guy that girl is dating or talking to, especially if she's very attractive, you're dead wrong. An average girl probably has as many suitors or guys chasing them as a fairly accomplished attractive man that women chase. I had this happen with a girl who was obviously attracted to me, I reciprocated a bit and got to know her for a few minutes, didn't get her number or anything because she's hone… | /r/seduction | 22/07/14 07:52 PM |
| 1 | A Insightful Q&A With Two Young Females (Signs She Likes You)I feel like this is detrimental to the advancement of a seducer. The more you rely on these reactions, the more needy you are for them to move things forward. When otherwise, girls who are cold will come home and be lovers more often than not -- just the same as the one who was flirting. The thing is, the one that was flirting a ton, could have been doing it for enjoyment, and she isn't interested in sex. | /r/seduction | 22/07/14 07:46 PM |
| 2 | How to get over feeling like you have no value?You're just looking at things with a negative outlook, if a woman is initially asking you your body count, and partners, you should have invited her home if you were attracted. The fact you count on body count and relationship count for validation is a problem, all that matters is that you are working on improving yourself, something the majority of society doesn't do. A girl I met called me a virgin, I just smiled at her, and shrugged like I didn't care, because I really don't knowing that it i… | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 04:56 PM |
| 2 | Two years of daygame in NYC with no results.As much as you want to think you're just not cut out for this, this is a token post that's always talked about: Some guy giving up when he's gotten no results, maybe you weren't cut out for this, maybe your motivation is too low If you want to procreate e.g. get laid as we call it, you need to be worth fucking to girls; right now that isn't the case You think any great successes came with no failure, no, some people stack rejection for years on end until they finally find a process that works. I… | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 04:41 PM |
| 3 | I'm tired of girls telling me I'm too, "goofy". How do you get rid of this appearance?Most guys scan their environment because either: They are insecure with themselves, and looking for threats They are looking for girls to talk to Women pick up on this, I even do, it's creepy, and not sexy. Never focus your gaze on anyone unless you are going to interact with them. If you make eye contact with a bunch of girls, and quickly glance away, that's not sexy, that's insecure. If you make eye contact with one you're about to approach, smile, and make your way over cleverly; e.g. in a st… | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 04:36 PM |
| 3 | I'm tired of girls telling me I'm too, "goofy". How do you get rid of this appearance?Pause, look at them for a few seconds -- most people hear what you say, they just didn't process it all instantly. If they really didn't hear you, they will let you know, it might feel awkward, but it demonstrates you're highly socially calibrated, and any man that holds an exceptional social intuition to women is attractive. | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 04:30 PM |
| 1 | (Request) a post on understanding a womans intentionsYou have a problem in your world view: You think women are going to hint at you they want to move things further, no, you're a man, presumably, and you are the leader, she isn't a leader. Think biologically, women are passive and men are the leaders, women submit. Lead her into an interaction, run through your process, and close things out. It's so simple, reactions don't mean shit (laughing, open body language), it's the results you get (sex, dates, relationships). Maybe reactions will make a b… | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 04:27 PM |
| 1 | what does it mean when she doesn't text back?It means you're going to get a new girl's number on the premise of a date, and text that one. Rinse, repeat. Quit over complicating things, next her. | /r/seduction | 21/07/14 04:22 PM |
| 2 | [FR] Does AA ever creep up on you after you thought you conquered it?Yeah, I know that mentality, it's the same with weightlifting, if you get under 315# to squat and know you won't own the shit out of it, and go -- you will back down. It's just that much more frustrating to me that I knew all of those maxims and mentalities and it still smacked me across the face. Thanks for the input, maybe I need to accentuate this maxim of acting before your brain stops you more. | /r/seduction | 20/07/14 06:33 PM |
| 27 | I'm tired of girls telling me I'm too, "goofy". How do you get rid of this appearance?You take on an entertaining and fun vibe way too much, I used to be one of the funniest guys ever in HS. I still get complimented on my sense of humor, I gets lots of "You're funny!" "Oh, the humor..." I feel like bantering is very important in moving onto the connecting stage of the interaction, where you move on a high point to get her number for a day two. Or when you are having an emotionally charged conversation and you feel like there needs to be some relief from the sensitive topics you'r… | /r/seduction | 20/07/14 05:28 PM |
| 1 | [FR] a less than ideal first dateThat arcade was a horrible date idea, you should have replaced that with going back to your house. Your process needs some work, you need to follow something like this: Meet her somewhere, preferably a chill venue Have an emotionally charged conversation, get to her roots of who she is, this girl was social circle, so it should have been easy, ask some pointed questions and dig deep, relate Invite her home with you, persist with insistence, push, force decisions; she will rarely ever outright ag… | /r/seduction | 20/07/14 05:19 PM |
| 2 | Tell me what I'm doing wrongSomething is wrong with you if girls are being that unreceptive, it's hard to pinpoint because you haven't really given us any information detailing interactions. There are so many social nuances and vibes you probably give off that turns off girls; you could be creepy to them... you could be needy, I can't really tell. This is where you read and pinpoint those things wrong and fix them. If you tell any girl your background you first meet, chances are she will not give any shit, unless she can r… | /r/seduction | 19/07/14 04:22 PM |
| 1 | Having trouble closing the number? Don't underestimate the power of Snapchat.You're basically telling me to get her number along the premise of sending each other pictures. You are hiding your dick while asking for her number, never do that. Just ask her when she's free, set up a meet later, and ask for her number to coordinate -- simple. | /r/seduction | 19/07/14 03:58 PM |
| 2 | How to get over your first game success (oneitis)You honestly fucked yourself by not having any options, always be approaching, even in a LTR. Do you think men will randomly stop talking to your girlfriend when she's in a relationship? -- You know the answer! | /r/seduction | 16/07/14 01:45 AM |
| 1 | Sleep and getting in stateIt'll usually take me about three hours of having conversations to have enough momentum to come off confident and attractive to most girls. I usually am out for about six or seven hours, not same venue. I noticed this week when I stayed up all night, it took me so long to get good results from approaches, I probably got blown out four times before I started to hit hook points, and those rejections fucked with my confidence a lot more than they usually would if I wasn't sleep deprived! It's all i… | /r/seduction | 16/07/14 01:41 AM |
| 3 | How do you handle it if the girl says "can my friend come?"Tell her no, why would she want to bring her friend in the first place if she had the same intentions as you? Next. You went wrong somewhere in your interaction, hard to determine with no details. | /r/seduction | 13/07/14 09:56 PM |
| 1 | Move fast!They were attracted enough to give me their numbers, and go on dates with me? Why judge a situation you know nothing about? | /r/seduction | 11/07/14 01:56 AM |
| 0 | For the first time, I'm starting to get some serious momentum with multiple women, how to keep my options open without coming off as a 'player'?I've fallen into this too, I'm just really playful with anything with girls calling me a player or some shit. If she's asking you those kinds of questions she's genuinely interested, just be playful with it and if you aren't awkward with the reply she will feed off that charismatic energy you used to make her inquiry playful. | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 11:54 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Frozen Yoghurt with HB8It's nice you two have chemistry and she's defining a relationship with you, but you're honestly turning into a boyfriend and not her lover. If that's what you want it's honestly whatever, but if you go into early boyfriend, she will slam the shit out of her brakes to go to intimacy with you. | /r/seduction | 06/07/14 11:47 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Fuck moviesThat is a good mindset to pretend, but there's a difference in chasing and just casually persisting in a very cool non needy way. In no way is her ignorance insulting, I'm too occupied with two other girls to cry to her about ignoring me. | /r/seduction | 02/07/14 04:07 AM |
| 1 | [FR] I set up a firm date and got the number, have not gotten a reply back yetDude you did so well, that was just an icebreaker text, she doesn't need to fucking reply to it. Just confirm for the date tomorrow and know you'll kill it. If your text is needing information like how her weekend has went or something and she doesn't reply she lost interest somehow, or is trying not to seem thirsty, in some cases where a girl invested a lot and you don't, she may feel like you aren't into her and won't respond and go cold, I think the only way to bring her out of this is to cha… | /r/seduction | 01/07/14 04:51 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Fuck moviesI don't think you know the ulterior motives behind planning a date here, if it's not conducive to seduction (not convenient, cheap, or conversational) then it's not really a great date. No idea why you're being a white knight though, because I'm pretty sure deep down you want the same thing as me from girls. | /r/seduction | 01/07/14 04:37 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Fuck moviesI think we got a chance to build some rapport in the car, it was just that it was so fucking late after that my brain was having a hard time handling conversation threading and I wasn't doing so well. I'd like to get to know the girl before I make out with her or fuck to be honest, especially if she isn't a bombshell. And yeah, inviting her inside was another thing I should have done, and didn't even have go through my head at 4AM. Either way, if I want another chance I'll need to chase a tad si… | /r/seduction | 01/07/14 04:30 PM |
| 1 | [FR] Fuck moviesTo me, it's hard to completely get burnt by a girl, if I do, I like being rejected harshly so I can take the initiative to cut her off. I'm confident I can save this because I can truly go deep under anyone's skin and build a great connection. I have options, so I'm not crying to her that she won't go on another date, I'm probably not going to call her until my date with this other girl passes. Even then, it will just be about telling her that we didn't have a chance to talk, not crying over a p… | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 06:04 PM |
| 1 | Is loss of interest normal?I feel like you haven't found a girl yet that resonates with you, even though it sounds main stream, there are girls who just connect with you more easily and better than all the other ones. I have the same thing, I go on one or two dates with a girl and sometimes don't bother going on another, but sometimes, probably twice in the last year, I've wanted a relationship with a girl. I feel like a girl when I need to reject a girl who wants to keep seeing me. :/ | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 03:36 PM |
| 2 | 14 Habits Of Extremely Likable PeopleI think you can condense that into give things a charismatic man is, while that list is cute, it doesn't really express a main theme: Be convinced of what you're doing and rid yourself of self doubt Treat everyone like they're your best friend Don't worry about what people think about you or your beliefs Be able to speak to a variety of people about a variety of topics and more importantly relate and connect with them Have strong opinions, know what you want, but don't give too much attention to… | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 03:33 PM |
| 2 | First approach in years... Nothing bad happenedGreat job... Just keep approaching and you'll get addicted to conquering that hesitation you feel when you see a pretty girl you want to talk to. A tip for getting her number, don't act like it's a big deal, just pull your phone out, and hand it to her to put her number in and tell her you have to go. Or get it on a high point, tell her you enjoy talking to her, and want to do it some other time, and would like to hit her up later to meet up. e.g. Yesterday, a girl was showing me some pictures o… | /r/seduction | 30/06/14 03:25 PM |
| 1 | I'm a male virgin (28) and I'm only attracted to women out of my leagueLeagues don't fucking exist Level your fundamentals up The game it takes to get a model while you're some moderately attractive to below average man is pretty much irrational. If you want a model you're going to have to probably be among these things below, because the more attractive you become (man or woman) you get more options, this makes you so much more pickier, conservative, and cautious with men and women: Fit, physically attractive Masculine Educated, a few years older than them Higher … | /r/seduction | 23/06/14 03:58 PM |
| 2 | Need alcohol before you head out to be confident? Here's my tip.I like to think of guys who drink alcohol before going out and intending to meet women as men who are pussies, that motivates me to not be a pussy and approach sober. Or as men who are too lazy to work on their psychology and improve themselves to a point of approaching women sober. If you're awkward, you're thinking that yourself, then you project that subconsciously onto anyone you talk to, ruining your certainty, which is fatal to any interaction with a girl who's at least cute. | /r/seduction | 19/06/14 08:06 PM |
| -7 | What style do you think gets better results with younger girls (under 25)20, been at this a year, really attractive, so girls weren't ever "hard" - I decided to learn how to get the girls I deserve. (the stunners, not the cute ones) I don't know why this was down voted, are people just jealous I'm that confident in my attractiveness to women? | /r/seduction | 19/06/14 07:59 PM |
| 0 | What style do you think gets better results with younger girls (under 25)That brings a good point, given you aren't fucking with me! ;) I think not being on any of the extremes and just finding a happy medium is a great vibe. | /r/seduction | 19/06/14 07:56 PM |
| 2 | Im getting 'teased' for trying to learn?Because this guy has a harem of VS models? Look at the people laughing at you, who are they? Probably nothing compared to what you're learning to be. Ignore it. They're just jealous and wish they had the integrity to do this, I got made fun of until I was successful. Then everyone keeps asking man you need to give me a few tips on girls, and I just smile at them and don't give away anything. | /r/seduction | 19/06/14 05:48 PM |
| -1 | How to Talk to a Beautiful WomanHot girls are just normal people like you, the whole concept of talking to these girls labeled "hot" or "beautiful" is to not put them on pedestals. You talk to them like regular people, hit on their insecurities to knock her off her throne from all the needy bitches supplicating. To add on, be congruent with your intentions, feel entitled to talk to her, be playful with her, learn about her, and keep it brief, and for the love of god CLOSE HER! Beautiful girls are everywhere, it's easier to sed… | /r/seduction | 16/06/14 05:12 PM |
| 1 | How do I respond to a girl admitting she's flaky?That's not even flaky, she's apologizing, trying to reschedule, and admitting she's flaky. Flaky is not showing up then when you text her she says I was busy, then you try again and she says I'm so busy, this is when you cut her off. | /r/seduction | 16/06/14 05:04 PM |
| 1 | Personality trumps appearance, by a lot.All that shitty hotness scale does is place those girls on pedestals, you think you'd ever talk to a 10 and make jack shit of it if you knew she was a 10 when you approached her? If you pull 10's then you don't use that scale in field, guarantee you. If you do, don't use it and tell me how things go when you don't. | /r/seduction | 16/06/14 02:51 PM |
| 1 | What should I focus on first?You don't always have to be in field, I sometimes take time to close myself off from all the girls and develop my life some more into one with higher quality for me. Like making more money, catching up on classes, etc Just make sure you open a few girls a week, or you'll be like a hard case virgin next time you talk to girls and try to do anything along the lines of moving things forward. | /r/seduction | 16/06/14 02:45 PM |
| 1 | Have you ever given a girl your number, instead of asking for hers?lower chance of rejection Who cares if you get rejected? It's her loss Anyway, I've given my number to a girl once, but I texted my number with her phone immediately, I'm not going to wait around for some girl out of the ten I just got numbers from to text me. | /r/seduction | 16/06/14 04:03 AM |
| 1 | I'm 18, how do I become/act more like a man and less of a boy?There are shit loads, you just have to look, this stuff is generally well kept from most people partly because they don't care enough to improve themselves to this degree, or partly because they reject it as immoral to themselves. | /r/seduction | 02/06/14 02:28 AM |
| 1 | I'm 18, how do I become/act more like a man and less of a boy?delivering hot kino haha Don't take this on like a job, and keep approaching, you're a beginner, you're having trouble closing, practice with other girls. When you're disappointed in fucking up, it's not because she doesn't like you, it's because you came off wrong. This game isn't a forgiving one! Right now is when you should be making really fucked up mistakes, because you can recover easily! This is how you gain experience and develop a lot of wisdom, I'm 20 right now, and I've been doing thi… | /r/seduction | 02/06/14 02:20 AM |
| 1 | Text game in relationshipsFemale attraction is a hard concept for many guys, it's not about looking good or having money. The second you turn into a needy bitch and text her all day, that attraction wanes exponentially. Keep texting to a minimum outside of arranging meet ups, if you need to text her, use it to rebuild a little rapport, like how her weekend was, and asking her how something went she told you about. Those things are attractive, not detailing your whole fucking life to her. Just think how much you invest in… | /r/seduction | 29/05/14 11:41 PM |
| 1 | How can I stop getting boners when talking to girls?So true, embrace the fucking feeling, there's obviously a reason for it, act aroused like your body is! | /r/seduction | 29/05/14 11:35 PM |
| 1 | After lots of personal changes, am I "resetting" the girls around me?Yes, it's very true. *Girls I've went to high school, even guys, say "Wow, you changed" I ask, "Is that good" All the time, know what they say? "Yes" ;) | /r/seduction | 29/05/14 11:33 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First approach and a few questions. Where did I go wrong?This gets even more apparent for more and more high quality girls, in beauty, social status, etc It's very easy to go into scarcity with great girls, I met one and knowing what I know still struggled to maintain abundance. | /r/seduction | 28/05/14 02:44 PM |
| 4 | How to expand your social circle to include more girls?A caveat though, if you had feelings for said hot girl and you submitted to her by being friends, it's not as effective as actually friend zoning a hot girl who has more potential as a friend than lover. | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 09:07 PM |
| 1 | [FR] First approach and a few questions. Where did I go wrong?Any girl who says she's busy is playing games or isn't into you. This is a fact, I've had girls working 40h a week meet me the next day that really liked me. Next this girl, don't project her as any better than other girls, ok she is pretty, but there are legions of even prettier ones homie. | /r/seduction | 27/05/14 02:43 AM |
| 1 | How do you cross the line between professionalism and personal relationship with a co-worker?This just screams scarcity, go out and pick up girls, not try to move things forward with one who probably was initially attracted but lost attraction since you didn't move fast enough. But if you want to move things forward with her, get her on a date, get intimate, and once she does that with you, she rationalizes that she must like you enough to be in a relationship. | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 05:10 PM |
| 1 | How to deal with 'Alpha' and 'forward' girls? Always feel like I'm being looked down on.Assume attraction, this is just lack of confidence that you're projecting a woman as an alpha. | /r/seduction | 26/05/14 04:56 PM |
| 2 | [FR] First approach and a few questions. Where did I go wrong?Your texting game was shit, you just had a cute little endless conversation with her, she was responding woo hoo. But did you even set up a meet? That is your number 1 objective here, not having a conversation because you're too nervous to in person. Because you can't kiss or fuck a girl over a phone, sadly. | /r/seduction | 25/05/14 02:36 PM |
| 1 | Is my approach to girls and dating just wrong?I'm in your same situation, and I've learned being social with girls you'd consider cute leads to acclimating yourself to the girls you'd consider gorgeous. The physique is just a plus to being socially experienced, it's a nice buffer, because most girls love guys with cut physiques and abs, but if you're a complete noob at girls it won't do shit. Like I'm very attractive, tall, cut physique from 3y of lifting/dieting, it catches a girl's eye, but if I'm a dunce at running game with her it's fuc… | /r/seduction | 25/05/14 02:31 PM |
| 1 | Figuring out whether a girl is being flirty/friendly when textingWhat are you going to do if she's flirty in texting? Boost your ego? Go talk to her in person, move things forward and close things out. Girls will willingly text you all day, they love to talk, and want guys who are just friends. | /r/seduction | 14/05/14 06:01 AM |
| 1 | Is day game supposed to be difficult? Also, solo game?Yeah, I mean you can get good at it, it's very good to learn pick up sober. It's a personal challenge and you will be one of the few guys who have the balls to do it. | /r/seduction | 14/05/14 02:43 AM |
| 3 | Is day game supposed to be difficult? Also, solo game?Girls in day game are doing other things, they aren't out to meet men. They usually aren't fucked up the least bit like they are in night game most of the time. Therefore, they are more inhibited and not really into socializing and flirting right away. I actually find it easier solo, my friends always bitch at me for flirting with girls constantly. Day game is harder, but if you're legitimately good at seduction and pick up, you will nail it. And you will get a lot more quality, pretty, educated… | /r/seduction | 14/05/14 02:03 AM |
| 19 | Three tips you would give yourself on your first dateDon't act interested if she's not being interesting Honestly, if you're inexperienced, this is kind of stupid. You want experience talking to girls one on one. When you have experience under your belt there is no reason to give girls a day3 or day4 if they aren't top notch for you. | /r/seduction | 14/05/14 01:58 AM |
| 19 | Three tips you would give yourself on your first dateOn #2, don't stay down on such emotional topics, be playful with her and have some humor. Make getting to know a girl very well and very fast a fun experience, not an interview! | /r/seduction | 13/05/14 08:08 PM |
| 2 | First date in months, not as good as I had hoped.Yeah, asking a girl if you look good is bad, I've done it before. If she's really avoiding any physical contact whatsoever with you, even touching her fucking elbow, what makes you think she'll let you penetrate her? But anyways, you should never go into your major, chances are she didn't even like your fucking major. The way to talk to girls, is find out what they like, and be what they like, be a mirror to them, this is what girls do to AFC. Relating to what a girl really likes and is really p… | /r/seduction | 13/05/14 07:12 PM |
| 2 | Do you think it's "wrong" to hit on women who are working?I've probably gotten three numbers this month from women working, two are dates. It's stupid to not to, if you can break them out of that nice vibe they are just regular people. | /r/seduction | 12/05/14 05:43 AM |
| 1 | Straight out saying "by the end of the date I'll kiss you" takes?No, that spike in her emotions is too sharp -- let her wonder what you're going to do. It's much more attractive that way. Still do it though. ;) | /r/seduction | 10/05/14 12:57 AM |
| 2 | Issue with my size? (Not down there)This is just an insecurity, everyone has them. All you can do is eat more, lift heavy, and in time, you will grow muscle. I used to be a skinny ass motherfucker in HS, but I started lifting and people compliment me often on looking like I work out. That reason where I was skinny as fuck right there, is why I can't stand when a girl's body looks like trash, I honestly don't approach many girls who don't have the bodies of models. I can be missing out, but those are my standards, like it or not. | /r/seduction | 09/05/14 09:05 PM |
| 1 | How can I improve upon all the things I want when there's so many: eye contact, touch, voice etc?Pick 1-2, then move on to the next ones. These are called fundamentals, some basics are: Fashion Hair and facial hair Voice Eye contact Attractive body Fragrance and/or scent Body language (e.g. walk, facial expressions, dominant, confident presence) | /r/seduction | 09/05/14 09:00 PM |
| 1 | What to know for my first first dateCritiquing that dialogue: I like the chase framing, of telling her she was asking you out But remember, the only thing you don't plan is the time, you time it around her, all the other logistics -- you handle Don't think of it as a date, think of it as getting to know a girl you seem to be attracted to, it's honestly just having a nice, deep conversation over some shit to nibble or sip on. And if your game is good enough, through sexual vibe, touching, etc, and you created enough sexual tension,… | /r/seduction | 09/05/14 08:50 PM |
| 4 | Nice Guys, Intent, Neediness & Identity InvestmentBecause when you want people to like you, you come off as catering yourself to other people, and you become outcome dependent when someone like a girl doesn't react well to you. Women are highly socially attuned creatures, they have more innate social ability than most men will have in their lives. Neediness is how high you value a woman, if you value her highly, then it will come off as needy trying to please her, and supplicate to her every need. They will see this. No, complimenting a girl as… | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 09:34 PM |
| 3 | How to find out a girl's schedule without seeming beta?"Hey HB, what's your schedule look like this week?" "Hey HB, what days are you usually free?" You literally answered your own question in the title homie. Being alpha and trying to set a date and time is just putting you in the chase dynamic when she says she's busy, now you need to chase her through her schedule, make sense? | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 12:46 AM |
| 1 | How common are girls giving you their numbers without asking?Or your game is good enough? Honestly just think; if you have some noob whose fundamentals are lacking and who can't have a conversation past Hey, my name is Joe! next to a muscular/lean, tall, dark and handsome man that can dig into your deepest and darkest secrets, desires, dreams, pasts, hopes, and passions, who would you give your number to? I'm straight and I've seen men that look very attractive physically and if I was a girl, I would be mesmerized and would love to have a chance to talk w… | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 12:42 AM |
| 2 | How common are girls giving you their numbers without asking?It's still impressive of you for girls to give you their number without even asking, or bringing it up for that matter. | /r/seduction | 06/05/14 12:31 AM |
| 1 | How to deal with "You know we aren't having sex right?"These are just words, the best way to react is being smooth. The reason this probably happened was because you let your conversation with her fall off, and her logical mind wasn't occupied with something, and it started analyzing what her emotional mind was doing (e.g. going home with you). tip if you ever talk profusely or carry a conversation, never do so unless you're moving a girl to a spot of isolation (e.g. your house) If I made this mistake, I would just respond with a frame of sex, somet… | /r/seduction | 05/05/14 08:02 PM |
| -4 | [FR] My First Week on TinderThis isn't game, go outside and meet girls. | /r/seduction | 03/05/14 01:35 AM |
| -1 | What's the best way to say RSVP when inviting somebody out via text?Well there's your problem. You're asking girls to rock climb and shop with you. Those dates are way too complex and most girls will wake up and say "ehh, I don't feel like rock climbing today" Take her for a coffee or drink, and get to know her. | /r/seduction | 30/04/14 05:17 AM |
| 1 | How I dealt with being dumpedEven though you shouldn't be getting dumped in the first place, because you made the mistake of having oneitis, it is a good idea to really go on a journey of self improvement. That's what I did before I was good at game, when I was "dumped" by oneitis, I studied game and started practicing it. About 1-2 months later my old oneitis is just some girl I look at and say "I eat girls like you for breakfast" compared to the girls I talk to now. She texts me regularly and tries to flirt with me in per… | /r/seduction | 29/04/14 01:35 PM |
| 2 | Don't underestimate the power of "Hi, what's your name"?Really simple, but effective to get you started. But as you become more advanced, you want to be more direct. | /r/seduction | 28/04/14 12:15 PM |
| 0 | Dam OneitisIf you have? Yes. Mine is always She may be rare, but there are legions of other beautiful girls out there You're projecting all this shit onto her, she does have flaws, differentiate idealistic and realistic qualities you give her Never mentally masturbate with your interactions, this is just more investment thinking about her, and killing your game in front of her in the process | /r/seduction | 28/04/14 12:27 AM |
| 3 | How to be less of a 'nice guy'Girls like bad boys because it breaks them away from their daily grind and provides something interesting for them to talk to, you have no idea how many nice guys there are, bad boys are probably 5-10% of the male pop. A good learning process is to see how much you can get away with doing, a few things I've changed from being a nice guy: Rarely ever say sorry or excuse me Don't invest myself into anyone (comply, etc) unless they show me equal investment Don't put very pretty girls I used to neve… | /r/seduction | 27/04/14 01:31 AM |
| 1 | How to get the girl to choose the date?Don't think of dates like some activity you two need to have fun with, and she needs to really enjoy. Think of it as an opportunity to get to really know a girl, deep down, and have an amazing conversation, with attraction building, and move things forward, because she won't, take her home, and close things out. You ask any girl what she wants to do, she will usually just say "I'm not sure" "I don't know" They want you to lead | /r/seduction | 26/04/14 01:20 AM |
| 2 | Tested this online opener and have had great results. The best way I've found to get girls to respond to your first message.Killing me... Text game? Huh? Rating girls? Huh? You have a lot to learn before you go out and open, get dates, and close things out. | /r/seduction | 26/04/14 01:13 AM |
| 1 | [VIDEO] Got the Number? Now What? Important Texting Tips you NEED to knowThe pictures part is interesting, I might give this a try. I do all the other shit, but never heard about pictures. | /r/seduction | 25/04/14 12:04 PM |
| 2 | Don't tell a pretty girl how good she looks in the first couple dates/hang outsYeah, don't underestimate how much attention very pretty girls get, they get tons. If you're just a chill ass guy who isn't intimidated and really treats her like she's not a goddess, she'll dig that more than supplicating her and humping her leg. | /r/seduction | 23/04/14 03:46 PM |
| 1 | How do we view Snapchat friend or enemyDoesn't mean shit if you saw them naked through the phone. They should be next to you. | /r/seduction | 23/04/14 03:44 PM |
| 9 | Do girls start ignoring you just to test you?i'm nervous too Completely wrong You think she'll feel comfortable with a guy who's nervous too? Girls want a suave guy who knows what he's doing. Not some guy breathing heavy and sweating. | /r/seduction | 23/04/14 03:43 PM |
| 5 | Do girls start ignoring you just to test you?You talked every day on what? FB? That really doesn't mean shit. What did your meet up look like? Any intimacy? It could be a reaction to your meet up, if anything tell her you had a nice time chilling with her. You pass it by not giving a fuck about having conversations over text with her, and start meeting her more. And close things out before you're just friends. | /r/seduction | 23/04/14 01:48 PM |
| 1 | Some tips on identifying oneitisThat's just your unconscious, you've consciously moved on, which is what matters. | /r/seduction | 23/04/14 01:39 PM |
| 6 | Popular responses to a girl calling you buddy?You shouldn't over analyze one word. Just fucking do something about it, set up dates, and close things out. Move fast, stop pining over the girl, go get her. And if she doesn't want to go on a date, go find another girl, every girl out there is interesting in her own way, you're just projecting a bunch of bull shit on this girl. If she called me buddy, I wouldn't say jack shit, I'd give her a bored facial expression until she cracks. | /r/seduction | 23/04/14 12:32 PM |
| 2 | [poll] How would you guys feel about a weekly opener/routine challenge?It'd definitely be nice, but it'd be hard to organize. For instance, you could have some dark hardcase beginner go up to a girl and use a line, and run away. What good will that do? And advanced PUA never use routines, so I don't know, I'm on the fence! It sounds fun either way. | /r/seduction | 22/04/14 12:42 PM |
| 4 | Latest chick about to end it.Best way to handle it?You're already in a scarcity mindset with this one girl, if she ends it, you fucked up, learn from it. Find another one. Get her for a meet up and talk in person, not text, or over the phone. All this projecting on this one girl does is hurt you in the long run, really differentiate what is real and what is projected, snap out of it! | /r/seduction | 22/04/14 12:38 PM |
| 3 | Cologne Game?Yes, girls will admit they remember a guy by their smell a lot. I'm wearing Eternity Summer CK right now. Never wear Axe, or I will smack you. | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 01:28 PM |
| 1 | How to Text?Text to meet up, win her over in person. It's easy, don't fall into the endless conversation girls try to create over texting, you won't get anywhere near the bedroom talking through a phone. | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 01:25 PM |
| 2 | Seddit, what's your summarize of seduction in three points?Fundamentals (e.g. sexiness, fashion, voice, walk, eye contact, etc.) Frame control (e.g. getting girls to move, go out on dates, give out their number, etc.) Self reliance, not being needy, being in abundance, never be in scarcity | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 01:23 PM |
| 6 | You just gotta act the part!!!its important to just act like you are the best thing that has ever happened to them Preach it. If you don't act like that you will bomb with the upper echelon of beautiful girls. I've fallen out of that frame and fucked interactions up. | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 01:21 PM |
| 2 | A good way to use a compliment as an opener and not seem like a huge creep.I know it sounds really stupid, but crinkling your nose, giving a warm smile, and squinting after the genuine compliment, not just the "wow I like you dress" bullshit, will usually get a good response. | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 01:17 PM |
| 2 | How do I ask a guy out?I don't think it's a guy you want to have sex with or be with if you need to lead him into going out with you. I would personally just give him a big hint, and let him ask you out, but chances are the date won't be too amazing if he's too shy to lead you into a date with him. But if you really like him! It's whatever! | /r/seduction | 21/04/14 12:08 PM |
| 1 | When you have no other choice but text/messages what's the best thing to do?I'm saying since the girl says "message me" and she replies to each and every message Errr, you're falling into that trap, she is responding to every one of your messages, I've had girls instantly reply or reply in minutes, but I still don't text them about anything other than meeting up. One girl this week said "You aren't that big on texting huh" and I just said "I text, but I'd rather talk to you in person" she likes having full blown conversations and I bet it's with all of those texting bud… | /r/seduction | 17/04/14 10:58 AM |
| -2 | If you could boil down seduction into one sentence what would it be? Here is mine.Every girl has a lock, you can be the key to that lock if you're good enough. | /r/seduction | 17/04/14 10:50 AM |
| 1 | I'm successful with attractive women I don't actually "like". I'm unsuccessful with the ones I'd actually like a relationship with. Help?Your game will turn into shit around girls you actually like and think about regularly, it's just how we are. All you can do is keep meeting women, and when that one girl you "like" more than usual actually falls for you, you can move things forward. But any other time, when she's on the fence, you either need to bed her, or talk to other girls. It's all about staying in the abundance mentality. | /r/seduction | 16/04/14 04:36 PM |
| 2 | [A]lways [B]e [C]losing...but how?!Turn on the news, cover the other couch with shit so she can't sit there, and force yourself to kiss her within ten minutes, it usually leads to more, be: Passionate Aggressive Persistent | /r/seduction | 15/04/14 02:48 AM |
| 8 | "Oneitis" slowly creeping up?I'm getting this too, I think always talking to different girls helps you realize she is just a girl, and it's your idea you're starting to instill upon her that makes you scared to find other girls. But if the girl is falling for you, falling for her back will really provide an experience of romance few relationships ever have because of the baggage everyone carries. But it will only last so long, keep that in mind. My advice? Never talk to just one girl, always talk to and date multiples. If o… | /r/seduction | 15/04/14 02:45 AM |
| 1 | Why girls like guys who don't give a shit about themAnother reason is, you know why the lottery is so addicting? Unpredictable, sporadic rewards. Men who don't give a shit about them show them interest that way, it makes girls addicted to you. | /r/seduction | 13/04/14 01:22 PM |
| 2 | [Question] When, if ever, do you give a follow up message when you were not previously met with a response (two situations, A: when you know they saw the first message and B: when you don't know if they saw the message)I've known them a while That means they've known you awhile, what makes you think your frame of seducing her will break hers of LJBF? And no, if a girl won't give you her number, what makes you think you will be able to have sex or go on a date with her? I mean if you just want to talk, which I doubt, you can do you. | /r/seduction | 12/04/14 03:01 AM |
| 2 | [Question] When, if ever, do you give a follow up message when you were not previously met with a response (two situations, A: when you know they saw the first message and B: when you don't know if they saw the message)What are you messaging her on? And you gave her your number? No... she gives you her number Did you two even have a dialogue? | /r/seduction | 12/04/14 02:33 AM |
| 1 | Difference between Friend and date?You just escalated way too slow, you need to move fast, I don't care what all those girls say. Move slow, you will move slow if you really like me, I need time to decide... etc | /r/seduction | 12/04/14 02:17 AM |
| 2 | [Question] When, if ever, do you give a follow up message when you were not previously met with a response (two situations, A: when you know they saw the first message and B: when you don't know if they saw the message)A: not make it a big deal B: not make it a big deal I don't even know what you sent, what did the message say? | /r/seduction | 12/04/14 02:15 AM |
| 15 | Girl that gave me huge iois, found out she has a bf. Should I still approach?She knows what she's doing, all that matters is the two of you's happiness. So move forward, it's better to not know she has a boyfriend unless she actually brings him up, that's her business, not yours, yours is to seduce her, isn't it deep down? I know I'll get downvoted, but it's the truth, I've had girls in shitty relationships pretty much beg (not literally) for me to fuck them. | /r/seduction | 12/04/14 02:07 AM |
| 0 | What to do if they say no so you don't sound like a douche?The cocky prick part is just being confident. If you know that she is missing out on the best thing, and laugh about it, it works wonderfully. Then approach another girl. | /r/seduction | 11/04/14 05:20 AM |
| 2 | How to Spot Sexual Attraction in Eyes | Body LanguageNever go off IOI completely, just assume attraction. They are sort of a, what you're doing is working signal she is giving you, so you can persist more confidently, and aggressively if the IOI are aggressive. | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 03:03 PM |
| 2 | Some of the worst shit tests you've witnessed?I have a boyfriend is another hard one to pass. Something like, oh, really? Then he can make us cookies. Or, who said I wanted to be your boyfriend really kills it here. Most of the time it's not your answer, though, it's just the fact of knowing what you want and being confident enough to communicate it. Confidence in your abilities to show her you're the best option, and to never crack and hold your frame! | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 03:00 PM |
| 1 | Some of the worst shit tests you've witnessed?I honestly just give her a facial expression that says "I know you want me" and hold it until she cracks, to top it off is probably respond with; 1 You don't know that yet, come sit with me and talk 2 Really? What makes you think that? 3 Let's find out, go in for kiss close 4 This usually means she is amazed how good you are with girls and are single, I usually say something like, are you auditioning? Knowing your the best thing to happen to a girl dominates her a lot when you're in frame encoun… | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 02:56 PM |
| 1 | Does getting a girl's number even mean much? Wouldn't it just be better to simply ask her on a date right then and there?You answered your own question... Yes. You bring up meeting again while on a high point (e.g. laughing, you feel like you two are enjoying talking to each other) and get some contact information. Phone numbers are just a chance they don't mean anything, girls hand them out all the time. | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 01:57 AM |
| 3 | Some of the worst shit tests you've witnessed?This is completely true, I was just curious as to what kinds of shit tests people have seen. Not particularly how to handle them. | /r/seduction | 10/04/14 01:46 AM |
| 1 | An interesting realization I hadYou need to get out of your head. :) Just go up to her and ask her what's good, believe it or not she will not go "get away from me ew" most of the time! If she does, your tone/body language was just off! If it was on point, just laugh to yourself about what she is missing out on. | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 11:57 PM |
| 16 | How to Spot Sexual Attraction in Eyes | Body LanguageDilation is very reliable, if the lighting isn't bad. I had two women with both dilated pupils this past week each break the touch barrier, one pushed me while walking by, and the other hit me from behind (one of the strongest IOI from a woman, they will never break it unless they are extremely comfortable with you. e.g. open to sex) | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 11:51 PM |
| 2 | How can you seduce someone into kissing you?This has scarcity written all over it... You asked for a relationship before even being intimate? I don't know if you're young, but that is pretty bad if you aren't. If you are young, (which I hope you aren't reading a fucking seduction forum), you would basically slow down the conversation when you're close to her, keep triangle gazing, and brush her hair away from her eyes, go in, and kiss. Easy. If she resists, just go back to conversing (hard to do if you aren't experienced), like nothing we… | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 11:43 PM |
| 1 | Have I shot myself in the foot...Any cute girl knows why you're really asking for her number if it's just "for some studying/answer sharing"... If she didn't right then, she will know soon enough, you basically did a true indirect approach, and gave her the impression you're hiding your dick. Now uncover it and start getting to know her in one of your tutor meet ups. | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 11:38 PM |
| 1 | What to do if a girl texts me everyday?Who cares? Just ignore her texts and send that. | /r/seduction | 09/04/14 04:05 AM |
| 3 | What to do if a girl texts me everyday?While this is true, the more you text a girl who actually likes you enough to do this, the more you comply, and she eventually feels like she conquered you. In turn losing attraction, and distancing herself. If you give all of yourself away to her over text, what the hell are you supposed to do in person? There is no intrigue. | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 12:38 AM |
| 1 | Routines Vs. Present to the MomentIt's harder to be present, and the routines help you get out there actually saying something to girls unlike 99% of the chodes walking around looking down at their iPhones. Being natural is better in my opinion, but harder, when you're more experienced it becomes to the go to for your interactions. Just think of being natural as a more complicated script, you're still using all of your social dynamics and techniques, but improvising, a lot. It helps a ton to just start out this way and fuck up, … | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 12:23 AM |
| 2 | Got told I have a nervous voice, how do I change this?Slower and lower. Rely more on facial expressions as opposed to verbal communication. Exactly. And to be confident through body language, just move everything slower, don't look at people in the eye unless you are going to talk to them. Have a sexy walk, look up a male model walk, or an old western movie man's walk. I could go on for awhile, just research, man. | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 12:18 AM |
| 2 | Stronger DEEPER voice?When you speak, it should be from the bottom of your chest and lungs. Also, think of the back of your tongue lifting up as you speak, so there isn't so much pressure on your hyoid. | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 12:16 AM |
| 4 | What to do if a girl texts me everyday?Stop. Texting. Her. Meet her. Next text you send I swear to god if it isn't: Hey, girl's name! I enjoy talking to you, but I'd like to get to know you in person, what's your schedule look like this week? How about we grab a drink or a bite to eat? I will smack you through this reddit. You will literally waste hundreds of hours to come to no close except "I don't like you, I only see you as a friend" BECAUSE YOU NEVER MADE A MOVE. Don't be her texting buddy. If she says no to the date, consider h… | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 12:12 AM |
| 1 | Has anyone had a girl found out about, well...this?I don't know, I'd rather hide that I do this from girls I'm dating, it would probably lead to drama when I have multiple dates lined up. I get called a flirt, a lot, and I leave it at that, the only person I tell is my friend who hits on girls with me. | /r/seduction | 08/04/14 12:09 AM |
| 1 | Female Opinion Opener (audio FR's) It was funny cause I accidentally said "I need a female opinion opener" instead of "female opinion" I also had tried yelling the stuff across the street which I will upload if you likeTrue indirect* | /r/seduction | 07/04/14 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Female Opinion Opener (audio FR's) It was funny cause I accidentally said "I need a female opinion opener" instead of "female opinion" I also had tried yelling the stuff across the street which I will upload if you likeIndirect makes the girl wonder why you're talking to her, and when she knows it's because you like her, she wonders why you're being a pussy about it. And most of the time she only ever answers because she's interested in the thread, not you. | /r/seduction | 07/04/14 01:26 PM |
| 1 | Friendzone/oneitis/whatever, but I can't really avoid seeing herWhy are you wasting all this time texting her? Meet other girls, if you're more invested than her, she will not be attracted. I would just ask her to meet up in the text conversation: Good morning! Hey, girlname! Hope your day has been good so far, how about we meet up later this week for a drink? What's your schedule look like? I'm free x date x time Easy... Don't waste time texting, I've been there, big emotional waste you should never put yourself through | /r/seduction | 07/04/14 03:44 AM |
| 1 | Female Opinion Opener (audio FR's) It was funny cause I accidentally said "I need a female opinion opener" instead of "female opinion" I also had tried yelling the stuff across the street which I will upload if you likePeople still use this true indirect shit? Ew | /r/seduction | 07/04/14 03:28 AM |
| 2 | Twitter textsIf it has nothing to do with the two of you getting together, keep your eye on the ball and set up dates, ignore that shit. Also, don't be her texting buddy, waste all that time, and lose your intrigue. | /r/seduction | 07/04/14 03:24 AM |
| 5 | I'm Pathetic - Questions1 Walk really close to her, reach your arm around the small of her back 2 Too awkward to kiss while walking, why don't you sit down? Slow down conversation, keep her logical mind occupied, and do it 3 It's better to not tell her, you might end up being good Extra: Never let girls decide what to do on dates... She wanted you to handle logistics and even take her home and talk, then kiss close You have a lot to learn, keep at it and don't put this one on a pedestal. Remember it's just a silly, cut… | /r/seduction | 07/04/14 03:21 AM |
| 1 | I'm so tired of oneitis.I can't count how many times girls have practically flaunted and thrown themselves at me, but because I started reciprocating it, it ruined everything. I'm advising myself as much as you. Had this happen to me, she even used fucking sexual innuendos with me, she had a boy friend and would have broke up with him and took me as a lover if I didn't freak the fuck out. Regrets. | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 02:11 AM |
| 1 | How much of an advantage do attractive guys get socially?Pretty much get the same advantages as you, I get called very attractive/cute often. And I agree that if I didn't have the presentation or confidence it wouldn't mean jack shit. But yeah, don't dwell on it if you're an average, just assume attraction, and move fast. For example, a girl gave me her number recently without me asking, but if I didn't move fast and set the date up, it wouldn't mean shit, would it? | /r/seduction | 03/04/14 01:58 AM |
| 1 | People will hate youWho cares if people hate you? This isn't about making everyone love you, it's about making the people you want to, to be attracted to you. Sadly, that one obese woman who is under the victim mentality is not the same as that gorgeous blonde you saw with some jewelry and compression pants on. It's the truth... | /r/seduction | 02/04/14 07:45 PM |
| 1 | I'm so tired of oneitis.That just means you aren't talking to enough girls. Keep setting up dates and getting numbers, close things out with multiple girls, not just one. | /r/seduction | 01/04/14 01:15 PM |
| 1 | Acting strange when passing by the hot girls in the street? Don't know how to react, when to make eye contact? How to fix this?let me ask you a question? No. Just ask her the question, this places you in the chase dynamic asking her to effectively speak to her. | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 11:43 PM |
| 2 | Fellow introverts, how do you get yourself into state?Everyone has this to a degree, I don't care if you wake up, start talking to your cat, and don't stop until your cat is next to you when you pass out. It's called social momentum, you just need to start approaching, maybe even working up to approaching women, to get the momentum going. Listening to some hyped up music, caffeine, working out, or whooping and hollering in your car (I know it sounds weird but it works!). I go through this daily, I walk out of my bed room like an antisocial and walk… | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 11:38 PM |
| 1 | How do you stay motivated after a bad/embarrassing rejection?Why were you pining over this girl, taking it slow in the first place? Don't have a scarcity mentality, just go talk to other girls. And don't move slow again. It's hard now but you'll appreciate your new found abundance mentality when you find it. If it was a cold approach, just laugh to yourself about what she is missing, and how good you could have seduced her. Was her loss. :) | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 11:28 PM |
| 9 | Share your advice for picking up the subtle signs women give out when they are interestedThese are called IOI, signs they give, and you should take action on, if you don't and just take it as an ego boost, good luck seeing it again if it was strong. Touching herself (e.g. hair, neck, collarbone) while looking at you or talking to you Standing close to you, or stopping and standing in your area Talking or laughing loudly near you, to get your attention There are three. :) | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 11:24 PM |
| 1 | Getting Numbers...BUT....Let's say the girl's name is Andrea. You number close. A couple hours later: "Hey Andrea, it's Name, save my number!" A few days later, maybe the next, if you didn't already set a future meet up in person (which you always should aim to do while number closing), ask her "Hey Andrea, what's your schedule look like this week?" When or if the meet up is scheduled, your last text should be on or the day before the date, "Hey Andrea, are we still on?" There are a few texts that you can send when the … | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 11:12 PM |
| 6 | Dat smileWhen you smile with your left side, it's more of a sexy smile, the right side sub-communicates friendliness. Here are some differences of a sexy and friendly smile -The friendly man smiles with his teeth -The friendly man smiles broadly -The friendly man smiles with both sides of his mouth evenly So, don't show teeth, make it less broad, and with one side of your mouth (probably the right if you're doing day game for instance). Smiling slowly helps too, flashing your teeth isn't really that sexy… | /r/seduction | 31/03/14 12:07 AM |
| 2 | How do I keep abundance mentality? When the truth is I just really want to go on a date!Girls rarely become attracted to how awesome you are, you build that "chemistry" women talk about by connecting with her through conversation. Conversational threading is a whole other story, the basics are to: -be selfless -add value -and be vulnerable It's weird, the less you talk about yourself, and the more she talks to you, the more of a connection SHE feels. Isn't that what you want with a girl you're interested in? It's a whole lot easier to build compliance when a girl feels a connection… | /r/seduction | 30/03/14 08:29 PM |
| 3 | Ok /r/seduction, enough unimportant things, time for a real talk. How to be more of a sexual person? How to be that person with such a strong sexual vibe?Good fashion, eye contact/facial expressions, smiling and using your mouth, your walk, how slow you move, facial hair, your voice, conversation focused on a woman, easy confidence, recognizing and responding to signals of interest from her, and actually closing things out, not keeping her wanting. Girls will most often show an IOI and then offset it by going aloof, it can be very subtle, but if you act on it, she will love it. The less you talk and the more you communicate through nonverbals to … | /r/seduction | 30/03/14 08:16 PM |
| 1 | [FR?] Girl throws her number at me, barely talked to her?I feel like since I never really built rapport with her, I need to before I set up a meet. Our interaction wasn't really verbal, but she is chasing on fundamentals alone, odd. She still hasn't responded ~12h later, so maybe she is too nervous since I never really built rapport. There are other girls, but still it's nice to see a number turn into something. | /r/seduction | 28/03/14 01:07 AM |
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