Introverts Notes

This is for me, take what you want from it - just getting some takeaways from a video from someone I respect and model some of my style after.

The most common reason people believe being an introvert is a disadvantage is because they have a fundamental misconception about what game really is.

• You think game is about being Mr. Popular or super gregarious and charismatic
• That's not the case for most of game (esp. after the open); what you're really doing is having an intimate, one on one conversation with a girl you're attracted to

The disadvantage for extroverts is thus:

• Once they're away from the high energy situation, it becomes difficult to calm down, or they self amuse too much, or they fail to listen and connect

Extroverts: Gain lots of energy from loud situations and group environments.

Introverts: Gain more energy from relatively quieter situations or smaller, one on one conversations

Game, when done right is more along the line of the introvert's advantage than the extrovert's. Introverts should be more naturally atoned when it comes to the more important parts of game.

Being an extrovert helps to get over approach anxiety or engaging a group in difficult situations, but introverts have the advantage from then on - they can connect more, be more genuine, they'll listen more, and more intrigued rather than bored in the later stages of the interaction. There's good looking game and effective game, introverts are better at the latter, which gets you to sex.

Introverts have the advantage later on, but you still have to get through the first few minutes.

How do you do that? Two ways:

Strategic:

• If you're an introvert, you're socially efficient and don't expend a lot of social energy. You do better in quieter, more intimate settings - why would you go out to a loud venue instead of a quieter venue? Find a niche and specialize in that demographic - be smart about where and how you're gaming so that you maximize the potential of your assets.
• You still need to get through the first minute, but being an introvert makes this harder with their natural predisposition. If you expend lots of social energy for a minute, you will be able to lean back and be more calm the rest of the interaction so it will balance out. Have the character and tenacity to understand that you need to be gregarious for one minute to hook the girl then you can back off with the unnatural amount of social energy. If you go in with your natural inclination to conserve energy, you're making it harder for yourself. (Slightly disagree here, a bit needy to try to be something your not just so the girl will invest in you, but I can see where he's coming from. Basically be a little uncomfortable compared to what you're used to doing so you can be comfortable later on, if saying "Hi" and building rapport with a girl isn't natural to you, this is essentially what he's saying)

Attitude:

• Identity vs. Learned Helplessness (e.g. victim-hood). Introversion doesn't mean you have or don't have certain skills, it just means you derive energy a little differently. You still have all the abilities an extrovert has, and as soon as you get positive feedback from executing them, your brain will start learning to be an extrovert where it needs to be.
• Introverts have it easier because it's a lot easier to man up and learn the extrovert tendencies rather than vice versa.

Do what you gotta do, step up and do the approach when you know you have to, you'll have a massive advantage over the extroverts.

Idea: Get through the first, unnatural phase (e.g. the open), then be natural the rest of the way and you will enjoy consistent results. After time, the former becomes easier for your brain to execute and more natural.

I resonate with that because women think I'm super social just because I have the propensity to say "Hi" and see what they're like and take that initiative. When all this is is my brain being used to just taking that jump and easing back once I'm in the set and being more natural and lower energy.