Goals:

  • Approach one girl
  • Stay at a single venue for an hour

545P: Venue 1

Walked in after meditating figuring this would be a good warm up venue just because it's not frequented as much as my main venue for meeting women. Easier time with being self conscious of the spotlight effect, I'm out because I want to meet a girl and I'm sick of not having a quality one in my life. Again, dry as a bone, one college looking girl in a gray top who had natural blonde hair tied up near office supplies after 10-15m of wandering, I tell myself to walk past her and I walk and turn straight to the other aisle, interesting how my subconscious still did that when I wanted to walk past her. Walk around a bit more, maybe 5-10 minutes worth, nothing, girls must be on vacation or something.

630P: Venue 2

Walk in, girls with guys so far, rationalize it's their boyfriend, just move on looking for lone wolves, meander around for 15 minutes or so and just walk out because, well, it's dry.

7P: Venue 3

Walked in a different way, explored somewhere that I haven't been to, was cool and got my mind off the only means of being their being women. Anyways, walk out of the new territory and do the casual stroll around the outskirts of the store, dry, walk around another 10 minutes, start to dip in and out of aisles, and I see one in the periphery - a brunette that's petite with a royal blue top on, really vibrant. Anyways, I walk away from her (sigh), but tell myself not to duck out, so I go back, tell myself to walk by her, and I walk into the aisle beside... again. Getting frustrated with myself at this point, and see her one more time, but I lose after the third sighting and not taking immediate action.

Move out of that place and take a walk around the little marketplace this venue's located at, just to take a walk, was exploring more or less. I started to notice the less I focused on myself, and the more present I was, the less I was concerned with other people. After the walk around the marketplace, I walked back to the venue, saw the figure of a blonde girl getting into her car, great body, curves in all the right places - I rationalize she's getting in her car and leaving and I wouldn't make it. Again, a stupid rationalization where I have indeed done these types of approaches and succeeded, I'm rejecting myself!

After going to my car I park closer to the other side of the venue, and go in the same way, I saw a blonde girl with her hair in a ballerina ball, the old style from last year, the sun was drawing a great border around her hair that made it really noticeable, I did a double take and she was taller with a more athletic build with wavy clothes on, pretty face with focused eyes. This is my thought process:

  • Dude you already missed two opportunities, fucking GO
  • Start dropping the "fucks given", then I turn around subconsciously!
  • I start to panic and just rationalize not turning back

What the hell... do the approach with the nerves, I've done it before, and it works just fine, what matters is putting foot to pavement and saying "Hi" in that moment, everything else should be blocked besides you thinking about if I'd enjoy the girl, that's IT.

Go in and walk around once more, see a girl in a black top near the pastries, but excuse myself from that.

Feedback:

  • So, approach anxiety is coming back with a vengeance and you're letting it control you, why? Just say "Hi" anyway like you've done dozens of times before.
  • Girls corrected: royal blue top - walk beside, smiling "Hey, I saw you walk by and I had to tell you the color on your top is really vibrant, I like that blue on you, I'm Alex."; blonde figure - no way other than running up, "Hey! I know this is really impromptu, but if I was being honest I saw your figure's silhouette in the sunlight and had to tell you it was captivating... I'm Alex"; ballerina blonde - "Hey, I was walking in and saw you and had to turn around to tell you your walk is very elegant, I'm Alex" move onto rapport with natural banter, move to table nearby, rapport build and build some tension, insta-date if possible, number/date set if not.
  • Quit rejecting yourself before girls even have the chance to reject you, more likely she enjoys you and you two get along, quit thinking of the failure, it'll naturally happen with incompatibilities, what happens is taking action and moving toward her to say "Hi"

Helpful thought processes in the past:

  • I wonder what she's like, she looks intriguing and might make my life better
  • Let's see if we like each other, it can't hurt
  • You haven't felt bad long enough, have you?