Three tips you would give yourself on your first date

Riou_Atreides · 2014-05-13T19:33:43+00:00

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WikiRabbitHole · 2014-05-13T21:09:28+00:00

1) Don't be ashamed of anything, especially your own passions

2) Be deliberate, when you do something it should seem as though you ought to be doing it, whether you're talking, touching or kissing

3) Be open, you never know when you might enjoy something you didn't think you would or have an opportunity for an adventure

kingkongjaffa · 2014-05-13T21:03:23+00:00

Don't go to dinner on a first date, it's boring and predictable.

averypoliteredditor · 2014-05-13T20:29:44+00:00

1) Relax

2) Smile

3) Don't eat so fucking fast

alex0919 · 2014-05-13T20:08:09+00:00

On #2, don't stay down on such emotional topics, be playful with her and have some humor. Make getting to know a girl very well and very fast a fun experience, not an interview!

theblueredpanda · 2014-05-13T20:23:12+00:00

I would say:

Don't order that footlong bacon cheese dog. It may sound delicious, but it's not worth the ensuing mess on your face.

This is a true story by the way. My 15-year-old self learned the hard way.

bl1y · 2014-05-13T22:30:29+00:00

If I was talking to my much younger self on my first date ever:

The goal isn't to impress her, it's to have fun.

That's basically the end of the list.

SmellyJelly22 · 2014-05-13T19:22:51+00:00

1) Control every step of the date

2) Don't act interested if she's not being interesting

3) Have fun

allnose · 2014-05-13T21:22:28+00:00

Relax. If I'm overthinking something, I'm not relaxed. I don't know how many people on here are used to improvising in a musical sense, or just jamming, but the way to get something to sound good is by clearing your mind and letting everything flow. Whatever comes next will come.
Be fun. Yes, have fun, but more than that, be fun. I can't tell you the number of times I've gotten bored at a party and played "How long can I get this girl to continuously laugh?" Even if you're not having as much fun as you could be (and you're not doing the polite thing by leaving and not leading her on), making her have a good time leads to a successful night.
Recognize that she's in the exact same place as you are. The older I get, the more I realize girls aren't these magical, fun creatures who always are interesting and don't need you at all. They're just as boring as we are. They tend to have a whole different standard for what's gross (which you'll learn quickly when you live with them). And most importantly, she's on a first date with someone too. Nothing to be afraid of.

Wet_Walrus · 2014-05-13T23:51:50+00:00

1.) Pick a date that involves some friendly competition (bowling, mini golf, lazer tag, Dave & Busters)

2.) Remember to speak in statements and not in questions.

3.) Smile and be social with other people in the venue.

GrayTiger44 · 2014-05-14T01:19:00+00:00

Joke sexually

"Lets fuck!"

lord_of_vader · 2014-05-14T12:35:43+00:00

My tips for first dates are:

Put your fucking phone away. Call her out if she starts screen gazing while you're talking about your [skill/hobby/interest].
Don't drink too much. Coffee or The Liquor. The former will turn you into a rabid whirlwind of chatter, the latter will turn you into a drunk bastard, which is really rad, except you don't need that right now.
If you're not having fun, tell her. I've excused myself from dates and left in the middle because she's boring as fuck. Have some self-respect.

scammingladdy · 2014-05-14T04:20:46+00:00

Always show up happy, with a smile. That can mean meditating beforehand if needed.
Always have a plan for the date. Go somewhere you have been before where you will be in your element, and you can be assured is a good spot.
Don't be afraid to escalate touch. Sexual jokes are also good.

Bonus: Just treat her like you'd treat your friends!

TrailerParkJedi · 2014-05-14T03:02:51+00:00

"It's just the tip" x3

Doofe_N7 · 2014-05-14T07:51:37+00:00

She's probably more nervous than you, just exude confidence that you're going to nail it and she'll love the shit out of it, and she will

Unless the girl isn't that attractive, or for some reason she's more desperate to have a boyfriend than most girls, this isn't really true. Most attractive women who are out and about enough to get approached know they have plenty of options and can afford to be picky about dates and whom they hook up with or enter into a relationship with. As such their attitude is usually more relaxed and "let's see what happens" as opposed to guys who are typically more "oh boy how do I do this right?"

nobody2000 · 2014-05-13T21:16:09+00:00

Here's what worked for me (past tense since I've been dating someone exclusively):

Kino. Have you had a girlfriend before? Remember how comfortable you were touching her casually? Do that (well - don't molest her if that was your thing).
Conversation. You need to lead the conversation, but only participate in conversation about 20-40% of the time. Let her do the talking. When you DO talk, you have to be funny, flirty, use cheesy sexual jokes, and of course only do about half the talking out of your mouth. You're going to also have to talk about yourself. You better be passionate about describing what you do. I remember telling girls about my time in India, and how breathtaking the Taj Mahal was. I tried my best to use language to help her experience it - not just tell her what I saw. Also - use your body language and hands to express yourself.
Sexualize. One little "pro tip" that worked for me is picturing her naked and picture me nailing her. I try to imagine what her nipples look like, how they feel, I picture my self on top of her or her riding me, or me nailing her from behind...all while having a totally different conversation. This will help control your body language, the subtext of your conversation, and may guide exactly what you end up saying. Plus - it really helps shatter any lack of confidence you may have.

Edit: Why the downvotes? I'm curious. Are these three pieces of advice bad? Please tell me. Please be helpful. Are you just downvoting because I'm in a relationship? Or am I just being brigaded by the guy who I had a disagreement with in another thread?

HitchSlap92 · 2014-05-14T02:46:41+00:00

4th point is crucial. It's all about confidence. One lady stated this fact and said that it was a big turn on.

B_Campbell · 2014-05-14T03:01:05+00:00

For the love of God don't forget to pull out!

speedstix · 2014-05-13T21:58:20+00:00

Have fun, make a move when you have the chance.

jay_23 · 2014-05-14T05:50:35+00:00

Be fun let her talk

MisterRight1 · 2014-05-14T12:18:04+00:00

Qualify using a yes-ladder!

2014-05-14T13:14:09+00:00

Have everything planned.

Be in a good mood.

If it gets boring -> gtfo

misterAction · 2014-05-14T14:15:06+00:00

Lean back. Don't lean in and put your forearms or elbows on the table, its a sign that you are desperate to impress her. Leaning back says "impress me."

Wankeo · 2014-05-14T15:38:33+00:00

1) don't be afraid of silence 2) Know pubs/clubs/places nearby. (propose few places) 3) relax

pacg · 2014-05-14T16:13:54+00:00

Be desireless. Be excellent in her presence. Be gone. -The Tao of Steve

Crazywhite352 · 2014-05-14T17:08:11+00:00

Stay calm. Look her in the eye Show her your penis

2014-05-14T17:30:46+00:00

Tip #1 and your extra are pretty bunk.

The rest aren't bad, though.

blonderson · 2014-05-14T17:36:27+00:00

1) Eye contact. 2) Listen. Try to actually learn something about your date. 3) Have fun. Dating should be fun and nothing to get nervous about/take too seriously.

PuA_Jeff · 2014-05-14T23:20:45+00:00

I interpreted the title as 'what would you tell young Jeff before his first date?'.

Don't let her bring a friend!

Don't go see a movie on a first date!

Relax.

trustmeiminnocent · 2014-05-15T02:52:27+00:00

As my first first date wasn't that long ago, tips I carried into it that lead to a 2nd date were:

1) Have fun

2) Go with the flow- bounce off what she says, don't expect anything- I noticed on future dates I would replay beforehand how I WANTED it to go, realize that it does not match up- don't do this.

3) Touching, jokes- something completely absent from my end

Great convos, "nice guy complex" lead to a lack of a sexual vibe on my end which ultimately gave me my one-way ticket to the friendzone. All good though, learned a ton and gained confidence going into dates in the future- not so fearful of asking girls out and rejection, awesome!

DrewCruise · 2014-05-14T21:16:15+00:00

1 - Don't be boring.

2 - Don't be outcome dependent.

3 - Let your masculine instincts guide you.

Also, relax, smile, have fun, and be playful (touching and adding humor to the interaction)

MR_Se7en · 2014-05-14T02:21:38+00:00

Don't fuck up.
DON'T fuck up!
DONT FUCK UP!

gocrazy69 · 2014-05-14T00:32:15+00:00

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Title	Three tips you would give yourself on your first date
Author	alex0919
Upvotes	395
Comments	115
Date	May 13, 2014 7:03 PM UTC (12 years ago)
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