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I feel on both sides its kind of the chase, not outright not interested, but the mystery not knowing if that person is head over heels for you. Ladies def will pay more attention to guys they feel get attention from others, def don't need to be really sought after. I agree, bragging about getting girls/guys is unattractive, but the implication this is someone popular? That draws in a lot of people
/r/seduction10/11/25 03:25 PM
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current gf I just got all IG mainly. slow burn is a real thingn
/r/seduction01/06/25 10:22 PM
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Me! Haven't really had much in-person success. Both relationships - just started one- off Hinge!
/r/seduction24/05/25 03:30 AM
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What you got to lose?! good luck!
/r/seduction02/05/25 07:03 PM
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Oral skills have been a shocker thus far. Def practice that. Last lady asked me how many bodies I have to get all that "practice" 🤣
/r/seduction29/04/25 02:14 PM
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I did 3 in one day. holy crap that was a lot
/r/seduction28/04/25 01:03 PM
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Thanks! We closed the deal. Will just continue vibing, I would want to date her and see when she brings it up.
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:09 PM
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we smashed! thanks! I would like to date her but will continue having fun and let her bring it up :)
/r/seduction25/04/25 05:08 PM
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no problem! you got this! Feel free to dm any questions, no expert myself as you can see HAHA
/r/seduction20/04/25 11:13 PM
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I didn't have my first time till 25. To be honest, nobody really gives af I focused on career and now can afford to date and travel as much as I want My first time, my ex gf thought I was experienced until we got in the bedroom LOL I had 0 clue what I was doing so that tells you something
/r/seduction20/04/25 08:45 PM
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📝 thank you!
/r/seduction18/04/25 04:09 AM
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Thanks for the insight here, love that. I feel as I get to know her I can make that decision, I feel its also a sort of bargaining chip like your lady to try to get me to step on the gas more. I'll just stick to what I'm doing and live with it. Thanks!
/r/seduction17/04/25 08:52 PM
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Thanks man! Yeah that's the goal. Bad logistics so couldn't close - tenant was arriving. But yeah, if I get another shot I need to make that happen first. Thanks for your time.
/r/seduction17/04/25 08:51 PM
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I mean by angle, what would be the right frame to be in with statement like that. I think its still too early for me to call exclusive till I close, at least till she brings up. I agree!
/r/seduction17/04/25 08:40 PM
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Got it. Next time if I see her and close! thanks!
/r/seduction17/04/25 08:39 PM
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Curious! What about her statement that would end things for you
/r/seduction17/04/25 07:58 PM
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I'm curious in this scenario why would you!
/r/seduction17/04/25 07:48 PM
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I didn't thought that'd be needy if I wanted to know more about this dude. She's mentioned dating someone else with long term intention after our 2nd time seeing each other. I don't mind it, since I'm doing the same. Thats fair. Also him being exclusive vs I'm thinking about it. That stuck out to me
/r/seduction17/04/25 07:44 PM
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I'm seeing others too but fair point!
/r/seduction17/04/25 07:25 PM
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Thanks for the advice!
/r/seduction30/03/25 04:49 AM
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HAHA yeah thats fair. I have another lady I was closing (closed her 3x in 5 days), but def want to keep options open and not zero in right away! Thank you!! I was ripping 4-5 dates a week this whole month so chilling a bit now!
/r/seduction29/03/25 07:21 PM
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HAHA i wish, then I wouldnt be posting this!
/r/seduction29/03/25 03:46 PM
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Gotcha! For context, we had a short phone call about 2-3 weeks back, then just went on an in-person date this week and last night! So been at this connection a minute! Was thinking asking her 4 days from now!
/r/seduction29/03/25 02:20 PM
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stealing that
/r/seduction23/03/25 06:36 PM
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hinge!
/r/seduction23/03/25 06:35 PM
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Hinge! I recommend once you get your profile getting some results, the hinge + helps a lot. I'd say I went from 2-3% match rate to about 10% with better pics/profiles I mostly do empty likes but sometimes I'll leave a comment with something funny and corny I wanna get Bumble and Tinder working for me too.
/r/seduction23/03/25 03:39 PM
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LMAOOOO I'm pretty good at remembering details, what fucks me up is who I told what to
/r/seduction23/03/25 03:32 PM
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For me... all my dates are from one dating app. Get a nice camera, take pictures on trips and now this past month I'm averaging 4+ dates a week
/r/seduction23/03/25 03:28 PM
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I noticed this for me too! 4 dates going in, avg last few weeks and I feel way less needy around ladies Def helps my confidence!
/r/seduction23/03/25 03:00 PM
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I got back into tennis recently and its a great social activity even on the apps, multiple ladies mention wanting to play
/r/seduction21/03/25 12:54 PM
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I got a nice mirrorless used for 600 and its been great. you can get a solid camera for cheaper than that definitely. I have a tripod too, but usually ask friends to snap picture for me
/r/seduction16/03/25 04:44 PM
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I improved my photos and my dating app experience greatly improved. And I didnt do a photoshoot, just got a nice camera l
/r/seduction15/03/25 11:13 PM
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Thank you! Yeah, I've been improving on escalating, just need to get out my head and have more fun! I did bring a girl to my place end of last year & another one I will try this weekend (she's coming to my town actually) I think my last 'experience' with a girl with similar vibes, I went for the k-close and she mentioned that she doesn't kiss on 1st dates. But that shouldn't change my approach overall. Most 1st dates I go on I haven't not gone for the k-close, and I feel lately its been better v…
/r/seduction13/03/25 04:26 PM
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Yeah, I guess I have to get away from that thinking start convo -> then prompt for date. Could've just did that. Kiss on the cheek.. ugh next time will just go for it.
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:55 PM
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Thanks! I feel my last girlfriend was one of those in a way. Off the app, sent a message for a date. No reply for a month. Out of the blue, message her and it took off - 'apparently' missed my message. So maybe that's in my mind of the one success story LOL. Like fuck it, let's see what happens. Got some great feedback here which I appreciate for sure. Shot or not, as long as I don't become dependent on what happens I should be good
/r/seduction13/03/25 03:03 PM
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Yeah way past. Thanks! Have to just go for it.
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:58 PM
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Got it! I feel I would yeah. She was really dope and fun time. I'm also OK if that's it, it was a great time and I learned more for the next lady.
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:58 PM
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Ah.. that's something I'm cool with. OK I'll keep that in mind for sure, just have fun and swing to bring her home
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:56 PM
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Yeah.. that's true! Lessons learned here. I did! I been escalating more on dates with touching her hands, grabbing her shoulders, her thigh, high fives, flirting so I def made some good strides there. So I'm gonna keep working on it. Like a comment: You look good in that passenger seat. And she'd want me to touch her hair and all that. I gave her a kiss on the cheek at the end of the date. She was reciprocating so that's why I spent that day confused of the ghost. One solace of my experience was…
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:54 PM
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truuu I thought well I didn't even smash or anything yet BUT thats fair. That and breaking up only 3 months prior
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:40 PM
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Got it I wont do that LOL I'll just send something chill and call it a day lol
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:38 PM
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How: She responded to having a great time too, and 2 days after. I just asked her how her saturday was. No reply since. Yup! I had an experience with another lady as well, and realized I was chasing too much and cut that off fast. Thanks for the response here! As I go on more dates I'm def getting more grounded. Like this past weekend I did 3 in one day, fun but exhaustinggg Yeah as soon as I heard about the ex, I had a feeling. At end of day either it happens or not and keeping enough women I'm…
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:38 PM
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I was gonna try that funny enough. She quizzed me about her ethnicity and I just started chatting with this women with same ethnicity and this funny video related to it- and say this reminded me of you
/r/seduction13/03/25 02:34 PM
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Relationship ended last year, and was a situationship of sorts with my ex I just ended. Dating's going fine, I am more bought in though to get as many as possible! Already been on 10+ dates since end of last year so that's huge.
/r/seduction19/02/25 09:45 PM
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I'd say if you think she's attractive go for it! At least a date and go from there! Nothing wrong with experience, good luck!
/r/seduction26/01/25 12:09 AM
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22 is no late bloomer lol. Didn't have anything till 24 😆
/r/seduction13/01/25 05:39 AM
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Curious the spicy topics you bring up. Being as someone who had a rough go in Seattle, wonder how I can up my game now! :)
/r/seduction12/01/25 09:36 AM
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My fun story was my first time she thought I was way more experienced until we got there LMAO couldn't even put protection on 🤣🤣🤣 good luck!
/r/seduction10/01/25 10:40 AM
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see the ads on instagram, cool the wingman app is fr
/r/seduction03/01/25 06:41 AM
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Personally, yes. But if your profile isn't getting much before, it won't help much. That and asking girlfriends for advice has my profile doing decent! Seems getting buried between a batch of likes doesn't help
/r/seduction24/12/24 05:52 PM
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bro I was like you chatting for years, then got my first gf. We not together now but Its never too late my guy! This our prime!
/r/seduction06/12/24 02:37 AM
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I'd say SF might be similar. Worse male/female ratio, more tech bros. Even former gf said she went on dates w multiple tech guys. Seattle isn't really diverse too so I think that personally f'd me a bit too But yeah, speaking solely OLD I feel like I'm having way better old experience in another big us city that isn't sf/seattle lol
/r/seduction25/10/24 03:31 AM
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for me Seattle mattered but I think that was mostly just me 🤣 I did eventually get a gf tho
/r/seduction24/10/24 08:39 PM
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What helped reel me in how stacked the odds can be, my girl friend in a big city had over 900 conversations pending. Like I struggle to keep 10-20 convos going lol
/r/seduction11/08/24 04:48 PM
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+1 explains the 1000 matches, wow! No diddy but I'd date him 🤣
/r/seduction11/08/24 04:46 PM
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This is so key. Learn to read body language!! When someone is consistently being short with you, exit! A compliment I got recently from a friend was I'm the type to be talkative but know when to not talk LOL
/r/seduction04/04/22 04:28 PM
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I remember sitting on this sub for years, watching videos, reading post after post and no success. Hell, I've shared advice without taking it myself LOL. Just thinking I just needed a shot from one of these silly apps. Then, like you I started going to the bar every weekend right before covid and just starting conversations! That helped a ton and help me land my first girlfriend now. That was over 2 years ago wow.
/r/seduction07/03/22 03:31 AM
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Just over 25 for me! Now shes my gf. Just working on myself and focusing. Good stuff for us kings! This year our year. My first time nerves hit me too and I just focused on making her night special :)
/r/seduction27/07/20 08:01 AM
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Dude same for me never kissing a girl until a few weeks ago! We did it king! This is our year We hooked up a few times before I lost my v 'card' honestly its such a silly meaning anyway
/r/seduction20/07/20 05:17 AM
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That's crazy and really puts it in perspective
/r/seduction08/03/20 08:41 PM
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Working on it! 24 going on 25. I'm kiss-less but hey my mindset is really just getting out there and meeting more people. Had my 2nd date of all time last month. Been 'forcing' myself out on the weekends and it's been a ton of fun. Always meeting people when I head out. Taking it a bit more serious than years past - either chasing a oneitis or swiping on the dating apps for a few minutes and calling it a day. Everything else life wise is going pretty good for me, just the last step I haven't got…
/r/seduction02/03/20 01:51 AM
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Nice job man!
/r/seduction11/02/20 07:24 AM
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Right, ty for sharing
/r/seduction27/01/20 05:20 PM
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Love the guide. Can you expand on what you recommend to text when they say they're busy?
/r/seduction27/01/20 06:25 AM
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Thanks for adding something like this!
/r/seduction20/01/20 11:02 PM
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Yeah, defintely I'll look to! Thanks man!
/r/seduction14/01/20 04:01 AM
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Hey! So we're planning Capetown, Johannesburg, then two neighborhing countries Lesotho and Eswatini!
/r/seduction12/01/20 10:00 PM
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I forced myself out last night too, baby steps saying hello to girls out there. Just with the goal of meeting someone new! Met a dude who from South Africa where I'm going in a few months. Super freaking cool.
/r/seduction12/01/20 08:46 PM
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24! Love this comment. I feel in the past my analytical side got me in a lot of trouble in terms of overthinking and psyching myself out of a lot of opportunities. Working on that. Have to use it to my advantage, feel like some parts are clicking together in my head now.
/r/seduction07/01/20 03:25 PM
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Always look forward to your insight on these posts!
/r/seduction28/12/19 10:49 PM
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Great stuff man. My grades weren't that impressive in school- had a tough start, but I turned it around in my new major and got into a rewarding career! Whenever I feel a bit down, I think about how much work I had to put in to get here, and how well everything else outside of dating is going- mainly effort for me I feel- and that cheers me up asap. Maybe try in your classes and go from there? I know for me, meeting my one good friend I asked her to do a study group for a final exam we had and i…
/r/seduction27/12/19 09:44 PM
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Keep focusing on your classes. Honestly, I remember my college years at times getting distracted with those things and wasting time with my crushes I didn't act on but in reality you have so much ahead of you man. If you put the work in, after graduation have a nice rewarding career and keep growing as a person! For me, I know its simply I just need to get out more which I'm working on a lot more recently after that friend fell through. Feeling really motivated on that. It's definitely tougher o…
/r/seduction27/12/19 09:32 PM
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Same, I'm right in that boat with you! Stay strong man. Keep growing, when it happens for us these girls should be an addition to our great lives not making them great! This coming year is about to be plentiful, but we just got to put the work in! These experiences will teach us a lot more than reading the posts here or watching videos- I've done that and grown so much outside of dating, but still same results with girls as I did when I joined 5+ years ago LOL. Let's learn from these experiences…
/r/seduction27/12/19 09:22 PM
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Great job man. I did something similar with a friend of mine, you can see it in more detail in my recent comment history, but regardless I'm happy I went for it rather than continue playing what-if game. She mentioned afterwards she got the vibe I wanted more which is what I want to start building towards in future interactions. Sucks for us that we spend so much time with these friends we might fall for and they don't feel the same way, but that's how it is sometimes. For me, there's a lot of f…
/r/seduction27/12/19 09:03 PM
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PMed!
/r/seduction25/12/19 03:19 AM
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Overall, helpful stuff man! 24 right now, and I've never got got that close with girls in high school and college. Like you, career wise has been great. If dating's my only "problem" I'm doing pretty good haha I've grown so much from the self-help advice here though, just not in that area yet I realize its just more of a overthinking thing for me with just the courtship and ruining opportunities to get further with girls who were interested in me. Past unrequited love exp with a close friend who…
/r/seduction25/12/19 03:17 AM
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Thanks for sharing! A lot of these points make a lot of sense.
/r/seduction21/12/19 11:38 PM
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Mind sharing some of your criteria? Curious
/r/seduction21/12/19 09:36 PM
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For me, no. Great job making more than most of my college peers thanks a lot to the self help and working on myself throughout the years, but I think it might be tied to me staying inside a lot more due to that. I have friends but dating is a comp diff monster for me. And oneitis didnt help but I'm over that. Realizing I need to approach
/r/seduction19/12/19 10:01 AM
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Happy cake day man. About almost 6 years for me, the self-help stuff here really helped me grow in other areas of my life- e.g. a great job, hasn't translated to success with women yet, but I've got a lot of other stuff figured out so its only a matter of time! Just got over oneitis over a close friend of mine! I feel I'm close, just need to get out more and start approaching.
/r/seduction18/12/19 09:51 PM
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I'm in a city too.. hmm Might have to invest into some better photos 🤷🏽‍♂️
/r/seduction15/12/19 10:39 PM
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Can you PM your profile? Just curious how I should curate my profile for these apps
/r/seduction15/12/19 07:25 PM
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PM
/r/seduction11/12/19 06:48 PM
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I'm in a similar situation- also 24- as you life-wise before this date you had!! Trying to start dating as well too. Nice man!!
/r/seduction03/12/19 12:55 PM
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I'll give that a shot again, I noticed too having fun messaging them not only made me feel less needy, but I heard back from em. I tried the generic how are you or picking something from their profile with little to no success
/r/seduction03/12/19 11:22 AM
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Any tips? I think I didn't struggle matching but defintely not hearing back from most
/r/seduction02/12/19 08:28 PM
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Saved. Subbed. You're the man, thanks man!!!
/r/seduction02/12/19 05:48 PM
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Great video.. Really helps to see going for it as the success vs the actual thing
/r/seduction29/11/19 04:34 AM
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Needed this for this Sunday!! Friends I've talked to about her really are backing me and the interest is there!
/r/seduction16/11/19 12:44 AM
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Nice bro! I was gassing myself up with cousins over just getting a # over Tinder; this is way more impressive ha
/r/seduction30/06/19 07:00 PM
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I'll have to do the same lol so tough to get in that mindset man 🤣🤣
/r/seduction11/10/17 04:52 AM
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I believe in you.
/r/seduction21/08/16 11:41 PM
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Having a huge problem with AA right now and I think its partly due to having this mindset of 'selling' instead of 'buying', thanks for this post! Helps to get back out there, you're the best for this! You deserve that gold!
/r/seduction19/09/14 04:25 PM
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We may not realize but girls get nervous too. If she moves to sit next to you, when you're isolated from everyone else she's likely interested. I had a girl in a previous college class over the summer, when I moved to sit in the back she on the other side of the room grabbed her stuff and sat behind me. I had NO time for that unfortunately-overloading on classes and she goes to a completely different college far away but I feel you got a shot with this one. After class, walk with her and talk ab…
/r/seduction12/09/14 07:37 PM
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That's a great way to look at it, actually. I'm going to try to have the mindset to make them smile, or something that benefits them. Make her day. I love your outlook, dude. Thanks!
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:26 AM
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A year ago I had my problems, especially with girls! Changing my mindset and being more social, getting out of my comfort area helped with that a lot. College was a dynamic experience for me last year. Now if I want to go forward, I have to approach. Thanks!
/r/seduction07/09/14 12:24 AM
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I'm on campus and what's worked for me to this point was just taking them to places around campus. Inexpensive, yes and they don't really mind. If it doesn't phase you, why should it phase them?
/r/seduction04/09/14 11:52 PM
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You won't get far if you reject yourself. Why do you see yourself that way? You are what you want to be dude, if you want to be there's nothing we can do but if you want to be the guy that gets with women, you have to internalize it. It's all a process.
/r/seduction04/09/14 02:41 AM
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I believe in you dude, your not pathetic. Stay positive. And thanks for the little push, I'm getting out there this week no matter what!
/r/seduction31/08/14 09:21 PM
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Naturally, classes come first without a doubt. I don't really go out, I know a good amount of people around campus, just need to get out there.
/r/seduction31/08/14 09:20 PM
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Hell yeah, let's do it. No more excuses!
/r/seduction31/08/14 08:12 PM
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Thanks. I should be good to go now, and your right. Last thing I want to do is depend on others to get me to do something.
/r/seduction31/08/14 08:11 PM
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Small talk is really just small talk. Treat it as a small thing, it's not that big of a deal. How are you doing? Good, how are you? Good Or just talk about what's on your mind, it used to be an obstacle for me until I thought about it this way. Something like So I had this crazy dream last night What was it about? Well there were these two cats fighting over a root beer and... Just be you, I'd save the politics and topics for later instances like dates, be careful with politics though. People ta…
/r/seduction27/08/14 11:50 PM
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That's good, glad you're getting your confidence back. What's stopping you from talking to more girls? - I should also ask that question to myself as well...
/r/seduction27/08/14 11:20 PM
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I'm with you on the boat about alcohol. This is one of the best posts I've seen on this subreddit pertaining to college, yet the alcohol bit I disagree with. I don't want to drink just to succeed, if I do that's at my own discretion. Not feeling it at all though. And I have yet to receive 'social shame' for it, quite a few wish they were like me actually instead of drinking to appease others.
/r/seduction26/08/14 09:47 PM
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Not the OP, but people sit alone for many reasons and I feel at that point that's not a comfortable question to ask. Instead of interview type questions, just go with the flow. What do you want to know about her? Or start talking about something that interests you and learn from that way. Keep working at it. And between you and me there is no such thing as a 'shit test'. A girl doesn't say suddenly let me see if this guy is a boss or not, of course not. You could ask her what her meeting was abo…
/r/seduction26/08/14 01:00 AM
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Two words: Do it. No Fap made me a hell of a lot more confident and pushes me to go meet women. A year ago I wouldn't have done things I have done these past few months. It's a great thing, but don't think it alone will improve your game. It requires an consistent effort.
/r/seduction24/08/14 01:26 PM
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If you're not happy, what makes you think you'll all of a sudden project a positive vibe. Look inside yourself, why aren't you happy? Only you can answer that. In the meantime, don't put yourself down instead bring yourself up. I'm telling you, those girls are lucky you're taking the time to approach them. Internalize that. Go with a simple goal of making their day, making her smile, whatever. And people that see you aren't like "OMG why is that guy going up to girls and talking to them!", inste…
/r/seduction20/08/14 02:08 PM
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Look like latinos, and I guess its not as common as where you're at. Here in Jersey, its not all that rare to see.
/r/seduction20/08/14 03:51 AM
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Most likely due to the stigma against Latinos. A black male myself, we have stigma as well but for some reason for a number of them they find us alluring. Confidence changes things no matter what the ethnicity. I don't know about you but I see quite a few white girls with Latinos where I'm at.
/r/seduction18/08/14 02:23 AM
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Read those last posts. If you truly believe your a genetic failure, you should talk to a therapist or something. That's really low self-esteem and you can't succeed with that. And there are people on this subreddit that will help you, if you ever need advice or anything feel free to PM me.
/r/seduction11/08/14 03:49 AM
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I used to be bullied, and it affected me. Not big time, but a lot of teasing, a little name-calling and what not majorly though 6th grade. First off, I didn't let them get to me and they stopped. Easier said than done. But bottom line is I have trust that you can make those daydreams into reality. Build your self-esteem. Something as simple as when you're looking in the mirror, and you say the words, "You know what, you're awesome" as you point to yourself in the mirror. This will build confiden…
/r/seduction10/08/14 04:19 AM
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I disagree with everyone else here. Improve yourself, then interact. Sure, you learn from approaching but you have to have a solid foundation before you go out there. If you're serious about pickup and women, you'll make yourself get out there. Trust me no pun intended.
/r/seduction09/08/14 05:50 PM
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Why not make it a reality? What's stopping you?
/r/seduction09/08/14 01:53 AM
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She might be insecure. Some people have a hard time taking compliments, just go with it.
/r/seduction04/08/14 04:39 AM
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I don't know how this argument even started. But from that excerpt, I said usually not all the time that happens. I don't know how you turn usually into all the time. If you're not going to read all I commented, I'm not going to even bother to continue this conversation.
/r/seduction04/08/14 12:59 AM
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No. that's not my argument at all. Where did you derive that from? Both men and women are subjected to that short of thing by society, to be the ideal female or the ideal male. But you can't tell me that you truly believe its only because of society, society has had a lot of things in place that people make a change to overcome and break the norm. Women accept the role of being the one dealing out rejections not taking them, as I said no one wants to be rejected. Why would women want to open the…
/r/seduction04/08/14 12:35 AM
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Not true. It's a LOT different for girls. If a guy gets rejected by a girl, it stings but it usually has little to do with the way he looks, and so on. For girls, being rejected nine times of ten is they don't satisfy the guy's standards beauty wise. That's a lot worse IMO, and in this day and age where women are expected to look as if they were photo shopped 24/7 can really hurt them. More than the kind of rejection we can feel.
/r/seduction03/08/14 11:26 PM
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Right. You're a professional, I apologize. You have PUA in your name after all... When should I expect another post on your expertise coming up?
/r/seduction03/08/14 10:59 PM
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Exactly. A few months ago I was the same exact way. Its a toxic mindset. Look, you already know you're awesome. She has to show you she's good enough for YOU. Not the other way around. Give value, don't try and get value from her. I recommend not having an end goal, just go with the interaction. Be your best self and if sex happens, it'll happen. My problem was I got fixated on an end goal instead of seeing her for her, I just saw her as a goal to obtain. Wrong mindset.
/r/seduction03/08/14 10:53 PM
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If that is the way you're thinking, that's the wrong way to be. You are trying to validate yourself off of women, not yourself. Approaching does not build confidence, one is a cause of the other. You gain confidence to approach, not the other way around. That's interesting, I can see why your posts are the way they are now.
/r/seduction03/08/14 10:50 PM
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Love this comment, but you don't get inner game from approaching. You get inner game, than approach. Otherwise, he's headed back to the downward spiral he just got out of.
/r/seduction03/08/14 09:14 PM
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Changed my life. I wouldn't be where I am right now without that. I've been on it for a year and never looked back.
/r/seduction03/08/14 08:59 PM
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Create eye contact. Bring a sexual vibe. Be confident. I know that's kind of vague since an in-text example wouldn't be as good as a video or something along those lines. A sticking point: Many guys make the mistake of talking faster thinking you'll lose her attention or whatever. Speak slowly, find a mix that works for you and create an atmosphere that she wants to be a part of. Work on body language and tonality to that effect too. It's not what you say at all, it's HOW you say it. I'm coming …
/r/seduction03/08/14 08:46 PM
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Explain how? How many girls do you see asking guys out and opening themselves to rejection? For all I know, there could be women out there doing the same thing we do here as /r/fpua, but the overwhelming majority do not. And guys in general are more accustomed to rejection as we are the ones getting rejected, not giving the rejections.
/r/seduction03/08/14 08:38 PM
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Yeah. Don't worry I suffer from this too. You won't get far without sexual intent and I learned that first hand. Be sexual. Don't be afraid to show her you want her. She could want you so bad but she can't show you openly. Women are conditioned by society not to act like 'sluts' and they don't initiate 99% for two reasons. 1) being seen as a slut,losing social value. 2) fear the guy will reject them. Mind you rejection hurts women a LOT more than us guys, so having men open themselves up to them…
/r/seduction03/08/14 05:59 PM
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wipes tear off cheek That's great man. I'm black too by the way, same age, but not as tall as you are! I would look into the following fundamentals that got me started: Read 'Models' by Mark Manson, it's a great book and the most recommended book on this subreddit. Fantastic. 'The Way of a Superior Man' by David Deida. This book changed my perspective on women, don't just read it. Internalize it, seeing the interactions with women in my life in that perspective instead of the partially misogynis…
/r/seduction03/08/14 05:43 AM
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Go for it. I wouldn't listen to these others who see this and remember the girl they were just friends with a girl and got upset when she wouldn't change her mind. If she only sees you as a friend, respect that. There is a risk however with that, is she especially close to you? Sometimes showing your feelings can make things awkward between people. Build up on it, hangout with her and slowly escalate over time. If she's into you, you'll know. But if she's not on your wavelength, don't get caught…
/r/seduction03/08/14 03:45 AM
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Blink uncontrollably and initiate seddit program 409408-a to seduce the target, duh..
/r/seduction03/08/14 12:44 AM
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My experience is if the first was good, she'll want to meet you again. Its hard to evaluate your game without not knowing what you do on a first date and so forth.
/r/seduction03/08/14 12:41 AM
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Thanks! I'll definitely check out that video at some point. And I have the same perspective, confidence is an attractive quality. I think that's one of the positive things of seddit, when I was a part of it a few months ago a little less of a degree now inner game is a focus. If you build up yourself and your character, and learn to accept yourself, you won't mind if girls are attracted or not. And that believe or not gets women attracted to you. A lot of people on this sub think a certain opene…
/r/seduction01/08/14 08:54 PM
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Love your perspective. I feel a lot of guys get carried away with number- closes, approaches, targets, and what not that they fail to see women as people as you and I and everyone on this sub. When you see girls Everyone has a defining moment for them that changed how they view women and dating. What's yours? Mine was ultimately getting the 'lets just be friends' bit from a girl I was into. We went on a few dates but I truly never made a move because I was too afraid of rejection. I realized how…
/r/seduction31/07/14 08:15 PM
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Good luck! The other video from 30:00 on is good if you're looking to create a nice vibe.
/r/seduction30/07/14 08:22 PM
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If you get the time, check this video out by Nick Sparks. I feel you're problem might be as you're trying to show how awesome you are and talk more than her. It shouldn't be like that, don't be afraid to let her fill in silences and talk more. It's all good. I've always been a pretty good conversationalist when I actually get in conversation, I can hold my own well.Try to bounce off of things of what she's saying, but don't feel the need to impress her. That was my mistake the last time I was ou…
/r/seduction30/07/14 04:53 AM
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Don't be concerned with girls just yet, meet people. My freshman week, I went to every event I could. Meet everyone on your floor. I made a LOT of my friends from mutual friends. Meet people in your classes and get in study groups. For Chem, I knew one person or two and got to meet a few other people in my class, and we went to the dining hall together after class on off lab days. It was good. I see those people around campus all the time during the year. And a girl out of that group, I actually…
/r/seduction30/07/14 04:45 AM
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I don't know about you guys but if I had a choice between being called Biggie and weighing 300 pounds or that guy that works out named Bob. I'm going with Biggie.
/r/seduction29/07/14 12:35 AM
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Yeah, I tell girls sometimes that I lie on my kitchen floor and pretend I'm a bread crumb. ... Seriously, don't tell a girl that. Especially if it's not true. This conversation never happened.
/r/seduction29/07/14 12:33 AM
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Attraction has a timer, yeah. But a girl isn't gonna be like, "OMG Johnny didn't text me to ask me out yet, I can feel my attraction dwindling" while painting her friend's toenails. You have other girls don't you? Just progress things with them and in the meantime set something up when you can. If not, it's no big deal you have other options, right? A direct message such as, Hey ___, what's your schedule looking like this week? Save the talking for the date. Maybe she wants to cut out the small …
/r/seduction29/07/14 12:31 AM
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Why are we doing shit tests? Aren't we above that shit- no pun intended.
/r/seduction29/07/14 12:28 AM
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Why you say that? You want to hangout with her right? Then don't be worried about it. Try something, if you're actually doing something fun, like "Hey __, I'm going to this with friends or whatever at _ you should join". And don't worry, there's a line between persistence and clingy. Clingy is treating her as she's part of you or something, which is a ridiculous mindset to have. Staying persistent- within reason- is your best bet. Hit her up from time to time, and I wish you the best of luck.
/r/seduction29/07/14 12:26 AM
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You got this. Full faith in you dude! And it's all good.
/r/seduction29/07/14 12:22 AM
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Hey, it was nice to meet you. Catch you later- or something similar. Be cool about it, don't over think it.
/r/seduction28/07/14 05:33 AM
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Flap your wings uncontrollably and fly away. Easy right?
/r/seduction28/07/14 04:37 AM
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Of course we all want a girlfriend. Be honest. Don't act as if you don't but at the same time when you're dating a girl look at her for her and what your relationship might progress into, not as a 'future girlfriend'. I did that in the past and made the girl into a goal of making her my girlfriend instead of who she was as a person, and it didn't work out. No wonder. We're friends now, so it's all good and I learned from that experience. Hope you do too.
/r/seduction28/07/14 04:35 AM
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A lot of people say wait until she brings it up, but really the thing is all of those people are too scared to bring it up. Avoid an awkward situation, and just tell her what you want from this relationship between you two. If you want a casual relationship, say that. If you want to be a couple, say that.Tell her the direction you want the relationship to go to, and what not. Be open to what she's feeling too. Honesty is the best policy. You've already had sex with her so you're a mile from wher…
/r/seduction28/07/14 01:52 AM
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Yeah of course.
/r/seduction27/07/14 10:26 PM
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I've had that experience, talk to the girl in person and she seems up for it. Then text her and get an excuse. Had it a few times and cut contact. Its not worth it. Find a girl that will not mess with you. IMO, I wouldn't have done it but it takes a certain kind of mentality to call her out on it. Bottom line, its a waste of time.
/r/seduction27/07/14 03:29 PM
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I eat out of trash cans.
/r/seduction27/07/14 06:22 AM
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Put it this way: Say there's two girls A and B. Both call you but you're too fucking awesome, probably throwing bands at a strip club pulling HB 10's and shit, whatever. Girl A calls you the next day and is like "whatafoolhewas, Why didn't you answer me? I like called you 20 times and sent you like 50 snapchats lmbo What did you do? Wanna go to Chipotle? blah blah blah Girl B, Hey, we should hangout...I had a cool day... How was your day? What girl seems more needy to you? A little exaggerated a…
/r/seduction27/07/14 06:14 AM
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I just came back from getting the groceries and ...
/r/seduction26/07/14 05:11 PM
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Oh she heard you. Girls are a LOT smarter than we think they are. There's tons of receptionists out there dude.
/r/seduction26/07/14 07:10 AM
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I pick my nose.
/r/seduction26/07/14 04:08 AM
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Make friends first. Building a social circle is a great start. It builds social proof and the more people you know, the more opportunities exist. But most importantly, have fun.
/r/seduction23/07/14 07:56 PM
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Enjoyed this video. Nice job. For the pressure of being on camera, you guys held your composure really well.
/r/seduction23/07/14 02:57 AM
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'Shit tests' don't truly exist. Of course, a girl wants to see if you fit what she's looking for. You'll get these if you don't appear genuine. She most likely asked that question because what you project is drumroll please a PUA! Bottom line, you need to be more genuine. You appear fake to her, gamey.
/r/seduction20/07/14 08:41 PM
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Stop trying to impress, take off the pressure. You already know you're awesome, look at the date to see if she fits what you're looking for. Not by hooking a lie detector up to her and asking her tons of questions, but just acting this way you describe to us and if she vibes with it, you'll know. Good luck.
/r/seduction20/07/14 04:27 PM
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I came to this subreddit for my one-itis at the time. After a while I got the 'lets just be friends' speech from her. After that experience, I wanted to change myself and break the toxic approval-seeking mindset that I've always had. I've always wanted to change, but that experience lit a flame under me to motivate me to do it. I was a 'nice guy' and now I've come a long way in terms of self-improvement. Still improving.
/r/seduction20/07/14 05:24 AM
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You're learning. I like it PUA, I like it. Asking a girl what her schedule's looking like? I commented that on one of your posts the other day! Fantastic. It'll take some time to find out works for you. The thing is, it's so hard to give insight on your game as we don't see or hear you! Big tip, Don't be reactive. This screams 'I care that you rejected me!' to me, not ' Alright, that's fine. Have a good day or something like that'. A simple affirmation of it and saying goodbye would be cool. Don…
/r/seduction16/07/14 09:53 PM
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I'm glad to read this. Reminds me of me in High School around this point, I asked this beautiful girl to prom my senior year who just joined our school 2 weeks prior. My confidence shot up and I felt on top of the world after that point. Which was awesome, she was a cool friend throughout the remainder of HS and I had a great time. Confidence is everything. I go to a state college with about 7k students- really good school. HUGE female to male ratio ( 8:3 I believe) which is great. My freshman y…
/r/seduction16/07/14 04:50 AM
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Women are naturally more better at reading flirting signals. Something about more of their brain is dedicated to that sort of thing versus the opposite sex. I think the discrepancy of the results could be caused by men interpreted signals that might have not been flirting signals as flirting signals.
/r/seduction16/07/14 01:06 AM
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I wish for my College Orientation last year I talked with a lot of people. Talk about the easiest time to meet other people. I made a few friends from college orientation but I would've made so much more if I was the person I am now. Don't worry about building everlasting friendships, get to know as many people as you can. And Join Clubs! I joined only Tennis my freshman year and regret I didn't join a lot more. This year, sophomore I'm joining a lot of clubs and getting involved. Go to events t…
/r/seduction15/07/14 08:22 PM
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Chalk it up as a moral victory and move on. It's not worth the drama.
/r/seduction15/07/14 08:19 PM
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Don't be so concerned with that. If you respect yourself, she'll turn to respect you. Of course, don't be afraid to assert yourself because the guy she respects less is not the douchebag but the doormat. I was that guy at one point. Don't be that. Set boundaries, within reason. Respect her choices, and she'll give you the most respect.
/r/seduction15/07/14 08:18 PM
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I see a huge problem here dude and this is with a LOT of your posts. When you ask them out, you're giving them a specific day with a specific time without their input when they're free, and so on. You can't do that. You're literally forcing them to meet you on your terms which isn't cool and explains why they all flake on you. Something like, "Hey _, I enjoyed talking to you, I got to run but we should grab _ sometime. My schedule is pretty busy. What's your schedule looking like?" And plan the …
/r/seduction15/07/14 03:48 PM
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If she cancels out on you last minute, she's a flake. It's really up to you, but as a guy who wasted him time on a flake that I'd talk to her and she'd seem to be up for it, and then throw any silly excuse she could come up with. Three strikes and that was that. Who cares why she flakes? Not worth it man, find a girl that wants to spend time with you.
/r/seduction15/07/14 03:23 PM
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Exactly. I feel the core of this thread is self-improvement as that will lead to all the things you listed, I'm feeling the effects right now, it's insane. If you haven't read 'Models', it's a nice book to get a glimpse into honesty and all that stuff. Gives you a nice perspective. Another book I really enjoyed was The Superior Way of Man - or something like that- by David Deida. Gives great insight into the dynamics of relationships, not just relationship relationships but any relationship betw…
/r/seduction15/07/14 04:02 AM
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I fucking love Nas, he's incredible. But yeah, don't get down on yourself do something productive. Build yourself up, build a sense of self-confidence, and then it won't matter if girls don't 'accept' you. And you'll be better off for it.
/r/seduction15/07/14 03:30 AM
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I'd feel this could backfire badly. I feel that one sedditor that follows this advice might have a panic attack from seeing tons of women naked would raise his anxiety, no? But other than that, it could work.
/r/seduction15/07/14 02:51 AM
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I've heard from ladies that if a guy tells them to call him, they most likely won't. You have a better chance of winning the lottery, then you wouldn't need seddit. What's worked great for me is texting her something along the lines like, Hey __, what's your schedule looking like this week? By their answer, you can tell if they're interested or not. If they're interested, they'll give you the days that are free and you can plan something. If not, they'll give you an excuse or something along tho…
/r/seduction14/07/14 04:04 AM
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One question: "Does it matter to you?" Going after more beautiful women is the same as going after the ones that are not as beautiful. The women more up there on the attractiveness scale are more used to the attention but that doesn't mean you should treat them any differently.
/r/seduction12/07/14 04:13 PM
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This helps. Thank you.
/r/seduction10/07/14 08:14 PM
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Definitely will. I'm taking summer classes this whole summer and I'm REALLY busy right now, but once this semester starts. Yes!
/r/seduction10/07/14 07:10 PM
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Isn't it a TL;DW though? Edit: Why am I getting downvoted? He had TL;DR before...
/r/seduction10/07/14 06:41 PM
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You can talk about "fingering", that's gold. We need more posts like these.
/r/seduction10/07/14 04:00 PM
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I wouldn't. Chances are they don't want to be bothered. If you get their attention, go for it! But they might act cold rowards you.
/r/seduction09/07/14 03:58 AM
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Ask yourself this question, if someone came up to you and asked "Hey, can I see what scents you got?" would you feel a little awkward from that? Think about she feels. Say Hi, start a conversation, and maybe you can discuss what you purchased, but that doesn't make sense why you right away ask what she bought. And numbers don't mean a thing, chances are a girl will give you a number even if she is not interested, she won't tell you no in person most likely and just won't answer. Create rapport, …
/r/seduction09/07/14 01:38 AM
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Just remember a trait called arrogance, it's very easy from going from "I'm awesome" to "I'm the shit and everyone is shit" mentality.
/r/seduction09/07/14 01:06 AM
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When I plan to go on dates, I go take them somewhere on my college campus. No car so that's really my only option, has kept my wallet full of bucks so far.
/r/seduction08/07/14 08:18 PM
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As us guys, our biggest fear is most likely being humiliated in the bedroom. For girls, it's being seen as a slut. If you make her feel sexy and don't judge her, well we all know what that means.
/r/seduction08/07/14 08:17 PM
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You're absolutely right. She's a nice girl, so someone like that in my life wouldn't be a bad thing surely. See how it plays out, but I'm not going to force anything- what's a friendship if I only try to be friends?. See what happens in the near future.
/r/seduction08/07/14 06:24 PM
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Um, we haven't really talked since then. Saw her once on campus during these summer classes, that's about it. Maybe it'll develop into a solid friendship, who knows? But she has some friends that are attractive for sure, and one of them seems to be into me- definitely pursuing that in the near future, but I think overall it's worth it to keep a friendship because not only does it give you a new female friend, it extends your social circle for dating. Through her, I got to know a good friend of h…
/r/seduction08/07/14 03:22 AM
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It happens. Just be you, by you not the person you came onto this subreddit but your new, best self. A text something along the lines of after the date, "Hey __, I had a good time. If she replies- if it was good, she most likely will! Set up another one a few days later on your own time. Text converations in between are fine but DON'T get caught up with texting her. I personally don't really text her too often other than to set up a meet or something like that.
/r/seduction08/07/14 02:24 AM
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Glad to read this man. It's good to be honest with your intentions. And I love the bit at the end, that's similar to how I felt when a girl told me she couldn't see our relationship progressing past a friendship after we went on a few dates. I just couldn't make a move on her, no kino, no flirting, nothing. We became just friends after that, and see where our friendship develops. I realized we are better off in a friendship, and I shouldn't rush with a girl I date to make them my girlfriend! But…
/r/seduction08/07/14 02:18 AM
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Yeah, that's a common problem I notice here as well. People get so caught in gaming, that when they get the girl or courting them, they revert to the person they were before they improved themselves thinking all is won.
/r/seduction07/07/14 04:04 PM
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It's most likely due to your two selves are a lot different from each other. I read an article that was somewhat related where the women were more into the guys when they were more into 'wooing' them or something along those lines. When they were different or didn't bother doing the same things that got the girl attracted, she began to lose interest. Try to mesh it into one self, bottom line you start acting differently from what they started to fall for and they bail.
/r/seduction07/07/14 03:00 PM
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Same. Definitely will listen to this, thanks!
/r/seduction07/07/14 02:56 PM
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I wouldn't care for night or day game. Start small and build up. You DON'T have to talk to women right then and there. Start talking to anyone, guys is a good start. If you're comfortable with approaching people in any social context, women aren't any different. Good luck! Most of us here have fear of approaching girls and speaking to them socially, you'll get over it. Good luck man!
/r/seduction07/07/14 02:44 AM
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This video sums it up. Eye contact is vital to building rapport, it projects confidence and shows you are immersed in the conversation, sexual tension and so on.
/r/seduction05/07/14 06:40 PM
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Don't be apathetic. We all care of what happens, whether we accept it or deny it. The big thing is outcome independence, you don't care about the outcome and just go with the flow. If you say you don't give a fuck, you are truly giving one. One that does not does not tell other people he does. That's the most insecure perspective , keep that in mind. Stay cool.
/r/seduction05/07/14 04:52 PM
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Look in their eyes is a good first step. I've heard you should aim in the neighborhood of 6-7 secs, too long and you could create an intimidating vibe, you don't want that. When she's talking, eye contact and those moments of silence you have. Don't fill in the lulls, put it on her. Just look into her eyes and smile and she'll fill the conversation. Let me know how it goes!
/r/seduction05/07/14 04:45 PM
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Don't have a goal getting a number, a date or anything like that. Set a small goal like make her smile, or make her day something that gives value, you know? Just have fun with it, see what she is all about, you already know you're awesome. Try a handshake. With my relatively small experience, the girls I've met shaking hands is a good step to start right off. Don't worry about an opener, they don't matter. Just say the first thing that comes up in your mind. They impress you, you don't impress …
/r/seduction05/07/14 04:34 PM
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Happens to the best of us. It's hard to NOT put this on a pedestal. Think of it this way, Beauty is something you either have or not. What makes her different from other girls besides her looks? Think about that.
/r/seduction05/07/14 03:07 PM
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If you can't succeed in person, how could you succeed online? Reevaluate where you're at, how you feel right now is what you project on the girls you meet. Two words, inner game.
/r/seduction05/07/14 03:06 PM
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Happened to me too. The reason I joined this sub was for my one-itis. She was the first girl I dated everin my 2nd college semester. She eventually told me lafter we went on a few dates, she didn't want to lead me on but she doesn't see our relationship progressing past a friendship. Stung a bit initially, but that experience changed my life forever. We had good convos, I made her laugh and smile, etc. but unfortunately that does not build attraction. I was afraid of making a move as were you be…
/r/seduction05/07/14 03:04 PM
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I read a body language book by Allan Pease, and its really good. I pay attention to the signs I give off and what others give off, and I project a confident vibe. It's awesome, people really look at me differently.
/r/seduction05/07/14 02:56 PM
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Try this. Instead of saying, lets go this day, ask them what their schedule is looking like for the week. You'll get days they're open for something, and if they're interested they'll tell you and you build around that. Your forcing these girls to go on a specific day with you, and all of us here don't know your game and how you go about talking to girls as you could think you're doing things right. Telling her a specific day or time investment without knowing their schedule is ridiculous IMO. S…
/r/seduction01/07/14 02:42 AM
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Don't just 'read' it, also do the activities. The activities help a lot, but its all in the mindset of seeing where your need for validation comes from, we all need validation but us 'nice guys' revolve our whole lives from the validation of others. So glad I broke that toxic mindset. I started reading that book, 'Models' and The Way of the Superior Man 3 months ago, and I'm a totally different person from three months ago. Everyone's different though.
/r/seduction01/07/14 02:11 AM
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Alright, so I did it! Asked her how her weekend was, all that stuff and I said 'I like your shirt' and she said 'Thanks'! I then said, something like "you know some people wear black and white and it doesn't look good but it looks really good on you. Where did you get it?" It actually wasn't nearly as bad as I made it out in my head. Thank you dude. In the future, I'll be much more confident in giving compliments.
/r/seduction01/07/14 01:49 AM
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Too bad that fish isn't swimming anymore, but I learned a lot from that experience with girls in the future. If unfortunately you don't reel her in, remember there's other girls out there! Hope it works out man!
/r/seduction30/06/14 06:45 PM
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Play it cool. As if nothing happened. I'm in a similar pickle with a girl I know in my social circle, its only weird if you make it weird.
/r/seduction30/06/14 05:07 AM
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Monday and Tuesday I have class again and Finals right after that! Thank you! I'll keep you updated.
/r/seduction27/06/14 05:38 PM
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I'm not an expert on this in the slightest, but maybe in a few days send her another text with something like: "Hey, I'm doing [this activity] you should join! If she doesn't bite, it's her loss, not yours. There are flakes for whatever reason and if she doesn't want to get to know ThePUA_Baddie, she doesn't know what she's missing!
/r/seduction27/06/14 03:03 AM
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We've all been there. Your situation mirrors mine in high school at least. I'll share. I was in high school, sophomore year and I really liked this girl who was in my french classes the first 2 years. I would look at her all the time in class and I had a huge crush on her. Fast forward to sophomore year, I walked to go into class and she was in front of the door and called me 'cute' and wanted a hug. I didn't think of anything of it and walked right in. In class she sat in front of me and my fri…
/r/seduction27/06/14 02:57 AM
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Great post. After reading it tried to see if it would help me do it, had thoughts of ' I really dig that shirt she's wearing, I should compliment her on it' or 'She smells really nice. I should tell her and ask what perfume she has" or not.. Ended up not complementing the two girls that seem to be taking interest in me in my class. Do I have the wrong mindset?
/r/seduction27/06/14 02:26 AM
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I felt she knew it was a date as the first time we met up she dressed up more than usual but I need to work on being honest with intent, giving compliments, and creating that sexual vibe in my interactions with women. That's the big point. Slowly inching towards getting comfortable with giving value- a.k.a compliments- and being sincere whilst saying them. Along with incorporating kino one small step at a time. Thanks.
/r/seduction24/06/14 07:06 PM
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Intent is the thing I need to work on, creating a sexual vibe and all that jazz. Feel the rest of my game is solid, I can hold a great conversation and all that stuff, maintain a calm and cool vibe but that's an element that has been absent. Definitely checking the video out, thank you!
/r/seduction24/06/14 07:04 PM
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Understood. I felt with the last girl kino and flirting were completely absent from my interactions with her most likely due to the 'nice guy' complex seeking approval and not wanting to mess anything up. A huge revelation for me was finding out girls want sex just as or if not more than guys. Changed my outlook on everything. We had great conversations- I'm a much better conversationalist then I give myself credit for, but its easily no wonder why it never escalated past a friendship. I feel I'…
/r/seduction24/06/14 06:59 PM
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Okay, so leave it open to develop. Guess the one thing I need to work on is making it seem like a date versus a casual hangout. Thanks for your input! Truly appreciated.
/r/seduction24/06/14 05:12 AM
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Thanks for the quick reply. I would feel a 'hangout' one on one would imply it being more 'date' style, but my big fault in the recent past was not making a move- typical 'nice guy'- and our relationship went from casual dating- a few months of hanging out- to just friends. I guess I want to avoid a situation like that again. It's all good, I'm a totally different from the person I was a few months ago, learned a lot, and I should have less of a problem with that now. Do you think if I used the …
/r/seduction24/06/14 05:05 AM
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I'd so wing with you as I live in Jersey as well and 19, but I'm taking classes over at college. I'd try the mall, not sure where you're at but now in the summer, it's probably full of girls to practice. I went while school was still in session, and there was no one the times I went or that was my reason for not approaching any girls lol. Good luck dude!
/r/seduction24/06/14 04:24 AM
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So the exercise follows something like this, and I never really did it since I'm comfortable with talking as I found slowing my speech to compliment my personality works wonders. You take a pen in your mouth and place it horizontally between your teeth and try reading, anything really and practicing pronouncing words. Try stories, at least you won't be bored reading them and could practice emotion with your voice. And the books on your stomach, not chest. You want to breathe deeper, not shallowe…
/r/seduction24/06/14 01:38 AM
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I think RSD is nice for the confidence aspect of 'pickup' and what goes on here in that respect. However, the negative I feel is their mindset has become meshed in the positive mindset we have in this subreddit which I feel is not good.
/r/seduction24/06/14 01:01 AM
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You love girls? What's wrong with you?! We're only supposed to love them for the night....
/r/seduction24/06/14 12:57 AM
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I've found that talking with my voice relaxed has lead to having a deeper voice naturally. When I'm in a conversation with someone, my voice has a nice bass to it now, and really portrays my calm, cool persona. I've taken up 'singing' although I'm not that good and it seemed to help me to control my diaphragm and control my voice better. An exercise I saw is to put a few books on your stomach while you're lying down and breathe deeply so the books rise. This teaches you to use your diaphragm whi…
/r/seduction23/06/14 11:41 PM
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Everyone loves to talk about themselves, make that the topic of the conversation and bounce off that. Works for me.
/r/seduction22/06/14 06:28 AM
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I think RSD is helpful in seeing different views on pickup. However, just memorizing concepts in my opinion is worthless. What worked for one guy will not work for another, I think it's not word for word of RSD that's helpful- oh no, but seeing the confidence these guys emulate and learn from it. Not become a spitting image of Tyler Durden or the like, but take that confidence and apply it to your own mantra. At least how I see it.
/r/seduction21/06/14 09:37 PM
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Ask them to define a creepy, any girl really and they'll either give you a time they thought someone was 'creepy' but can't give you a concrete definition. Don't worry about it really, no one can define what creepy is, they just associate any feeling with it that the word itself became meaningless. You're good.
/r/seduction21/06/14 05:07 AM
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Hmm, seeing as I got out of high school a year ago, going to be a sophomore in college this coming year hard to tell by that context. Notice any glances towards you, and so on?- Could be a sign. But instead of looking for 'signs' as I did in high school, just go for it dude. I remember a few cringe worthy moments from high school that gave me the outlook I have today, you never know until you go out there. Wish I had the courage to ask a girl out in high school, I didn't manage to start doing th…
/r/seduction21/06/14 05:05 AM
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I like this. However, I feel being 'true to yourself' is kind of bad advice. Many of us here, when told to be ourselves we try to be what we think we are. We have to discover who that person is and embody it. That's why inner game is so vital to improving your life and to a substantial degree improving your success with women.
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:59 AM
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How does being 'not bad looking' and fashions sense attribute to maintaining your frame? That's a weird question to ask someone first off, and when someone said a comment like that, you should have laughed it off and played it no mind. Sounds like you let it get to you, don't be concerned with being 'alpha' 100% of the time, it's nearly impossible to accomplish that feat. Heck, don't be concerned with being alpha, learn to take a joke, laugh it off, and continue your conversation. It's a learnin…
/r/seduction21/06/14 02:09 AM
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I was going to advise against it, but it's high school so I restrained. Few questions: Do you talk to her? - Not just admiring her from afar or something like that Do you have a class with her? Are there any IOIs? -Something simple as smiling when she greets you along with other things could be a indicator of interest. As the other commenter said, direct honesty is your best bet. You can also be indirect to start a conversation, but for the love of all things high school, don't beat around, keep…
/r/seduction21/06/14 01:41 AM
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I really liked Thousand Tiny Failures by Tony D, its actually pretty hilarious, if you like pickup and satire, you'll love his book.
/r/seduction18/06/14 05:01 AM
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It's only a problem if YOU make it a problem. Embrace it.
/r/seduction18/06/14 04:42 AM
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A few months ago, March precisely I discovered this subreddit searching for advice for my one-itis. I went to relationship advice, dating advice, etc. for that experience. I ended up getting the 'just friends' from a girl I had feelings for after casually dating- just dates- her for a while and never making a move. No surprise. At that moment when she said that I wasn't happy, but I later realized really quickly as I joined this subreddit by reading 'No More Mr. Nice Guy', among other books tran…
/r/seduction18/06/14 03:59 AM
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So did I. That book was a life-changer. Good luck man. Recommend 'Models' by Mark Manson, 'The Way of a Superior Man' by David Deida are two other cornerstones of my transformation. Remember, just reading won't improve but going out there and applying what you learn.
/r/seduction18/06/14 01:26 AM
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It's okay dude. And not every post on Seddit is a source of advice anyway, this is a better post than some of the things I've seen lately. Approach Anxiety starts from within, what's the worst that can happen? The girl says no? Think about it that way, rejection may sting but its certain. Regret makes you waste your time when you can be talking to more girls! C'mon son!
/r/seduction15/06/14 11:56 PM
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Try reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" by Robert Glover, I used to be the same a few months ago. CHANGED MY LIFE. I don't seek validation anymore, and I feel like I'm truly living life without worrying about others' opinions. Great read.
/r/seduction15/06/14 10:48 PM
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I'd like to share an experience of mine that relates to what you had here. An experience I had this year with casually dating a girl here in college the first year changed my outlook on everything. I started off cool, and quickly became needy. I was the real life picture of the 'nice guy' complex. I was too afraid to make a move to end up losing her, and waited for signs that she wanted me to move things further. That sign never came. After a few months she lost interest and the instant she 'fri…
/r/seduction15/06/14 10:39 PM
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Simply, personality is timeless. Looks aren't.
/r/seduction15/06/14 10:29 PM
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I'm not saying to tell the girl 'whatever' but a statement like 'Oh okay that's fine' or something like that with a confident vibe- shows you don't mind rejection, you have options.
/r/seduction15/06/14 10:26 PM
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I wouldn't like the canned line if I was using it, I mean whatever works for you. But, I think just a statement that goes to the tune of- not the exact words- 'whatever I have options, have a nice day' shows the girl you don't care if you get rejected, I mean why should you? A man with options does not care if one girl rejects him, because he easily could choose another girl to pursue.
/r/seduction15/06/14 04:03 PM
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Body language, being more assertive, and voice tonality. How people perceive me is already changing. I haven't worked out in 2 weeks, and I can't really exercise as all my time for this summer is due to studying for 4 challenging classes over this period but it's awesome to see how the changes already grab attention of these two girls in my one class. I feel a lot more confident, and I used to hold back things I say- still do to a minute degree not nearly as much a couple months ago. It's awesom…
/r/seduction13/06/14 04:43 AM
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I'm happy you're happy. Thanks for letting us know! That's awesome dude! Cheering for you over here.
/r/seduction13/06/14 04:12 AM
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Personally, I feel saying thanks is a good way to go about it but if you find something to compliment about the person right then, say it. Good vibes both ways.
/r/seduction11/06/14 04:38 AM
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Back workouts, I started deadlifting, dips, and pullups a month ago and my posture improved a lot. Squats help for posture as well, make sure your form is good for lifting otherwise you can really hurt yourself.
/r/seduction11/06/14 04:36 AM
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That first bit reeks of arrogance to me. There is such a thin line between confidence and arrogance. I believe confidence is believing in yourself and whatever you do- work, school, ability, pickup. Its a blur from the rest of what you said as I feel it ties in with self-image and self-esteem, but otherwise real good.
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:40 AM
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This is great. Let us know what happens! Glad to hear stories like this.
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:24 AM
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I agree, great advice all around except that bit. Doesn't take account into the guys that aren't 'high-energy'. It works for those that can pull it off, but if a sedditor follows this advice, we might see another post like "Girls say I talk way too much?"
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:22 AM
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I don't think it's possible to become 100% apathetic. Saying you don't care would make you more needy than someone who accepts everything as is. Be honest with yourself, be honest with others, if you love and respect yourself others will and if they don't, that's their problem not yours. That's an 'alpha'- I hate that word-mentality, work on body language- read a book like the one by Pease, 'Models' is another solid read- highly recommend, and as you said fitness is a big thing, feel comfortable…
/r/seduction09/06/14 03:02 AM
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I used to think this way, but I think it depends on the context. Usually if a girl is attractive, her friends will be which not only increases your chances, gives you another platform to go out on- social circle- besides cold approaches, etc. But this is important for the guy not to wait for her to be 'single' and just do his own thing- if you're waiting for her to be single, it's not worth it.
/r/seduction07/06/14 11:48 PM
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I notice how self-improvement over the last two months as well has changed me, what you feel is similar to how feel as well. And it seems like girls notice it, this one girl who's was really beautiful sat right behind me on the first day of summer class at college and I was sitting away from everyone else. It's great.
/r/seduction06/06/14 11:51 PM
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I've always looked at a girl and saw her as more than T and A as everyone else puts it. I see a person just like me. The first thing I notice about a girl is her face, and ideally you want a girl who's attractive there you know? For me, a girl could be really attractive but if her personality doesn't cut it, we're not on the same level.
/r/seduction06/06/14 06:01 AM
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Fashion is subjective, I've always had a good sense of fashion sense but something just as simple as wearing the right size fitting clothes can help you out a lot. Took it upon myself to buy shirts and shorts that fit much better on my body than before and its improved the way I look to a degree. But remember, it's from the inside not from the outside. That's why you, me, and all sedditors are here, to work on our inner selves. I'm 19 as well- v-card, never had a girlfriend so you're ahead of me…
/r/seduction06/06/14 04:07 AM
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I'm guilty of this same thing with a girl I was hanging out for a substantial period of time. Told her I liked her, she said she was flattered and 'blah blah blah'- couldn't be in a relationship right now, family and what not. I never made a move and she eventually started to lose interest. What did I do? I persisted in continuing to ask her out, and eventually she hinted at 'friends', said she can't see us being more than that and the rest is history. But anyway, its okay to be 'persistent' to …
/r/seduction05/06/14 07:18 PM
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Sure, my blog is here. Check it out! I try to post every week, however with classes its kind of tough but that's the goal.
/r/seduction05/06/14 07:08 PM
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I'm currently reading the Body Language Book by Allan and Barbara Pease, but I assume the one Joe Navarro wrote is just as effective. It's a good book, I recommend it- either one really. I'm looking for signs and gives me a good idea in how people are feeling, and eliminating negative body language from my repertoire as well to project a better vibe.
/r/seduction05/06/14 07:07 PM
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I want to applaud you so hard my hands fall off. This is amazing.
/r/seduction05/06/14 12:02 AM
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Okay, ignore the message I sent just now, I'll post ultimately when I have a lot more content. Thanks!
/r/seduction25/05/14 08:04 PM
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Confidence is universal, however pay note to your body language as a simple body language action that means one thing here could mean something totally different- and potentially offensive- somewhere else. That could be detrimental to your interactions and what they perceive of you before you even approach. A 'smile' is a safe bet, try to observe locals to have an idea what is acceptable and what is not. Good luck.
/r/seduction25/05/14 05:18 AM
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From someone who went to orientation for college last year without knowing any of this seduction stuff- only getting immersed in it 2 months ago approximately, focus on meeting people for the time being. It's orientation so you're just experiencing the campus and learning about everyone around you. Start quick conversations, really social circle building comes around welcome week- advice I had is go to events that your campus has throughout the day- like Basketball, etc. and meet as many people …
/r/seduction23/05/14 08:44 PM
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I would say they just had the drive to, or their brothers or men in their life got them into it. I wish I was a 'natural' no brothers and my dad taught me NOTHING about 'getting girls'. I feel learning before going out there gives us an advantage over them in the long run, but as shown by them you get better by constantly engaging girls.
/r/seduction23/05/14 05:49 PM
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I would honestly say I'm in a very shockingly similar point than you are right now. Started working out, getting fit which is awesome. "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and "Models" changed my perspective drastically on everything as well. Also a virgin here, my biggest problem for me is a lack of vulnerability- breaking the 'nice guy' complex and becoming more assertive. Being the way I was, I had tons of friends and acquaintances but with girls my success was extremely limited- ended up being just friend…
/r/seduction19/05/14 10:11 PM
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I'm the most guilty of the 'haha' in a number of my texts I sent to the last girl I dated- helped me earn my ticket to the friendzone. Going to try to eliminate that from my text game, starting with friends and moving forward. And 'How are you', 'How's it going' and so on I used as a crutch to start a text convo, I think it depends but I definitely could understand your logic with that one. What's a good alternative? However, I feel punctuation is a hit or miss though, used correctly it's good b…
/r/seduction19/05/14 03:27 AM
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As this experience was less than a month ago, I haven't stepped out into the dating world once again. I plan to go out there and practice approaching again and learning from experience. However, on my general attitude toward life is better than ever. I feel with breaking this toxic mentality of the 'nice guy complex', I'll truly be honest with myself and my intentions and find true success with girls. I've always been somewhat of an optimist, but this experience allowed me to break down those si…
/r/seduction18/05/14 05:02 AM
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I'm turning 19 soon and in the same exact place as you bud! Just finished my first year of college and got my one way ticket to the 'friendzone' when I failed to escalate with this girl I went on a few dates with. I was scared of rejection and approaching girls, asking a girl out, feel those 'fears' don't affect me nearly as much now which is great. I was that "Nice Guy" that you mention, at one point my calling card to myself was how I was a nice guy and my honesty. Truth is, believe it or not …
/r/seduction18/05/14 04:44 AM
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I had an experience that was very close to this one. In my case, I NEVER initiated any kino or anything like that with her at all because I, like you was 'too scared' to mess things up. Eventually, I got the 'lets be friends' which is fine as I understood why and I learned a lot from that experience but I'm so glad it worked out for you!
/r/seduction17/05/14 11:35 PM
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If you're not confident in approaching, they can sense it. It's believing in yourself and becoming outcome-independent. It might take ONE approach, it might take TEN, or HUNDRED, but as you do more and more it'll get better. You're ahead of me I can count on my left hand the number of girls I approached lol, I need to get out there.
/r/seduction17/05/14 08:56 PM
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Nice Guy behavior is hard to break, if you haven't I recommend reading "No More Mr. Nice Guy" and "Models" seemed to help me a ton on this journey. Focus on yourself and your growth. Don't compare yourself to others, but once you start feeling positive, you'll shine. We all will.
/r/seduction16/05/14 06:34 PM
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I always wanted to improve myself. Just had no idea how to go about it. After an experience with a girl where my 'nice guy complex' ultimately gave me a one-way ticket to the friendzone- never made moves, she lost interest, I now want to get rid of that 'nice guy complex', become more assertive, and more true to myself. I feel improving myself will help in a lot of things in my life, improve relationships with others and women, well that's another huge motivator as well. I'm a laid-back nice guy…
/r/seduction16/05/14 06:25 PM
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As my first first date wasn't that long ago, tips I carried into it that lead to a 2nd date were: 1) Have fun 2) Go with the flow- bounce off what she says, don't expect anything- I noticed on future dates I would replay beforehand how I WANTED it to go, realize that it does not match up- don't do this. 3) Touching, jokes- something completely absent from my end Great convos, "nice guy complex" lead to a lack of a sexual vibe on my end which ultimately gave me my one-way ticket to the friendzone…
/r/seduction15/05/14 02:52 AM
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Don't. That'll come off as needy. Usually it's due to factors beyond your control, or you displayed more neediness or more investment than her. Tally up your mistakes, learn from them, and move forward.
/r/seduction13/05/14 03:37 AM
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Video was great. Thanks for sharing.
/r/seduction12/05/14 02:17 PM
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Yeah, I have the exact same problem. I've grown to not do it anymore as I used to crush on girls LONG before I actually got to know them which is a problem. After dating for the first time with this one girl, I've seem to grown out of it. I try to envision the girl as just ANOTHER girl- it's tough- but an abundance mentality helps with that. I used to suffer from a 'scarcity' mentality- OH there's no other girl like HER , If I screw this up I will never get with HER, and so on. It's a cool state…
/r/seduction11/05/14 06:34 AM
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I'd recommend him to approach EVERYONE- not just the ones that are attractive , practice makes perfect.
/r/seduction11/05/14 03:36 AM
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This video helped somewhat for me.
/r/seduction10/05/14 04:35 PM
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No More Mr. Nice Guy - for those nice guys like me out there How to Win Friends and Influence People- currently reading The Way of the Superior Man
/r/seduction10/05/14 04:33 PM
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How to Win Friends and Influence People Just started reading it now, really captivating.
/r/seduction09/05/14 06:29 AM
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There goes your problem. I'm working on conversation as well- more initiating it then anything, although I'm not a boring person at all- my fault rises in the 'nice guy' complex I'm trying to overcome hiding parts of my great persona- and also becoming more assertive. Anyway, a tip I have is to try to bounce off of what they say-easier said than done, find something to be passionate about, and you'll meet success. I just stopped for coffee on campus today, and just talked to a guy next to me abo…
/r/seduction07/05/14 07:05 PM
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Great insight. I'm looking past the women aspect, however thanks to this experience with this girl- led to me finding seddit- opened my eyes to how I am as a person. I've always had these thoughts about myself, but I never wanted to change them because everyone 'liked' me as a person, "oh you're such a nice guy", "he's a nice guy", "one of the sweetest people ever" and felt good to have people say that about me. I feel more in control of my life which is weird, I felt in my interactions everyone…
/r/seduction05/05/14 05:24 AM
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You know, I did not see her sexually in that way, could be why flirting and all was impossible for me to do. So being friends with a lot of thought into it is not that bad at all, she's a really nice girl but the conflict in my mind is I want to be 'real friends'. We're more distant than before, which takes a lot getting used to but works to my benefit: opens the floor to her friends dating-wise, social proof and I have a female friend, sweet. And life has surprises. Next semester, hoping to get…
/r/seduction05/05/14 05:16 AM
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That's true. It's easier to see outside of the moment for sure and what you said makes perfect sense. I'm currently getting out of the mindset that everyone has to 'like' me. After reading that one book, changed my mindset completely. I'm not aiming for people to like me and say things to gain their approval- it'll be a bad habit to break but I'll be WAY better off when it comes to relationships and girls in the future.
/r/seduction05/05/14 01:49 AM
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I'll keep that in mind. I mean, I really don't understand even outside of context, one of my close friends- who I often joke around and knows me as myself-told me after that experience that he thinks a comment like that is totally fine, but girls can be funny sometimes. It made me not want to tease her again in fear she'd get offended. But yeah, their group has a wacky sense of humor, I'm probably better off then, haha.
/r/seduction05/05/14 01:45 AM
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Visualize them like close friends, that helps a lot! Thanks.
/r/seduction05/05/14 01:41 AM
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If you could elaborate more that'd be great, any examples?
/r/seduction05/05/14 01:23 AM
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I think you're fine. I feel going overboard, like a tuxedo would have a negative impact of being 'overdressed'. I've wore shirts with Blazers and dress slacks and got a ton of compliments on campus. Totally fine. Shows you have respect for yourself.
/r/seduction04/05/14 08:33 PM
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That'd been a great response. Lesson for the future, but I guess in the moment and throughout our 'dating' relationship I did not want to hurt her feelings and was really careful about all the things I said- realizing I should not be like that.
/r/seduction04/05/14 08:30 PM
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Definitely. Thanks for the tips. I feel eye contact is a good thing, we had a good amount of eye contact, but I never initiated anything. Touching with friends and moving forward will help.
/r/seduction04/05/14 05:50 PM
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I dress really well , a lot of compliments come my way from friends and what not on the way I dress and I take care of myself- new vegetarian diet, going on runs, eating healthier, working out at the gym, and so on. and all. Told I have a great sense of fashion, so that's not the problem at least. But yeah, I never teased this girl on anything- one time I tried to on her 'taste of music' while hanging with her and her friend- said in a funny tone, ' have you been living under a rock'? when she s…
/r/seduction04/05/14 05:48 PM
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If it means success with women, that's something I have to risk. I have to get over that complex of wanting 'everyone to like me'- stems from my childhood, if I keep that, I'll have a lot of friends and acquaintances but with girls the farthest I'll get with them is 'just friends'. Thanks for bringing that to mind, opens my eyes thinking about it. Have to risk people being jealous of me for my success.
/r/seduction04/05/14 05:44 PM
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From a "nice guy" who is trying to change his ways, this is pushing me to transform even more. Great.
/r/seduction03/05/14 04:08 AM
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My biggest obstacle? Assertiveness. Just being comfortable with my thoughts and saying what's on my mind without worrying what other people think or might feel. That 'nice guy' curse, good- lots of friends and acquaintances, hurts me with girls though.
/r/seduction03/05/14 03:58 AM
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I'm still in the progress of doing that, but I felt the effects almost instantly. If you have the mindset to change, it'll progress naturally. I feel more confident, already making moves to be more assertive for example- felt great to say a joke or thought I had to a group of friends who laughed along when I normally would hold it back. After reading " No More Mr. Nice Guy", it hit me while I was reading it. So if you have the correct mindset, it'll happen to you too! Good luck to all of us.
/r/seduction03/05/14 03:53 AM
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This exact thing happened to me. Right here in college, was dating this girl at the beginning of semester, after the first date and going on the second I was doing really well. Waited a week between first and second, hit them up, gave them a homemade valentine's day card with cute sketches and everything at the end of second date- she really enjoyed it. Anyway, I felt after the next day I grabbed lunch with her and her friend she introduced to me on V-Day lunch I lost that coolness and reservedn…
/r/seduction03/05/14 03:45 AM
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Confidence. I'm working on it too, I've gotten past from bringing myself down, it'll come in time. So build up yourself and go out there, it's tough at first but as you talk to more girls it'll get easier- start off with becoming friends around them and move forward! I used to be 'awkward' around girls in high school and below- different reason, I'm a really 'nice guy' and was always afraid of people especially how girls would perceive me- saw something offensive, wrong, etc. so I was really qui…
/r/seduction01/05/14 06:32 PM
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Happens to the best of us. If they're out with you one-on-one there has to be some interest there! I get the chills when I build up the date in my head before it, just go with the flow and don't expect anything. Easier said than done.
/r/seduction01/05/14 01:00 AM
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Thank you. I plan on picking up 'Models', I'll check the other book for sure.
/r/seduction30/04/14 08:04 PM
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Texting the next day, "I had a good time" or something along those lines works. And whenever you feel comfortable asking her out again, do. Best advice I can give.
/r/seduction30/04/14 04:31 PM
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This post resonates with me. I have a laid-back, calm, 'nice guy' persona. I get along with everyone, have a nice circle of friends, and acquaintances. However, being that genuinely nice guy, i lack assertiveness- I used to be a pushover, not so much anymore but I lack a backbone, working on that for sure, its also very hard for me to open up to share feelings and therefore with girls I'm not that good with them dating-wise- I've gotten more comfortable talking to them for sure. Like the First g…
/r/seduction30/04/14 04:59 AM
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Try accutane( ask your derm) if your acne is THAT bad, I went on a 4 month regimen in high school(high dose) and been acne-free for a year. It's hell though- you get really dry, exzema- but it dries the acne out and I haven't broken out- except for a pimple or two once in a blue moon for a long time. And your gameplan is similar to mine- I started going vegetarian, working out more, drinking water a lot. That's awesome. And I learned to accept rejection, got over AA- after asking this one girl o…
/r/seduction30/04/14 03:54 AM
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I ask the question, do you want a date or not? Is she worth it? If you don't want to go to a group outing, it's fine not to respond. Good luck out there man.
/r/seduction29/04/14 08:13 PM
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That vid on Rapid Escalation helped me a lot. Right now, trying to get out of the 'nice guy' mold, gaining good amount of confidence, etc. and those things you stated about girls totally contradict what I've been told by my mother, society, etc. Freakin' great. Looking forward to it.
/r/seduction29/04/14 07:05 PM
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Enlightening to see this as I'm THAT guy to use lol, hahas and smiles( occasionally) in my texts. - Working on that nice guy thing, some good progress so far. Shit.
/r/seduction29/04/14 01:22 AM
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I'm super ambiguous. As a leader though, I chose where we went, etc. so that's not a real problem area. But yeah, I'm trying to avoid being like that in the future. I told her I was 'into her' cause I feared if I did not, she might lose interest and all. Learning from that experience, my words don't mean anything without action- sure you can tell a girl you're into her, but you have to SHOW it. Definitely have to work on that 'action' part, I'm pretty solid with my words.
/r/seduction29/04/14 01:06 AM
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Sound advice. Yeah, even if I was dissatisfied with something, I would hold it back because I feared how someone would take it. But yeah, no longer I'm being more honest and saying what comes to mind without over thinking it- my voice is more relaxed- ironically more deeper which is awesome, more confident- and I already feel the effects. Reading the Nice Guy book, some tips from Models, etc. and I'm putting it to work. Honesty- I always claimed I was honest but- I'm actually really not as I oft…
/r/seduction29/04/14 01:03 AM
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In that situation, you stayed true to yourself. That's not rejection. I applaud you. Similar scenario, first girl I've dated right here in college now we went on a couple outings, she asked me to be friends. Told her I can't be friends with someone I like, she got upset- her and her friends ignoring me for a week, so I apologized and we're friends now. To be honest, I think we're a lot better as friends. The benefits of that are great- dating her friends, advice, etc., and anyway I wasn't attrac…
/r/seduction28/04/14 04:04 AM
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I endorse this book, just finished it. It's great.
/r/seduction28/04/14 03:07 AM
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I actually posted a thread similar to the 'nice guy' thing the other day. Check it Here. Hope it helps you as much it helped me!
/r/seduction28/04/14 02:34 AM
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Yeah, I'm definitely in the boat of hiding my feelings in exchange for being nice at times. And great advice, really appreciate it!
/r/seduction27/04/14 05:53 AM
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I definitely had a lot of progress from putting pretty girls on pedestals. I used to put pretty girls on pedestals before I even got to know them. This one before I started seeing them I did not put them above me. At first with this girl I was very calm, but later on I started to put her on that pedestal once again. Got to work on that. Yeah, I notice I'm pretty solid at building rapport and conversations. Need to incorporate a sexual vibe with future girls. Thanks.
/r/seduction27/04/14 01:45 AM
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I'm definitely not comfortable with expressing my sexuality. I think that's my biggest weakness without a doubt, gonna make strides towards that. Now I think about this girl, sure she was pretty-nice face, etc.- but I was not sexually attracted to her in that way- could be the reason. We were so alike besides culture differences- personality, likes, dislikes- that I guess I made myself 'fall for her' because of those reasons. See now that we could be great friends. Maybe I have to go for girls I…
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:28 PM
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Inspiring, thank you. I'm not guilty of the eating place thing, but I gave her a card for V-Day, a nice cute homemade card with stick figure sketches and chocolate- she really liked it ,but in the back of my mind I did it with the intent of getting a positive response from her. A number of things I do are to get positive responses from others, and I notice that's a bad thing. I'm honestly a kind person, just the way I was raised, but for me the biggie is for sure being more assertive- stop hidin…
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:26 PM
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Started reading, this book resonates with me. Thanks!
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:20 PM
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This inspires me so much. Thanks.
/r/seduction26/04/14 11:19 PM
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