I never even knew it existed while approaching girls until I started reading online about seduction and picking up girls.

It's all in your head!

Here are a few tips I use in field, obviously missing a few things so feel free to contribute:

  • Pull the trigger, as soon as you see someone, no thinking, get in the set
  • You can't be accepted in the venue you're at; if you can't be accepted, you can't be rejected. People might have immature reactions, but until you embrace the fact most people don't study how to be social, they aren't as socially experienced and going off natural intuition -- girls just happen to have a great natural social intuition... you are going to be STUCK
  • Don't think of it as acceptance and rejection; think of it as getting more familiar and building more rapport and getting her more comfortable than the other new guys
  • When you're getting better, you see talking to hot girls as just being chill, being part of life, not what you expected it to be, they are usually pretty lonely people. Genuinely beautiful girls are probably some of the most accepting and elegant people around, girls blowing you out isn't elegant, that's just being immature and high maintenance. All those high maintenance girls you see wish they could have the men who are dime pieces (e.g. models, millionaires, actors, entrepreneurs). But honestly after a roll in the hay those high status men throw them away because the girls not all caked in make up and revealing clothes aren't really that high value naked or in the morning.
  • Imagine her loving every bit of your approach, imagine her listening to everything you say, laughing, and touching you, this projection will rub off on her and she'll usually act about what you imagine.
  • Reframe everything that happens with her as her being attracted, ASSUME ATTRACTION
  • Also, keep those times you wanted to talk to a girl and what went through your mind written down, the longer you feel mad at yourself for not doing something, the more you're going to want to fix it by just going in and stop over thinking everything!

If you sit there and think about approaching, you just get exponentially nervous and it's not even worth it after thinking about it so much -- you'll come off so creepy.

Example: Saw this girl in the mall today, red hat, seductive looking as fuck, she literally brushed passed me and made physical contact. I didn't even open, so I passed her three more times all around the mall (huge fucking mall). And I got continually more nervous and my heart just fluttered everywhere compared to the first time where my thought was "god damn that girl was sexy I want to get to know her" to "holy shit dude you are way too nervous to even tell her she's cute right now". Had something like "This is the nth time I've seen you and it'd be a crime not to come tell you, you have this seductive air about you and I can sense it every time I pass you, that hat is something else, I'm Alex." SO EASY NOW THAT I'M NOT IN THAT VENUE.

(for reference here's what the hat looked like pretty much, sexy as fuck http://cdna.lystit.com/photos/2012/08/09/nasty-gal-wine-carmen-floppy-hat-product-1-4445989-817891552_large_flex.jpeg )

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Saw a girl in a Wal Mart earlier this week, I know, but those hot girls happen to need to buy groceries at some point, and mine happens to sell them ;) Well anyways, I pass this girl, really close, she can probably smell my cologne, she follows me, stops, I leave, walk around a little scoping out, she and I bump into each other after about three minutes in another aisle. I pick up some random shit I didn't know existed, block her so she looks at me, turn to her, make eye contact, and ask her what I can cook with it, she answers, and I go into a direct "I'm just kidding, I thought you were cute and I wanted to talk to you, I'm Alex", it was so chill and sexy and confident the way it was said, so much value giving. She gets anime eyes, and says thanks, then she gives me her name (I forget to be honest, need to get better at using their names in vibing a bit), we vibe a bit, she's gaming me, she's asking me a bunch of small talk and I turn it back to her and create some threads off of them, eventually the conversation falls out and I ask her when she's free to get to know her better (my bad honestly, because it's bad to chase like that at the end of vibing, but she was investing so much anyways) she throws me a boyfriend card "I don't think my boyfriend would like that haha, but if you want to party come to insert her college campus here" I just nod and eject. It's a nice mindset to leave the attached girls alone, but it's still a nice challenge since most boyfriends are usually quite boring, and are usually lucky guys who were stuck in the wings waiting for a minute instead of that ladies man who came up to her and asked her on a date three minutes after meeting her. ;) I should have just made a joke out of it about him making us cookies, or us fighting to the death for her, or something ridiculous; it sounds so, but saying those things to a complete stranger is really quite bold.

The difference between those was that I probably took three minutes total to dance around with the second girl until I approached, and thirty+ for the first one.