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Constructing a dominant Vibe

Abstract

Projecting the right Vibe is a huge thing, but this concept is very much underestimated by a lot of guys. Projecting a confident and socially dominant, yet positive, relaxed and most importantly genuine Vibe, projecting that kind of Vibe can do wonders to your life, both in terms of generating attraction with girls, and just going through your day in a more pleasant way.

If we hypothetically consider “dominance” as something that ranges between two extreme values of 0% and 100%, the two components defining someone’s “perceived dominance,” and their finger in the air contributions, are:

● Inner Core (80%)
● External conscious movements (20%)

For the Inner Core, real confidence is developed only stepping outside your comfort zone, since if this was not the case, that zone would not be referred to as “comfort.” Confidence is developed when you are about to do something that greatly frightens you, and either you stay in there yourself and do it, without making excuses, or someone else makes you stay there and do it, without listening to your excuses.

The only advice I can you give on this point, which is the most important one when it comes to improving your confidence and self-esteem, is to make a conscious effort to identify possible ways to step out of your comfort zone and face your fears. That’s the only way.

The way you move and you carry yourself will be influenced by the Inner 80% to start with, and this part, which is the biggest contributor to your body language, is something you cannot fake. Then, there are some External conscious movements you can keep in mind and proactively execute to give your Vibe a boost:

*Camouflage your “tells”
*Exaggerate low-confidence resembling movements
*Lead also when following
*Walk with a purpose
*Stand straight
*Avoid low-confidence body positions
*Don’t lean in
*Don’t sit in “sprinter” position
*Relax your lips
*Relax your shoulders
*Keep your glass low
*Avoid low-status behaviour
*Kill the approval-seeking voice
*Kill the submissive voice
*Fight-off the feeling of rush
*Remain present in the moment
*Don’t break circle
*Be comfortable with silence
*Speak slower and with a purpose
*Avoid filler words
*Don’t scan around
*Stop saying “sorry”
*Don’t hide between a smartphone
*Dress and move like a hetero
*Don’t steal glances in the mirror