Control your inner dialog:

ChrisDarmount · 2019-08-19T02:12:27+00:00

Affirmations help me a lot. I do this:

Write down a list of affirmations.
Record myself saying them. I keep recording them until I sound relaxed and dominant, not tense.
Play them back while I sleep and during the day at low volume while I work. An ios app called "AudioShare" lets you play the track on loop while also playing audio from other apps at the same time

Affirmations can be used for self-hypnosis, they don't have to be just things to raise your self-esteem. For example, I was having trouble doing direct approaches so I created these to change my subconscious attitude towards pain (fear of the emotional pain of rejection/awkward interactions was a big part of what was freezing me from approaching)

I enjoy pain
I am excited to feel pain, learn, and grow
Pain is the source of strength, joy, and richness
Rejection is always better than regret

KingQuagie · 2019-08-19T03:07:23+00:00

My inner dialog brutalizes me constantly. These are some good tips. Just don't forget that it will take time. A lot of it.

2019-08-19T11:36:40+00:00

OP thanks for this. As others said it takes times but I had a legit wake up call Thursday. Went on a date with a girl I was crazy for and my inner dialog was trashing me saying I’m not good enough or I’m weak compared to her ex bf.

Needless to say girl ghosted after the date and I’m here seriously wondering how I can take my dating life into my hands

fuckboychadlmao · 2019-08-19T12:23:31+00:00

u/pluglord

paulvario11 · 2019-08-19T13:13:03+00:00

We are the enemy of ourselfs it's like my enemy is living inside me I'm always in fight with him he hates succes hates working nevermind I'll always kick his ass doing oppisite of what he tells me.

PachymuNyet · 2019-08-19T13:34:26+00:00

We learn through failure.

Moderatecat · 2019-08-19T15:19:03+00:00

True confidence radiates from you. People will feel it directly. One way to achieve this, is to change your mindset aka inner dialogue. For example, instead of asking yourself "am I worth their time"/"am I good enough" ?. Say: "Does this person add value to my life?" or "is it worth investing in this person for long term"?

nerdspectrum · 2019-08-19T04:55:01+00:00

Aspie with no inner dialogue or monologue, ever.

Game never came quite as easy, though I've hit the end game so I'm good for now. It would be cool to "meditate" like others and not be in a constant state of nothingness (?) Meh

Title	Control your inner dialog:
Author	Kylemoa1
Upvotes	245
Comments	27
Date	August 18, 2019 11:21 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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