I have been considering posting this for awhile, and decided to pull the trigger thanks to this thread. (http://redd.it/18jql5)

I have been following this community and lifestyle for a quite a while. I have great game, and can escalate things pretty much as far and fast as I want. However, I don't have sex with any of the girls I open. EX: After a great night celebrating in the club for my buddies b-day I opened an Hb8 and Hb9 that were already in the car with what I thought was a dude. Turned out the Hb9 was a lez, but I went back to there place because it was on my way home any way. After chatting and watching TV with all of them for about an hour I tell the Hb8 "I'm sorry I probably should have told you this sooner but I'm not having sex with you tonight. I don't have sex the first night I meet someone." She says ok and we head into her room. After fooling around for over an hour. She has done everything she can think of to get me to f**k her, but its not happening (literally had her naked and begging)... That was this past weekend and is by no means an isolated "incident"

I have had three sexual partners my first was a serious girlfriend that I waited a year before having sex with. One that I consider a mistake when we broke up that was an acquaintance. The most recent one was a girl I dated/ FWB

To get this out of the way, the fact that I wont escalate is not a reflection of inexperience either. My first partner and I were together about 5 years (4 sexually active) and the FWB was about a year total (was off and on.) We have crazy stories. It was a dom/sub relationship.

I worry constantly about STDs and pregnancies. I also dont want a high number. I know that eventually when I settle down that would completely deter me from a potential spouse.

I am a very sexual person. The ex that I waited a year with was my call and I told her if we had sex she had better be able to keep up. She couldn't... It's not that I don't want sex I just want it to be with someone I care about.

Does anyone else have similar issues? I know this is significantly different from what is usually posted on here. I'm kinda worried a few of you are going to tear into me for not seizing opportunities.

On a side note I make an excellent wing man. lol I know I'm not going to do anything, have virtually no AA, and I can keep a great vibe going.