hi everyone, i’m a latina international student in the netherlands. i recently decided i want to start dating and have been more social, hanging out with friends etc.

last night, my friends and i went to a club. i didn’t have any expectations and was feeling a bit insecure tbh, but once they started playing good music it got me moving pretty nicely (according to my friends - they’re always saying i’m a great dancer and asking tips).

the thing is, in parties back in my home country i usually don’t feel as free to dance as i do here because everyone is very sexually liberated and we use our hips a lot. i’m self conscious and didn’t dance much before moving here and so when my current friends say that they like my dancing (moving hips, not twerking just having fun) it made me think i was doing something right! however, last night found myself thinking i was embarrassing myself for the way i was dancing. one of my friends who was barely dancing and had minimal makeup got hit on three times while my other friend who was dancing with me and had more makeup got hit on once.

i don’t know if i’m way too much in my head about this but i feel like maybe it was my dancing that was a turn off? idk, i wasn’t being crazy about moving my hips but could see how it may look like too much compared to the european girls only moving side to side and with barely any makeup (i had eyeliner on).

any ideas on how to seem more approachable/not embarrass myself in european parties? i feel so silly even asking this but yeah i just want to date lol

tl;dr: latina girl living in the netherlands, want to know if moving my hips and wearing makeup is a “turn off” here

[also for some context: i’m 20, into any genders, wear pretty much the same stuff my european friends do]