Date ideas

Barabbas- · 2016-03-29T07:07:19+00:00

If you're trying to pick her up, stay away from coffee shops and fast food joints in general. The atmosphere is usually way too casual for you to build intimacy. Not saying it can't be done, but you're making life harder for yourself.

I almost always arrange my dates at night (or at least in the early evening). Now, maybe it's just me, but during the day I project a friend-vibe by default, which is good for keeping women around (I'm a great companion), but not so great if my intention is to eventually sleep with them. It's difficult for me to turn it off, but trust me on this one: you want to portray yourself first as a lover, then as a companion, and then a provider (in that order). Any other order and you'll find yourself in the friend-zone, or worse: the brother-zone.

Ideally, you'll want to build in opportunities for seated physical contact during your date. Bars and clubs have plenty of seating; plus they're often crowded and dark, making it far more socially acceptable to invade your date's personal space and build intimacy. These two latter reasons are why I prefer meeting up at bars instead of restaurants (plus it's cheaper).
However, you don't NEED to got to a bar to build intimacy through close physical proximity. You can do it in the lounge after skiing, or on a park bench, or on a picnic blanket, or in a car, or at a concert, etc. You can do it pretty much anywhere via skillfully delivered kino escalation tactics.

One thing that I do for girls I'm really interested in, is research... She may be resistant to the idea of going home with you, so you need to have excuses and contingency plans:

I'll often use google maps to memorize the area immediately surrounding the date location so I'm confident in my ability to navigate on foot.
I'll figure out where the best place to park is (I'm looking for a place that offers some privacy without being inconveniently far. The top of a parking garage is usually a safe bet).
I'll make sure I have a bottle of wine back at my place, and I'll casually bring it up in conversation early in the night... This makes for an easy transition: "hey, let's go try that vintage I mentioned, earlier."
I always arrive early and scout the area looking for places to go (secluded) and places to avoid (sketchy). I'll ask bouncers, bartenders, and random passerby's "what does the crowd look like tonight" and/or "where do people go to _____ around here?". Arriving early also gives you time to sarge your meetup location, which can build confidence, increase your social value, and potentially get you a date the following night ;-)

Run through your game plan before the date. What are you going to say when she arrives? Brainstorm some conversation topics and keep them in the back of your mind. Think about how and when you're going to touch her. Memorize the location of another place nearby so you can suggest changing locations. If she's down, place your arm around her or hold her hand and walk together. BOOM, instant intimacy. Works every time.

Title	Date ideas
Author	AUD10F1L3
Upvotes	1
Comments	5
Date	March 29, 2016 5:24 AM UTC (10 years ago)
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