Rain dripped from the grey London sky…

I stood shivering on the streets of Covent Garden as dozens of cold faces passed by. 

Surely this wouldn’t work…!?

A few yards behind me stood our ‘dating coach’ Jake.  

He’d just taught us the ‘three simple steps’ to chatting up women on the street. 

I’d spotted his advert for this free lesson online. 

Having never tried this before, I’d felt compelled to find out more.

Now, here I was.

My heart beating faster than the drum-and-bass track from the nearby Abercrombie. 

Waiting to put these three magic steps into action... 

Could you really hit on a woman while she was shopping? I was about to find out…

Some tiny blonde had stopped to stare at the manikins in the shop window. This would be easiest opportunity. 

Ok ok ok Joey Joe Joe, you can do this...

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With my lips quivering and my hands shaking, I stepped over and blurted out: “Excuse me” and had a bash at these three steps.

Step 1: The introduction

Jake had taught us to open the conversation with a ‘statement of empathy’.

Anything that shows you’re aware that what you’re doing is a bit surprising. 

“This might seem a bit random, but…” 
“I know this slightly out of the blue, but…”

This shows you have the emotional awareness to realise she might feel uneasy speaking to a stranger on the street. You’re not some sociopath. It also gives her scattered female brain time to tune in before you get to the point. 

“I noticed you look really nice today, so I wanted to say hi.”

That was Jake’s ‘statement of intent’. He explained that it’s important to make it clear what you want as soon as possible. 

Step 2: Assumptions

The next step? Use her appearance to make an assumption about the type of person she might be. 

This is a good method to explain what captivated you about her appearance. It’s also a great opportunity to break the tension using humour. Exaggerating what you see works well... 

“You look so incredibly sporty today. I’m guessing you’re some sort of professional athlete.”

“You reminded me of all the women I saw walking around in Stockholm, so I felt compelled to find out if you were Swedish.”

Assumptions are great for sparking curiosity. Typically, she’ll tell you whether you’re right or wrong, then ask what made you predict that. It’s more fun - and less creepy - than asking where’s she’s from or what her job is.

Now you’re in a conversation…!

Step 3: Close

I’d assumed that the ‘close’ would involve swapping contact details, with the intention of meeting for a date in the future. 

That’s not what Jake suggested...

He advised us to ask women what they were doing at that very moment. 

The answer would reveal how long you have to speak to her. If she’s waiting for a friend or taxi to swoop her away, you will need to exchange contact details quickly.  

If she’s wandering around not knowing what to do with herself, you can invite her on an ‘instant date’.

Instant dates are brilliant, because they guarantee you proper time to get to know each other. The more time she spends with you, the more likely she’ll text you back after you eventually do swap details. 

The most effective method of meeting women

The chick had a boyfriend, but this was a big deal to me at the time. I had seen into The Matrix. All those beautiful women that walk past you in the street...it’s possible to introduce yourself to them. 

What’s more, you stand out for having the balls to try it - and therefore have a great chance of making something happen!  

There are no obstacles.  No loud music! No overprotective friends! No other guys trying to speak to her! 

The only thing stopping you is anxiety about doing it.

Anyway, that was five years ago...

I’ve been approaching women during the daytime ever since. On the street. At a cafe. In a shop. WHEREVER I SEE THEM.

I’m convinced it’s the best way to meet women. 

If you've never tried before, I'd urge to give these three steps a try.

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  1. Statement of empathy/Statement of intent

  2. Get to know her using assumptions

  3. Close.

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It's a great starting point to build on...

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