Hey, I'm a huge lurker. Also, I severely want one girl, a single, specific girl. I've been with other girls, I've been with most of the girls I've wanted to get with before this one, and I don't have a problem getting with others besides this specific girl. The girl I'm infatuated with though, she's turned me down, and ever since I've wanted to change her mind, to make her want me. I haven't been able to make myself care about anyone else.

I've read that this condition is known as one-itis, and that it's futile.

Still, I've started looking into seduction so that I can have a better chance with the girl, at this moment, that I want. I know that this is considered stupid. It's right there in the sidebar:

You don't. Seduction can only help you become more attractive to women in general, and cannot cause one specific girl to reciprocate your feelings. This is known in the community as having "one-itis", and when you have it, game will be pointless.

The books that I've read have said as much too.

But, I'm stubborn. Despite being told on here, and through other resources, that going after your one-itis is a Hurculean task, I've also noticed a few instances that seem to contradict this belief. So, I wonder, must we actually give up on our one-itis(es)?

The most notable contrary to this rule that I know of is presented in Neil Strauss's The Game. Near the end of the book Strauss tells of his own one-itis and, despite her giving him heaps of trouble, getting to be with her.

The Art of Seduction has a few other stories in it. A couple have seducers going through great lengths for single targets. A lot of the stories involve long, drawn-out seductions that (in my mind) seem to contradict this "law" against focusing on one girl. These stories are at the very least different than the "numbers game" way of going after as many targets as you can, seeing what sticks.

I've kind of lost where I was going here, but when does focusing on a single target start to constitute as one-itis and is the one-itis situation really that hopeless?

Of course, I'm also really new to all this. So maybe I'm thinking about it the wrong way, and asking the wrong questions.