Dealing with rejection

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-05-14T15:18:54+00:00

That’s because you are not really building up to an emotional high first, like you should be flirting in person, and getting her to laugh with you, and generating sexual tension first before you ask for a date.

Also asking a girl “if she wants to do something sometime” isn’t how you do it, you need to say “i’m going to X fun thing this Friday at 19:00, i would like you to come”

In other words be specific, and don’t show doubt that they want, (which is what happens when you ask “if they would like”).

You need to be specific so they get excited for the plan.

If you just say “do something sometime” that is the equivalent of girls telling you “maybe” when you ask them out, which you interpret as a polite no.

Suggest a fun plan you are going to do with or without her, (make sure it sounds like you are gonna do it regardless of what she says), and that will make her more likely to say: “Oh i have always wanted to do (the activity)” but if you just don’t give any specific plans it sounds like you expect her to lead (not attractive) or like you need her to start having fun with your life.

And like i said, you need to first build attraction before you ask out, the problem is you go from safe topics of conversations into asking them out.

you don’t flirt, you don’t build sexual tension, you don’t spark any intense emotions in her,… You go from platonic or polite talk, into “hey let’s do something sometime” which just isn’t solid.

Your problem is you are the kind of guy who just doesn’t get it. That first you need to joke around, flirt, have some banter, make her blush by stimulating her emotions and then you suggest specific plans at and specific date.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-05-14T15:48:17+00:00

It sounds like you have a lot of phobias and anxieties. Just by the way you asked one of the girls out I see that you are an excuser who doesn't have the courage to express his interest in a woman and take her on an adventure.

You need to work on your courage and confidence. Women are not turned on by shy, meek men. They want someone stronger and more powerful than they are. If a man falls apart just talking to them and is too shy to even ask them out properly, they know they are more powerful than he is.

Title	Dealing with rejection
Author	Markcentralphx
Upvotes	0
Comments	2
Date	May 14, 2022 1:34 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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