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[–]A_Rabid_Doge 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You didn't do anything wrong, women basically just decide if they do or don't want to fuck you before they come over, and they only come over if they do, so she isn't going to change her mind because you're being polite. Last time I was too polite with a girl she literally grabbed my hand and put it on her pussy.
Anyway I usually go from 0 to 100, we'll watch a movie or whatever and when it finishes I just basically take them and start making out, I've never been declined and its always led to sex except when it's their period. The times I've been too slow (usually because they send me too many mixed messages) they've basically initiated it.
I only had one situation like yours, after we made out she got up and said she's going to leave and doesn't want sex, at the door I asked if she really wants it and kissed her again and said I want her to stay. So she did and we fucked.
Your girl either wanted you to prove you want her more strongly, or really did have some inner conflict and decide she doesn't want any sex. Women face a lot of slut shaming in life and this sometimes leads to them backing out of what they want, it certainly leads to all their mixed messages because they can't just admit they want to fuck...
[–]gengar849 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Don’t beat yourself up over this. You did great. I’ll add a couple thoughts; 1. You have to strike when the iron’s hot. Well done holding her hand after the restaurant. If the sexual tension was building up at this point, maybe go for a walk and escalate to making out. This way you could have asked her “front seat or back seat?” when getting to your car. 2. You spent too much time chatting. By the time you got to your place she was ready for action but you kept dragging it out. Consequently, her arousal levels faded away. She clearly wanted to be intimate with you. Be more decisive and escalate quicker with the next women you date.
[–]Project-Zen 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
i think your over thinking this ! I'm pretty sure there's a more logical reason ...
she could have been on her period and really wanted to see you and kiss you ! al
not everyone fucks on the first date !
some people do a vibe test through just kissing first its normal !
some people require more comfortability so they do things in steps ... first date kiss second date maybe more and so on
to me it seems like she trusts you , she came to your place and was chill , you guys kissed alot and had good convos ... shes either not the hookup type or less likely to do it so quickly
if you like this girl keep doing the making out stuff and go on dates , keep inviting her to your place and something relaxing like watch a movie with a bottle of wine ...make her do the first move and trust me youll know what the move is dont over think!
and dude if you like her and she seems to be sticking around and hanging out ask her out make her your girl you know !
[–]incognito3107 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Well, most likely she was not hot enough to make it all the way, but it was not necessarily your fault. You need to create that tension and sexual desire that will just melt all barriers and make transition to sex natural, sometimes it may be really troublesome.
Next time make yourself comfortable at one place, focus on one laidback activity and keep decently high temperature in your room. Raise the tension very slowly. When she puts some hard objections, instead of saying "Good, I won't do anything", say something more like "Yeah, but you look so sexy", make one step backwards and then continue after some time.
[–]ostadebarname 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Ignore the essays people are writing, read this instead :
https://mikemehlman.net/2020/12/13/how-to-generate-the-hookup-once-shes-at-your-place-bedroom-game-article/
[–]MSAPPLIEDSTATS 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yes, it will. Its important not to think so much in those moments and do what your body desires.
[–]zapadz 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
here are some videos on how to smoothly escalate.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o_k55geMKkU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rkfXuIIfULU
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bRChsxT7p24
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fzKZeaCa9lc
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=twTrrGiRXtY&t=30m51s
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