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[–]TheRealBobaFettt 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Slut shaming is way too huge in our society for some reason. A high body count isn’t a red flag. Liking sex isn’t a red flag. Previous cheating, acceptance of cheating and other things are red flags. My current partner has a body count near mine which is quite high. It has been the healthiest relationship where I feel validated, desired and cared for. We also have the best sex of my life.
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 4 points5 points6 points 3 years ago (7 children) | Copy Link
Cheating is a red flag.
Liking sex is not.
[–]Jaustin30 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I never said that liking sex is bad tho
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
C'mon man, drop the act. You can't come in here talking about promiscuous and body counts and then pretend you're not slut shaming. You sound like the guy that says, "I'm not racist, but [racist stereotype]."
It's ok, we forgive you. Slut shaming is pervasive in this society and we're all guilty of it at times.
Now, let's just agree on what the real red flag here is and next time, try to have the conversation without the societal baggage.
[–]Jaustin30 -2 points-1 points0 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Where in my post that indicates that I’m slut shaming? Tell me.
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
You were questioning the trustworthiness of "promiscuous" women with "high body counts", right?
That is applying a negative stereotype to women based on their sexual history, aka slut shaming.
[–]Jaustin30 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
There’s so much research out there that says that people that has slept around a lot most of the time will have a harder time pair bonding with their partners which means that it’s harder for them to commit to one partner. That even goes for men too. When my ex told me a body count I still stayed but later experienced the “things” that came with dating a high body count person which is the exact same kinda stuff that I’ve seen on the internet. So ofc imma start believing that dating them will most likely come with a lot of negative stuff because I’ve experienced it for myself. I’ve never said that sleeping around is a bad thing tho
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
So to recap, you think that being promiscuous is a sign that someone is bad at relationships. That's a negative stereotype and its one that we have a colloquial term for.
If you want to find out if someone is any good at relationships, why don't you ask them about their relationships??? That'll be wayyyy more informative than your preferred stereotype.
[–]foreign_sorbet03 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Anyone who uses "body count" in a serious way is likely a fucking incel
[–]cleetusneck 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I was in love with a girl (200+). It was no different than anyone else I dated. She was 25, and said since she was 17 years old if she was attracted to a guy, and he wanted to fuck she did. She always had a really high sex drive and didn’t feel ashamed about it. She was a great person, and great in bed. We broke up because I wanted to back to school, and also wanted to see other people.
[–]eszibit -3 points-2 points-1 points 3 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
high body counts show that the girl is either naive and doesn't understand the emotional dmg, either is impulsive as fuck or has a drinking problem or self esteem issues. But the answer is always the same, have fun with her and throw her back in the pond, but usually having so much experience she is pretty good in bed so that's fun.
[–]Neither_Business_319 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
This entire statement seems contradictory and predatory. Gross. Please do not encourage people to use women to then toss them aside like dirty napkins.
[–]eszibit -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How is it contradictory and predatory? I'm telling guys to not invest emotionally into a woman that has been around the block. In the old days we used to call them hoes, everyone knew who they were, but now most women have been brainwashed that it's normal to fuck around.
You should take your high horse and teach women not to sleep around, how about that?
[–]Neither_Business_319 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
How are you going to acknowledge the emotional damage that may have contributed to a high body count, cast judgement over a woman for it and then still choose to partake in it? Pursuing a girl you refer to as naive? Predatory.
That’s your response? What’s next? Should I teach them to not get raped while we’re at it?
[–]eszibit -2 points-1 points0 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I was saying the emotional damage that she gets when she doesn't make good choices and fucks around.
I was saying naive that she listens to morons that tell a girl that it's allright to fuck around like guys, because women and men are the same.
You're twisting my words, you can't argue properly or understand what i'm saying. You're shifting all the blame to men, as long as it's not rape ( which i'm fully against just for the record ) women are responsible FOR THEIR BODY AND WHO THEY FUCK!
So if a girl has a high body count, it's her fucking fault, stop making it like it's the guys problem. If a girl has trauma she should get help, not fuck around.=, and hopefully she has friends that tell har and not that "she is a boss babe and fuck who she wants "
"That’s your response? What’s next? Should I teach them to not get raped while we’re at it?"
Are you 12? seriously, that's a straw man fallacy. getting raped is a crime and it's awful. BUT fucking around is a choice, and a lot of women do it and they don't want to accept accountability or responsibility. Do it queen, mess around, and see what guy you can get or who wants to be with a girl that has 20+ guys , and that's the low end.
Anyway, i'm done here, i know a feminist when i see one and there's no discussion to be had here.
[–]Neither_Business_319 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s important to recognize when you’ve made a mistake in the way you’ve worded something, take accountability and reframe it in the future. Sounds like a lot of projection, statements I did not comment and insults with poor language.
I know plenty of great men whom I admire and respect. I do not participate in the “all men” mindset. Participating in an act you also look down on or judge women for is illogical. Perhaps you should take this conversation to a therapist.
[–]eszibit 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Of course, it's not that you can't understand what someone is saying, it's the other person's fault.
"Participating in an act you also look down on or judge women for is illogical. " I wasn't looking down on them, project much? I was telling how you deal with women with high body counts, i'm not taking advantage of them if they like this lifestyle, it's their body their choice, right? I don't care what she does but if she's hot, she likes sex and i like it too, of course i will take the opportunity. But in the same time, i'm not gonna wife a woman up like this since she is not wife material.
If you meet a hot guy but you know he's a playboy, you know he is not husband material but probably a great lay. Or maybe someone famous, so you can brag about it to your friends. But by now i know your answer ( even though i don't believe it ) "oh, i would never do that " and it's fine, i can't prove that, but from how society works today how many women do that? Just look at tik toks, look at tinder data and just date a bit and you'll see how it works.
"Perhaps you should take this conversation to a therapist." yeah yeah, the old classic " you need help " how about maybe you read a little, learn a little, understand the dating market and what men want, for a change.
[–]bigplaneboeing737 -3 points-2 points-1 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You date them for 3 months, and break up with them.
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