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Ambitious-Ice2357 · 2022-09-05T14:32:28+00:00

First off, what was that? My head hurts from reading it and after all that juvenile banter, you never escalated to asking her out?

Wtf

Majestic_Meal_5655 · 2022-09-05T18:33:54+00:00

Texting is for setting up a date and not chatting. Once you make contact be interesting and ask them out with in less then 5 text exchanges. If even say by the 3rd. Ask them to meet. If they won't??? then just tell them to hit you up when they are free to meet up. Quit all texting and calling till you hear from them. If they won't meet up, this means you aren't the 1st choice. Move on.

319Skew · 2022-09-05T17:02:11+00:00

She's fishing for attention/validation.

In my experience, if she's interested, she won't play too coy if you're a catch because there's another woman right there that will snag you.

Sometimes your view can be skewed because you want a desired outcome so you don't observe the facts in an objective manner.

Me: As a revenge, you can get late in our first date

Her: You're funny. What you doing rn?

This is what gave it away.

You're either a distant back up or something to fill the time and give her an ego boost.

Step back. Do something else. Meet other women. After a day or so try again.

If she's interested, she'll realize that a 'good one' is getting away and that you're not thirsty because you probably have something lined up; she'll probably hit you up then.

If she's on the fence this will make her either walk away (you're not a play toy she's looking for) or take you more seriously. So the next time you msg her... (and I'd say final shot), don't hold any grudges or be vindictive regarding her not saying yes right away. Instead play it off as aloof as if you've forgot she was there.

I don't take shit seriously so I just joke around and would probably say:

"You grounded or can you come out? I know a place that's got the best <insert thing>."

If she gives you any flak, ignore it or amplify.

If she gives you silence (anything more than 12 hrs) then just delete and move on. Women are attached to their phones. If she wants to, she'll check and respond. If she doesn't then see previous statement about lack of interest.

Also, keep text conversations light. You're not her pen pal.

Convos should be like:

"Gonna go to <place> wanna come?"

"K"

"HMU when ur free."

"wyd"

"Sounds fun"

You can be more verbose and don't write like you've got two brain cells but that's too much work and usually nets you worse results.

Finally, try to aim to keep the convo moving with a flirty, sexual/sensual undertone that's pushing for a date within 3-5 messages.

Hope that helps.

CaptainDolin · 2022-09-05T16:03:51+00:00

I was expecting some simpy convo but you tried escalating several times and she didn't bite... Her fault.

I guess she didn't feel like going out that night (even when you're doing nothing; that's fine we've all got our lazy time), but was interested in talking to you nonetheless. Might've gone with some chatting first. Most women (and men alike) prefer some subtle and casual banter before catching an opportunity to meet up.

Obviously cut it off when she's only trying to stay penpalls. But compliments on trying to escalate at least.

aleshark87 · 2022-09-05T16:04:58+00:00

IMHO, she only wants for you to ask it a few more times, but i think she's interested

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