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[–]Aggressive_Lie_6637 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Unfortunately there is no advice apart from just doing it. If you have little confidence or high anxiety start small. Eye contact, smile at girls in the club. Say a quick hi. I don't think there is an easier place to approach than in the club especially when you are good looking. The girls are intoxicated they are there to have fun. Now the question is do you look like fun or like someone bogging them?
[–]No-Low-4672 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I definitely feel like it’s my need to approach them normally I’m with my friends and I’m just shooting the shit drinking so I’m having fun. Sometimes women approach me asking silly questions and I know that’s a sign they like me but I just need a way to develop talking to them normally from the ground up.
[–]blebster92 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
You could just barge in (as per advice of "good looking loser") and start talking, "hey what's up how you doing?" etc.
[–]No-Low-4672 -1 points0 points1 point 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I’m not a loser though I’m in good shape about to get a degree in engineering and have good friends and people around me. Confidence in general just not with approaching women. Don’t call yourself a loser just cause you can’t get females
[–]blebster92 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Lol no no no, "good looking loser" was just the name of the PUA I'm referring to. He used to have a youtube channel where he showed all of his approaches and whatnot, it was hilarious and helpful.
[–]No-Low-4672 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I’ve never heard of pick up artists sounds goofy 😂. But my main problem is just starting interactions I just have anxiety approaching people once I’m comfortable I talk to them like normal people.
[–]TheRealAlkemyst 2 points3 points4 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I used to get the the bar/club a bit early. This had two advantages, 1) I could introduce myself to the staff (which later helped in case some other dude got out of line, they'd already sort of know me) and 2) I could easily just say "Hi" to women as they came to get a drink. I'd also say "Hi" to other dude's.
Striking up a conversation with people goes a long way and usually other's want to interact as well waiting for the club to fill up, their drinks to kick in, etc. A lot of times I'd go from the bar right to the dance floor with a woman I had talked too and later either get her number or leave with her.
That said that was a while ago, when I recently was dating again around 5 or so years ago; seemed like many didn't want to interact at all anymore. I'd have better luck online.
[–]No-Low-4672 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Yeah that sounds like a good idea I might try it
[–]TheRealAlkemyst 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My wife says I am like honey to a bee to women because I go for eye contract, make a smile and just greet them (along with guys too). Just being friendly is a big part. Of course I get the cold shoulder a lot now-a-days. Even holding a door for someone or picking up something they dropped gets no Thank You! any more.
[–]No_Country7045 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
My advice would be don't take my advice.
Paradox, anyone?
[–]No-Low-4672 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds good brotha 🤘🏻
[–]Affectionate-Bat-235 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Maybe volunteer so you can resocialize with ppl or go to group events you like
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