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[–]CocoBabeNYC 3 points4 points5 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
It's funny to me that you are the biggest obstacle to you getting laid.
[–]Silential 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Oh mate don’t.
At the very least she ended up replying and still had fun. She was super mature about it and has like 20 years on me. So she was super chill. But, I’m very annoyed I didn’t down more water throughout the night.
Lesson learned.
[–]CocoBabeNYC 1 point2 points3 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Your brain will keep sabotaging you because it doesn't want you to succeed. There is no reason to get drunk like a skunk in order to meet women. As a matter of fact it makes you an impotent joke, high water intake or not.
[–]Silential 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah. Brutal but true. Thankyou. At least things will be cheaper for me from now on!
[–]MayhemReignsTV 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
If she really is a one night stand, why are you so invested in what she thinks of you? Are you deep down afraid that it’s going to happen again? Seems to be things that are in your control that lead to the rather unpleasant end of the night. So there is that. It should be empowering to know that you can change the outcome easily. As to her, I would not advise chasing a one night stand. The best thing that can happen is you might get it one more time but it’s more likely to be out of pity because you just sacrificed your own value in the dynamic. That’s never fun. So my advice is just forget it and act normal. There are plenty of wonderful women out there and we all learn from our experiences. You can’t be perfect with them all.
I’m not really sure. Basically we met through one of those meetup app events, so you eventually end up seeing the same group of people I guess. Don’t want her to spread word about me? I can’t really answer that. Maybe it’s just because she is my first ONS.
More water next time. That’s for sure.
What does ‘sacrificing my own value mean’? I can follow that advice though, thanks.
[–]MayhemReignsTV 0 points1 point2 points 3 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
It’s something that everybody has been through. Most women are not going to run around bragging about banging a guy who didn’t get it up that night. One is that most women are very concerned about being seen as whores, even though that might not be the case. And hey if she is one of those whores, I am pretty sure her talking shit is not going to really influence her friends one way or another. Go after one of them maybe. And the value that I am talking about is the value that she perceives you as. Men who are desired do not come crawling on their knees to do over a one night stand. Men who have options do not have much invested in such an interaction. They just move onto the next. I’m not saying this is the way you should conduct long-term relationships, but a lay is just a lay. You can certainly have a platonic friendship if it comes to that, but catching feelings is a big no-no that will scare off any woman who is looking for this arrangement.
Thanks for explaining that for me. I’ll make sure to always bear that in mind going forward.
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