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PhilosopherNeku300 · 2022-08-10T13:14:41+00:00

USA is "Hard Mode" for dating.

Otherwise there wouldn't exist all this "dating advice" groups. A lot of guys move to other countries to hook up/date/marry since USA is very difficult. The best way to succeed in the America is to have money/status/looks. In many other countries the women are not as "picky" and will go for average guys. However, the USA has the "Celebrity culture" which makes it difficult to stand out.

My advice is try to become a Club Promoter or someone successful in the nightlife bussiness this will give you very high status in most of these venues and it will give you a "fighting chance" there's no guarantee you'll get laid but at least it will get your foot in the door.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-08-10T14:18:47+00:00

I'm a foreigner. There are no dating rules. That's just a social construct and I actually strongly suggest you do not follow any such rules but rather make up your own.

The key think in the US and what I hear from women everywhere (including Western Europe) is that men are absolutely terrified. They are scared to approach women, they are scared to compliment, and if they do hook up with a woman they are scared to be a bit on the rougher side when it comes to sex. Then you have the assholes who are not scared, but they know they can girls so they act like....well assholes. Normal guys who have no fear are as rare as Sasquatch.

I suggest that you approach women with this "Look I'm European, we don't really date. We just hang out alone or with friends and if there is chemistry, we get to the more fun stuff. No pressure, no strings attached, I don't expect anything from you except your full enthusiasm in bed and I promise to give the same back."

CompetitionFair7686 · 2022-08-10T09:34:20+00:00

Rules are nothing but social norms, and seduction is all about biology and feelings not social norms. If you focus on feelings and what we are naturally attracted to in a biological sense, then norms become secondary and do not matter as much.

puma085 · 2022-08-11T07:52:39+00:00

I have not been to the states yet ( I am about to visist in 14 days though) so I have no clue how American women act in their home turf but I dated one american once in my home country which is Austria too. It does not lead to anything but it was a nice experience nontheless. I felt different than dating a Austrian women. But that was not because of the rules it was because talking about private things in English with real person. Never have done that before. I had no clues about the rules and she does not seem to bothered about it. The reason it does not lead to anything because her work contracted expired and she had to went back to the states.

I think if you act like a decent human being and treat the women well you should be fine in the states if you can get a date after all.

But be aware that there might be some cultural stepping stones. It depends on the woman of course but you might encounter some slangs words you have never heard before. Or she might make some cultural references a non american guy cannot get.

Wish you good luck for your working time in the states and good luck trying to get a dating life while you are there.

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