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[–]BlueberryObvious 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Tough one. Ok so the mistake was trying again because she’d already said no. What you should have done was said “ok”. And then not tried again until the NEXT date. The reason that would have worked is because it would have respected her boundaries. She would have felt more safe with you and probably would have kissed you the next time. So that being said learn from that and apply that in the future.
I’m not sure what you should do now. I think maybe you could say sorry for not respecting her boundaries. That might break the ice. Then if she accepts that I think it’s ok to ask her out again.
You also need to try and take her off the pedestal.
You only need to say sorry for the boundaries part. Do not say sorry for trying to kiss her.
After that focus on getting to know her and I think it’ll probably be the right time then to kiss her.
[–]McNaw 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Thanks for the detailed reply!
I thought about apologising for "trying too hard" as she put it. However, I also feel like it's too damaged to salvage, or that maybe she kinda forgot about it and then me apologising will make it a big thing. Because when we ended it, she still didn't sound/look too annoyed or mad about my many failed attempts. She actually seemed to enjoy my frustration at certain times...
I'm debating whether to wait 1/2 weeks then contact her, or just to drop it all together. What I usually do is contact the girls within less than a week (2-4 days) to ask to see them again. But this one.. I don't know what to do.
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[–]McNaw 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Yes I'm aware of that too, but when I see I pushed too hard. It's not like I was physically trying all that time. More like I was talking and making comments about it. Nevertheless, I'm extremely mad at myself for that lack of control. What do would you suggest in this case?
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[–]McNaw 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
I know dude, I know. If I didn't realise my stupid mistake, and dumb I was losing control that night, I would've not made this post. But, I need opinions on whether I should contact her again or just forget about it..
[–][deleted] 3 points4 points5 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Wait a week or 2 and be completely honest about the situation without any expectation which will come off as trying to get something from her. Express your desire to see her again.
Accept the error, work on yourself and keep moving forward.
Oh yeah also forgive yourself and don’t hold onto it. We’re all human
[–]McNaw 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Thanks a lot man, especially for that last sentence. As soon as I told her bye, I realised what I did and felt absolutely disgusted of myself. I just can't believe nor accept that I pushed that hard. It's like I betrayed myself.
I will do what you said, call in a week or maybe two and if she rejects me then i'll just have to swallow it.
It's just so rare when you meet someone who thinks like you and you connect with on so many levels. And then you mess it up yourself...
[–][deleted] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Wow thanks for the silver, happy I could help.
Everything will work out and if it doesn’t something better will come along. Love is difficult. I’ve made a lot of mistakes and learned you really have to be your best friend in life. Not hold onto anything and keep improving.
In my opinion you’re already ahead of a lot of guys, you approached, can connect, can see your mistakes and improve :-) be proud of yourself.
All the best,
[–]McNaw 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly man, your words helped a lot. I'll definitely keep on improving myself and moving forwards.
Thanks once again for everything. Wishing you the best!
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
If she says no, don’t do it
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[–]atomant88 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
ask for consent before you touch anyone
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