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Awkward_Management28 · 2022-03-17T01:46:46+00:00

If you don't at least love yourself, then there may be a time in your life where nobody did.

You might want to reframe your idea of "loving yourself" though. Its more like being in a relationship with yourself. Treat yourself as well as you would treat someone you were dating. I "love myself" by watching out for my health, for example, and buying good food. I do things that make me happy and/or that I enjoy.

"Loving yourself" is not being infatuated or having those elated feelings whenever you see a woman who looks so good that you can't get stop thinking about her. It's being kind to yourself and knowing yourself better than anyone else does, and will.

CocoBabeNYC · 2022-03-17T02:12:59+00:00

Self love is unconditional. You love yourself because you choose to not because you measure up to some standard or condition that you have created.

Awkward_Management28 · 2022-03-17T02:27:27+00:00

Some people are unlovable and will never be loved (or find love). Just a fact of life.

Alive-Doughnut2345 · 2022-03-17T05:14:59+00:00

Look past the superficial and start loving yourself. I’m one to talk but who gives a FUCK what people think they can’t stop you from achieving your goals then looks won’t even matter. You know why? Because value matters more. Looks fade, value endures.

Liberaler · 2022-03-17T07:50:04+00:00

I can understand why you feel that way in our superficial social-media-obsessed age, but I can assure you, that your view is distorted. I don't doubt good looks boost your social success, but Imho you probably lack social skills and got stuck in your head. So, instead of socialising you got obsessed with looks and rationally analysing social situations.

Once you get out of your head and start participating authentically in social situations you also will make friends. Most of the friend groups, that seems so important when you are young, will dissolve, as people start focusing on their jobs more. In younger years superficial popularity correlates with social success. But above the age of 25 anyone who is willing to put the work in can have many friends.

mentalhealth and looks have a great correlation

You overlook that the this correlation also goes in the opposite direction. When people develop mental illnesses their looks go down. Looks is not only your genetics, but also: grooming, behaviour, vibe, 'energy', fitness

Lets assume your theory were true. Even then you could have a social circle and partner. They would just looks similar to yourself.

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