How to not feel like your improving yourself just to become an object that people desire?

canadonkey · 2022-01-24T21:17:58+00:00

Become an object that you desire

Delicious_Ad_1853 · 2022-01-24T21:50:55+00:00

Do you want to be the kind of person who can comfortably approach anyone that interests you? Build those social skills.

Do you want to be the kind of person that can comfortably express his sexuality? Build that confidence.

Do you want to be in good health? Build that body.

There are plenty of internal motivations that will also lead to good external results.

blck_mambaa · 2022-01-24T22:01:27+00:00

There will always be two parts to this, internal and external desire. Example- I workout 4-5x a week, I do it because it helps my mental and physical health but obviously ik that the side effect of it is me looking good and being attractive so there’s two motivating factors but the external desire for me is second for me while the internal is first. Ofc you wanna look good for others- who doesn’t? Just don’t make that your primary goal tho.

VorpalPaperclip · 2022-01-25T01:19:47+00:00

Try and make yourself happy for you, that confidence will drive the ladies wild! 👰🏽‍♀️

👍🏻😀

Diet_Wraith · 2022-01-25T16:30:48+00:00

Internalize your external reasons, but shift it up a bit. Idk that kind of worked for me.

For weight loss -> “I want to see those numbers go down lol” Or, “I want to fit into that medium again.” Hell one of my biggest motivators was “I want to look damn good so I will make myself look damn good.” Or maybe scare yourself “If I don’t better myself I’ll… ex: probably develop diabetes.”

But honestly, I think most people here started self-improvement for an external reason: women. I started it cause there was this girl I really quite liked and wanted to be better, especially after looking in the mirror and realizing I looked like crap. All my personality in the world wouldn’t save me if I kept that look up imo. In the end it fell through, but that’s ok. The external reasons can be stronger than the internal ones sometimes. It’s like a kick in the ass. I was never able to do a New Years resolution to get in shape, but suddenly I pushed myself for it because a lady and it worked for me. Like at this point I’m legit proud of what I’ve done for myself and kind of care what other people think and now care substantially less about others opinions than when I started - because I know what I’ve done, but the care of others is what got me started and it worked. For me, at the very least.

Title	How to not feel like your improving yourself just to become an object that people desire?
Author	Proof_Influence_4583
Upvotes	5
Comments	5
Date	January 24, 2022 9:15 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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