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[–]intensely_human 8 points9 points10 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
“I’m making more space in my life for people who support me”
“I don’t have time”
“No thanks, I’ve got plans tonight”
“I’m moving onward and upward in the world. Please don’t talk shit about me for this”
I don’t know man. At a certain point you can’t control how other people talk about you when you’re not there. Besides if you’re leaving the world where they talk, why worry about what they’ll say? What specific negative outcomes are you trying to avoid?
edit: I take this back. They are definitely going to talk shit about you. That’s how the crab bucket works. Probably better if you’re not present for it.
[–]rofnacla 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I can’t tonight. I have to return some video tapes.
[–]Vxkan1 point 4 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
patrick bateman agrees
[–]IndependentIce6737 6 points7 points8 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly, I repetitively told certain people from my past that I can't make it, have plans etc. And I didn't ever say sorry. Don't worry about any shit talking. You don't owe everyone your time, energy and attention.
[–]MA_CA_NV_CA 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I think you just have to accept and be good that they’ll talk shit behind your back. No way to sugar coat that I’m afraid. But you can control how much you care and think about it.
[–]Calamity__Bane 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly man, if they talk shit they are shit, if they support you then they're real. Eventually, most people end up doing that, so you'll likely have chances to reconnect later in life anyway.
[–]883Guy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Their perception of you is out of your control. Part of moving on is being unswayed by how they see you. It seems like you care about their feelings and don't want to just tear away from them, so I would do what others have said and just give some soft polite 'no's. If they seriously press you on it, you can always be blunt about the situation.
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