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thelambofdeth · 2022-01-13T18:09:15+00:00

You're only creepy if you're ugly

themostgianthorse · 2022-01-13T18:07:27+00:00

Confidence, being social, etc. are skills that can be gained and can be lost. If you don’t use it, you may lose it.

With the lockdowns you are going to have to specifically make an effort to interact.

No magic pill.

Edit: stop referring to yourself as a boy if you are over 16.

mhdikarma · 2022-01-13T22:48:37+00:00

Hey man, I used to have the same issue (although not covid related). I used to have a lot of anxiety and although I still deal with it somewhat, it’s gotten a lot better. But over the years I realized that many peoples perception of you is based on what they can “figure out” about you when examining your behavior in a social setting. This is just a natural thing we do to identify someone’s social identity, and for girls it’s a way to distinguish threats vs sources of comfort/intimacy. I find when dealing with being labeled as a “creep” a lot of time it has to do with your intentions. A lot of guys who aren’t super clear in their intentions (whether it’s to befriend or attract) will often times get you labeled as a “creep” even if you most likely mean no harm in your interaction.

The main point for you:

Get your mind right and stop worrying about being labeled as a creep. It takes a while to develop social skills and comfort in yourself. I find that the guys who befriend a lot of girls are extra cautious around them being labeled as “creeps” and often project that to other guys who are trying to game girls in their social circle. But the truth is there is always a risk getting labeled, even when you don’t think you’re being creepy. You have to take the risk in order to successfully attract someone. If you’re grounded and can be okay with certain people thinking “less of you” than I think you’ll find a lot of improvement. As a lot of the comment section is alluding to: “it’s not creepy if you’re attractive” which is true but it also proves that “creepiness” is subjective.

Yeyinbank · 2022-01-14T02:32:13+00:00

You feel like this because you haven’t approached in a while. It will progressively go away the more you approach. I will seem impossible the first time you approach but as soon as you do it you will feel 100x better

2022-01-13T21:55:49+00:00

Baby steps. Don’t put too much pressure on yourself. Go out and do something you like. Strike up conversations. Don’t let your moments carry so much weight.

2022-01-14T07:08:00+00:00

It’s the fuckin masks…. If it wasn’t for the masks you don’t know how many bitches I’d have by now, boyyyyyyy.. Keep ya head up cuz we got you!

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