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[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 15 points16 points17 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
To prevent needy behavior, stop being needy. Work on your inner game.
In particular, you need to lower your expectations about the new girls. Remember that even the promising ones are still probably not going to work out. Spend less time fantasizing about an imaginary future and more time living in the moment.
P.S. Frequent intoxication isn't going to help you achieve your goals.
[–]Seaboynew 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Some girls love needy dudes especially the stage 5 clingers I meet
[–]RPslimjim 5 points6 points7 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Scarcity mindset. You need an abundance mindset with all women.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
how would one develop that? just keep saying to myself there is another one like her around fhe corner all the time?
[–]Delicious_Ad_1853 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah, pretty much. There are many wonderful women around every corner. You just aren't very good at meeting them (yet).
It also helps to remember that those wonderful women are all far from perfect. No matter how amazing she seems on day 1, you'll have a long list of complaints by the time you've been dating for a year. The better you understand this, the less likely you are to let your expectations run wild in the early days. Reasonable expectations will lead to reasonable behavior.
[–][deleted] 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Sounds to me like anxiety. Don’t feel ashamed to reach out and get help - therapy works wonders - you might even be able to get something prescribed.
In the meantime just outright tell girls your nervous and that you tend to mess things up by getting in your own head. You’d be surprised how many times they respond with “I totally get it I’m the same way”.
Allowing yourself to be vulnerable like that is real confidence.
[–]pokemonpokemonmario[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
I dont have much context here but im assuming the ones you're into are better looking than the ones you dont loose ? Could just be out of your league right now maybe you need to spend more time at the gym or make more money or have more fun with your free time.
If you believe its not the girls that are different nut your behaviour then obviously you have to modify your behaviour and treat the girls u really want like just another girl that could be replaced with a click of the fingers, easier said than done i know.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
I m a good looking guy, well groomed & not overweight but also not shredded af I would consider them out of my league tho but I dont think they actually are, many times my friends tell me I shouldnt sell myself under worth & raise my standards so I think later applies
They shouldnt be unreachable to me but it feels like they are bc I act different when with them Any idea how can I turn that thinking off/ genuinely change my ways?
[–]pokemonpokemonmario[🍰] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Instead of trying to turn the thinking off try to find out why it is you think this way and improve that part of yourself. Therapy or self improvement can do it.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think it is bc I was akward when I was younger and didnt get no women, so I took the chances I could (even with girls I m not 100% into) also I have a high sex drive so it was easy for me to sell myself for less to get what I want
I understand this part of me but I dont know how to leave my old ways
[–]pokemonpokemonmario[🍰] 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
This channel helpt me https://youtu.be/PYaixyrzDOk
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
thanks I will check it out 🙏🏼
Being needy & too lovey-dovey is a turn off. You need to practice holding a masculine frame around women. In other words, show interest mildly and dont overdo it. Act towards women you like, how you’d act towards a girl that likes you but you don’t really like her like “that”.
It might sound a lil backwards but it works.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Few will admit it here but that’s how it is for most guys. Even Chad. They’ll tell you “don’t be needy.” Then they’ll tell you to pretend to be less interested and put on a fake personality to get one particular woman, which is incredibly needy lol. This shit doesn’t work as well when you actually give a shit about the girl. This is why some people are scared of catching feelings to begin with. All you can really do is get your shit together and hopefully that will get the girls you really want to stay.
[–]Seiyith 2 points3 points4 points 4 years ago* (0 children) | Copy Link
Bro this shit drives me nuts. I’m a pretty high value dude with average-maybe a little above average attractiveness. Light up whatever room I’m in and just become the center of conversation. People routinely comment on how cool/funny/caring they find me. I went out for the night before New Years and managed a fucking threesome with 9/10 roommates because I was calm, confident, and collected.
That old coworker that I’ve spent a lot of time talking to? Pure simp behavior. The one girl I’ve really connected with on a personal level like that and I just could not stop myself from chasing, texting all day, and over validating. The worst part? She KNOWS my value and wants to feel for me but I made it hard on her. My social status was insanely obvious to her. Just left the job and got a huge raise. She’s called me her bodyguard and told me I have the perfect personality for her and I’m just like her BIL, her favorite person on the planet. Even said she needed me when we met and was double texting me after half an hour. And I still blew this shit.
Then I told her I needed some distance and was still responding trying to escalate when she reached out. She eventually said she couldn’t respect me if I couldn’t maintain my own boundaries. She’s right. But man talking to her just lights my soul on fire.
It’s hard when you so rarely get connected, man.
[–]Seaboynew 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Im somewhat of a chad and women love when im needy .. They think it's cute and think it means I'll be loyal and cherish them . They love it when I call them wifey and text them often
You probably have your shit together then
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