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JacobMoogberg69 · 2022-01-01T17:30:33+00:00

Honestly, all this childhood shit is super dumb. I spent years agonizing over why my childhood was like this and like that and how different things would have been if my parents instilled self confidence in me. Guess what? You can't change your past and being so attached to what could have been is just another way to avoid taking responsibility for your life

aelvelest · 2022-01-01T17:42:45+00:00

Though poor parenting and family dysfunction may cause one to develop insecure attachment styles to others (especially primary caregivers), it is by no means "fate-sealing" in terms of forming quality relationships in the future.

Your worries about finding a relationship are normal and valid, and you are definitely not alone in this! And I am sure many of these people also didn't suffer similar childhood experiences as you did.

I feel that it would be good to start with finding like-minded female friends, maybe from school, hobbies like sports, recreation or even online gaming. From personal experience, quality friendships with female friends (non-romantic) can teach you so much about what to expect and how to manage enduring relationships. Best of luck :D

pokemonpokemonmario · 2022-01-01T18:18:47+00:00

Basically we're products of our environment and your parents are a huge part of the environmental programing. you can go through self improvement and or therapy and essentially reprogram yourself.

The way we're shown love from our parents is how we learn to show love to others, if you didn't receive the love you needed as a child then it's likely you'll have trouble love others and yourself as an adult without putting in some work into this area of your mind.

I wish you the best of luck with over coming this, you should be optimistic as over coming this will make you exceptionally strong and kind.

hmoooody · 2022-01-02T00:08:35+00:00

I highly recommend you search some videos on attachment styles on YouTube and read the book called “Attached” to get a good understanding of what is your attachment style. Basically, given the relationship we’ve had with our caregivers mainly parents in the childhood, is what we form our own attachment styles in our intimate lives. These styles are anxious, avoidant and secure. From what I am reading a little about you, it could be your either anxious or an avoidant. Do some reading and watch some videos and you’ll find good helpful information for yourself.

Weekly_Promise5076 · 2022-01-02T07:05:15+00:00

Wow I had a similar childhood but I repressed it until I was in my 30s. You’re ahead of the curve, man. It hurts now but you’ve got a good head on your shoulders. Keep your cards close and look out for yourself and you’ll be okay. Good luck bro ✊

MA_CA_NV_CA · 2022-01-01T17:48:43+00:00

“all women are superficial in a relationship” - you understand women better than most. I think you actually have a good mindset in some ways. It should take someone truly special and exceptional to get you into a relationship. And if you never find someone up to your standards - oh well, keep meeting and having fun with women anyways.

Yarmanite · 2022-01-02T08:41:14+00:00

Circumcision disrupts the mother son bonding because the child has been traumatized.

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