Dilemma

Kalypsoski · 2021-12-30T16:20:20+00:00

So for hypothetical girl A, what makes you think that she wouldn’t ever click with someone the way that girl B naturally does. Maybe she doesn’t have that connection with you. But you can’t rule out that she wouldn’t have it with someone else.

And with girl B it might be the opposite, maybe she is just open to you. Maybe she feels some kind of chemistry or natural connection that just makes her open and accepting. And If it is a real connection she may be willing to put more effort into not losing that.

Over the girl who feels you had to work hard for her attention and now someone comes along and just captivates her. She might decide that the one that comes easily or natural is what’s for her

Fluffy_Risk9955 · 2021-12-30T19:04:14+00:00

Stop giving a f*ck what she thinks. Make it unambiguously clear what you want from her and tell her that despite her possible reaction. "I want to have casual sex with you and see where it leads." Let her decide if she wants you too. In the meantime keep at your own life's mission. She'll come to you if she wants you.

ChicoBrillo · 2021-12-30T21:16:29+00:00

Just an observation that in both scenarios you are looking at dating success as a competition against other men. Not a healthy frame imo.

recyclablebanthas · 2021-12-31T03:11:11+00:00

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a) chasing someone real hard till you get 'em, knowing that it's gonna take another dude a whole lot of determination to snatch them from ya. Plus, harder battle = sweeter victory

Let's unpack this:

When someone is attracted, it won't take any effort: it won't take chasing real hard.
When one is chasing someone like this, it involves putting in a lot of effort to basically artificially manufacture something that's not really there.
Which means, paradoxically, if you are having to work really hard to make something happen, it's going to be much much easier for someone else to get in there.
Also, one does not snatch a girl. She makes her own decisions whether or not she goes along with something. That's one big problem faced by PUAs: the biggest uncontrollable factor in the process is the black box inside the girl's head. We can't control that part of the process.

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b) going with someone you naturally click with from the start because chasing those you don't click with will just make you seem desperate and Rob you of a huge chunk of your self respect. But if you clicked with them so easily, what guarantee do you have that some other dude won't click with then just as easy?

While some casually-minded people certainly click with others well enough to seek casual sex, there's no issue with that as long as one realizes they aren't candidates for an LTR.

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It's kind of hard to say more without knowing what's already going on.

What are you actually looking for? Casual sex? An LTR?
Where are you going to meet women?
How far are you generally getting before things go south?
When things go south, what does it generally look like?

eonscrewedme · 2021-12-30T16:01:40+00:00

this a good example of a false dichotomy, with some non sequiturs thrown in.

I read your post twice and my head starting hurting before I could muster enough energy to dissect how awfully premised it is. made me genuinely go wtf

Title	Dilemma
Author	RCK147
Upvotes	2
Comments	7
Date	December 30, 2021 3:50 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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