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TheSunshineMan · 2021-09-28T20:58:55+00:00

99% of guys aren't good with women.. just like you were.

The difference is..

You put yourself out there and put in the work and are now starting to see the benefits.

So forget about naturals that's not normal..

I was a super late bloomer..

Went from basically being a 30 virgin..

To now I've slept with an average of 100+ women a year, for the past 10+ years.

How did I achieve this?

Because I was sick of not having girls in my life..

And just said F it..

100% committed.

Took massive action, that's just my personality.

If I want something I put in 1000%.

So yeah, keep doing what you're doing.

jenny4life · 2021-09-28T20:42:01+00:00

Yes, I believe there is growth at any age. We are either green and growing with our learning or ripe and rotting. Never give up. Some will, some won’t, so what next. Beat success :)

HeavenPiercingMan · 2021-09-28T22:21:27+00:00

Late BLOOMER man, get it right hahaha

I'm kinda in the same boat, same aims, I've never wanted to be a Gigachad, just normal (PUA pushers can't grasp the idea of this). But I've done it at a different rhythm, I slowly woke up from age 19 to 24 but living through horrible humiliation, trauma and depression, had a long relationship, fell back into depression because it was a bad relationship, then relived the same progress from age 19-24 but from 27 to 32 but this time without the trauma and depression (although always afraid of it, and any failure would turn me into a wreck for a week). Then I lost my entire social circle during a violent political shakeup, and 4 months later Covid hit.

I think I'll be fine. I've learned to blend a lot despite being autistic, it's just that I'm just too cowardly to be more true to myself due to past social trauma, but I'm slowly being convinced by others and myself that it's okay to fail as a late bloomer even at age 34 (and I look 24). Still not convinced though. I think people are way too dog eat dog, especially women, and especially if you're a late bloomer, I still feel ashamed of it. But as I've said, people are slowly convincing me.

rosbergsessa420 · 2021-09-29T13:23:55+00:00

Everyone is a late bloomer in some aspect or another, it's never too late to improve your social success. It's even proven that social anxiety reduces as you get older, so if you're taking time to learn the dynamics and rules, and being aware, the amount of anxiety you get should reduce with time.

I was raised in a rather insecure household

I don't have the need to tell everything about myself and how I am, right off the bat.

It might be worth going to therapy for a while to speak about your relationship with your parents and how this has affected your personality, and how you deal with things. From this it sounds like you've learned that some things you used to say might have been weird, but if you don't deal with the feelings/emotions that made you act that way then you won't have fully dealt with it and it can still affect you. Speaking to a therapist can give you an even better understanding of social dynamics, awareness and how you have come off saying things. Your parents fuck you up even more than you realise so if you already think they affected you, it might be worth exploring with a therapist.

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