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[–]thethrowowoy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Realise that sending her messages doesn't obligate her to send you more messages.
If you are the one sending more messages, you're expending more energy into trying to make things work. There are no positives to this. The energy should at least be similar. If you put all the energy in: - You have the most to lose if it doesn't work out - You will find yourself getting more and more invested - She might view you as desperate/needy
Never double text.
If she takes 4 hours to respond, don't respond in 4 minutes.
If she doesn't respond at all, be ok with moving on and forgetting about her.
Us guys think that the more we show we care, the more likely a girl will be interested in us. It's the opposite. Don't let you day revolve around thoughts of 'I wonder why she hasn't messaged back'.
[–]Youthful25 1 point2 points3 points 4 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
This is very informative, thank you! It sucks because I do like this girl but our convo is fizzling out.
[–]thethrowowoy 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
My new perspective on the 'fizzle out' stage is this...
We often act in ways which accelerates the fizzle, while trying to resurrect the conversation. By virtue of trying to 'save' the conversation, we often come across as needy/desperate.
The outcome... the last impression the girl has of you is one of someone who is needy/desperate (i.e not the guy they're looking for).
Instead, leave it. If she is not reciprocating the energy, accept it. If you leave the conversation at a stage before you sabotage it, you maintain your frame. When you cross her mind next time, she'll think "OP didn't harass me like all the other guys do when I stopped talking to him, lets see how he is doing".
Sure, you might want it to continue, but there is almost nothing you can do to reignite her interest. Who knows, she could have other shit going on in her life. Personally, if the conversation fizzles, I see it as their loss, assume they are talking to another guy, and move on.
Don't waste your energy!
[–]ORIONFULL23 0 points1 point2 points 4 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Alright, what about this? Women don't fall in love by texting them, if you're texting her more than she is texting you back, you're walking straight into the friendzone.
What to text? Something funny and impredecible, make a small talk, and set a date.
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