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Ashamed-Height1106 · 2021-07-29T19:08:37+00:00

I don't think you'll have any issue being confident already. What guys need to understand about rejection or it not working out early on is any girl you approach, if she doesn't have a boyfriend, might still be talking to and more interested in other people. Don't take it personally. I think you'll be fine.

2021-07-29T20:09:11+00:00

You have such an advantage because you are already outgoing and not afraid to approach. That will serve you well. What you also have is a big shiny brand new tool box - but it's empty. It's not your fault, your parents might not have had the tools to pass down. Regardless, you need to start putting some seduction tools in your tool box.

So pick a camp ( there are many coaches out there) and learn what you can. Then find another camp and another and another. In just a few months you can fill that toolbox with the best seduction tools available. A word of caution - these pickup coaches can be very dogmatic. "My way is the only right way" kind of thinking. Don't buy into that bullshit. All of these coaches have some good things to pass on, but no one system is the ultimate authority in seduction. Good luck and have fun. Wish I had your opportunities when I was 18. You're going to slay!

kpopdj1999 · 2021-07-29T20:26:01+00:00

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2021-07-29T21:58:28+00:00

I think your approach is good and you have the right mindset from the get-go.

People (not just women) cannot help but like a person that makes them laugh. My suggestion would be to get them giggling or laughing as soon as you can into the interaction, playfully teasing them in what they say, deliberately misinterpreting what they say in a funny way - do what makes sense for your personality.

Teasing is great because it builds tension and interest. From there you can move to flirting and making it clear that since she’s showing signs of interest, you’re interested too and can escalate to asking her out there and then. No point in getting her contact if she’s not keen for a date.

I’ve seen a lot on the group a strong reliance on text which I strongly disagree with. This suggestion is a bit further down the line from what you’re trying to achieve here but it’s worth mentioning to help you avoid slip up later.

If she says yea to a date, Once you get her number, you could either organise it right there and then if it feels right or you can say “I’ll call you later” but emphasize that you’re not a bit text person, that you will call and if you can, tell her the estimated time you’ll call so that she knows to expect it rather than ambiguous “I’ll call you later”

I’ll call you later today I’ll call you tomorrow around 6

This is much better. You’ll stand out from other guys too.

You also avoid the communication death trap of text since your voice tone and timing of voice allows you to convey yourself better which is critical for attraction in the beginning.

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