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[–]ExpensiveNinja 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
How many dates have you been on? Sounds like it was the first time you met her. Some girls just set rules for themselves, so that they don't feel awful about it later. She probably doesn't put-out that quickly. Gotta wine and dine her a few times.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I met her at the bar got her number. We were to supposed to meet up for drinks but she had to work late so she just came over when she got off. So technically that was our first time hanging out.
[–]ExpensiveNinja 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So technically that was our first time hanging out.
That's definitely why there was resistance. MOST girls I know, don't really go for sex until at least the 3rd or 4th date.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I get that but I’m more concerned with why she ghosted me. Was because I tried to go for sex too early? Should I text her again?
[–]ExpensiveNinja 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
She thinks you only want to have sex with her. If she only wanted to have sex, she would have done it that first time meeting you. She probably feels bad about herself now tbh for just showing up to your place like that and it's not something she normally does.
I text her few days later and said I wanted to see her before I go out of town for the weekend
Did you mention anything about "let's grab some dinner/drink"? Without an actual plan mentioned, the text implies you're still just trying to smash. If that's your only intention, move on. Very unlikely she would at this point.
If you think about it logistically, She came over to your place for the FIRST meetup--this heavily implies she's interested in sex. Things got hot and heavy, but she resisted whenever it got too far. The fact that she's resisting either means your foreplay needs work OR (more likely) she was internally battling with herself and doesn't want to feel like a hoe.
[–]NubiaAnu 3 points4 points5 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I think you were entirely too touchy too soon.
Women ask if anyone is at your home in order to prepare themselves for safety. Not for sex..
What exactly did you give her to be interested in?
That idea crossed my mind but I let her Initiate contact first. She gave me a hug when she first came to my place and she touched on my tattoos and when I would stop touching her she would grab my hands pull them towards her body. Also I don’t understand your question about what I gave her too be interested in.
[–]NubiaAnu -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You said she lost interest.. what did you do that was interesting other than be handsome and feel her up??
Am I missing something?
[–]Cheap-Significance60 1 point2 points3 points 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
I'm betting 100$ either in the 2nd date or in the 3rd date, you're gonna fuck her.
Listen, dude. Whatever happened in that apartment is OKAY and is NOT your fault. There will be girls who will let you take off their bra but not the pantie and they will cuddle with you all night. Sounds strange? It happens. Why? There could be many reasons but it happens.
But the bright side is you're one step closer to your goal. There will be barely any resistance next time you escalate.
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
So should I still follow up with her one more time even tho she ignored my text?
[–]Cheap-Significance60 -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Don't overthink. Next time, escalation will be much easier.
[–][deleted] -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah I get that but do I text her again? Would you text someone a second time who ignored your previous text and ghosted you like you did something wrong?
[–][deleted] 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Check if you’re missing anything at your place
[–]nevertextgoodnight -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
After some back and forth with the escalation like you did I would've brought it up with her because there was some concern she was dealing with in her mind that needed to be addressed. Whatever it was, she didn't feel relieved of it.
I did ask was she ok, I even offered her wine but she said no she just kept shutting down everything. Even when she said she had to go I was cool about it, I walked her to her car and gave her a hug and she left. I get it a lot of people ghost now but damn it there has to be some reason for it right?
[–][deleted] 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
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I only offered her wine because she brought it up when she saw the bottle in my room.
She said “ Oh you like wine ?” I said yeah and looked over at the bottle and asked if she wanted some and she declined. I didn’t ask again after that.
[–][deleted] -2 points-1 points0 points 5 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I mean I guess I didn’t do anything special but it was late when she came over so I didn’t really do anything she wasn’t expecting already. She was interested in me enough to come over so I thought I must of did something for her to loose interest and ghost me.
[–]soulful_thinkerrr -1 points0 points1 point 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
I don’t think you did anything wrong as per your story. Stop feeling guilty about other’s actions towards you. Relax. Move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea.
cuz you don't use paragraphs and just type in one big block
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