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2021-05-02T10:38:41+00:00

I know many stories of guys getting out of the friendzone. But personally, there’s just no girl worth the immense amount of energy of crawling out of the friendzone. Time and effort that can be invested on yourself should almost always be invested on yourself.

Take this as a lesson for the next girls you approach. My advice is if you like a girl, then treat her that makes your intention known from the start. Dont take the long path of being friends and then work for a relationship. It almost always never works.

wiskeyjackk · 2021-05-02T10:26:19+00:00

You can do nothing Either accept it or move on Can't force it U can't make her want you sorry You could try make her jealous though That might work but if she's see through it ur toast

sleonpx · 2021-05-02T11:03:35+00:00

"Friends sounds good" this is the place where you lost already. The seduction is about your dominance and higher value. This case you abandon your value because of her and she feels subconsciously you can abandon her and her offsprings too oneday and you are not strong enough to protect her (this is evolution). You never wanted to be just friends?? You wanted to hit on her or become lovers. Doesn't matter. Just it wasnt friends :D Now you are just a girlfriend of her. Women only girlfriends as a friends not a man friends.

Now I am gonna explain why this happened and how to avoid and how to fix it. But besides that you gotta dig the context deeply and learn the evolutinary logic of relationships and seduction.

Reason: Sinces he aggreed to date you at the first time means she attracted to you at some level at the beginning. Yet you are not capable of arousing sexual desires within her due to your actions and subconscious messages you gave her. And she colds but since you are kind and harmless to her she wants your attention and your care but not your masculunity. So you become her girlfriend.

How to avoid: sexual sitimulation. You gotta be playfull on your dates and stimulate her emotions up and down. You shouldn't be open as a white papet you gotta make her curious, angry, happy, sexy, not sexy and all of them to shake her emotions. This is yhe way you show you are a man of high quality and this way she tries to be worthy of you. You gotta make her feel you have options and you are a man with value. YOU DON'T NEED ANY GIRL IN YOUR LIFE AND YOU HAVE ABUNDANCE OF GIRLS. If you make her feel you need her you are desperete of her (believe me they really feel that) they immidiately get away from you. You really gotta work on your GAME. This can be a tip for you to start reading and investing some time and effort.

How to fix: Dont fix. Just go next. This is the world with abundance of girls and boys so no one need spesific person. But still if you insist on fixing that. Start with no friendship. Just call her and say "hey, I know I said that and you had a good time w me but I don't think we can be friends." You are not okey w beaing just friends you gotta be a man. Then give a break for 2-3 months and work your infield game with a lot of women out there. Then come back to her w new you. Believe me she will be begging to you to sleep w her if you do this.

I strongly suggest improving is the best aphrodisiac ;)

cyrusol · 2021-05-02T10:45:30+00:00

Has it been similar for you in the past too? I.e. that you don't try to actually escalate towards sex early on?

If yes you might be demisexual. Look it up and if the discription fits you you might want to tell her about it so that she can either prepare for something more than friendship in the future or have the chance to disconnect from you before it gets too intense.

If not then you just lied to her by saying friends would sound good. And should correct that. As a general recommendation never say something you know to be false (unless it's like a part of play or something, exceptions exist). It only makes you feel disintegrated, as if you lack integrity. And thus is a hit to your confidence.

MK2718 · 2021-05-02T12:13:53+00:00

Transitioning from "Just Friends" to Boyfriend/Girlfriend

vikton4321 · 2021-05-02T13:06:25+00:00

Move on, don't try to be friends it will get you nowhere just empty hopes

Taco_main · 2021-05-02T13:51:30+00:00

If you keep hanging out with her you'll get blueballed everytime you see her, you'll feel shitty after the hangout, and you'll become resentful to the point you'll hate her.

Stop hanging out with her. Spin plates.

Next time show you like the girl covertly. Just kiss her on the first date. If you don't the same thing will happen again.

Trust me on this one buddy...

The13thJedi · 2021-05-02T10:34:19+00:00

What you should do next is get out of the friendzone if you want a relationship.

thegreyone3000 · 2021-05-02T13:22:33+00:00

Think you left it too long. Didn't you make your intentions clear from the get go? If it's been months and she didn't think you liked her.... Then she saw you as her girlfriend/gay bff.

TowelSmacker · 2021-05-02T14:05:54+00:00

Gotta be honest with your feelings, always.

supernaturalriver · 2021-05-02T12:48:10+00:00

Don't make contact with her again. If she texts you, tell her you changed your mind and that your time would be better spent looking for a relationship and that you wish her well.

2021-05-02T12:21:32+00:00

Bring another woman around, since you’re friends. I bet her tune changes

Rockfella27 · 2021-05-02T13:01:19+00:00

Stalk her closest friend.

Enthusiasm_7612 · 2021-05-02T13:10:32+00:00

Don't hide your sexual when you see her next time, flirt with her and try to get a lay up. Otherwise Walkaway.

gorilla_blanco · 2021-05-02T13:30:36+00:00

Always respond to the friend zone you always play it off as yeah I didn’t think we vibed that way either... It was worth a shot though just bc we figured we were both cool to try a date.... it keeps you from having to take unnecessary Ls.... remember it’s 2021 no means no.... if you treat her like a straight coworker or at best an Ally and introducing you to her friends she’ll pick a night to pull the act tipsy and give you the nudge if she is interested in you she’ll make the move. Women are crazy, they online stalk the last 30 guys they’ve been on dates/no relationship with their memories are long constantly considering roads not traveled.... That’s how random picture likes happen... You did your job you shouldn’t have to take the L.

_JasonX_ · 2021-05-02T13:42:50+00:00

If you like her enough be her friend, if not ghost her

Woujo · 2021-05-02T14:20:52+00:00

Move on. She said no.

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