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[–]Moderatorrecyclablebantha 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Sup guys, recently I was talking to a girl I know for some time, we were hitting it off and everything was going well. We are friends but some seduction is going in there.
How long have you known her? If it's longer than a month without you making a move, then chances are, seduction was not, in fact, going on.
What caught me off guard was her phrase "I want to see your (future) girlfriend" mocking me for my high standards and high level of requirements (I hope you get what I'm talking about since english isn't my native language).
How did this come up? Why was she even talking about your "high standards?" There's not a terrible amount of utility in this kind of disclosure
What does it generally mean when girls say that? I have never met with it and it got me wondering.
It doesn't generally mean anything. There's no rule for this. It just sounds like you're in the friend zone and this girl wanted to see the kind of girls you're chasing.
[–]TopsyMitoTurvy 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago* (1 child) | Copy Link
We know each other for few years. The seduction part started about two weeks ago where she was my date at one social gathering, we slept together in same bad, she was cuddling with me and stuff (no sex, red river). Since then there was this tension between us.
She came up with it as I was negging/mocking her while playing sport together. I don't think I'm in friend zone because she showed lot's of IOIs and also I told her I know great new pizza place in town and implied in obvious way if she would not be down for it (only without telling it) and after few seconds I asked if she hasn't got any hot friends I could go with (joking). Her response was like "OMG I hate you so much!" while hitting my arm.
Still it seems to be it's kinda strange what she said.
[–]Moderatorrecyclablebantha 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This is the kind of thing you ought to put in your original post. Don't make us dig for it.
But this sounds good. Except for the red river.
She came up with it as I was negging/mocking her while playing sport together. I don't think I'm in friend zone because she showed lot's of IOIs and also I told her I know great new pizza place in town and implied in obvious way if she would not be down for it (only without telling it) and after few seconds I asked if she hasn't got any hot friends I could go with (joking). Her response was like "OMG I hate you so much!" while hitting my arm. Still it seems to be it's kinda strange what she said.
Well, NOW this makes more sense. Really...... put this kind of thing in your original post next time. Because the whole situation takes on a completely different tone without this information.
You're describing a teasing match between you and her. You know it's good if she is reacting by playing back, rather than disregarding or getting truly mean. This isn't about looking for some meaning or code in her exact words. Look at the big picture, man. She was being responsive in a good way.
[–]Iloveyou-Iknow 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
That's a test.
Girls will say things like "you are so confident" "you are so cute" etc without enough attraction built. It will feel outbid place.
AFC compliments back in this situation and feels flattered and starts kissing her ass or humble bragging. This kills the attraction if there were any.
She is just trying to see if you are actually congruent with the personality you project, or do you turn liquid at the first sign of validation and become an approval seeking guy who is not used to such treatment.
Think to yourself : what would Brad Pitt do/say in this situation?
Average woman telling Brad Pitt or Dan Bilzerian: "you are so handsome" "you are so good with women" "you are so picky, o d like to see your future girlfriend" would probably get just a dismissive smile that's says "you would" "are you shitting me?"
He is used to such tests from countless women and doesn't fall for it.
What you are dealing with is a real player, a flayer. Good luck ;)
Reference: Attraction Code by Vin DiCarlo
[–]Seducejanus 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Get a mirror and show her, Or Tell her that she just need to look into one
[–]Spurnout 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
"It's going to be hard to see her unless you look in a mirror"
[–]Dianmego -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Not sure. If I were you I would have taken a picture of her on your phone and then showed it her. "She'd look a lot like this".
[+]DaygameCoach -6 points-5 points-4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Girls don't say that. It's an ESL thing (she said it wrong). So, it's hard to know what she means.
[–]TopsyMitoTurvy 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
ESL thing?
[–]DaygameCoach -1 points0 points1 point 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
English as a Second Language.
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