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[–]DrPussyMD 37 points38 points39 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Nice FR man. I don't know what other people think, but I reckon the Asian girl was Into you when she asked if you were really asking for directions. You should have said something like "Haha, let's just say I knew exactly where the train station was" with a cheeky smile. I think you need to be a little more flirtatious in your approaches, but you still did a good job!
[–]shiftiskey13 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
I like your username lol. Yeah, Im surviving not thriving as I mentioned in the FR but I'd like to slowly push my comfort zone and develop my wit so I can do the things u describe
[–]--starting-over--7 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
This was really useful. I'm just starting over after a long relationship and lost whatever game I had with women.
It's useful to see that you're facing/overcoming the same issues I'm working on.
[–]shiftiskey5 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
Thats great that youre working on this too bro. Remember though that its a process. You can baby step this until youu get good. Just last week I never approached anyone in my life. (I've had girlfriends from social circle but never cold approach)
[–]chrisntlbs 10 points11 points12 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Hey bro, logged in my account after a long time just reading stuff to congratulate you! That's the life man, you'll see you will start enjoying life really more after some time. And maybe get ride off your anxiety issues in some years!
[–]shiftiskey2 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
thanks man! love that the people here are so encouraging
[–]Bow_for_the_king 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
Probs to you for getting out there!
Next step would be to turn the conversation more sexual, and get some more kino in there. Right now it sounds more like you're making friends.
[–]shiftiskey3 points 11 years ago [recovered] (3 children) | Copy Link
Yeah man, first I'm trying to get habituated with approaching and then I'm gonna slowly amp it up. Thanks for reading!
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[–]shiftiskey1 point 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
They were all pretty cute. I surprised myself cause I usually don't approach that many cuties in a day. I guess I was riding the momentum from going out all week. I'd say the most attractive ones were the 3 Spanish girls but the rest were cuties also. I think I got good reactions cause I was just using indirect approaches. As long as you're a nice guy with good intentions, you will rarely get a bad response. If you do, the girl is being a bitch and why would you want a bitch in your life? Again, I was using indirect openers and wasn't polarizing as much. I'm planning to be more polarizing though and I should be getting more rejections. That's just the way it is.
As for how old/tall/fit I am, I don't think it really matters but I'm 19, but people say I look a little younger. I'm 5'10" or 5'11" and I'm pretty skinny. Looking to bulk up.
My mindset when going in was, it's okay if I get rejected so I didn't really care. I guess women can pick up on this too and it shows u dontNEED a good reaction.
[–]Selenocysteine12 points 11 years ago [recovered] (1 child) | Copy Link
This was genuinely inspiring. I was just about to make a post moaning about being too young, low turnover of girls, small city, blah blah but nah! You're the same age as me and you had it all under control. Super FR and a big thank you.
Yeah thanks man, some instructors started younger than us. I think julien started when he was 18 or 19 and he lived in a very small city. Look where he's at now
[–]bizman6 3 points4 points5 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
hey bro, great fr! I actually went out last night as well. I was supposed to be with my wing but he was an hour late. so for an entire hour I was inside a popping bar by myself and didnt know anyone. It was pretty uncomfortable and I was real full of bad/nervous energy.
However when my wing got in, we approached total of 4 sets and had ok response. One of the girls i tried to kino on by trying to read her tattoo gave me the "please dont touch me". that was pretty awkward/uncomfortable for me. How did you recover from that in your case? Just went back in?
Hey man, the important thing is to keep it lighthearted and fun. Take it seriously but at the same time lighthearted and fun. Who cares if you get one bad rejection? That's why julien recommends going to places with a high volume of women when u first start out. If u get rejected u just move right on to the next.
[–]leonce18 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
Whoa. A local lair? How and where do you find these?
Look on the side bar or search bar. If not, look on rsdnation. They have pretty much every city. If you're from New York it's gothamseddit. They also have an RSD nyc lair
[–]manhani-10 points 11 years ago [recovered] (6 children) | Copy Link
What kind of shit "You look you need it" that's insulting. You could've said let's enjoy this beautiful weather or some shit. Don't insult the person. Other then that it was okay.
[–]zuk1 2 points3 points4 points 11 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
Dude without context you can't really say that. If you're gauging the situation correctly you can tell when you can make a light joke like that and have it be a good, playful thing.
which is exactly what i did.. I know what I'm doing guys, get off my back!
Also, if i had visibly offended her, I wouldve apologized immediately
[–]melenkurio 1 point2 points3 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
He wrote that she laughed what do you want more? She laughed = doing everything right. Hell watch RSDTyler say "Woah you're a little bitch" to a girl and taking her home 5 min later. The way HOW you say things matters, stop th e whiteknighting guys!
[–]shiftiskey3 points 11 years ago [recovered] | Copy Link
bro you werent there. My intentions were good, I wasnt tryna insult her I was playfully teasing her. And I wouldnt say it if i knew she couldnt take it. She was skinny, not fat at all. Plus saying beautiful weather we're having wasnt congruent to me in that interaction. Not everything is so black and white bro.
she laughed a genuine laugh when i teased her like that and I said it with a smmile on my face so that she would know i was kidding
[–]bananaboy92 0 points1 point2 points 11 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
damn y so cereal BRAH?
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