Responses to “Not sure if that’s a complement or an insult”

smoothmax · 2019-09-28T14:19:21+00:00

Easy to say in hindsight and from a distance, but in those moments you ideally want to get out of your head and get in your body. In that state you can focus on her body state and deal with it on that basis. Rather than focusing on the actual words which to a woman aren't nearly as important.

For example if she's flushed with embarrassment because you hit the nail on the head. An emotional spike, perfect. Touch her or hold her hand and say, "Kidding, kidding!" because you're her protector not her singing critic.

Start to pick up on girls' body language more, by using your own body language radar and let that be your guide. Her emotional state and your emotional reactions are what's important.

pnadlerlaw · 2019-09-28T14:45:27+00:00

Honestly, dude. Just relax. You’re talking to a person. It’s not a big deal. Worst case scenario is she has her ego feel like you’re not working hard enough to be “worthy” of her ... and you dodged a bullet.

So, what are you so fucking anxious and nervous about? Most people on here are saying the same thing. Just relax and calm down. Breathe. Take it easy.

If a girl acts offended, and asks you, “How did you intend what you said,” flip the focus to the more important question ... “how did you perceive what I said?”

How she perceives what you say is more telling about her than your mere stated intent behind what you said.

I once had this girl flip out because I said she looked like she ran the show at work. In my mind, it was a compliment. She had this alpha female resting bitch face going on, and I figured, she got shit for it, might as well turn it into a positive. She fucking lost it. “Fuck you too! What the fuck is the point of talking to me if you’re just going to insult me?!?” Blah blah blah. I literally just raised my eyebrows, did a micro eye roll, and in a very fatherly and paternal way, low key condescending, gently patted her on the shoulder and was like, “Okay, okay, I’m sorry,” and just turn around and walked away.

Don’t waste your time with people like that. When a girl filters herself out like that, don’t fight it. Stop fighting people who filter themselves out. She’s showing you who she is. She’s showing you what a relationship with her will be like. Why would you invest a second more of your time or calorie more of your energy?

Just calm down and take it easy. You have nothing to worry about. Women who get easily offended are not worth being with anyway, so you haven’t lost anything or done anything wrong. Don’t let that ruin your authentic self for women who will appreciate who you are and how you communicate.

Title	Responses to “Not sure if that’s a complement or an insult”
Author	ken_34
Upvotes	4
Comments	5
Date	September 28, 2019 1:55 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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