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[–]ChrisDarmount 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (6 children) | Copy Link
Getting with half brings a host of other problems. I've gotten near that and had to back off because you end up sleeping with women and then not wanting to see them again and hurting a lot of people.
Its great you're going on so many dates. I might suggest setting a goal to go on 100 dates and try to learn each time. Dating can be hard. And depending on the types of women/platform you use, you get rejected a lot more. Personally, I have way more success with Tinder, but its harder to find hot women on Tinder. I got out with lots of hot women on Hinge, but get rejected most of the time.
I've started cold approaching and it has the most potential for dating the hottest women. I don't really know you or your circumstance, but I used to think like you, that its not something in my wheelhouse. And I will say tat it was one of the scariest things I've ever done, getting over approach anxiety and approaching women. But the rewards are huge. Outside of getting with women, it blows your world wide open. You have to deal with all these things and become strong in ways you never even thought of. Its a great way to become strong and improve your life.
[–]about_time8989 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
How long did it take you to get good at cold approach? My objective is to get to a level where I'm decent quickly and through the path of least resistance so cold approach is something that I REALLY don't want to do. But it unfortunately may be required.
[–]ChrisDarmount 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (4 children) | Copy Link
So.... this concept isn’t just about seduction: The attitude that you want results quickly and easily is of course understandable but it’s not really the attitude that people have who get things they want out of life have.
It’s not that you should choose the hardest thing either. But you have to look at he playing field objectively, figure out what you need to do. Then work your ass off and enjoy the process.
[–]about_time8989 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (3 children) | Copy Link
Believe me, I'm looking at this objectively. Which is why I haven't done cold approach because knowing myself I don't think thats something that I can do and to be honest I don't even believe that I can learn how to be a successful dater. I don't know what I need to do, maybe hire a coach.
[–]ChrisDarmount 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
I know this is really hard to grasp right now, but this is all in your head. You have negative thinking patterns which is creating all kinds of problems.
[–]about_time8989 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I'm well aware of the fact that I think negatively and that it a problem.
[–]ChrisDarmount 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Right, so the problem isn’t that realistically you can’t do these things. It’s that you think that you can’t.
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