~ archived since 2018 ~
Popular
Other
[deleted]
[–]Relationshipaddvice 1 point2 points3 points 6 years ago (5 children) | Copy Link
Whenever a girl gives you her number, unless she lives in a cave, she knows there's the possibility that you like her: Especially if she's really cute.
Since you obtained said number using a different pretext, you need to mention that.
You could say,
Hey you, I asked about running for a position, but I also like you...Are you mad? Can you ever forgive me? btw I would ask you on a date, if our conversation flows well, but I'm worried you'll sneeze all over me...So I've decided to run for a Sneeze control specialist in our org...Do I have your full VP support?
And vamsig66 is right, send it right away, before she forgets about you.
You could also include a funny picture of someone / cartoon sneezing, if you mention it in text. Or a good picture of you, just send the picture first and your message second.
The important thing is to be honest (asked # on different prextext) direct, funny, confident and give her the choice.
In the future, if you like someone, flirt with them, see how it goes and if you think they like you be direct and say something like, I think I like you...I may've fallen in love with you...In a joking way, see how they take it...If it goes over, say something like, maybe we should grab a drink or food sometime...How's that sound? Or you could do a little less pressure and say, let me get your number so we can chit chat and then I'll ask you on a date...
Too many guys text forever and never ask girls out. Corona is different, but in general, as long as things go well over text, don't wait that long to ask girls out...
[–]vamsig66 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (2 children) | Copy Link
This isn’t a bad way to go about it but also a bit try hard in my opinion. None the less, I think it’s a bad idea to try to build attraction over text because it leaves room for misinterpretation, I know from experience. She’s going to be attracted to you from your personality traits she sees in person like confidence, humor, charisma, as well as your looks. I would say confidence is the most important personality traits to get her hooked. Use texting only as a tool to set up a date. Unfortunately you aren’t going to get her to like you romantically by being her friend first, as I used to believe. It’s a tough pill to swollow but girls don’t look for friendly qualities when deciding who to have sex with or date.
[–]Relationshipaddvice 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I agree. Texting is mainly to be used as a tool to setup a date. You can also use it to build attraction as many people consider it a legitimate form of communication. So I'd say do both, but mainly I hate texting. I try to keep it to an absolute minimum and do everything in person. Talking on the phone is a great way to build rapport before a date. Thanks for the comments, Vamsig66!
[–]vamsig66 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Yeah talking on the phone is pretty good. Idk I just find a lot of guys including myself try to play games over text and I’ve had girls misinterpret what I said and it ruined a perfectly good opportunity so I’m pretty keen on using it just to set up a date, and find the less you talk the better cause you don’t want to talk yourself out of it.
[–]vamsig66 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (1 child) | Copy Link
I mention the friends thing because this guy seems like he’s trying to sneak in to her through the back door thinking being her friend will get her to like him, as I used to think, but it’s false.
[–]Relationshipaddvice 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
Absolutely! Once you're in the friend zone, you're basically done. If you like a girl, it's important to not act like a friend, be clear with her and if she tries to put you there to shatter that frame immediately. You have to be vigilant and on your toes. If she says, "Oh you're so cute" You can say, "Yeah, like a puppy, except this puppy wants to sleep with you and not as a friend." haha
The longer you beat around the bush the higher chance you have of coming off as creepy. Just gotta ask her out and make your intentions known. She could say no, but you never know until you ask, and if she does say no, you can move on to another really cute girl who’s cool.
[–]quinnmcd[M] 0 points1 point2 points 6 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
This post had to be taken down because it appears to be focused on a specific situation or person. While Field Reports deal with specific situations and people, remember that the focus is different:
No worries though! Though the thread has been taken down, any conversations you have started here can still continue, and if you want to PM a mod to get their opinion on this thread, feel free to do so and they will still be able to weigh in.
For next time, remember that posts about a specific situational advice with a specific person are fine as field should be directed to Ask Seddit (/r/askseddit), not to be confused with Ask Reddit.
[–]shippinguptosalem 0 points1 point2 points 5 years ago (0 children) | Copy Link
You will die alone
© TheRedArchive 2026. All rights reserved.created by /u/dream-hunter
[–]Relationshipaddvice 1 point2 points3 points (5 children) | Copy Link
[–]vamsig66 0 points1 point2 points (2 children) | Copy Link
[–]Relationshipaddvice 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]vamsig66 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]vamsig66 0 points1 point2 points (1 child) | Copy Link
[–]Relationshipaddvice 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]vamsig66 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]quinnmcd[M] 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link
[–]shippinguptosalem 0 points1 point2 points (0 children) | Copy Link