Should I be asking what he’s looking for?

jp_liem · 2021-04-14T06:21:34+00:00

Guy here. While it def doesnt hurt to be straightforward and ask, sometimes we dont even know what we want. But if youre strictly looking for one thing, then go for it and ask

hh7139 · 2021-04-14T07:15:47+00:00

I would say maybe bring it up on the third date if it’s going well. If you don’t bring it up, the guy definitely won’t either, unless he’s super into you and actually wants something serious.

dontbanmeagaindudes · 2021-04-14T10:03:28+00:00

That's really hard though, yes you can ask but maybe they will say something to get the bait and it won't be that true.

hagion · 2021-04-14T11:30:15+00:00

I actually never like it all the time when people ask, “What are you looking for”, it removes all the tension/mystery for me for what we could have or not. In the gay community it’s always like, hey hello how’re you what you lookin for, friends fun relationship... well that’s like everything right... so why bother to ask.. Frequently it’s asked because you’re not sure if the other person is into you, sometimes I answer i’m looking for a LTR, and they say, me too! and poof gone is the tension

Pedalcrunch · 2021-04-14T13:43:44+00:00

Oh for sure, the more details the better, no time wasted.

thepesterman · 2021-04-14T14:26:55+00:00

Typically a lot of desirable guys would want to get to know a girl first before committing to a girl and you potentially run the risk of scaring off guys who need more time to decide they want to commit to you. The only thing I would recommend is not sleeping with a guy on the first date, as that will filter out a large portion of the fuckboys

Slab2001 · 2021-04-14T06:22:27+00:00

good question, a lot of guys are just looking to smash it. Period. Yeah they might want a fling but that’s more depending on how you act (make them chase you). You’re only 23 live a little

Title	Should I be asking what he’s looking for?
Author	Legal-Switch9214
Upvotes	11
Comments	14
Date	April 14, 2021 6:15 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/seduction
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